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rasheedatt:
tnk Yiu

JeffreyD1:
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BTW happy birthday

deavicky:
if u are the same Igala man that I am, u don't need to worry urself because there is no room for a bastard in that land. All children must go back to their fathers or remain irrelevant in the community.

rawitools:
Am not sure u are from Nigeria.

ImaIma1:
Some jobs help people do family planning. At least I know a bank that requires that you can't go for another maternity leave until after 18months or you resign.

Lucyspa:
Well, all i know is that i NEVER want to encounter or be with someone like my dad. NEVER and by the way, we still practised a traditional family setting cos my mum still did everything including all the CHORES all by her self. Sometimes, i sit and wonder how she did all these and i know that it can never be me. I would have left a long time ago without my children. My mum is so strong and i hope i will finally complete the book am writing about her. The worst that could ever happen to any woman of African descent is bad marriage because they will the ones to pain whatever shit that comes their way. Most Nigerian women are trying. I am really hoping that i get out of this country and find me a white responsible dude i can marry and that my beautiful kids would look up to.

karo93:
Couples both male and female should learn to compromise and find a common ground. My body, My right, My choice... doesnt really help the marriage.....

Amanee:
I doubt one with a demanding career will be looking forward to bearing more children, taking maternity leaves and being cut out from the work force for an extended period.

Amanee:
She needs a more demanding career

Klass99:
@ OP, you're being very pragmatic and sensible.

Quality over quantity, you should have a number of children you can reasonably take care of, without losing yourself or your soul in the process.Fatherhood should not equate the end of your life as an individual or the end of your dreams/goals as a person.

In my opinion, people shouldn't have kids that are more than their hands
Raising children is very tasking and can take a toll, I don't understand women who want more kids than their two hands.

I often wonder to myself, are women not concerned about the physical toll on their bodies, the mental and emotional toll on their well being, as well? Do they ever stop to think, that taking care of 4 kids, will be tougher than taking care of 2 kids, in the event that hubby dies?

I think the fact that some women don't pay the major bills of a household, makes it easy for them to want more kids. When you pay some serious bills like school fees and multiply it by 3 or 4 (in terms of more kids) you will think twice and hard about the number of kids you should have.

Again, in my opinion, having kids should not be about money either (but the typical Naija mentality is that, if you have the money, why not have more kids) Having kids should be about time. Time to take care of those kids and still have time to take care of yourself as a parent. If you have to split your time and energy in more ways, towards more people (like 4 or 6 kids) you'll often be stressed and drained.

My neighbour has 4 kids, the wife is a stay at home mum who can bake and sew, but those activities have been on hold for a year and six months now since she had their 4th child.

She has been complaining of a lingering back pain that won't go way, she's often overworked and stressed. And is always eager to pass off her last child on me for some respite (I don't mind at all)

Going back to my point about time, I noticed that her first 2 kids are well behaved than the last 2. I suspect she had more time & energy to train the first 2 well, but with the last 2, the time and energy seem to have diminished, so they are not so well behaved.

The other thing I've noticed with people who have more kids is that, they tend to use the older kids in taking care of the younger ones. You don't ask or use children, to look after children nah, the consequences can sometimes be unpleasant.

For instance, my neighbour asked the 2nd child who is 7 years old, to lay her baby sister on the bed. A simple task turned into a late night hospital visit for mother and child. Apparently, the 7 year old used too much force or was careless and it resulted into the baby cutting her tongue/lip, which led to profuse bleeding too.

Even my father who had 6 of us and is in his 70's now, told me recently that 2 kids are more than enough in this age and time. According to him, things are not going to get better and children are going to be more stubborn and difficult to manage, than ever before.

PUSSYWHORE:
Enjoy it while it last both love and the body don't last, women are temporary pleasure.

tiffanyfan:
As women we make some mistakes with our men...get a chair and popcorn and enjoy...

1 SHYNESS

Most women are just to shy to the extent of finding it difficult to UnCloth in front of their hubby.

They will only like to make love at night without light.
Some women have not seen the size of their hubby's dick They only feel it..Hubby will bring out his jakaman(dick)nd a wife will shout��"please cover than thing"
My sister wake up

Praise that thing��(baby this your machine chai�)
Let him know he is doing a good job
It makes men feel good�

Give him breast to suckered when he is reading newspaper or pressing phone

Open his boxer unexpectedly nd touch your boy
Grab his buttocks unexpectedly Nd run away
Use your leg to enter his boxer while watching TV it makes men feel good

2 )TO BE SILENT

Don't be a mute wife on bed...
Freely express urself. You will achieve this when u are not shy.Dont just lay on the bed like a dead wood,it makes him think he is not digging deep.

Talk dirty nd moan it will aid him to pump well it will also make u reach orgasm (that moment when he go be like say the tin climb your head)

Talk dirty like (baby hit it harder
it also all yours babe
Am feeling it
Oh my gosh
I love diz)

3) NO ATTEMPT TO INITIATE SEX

Why is it that most woman always ask hubby 4 money but finds it difficult to ask 4 this sweet tin called SEX.
Tell your man that u wanna ride him tonight or u need to be screwed.

You can have a coded slang 4 it..Grab his dick nd whisper to him like
"Oh sweet I want u inside me"...

U want your man to lick your plate 4 u but u can't keep it clean it's an ERROR A BIG SLAP TO WOMANHOOD.

Our V has a special scent that a man can scent and the eyes of his dick will open nd start crying. . But when he enters there nd perceive scent he will never lick again�

Your hubby can Bleep u with tongue if that place is neat
Keep that place very neat and clean
Shave off bushy hair
Treat and prevent infection
Eat good food nd fruit
Above all stay healthy

If you feeling me biko give me high FIVE �
HAPPY WEEKEND LOVELIES

LordKO:
Stupid thing is for stupid people; a sane person won't take pride doing a stupid thing.

Plan, however, doesn't negate spontaneity. So, one can always create lasting memories by being spontaneous/living life on the periphery of conventionalism - this doesn't require stupidity to achieve.

In summary, one doesn't need to be bad to be adventurous/live life to the fullest. Maybe, you can now preach about mastering the art of bending the rule without breaking the law correctly.

CardiNice:
Lol absolute Nonsense.
There Is a saying that says:
If you do the crime, be ready to do the time.

I think that saying applies to all aspects of our lives.

As a man or woman that is legally married, if you want to cheat on your partner, then you should be ready for exposure when your cheating eventually comes out to the public, Friends and family.

There is no point cheating on your partner in secret if you know you are doing the right thing.

Now let me ask this question.

Will doing the right thing makes you fear of public exposure?

If No is your answer which makes doing the wrong thing brings public humiliation when caught.
Then why get angry when you get caught doing the wrong thing?

The law, both religious, traditional and government laws are for the man and against the cheating wife, so therefore there is absolutely nothing the woman can do.

As for the children, they will eventually find out either now or later.

truthsayer009:
Asin ehn, a lady came online on an IG page saying her husband have her 3M to start a business & she was seeking for advice.

If you see how people were telling her to bring 1M out of it, to invest in their business & make profit of 10M in 3months. I was like how? If you can turn 1M to 10M in 3 months, then you don't need my money. I called them out publicly oh.

Too many thieves online.

Naira235:
Inviting her over is applying for student visa through MSc route which cost over £15,000 and I see no evidence of slavery there.

I don't need any house help, but just a childminder. I have been paying childminder here but thought it will be additional advantage to someone else inform of tuition fees instead of paying over £700 every month for childminder . The only agreement is to pay their school fees direct to the school account in exchange for the work.

UjuJoan2:
As a last born I take serious exception to that statement. I was pampered and protected. I never even cooked untill I got into the University. My roommate taught me how to cook. My elder sisters washed my clothes and did everything for me (I had a lot of elder sister). And no, I wasn't allowed to sleep all day. I did other chores like cleaning, washing dishes E.t.c.

People blame last-born's for being spoilt, but it's not their fault they are spoilt. It's the way they were raised.

Last born or not, I could never get away with some selfish traits your mentioned about your sister. Your parents let her get away with too much. You need to set rules, boundaries for her. And if she doesn't follow them, let her know there will be consequences.

Think9ja:
They are all telling you to do what they themselves can't do. That's the situation with Nigerians

For me, if I can't invite both of them, then I will find someone in that country to do that job for me. But I'm never picking anybody over my own flesh and blood.

I cannot pick someone ahead of my sister simply because my sister is a "spoilt" child. This is not a government affair where people will say you're being nepotic, this is strictly a family affair and family members should be considered first.

No matter how "spoilt" your sister is, I don't think she'll abandon her niece whenever she needs her.

It's not as if your sister is a criminal or a loose girl. Her problem is common with most last borns due to too much pampering.
What you just need to do is to present your terms and conditions to her before she applies for visa.

If your sister finds out that you pick this lady over her, she'll never forgive you.

If you feel you want to help your former bosses' daughter for what her mum did for you, credit her account let her start something here.

Besides, that same girl can change once she steps into that country.

Our problem in this country is that we like telling others to do what we ourselves can't do.

Family first abeg.

sassysure:
Walk away. U can't change their mindset.

On the other hand, the family might be seeing you for what you are. A leech.

Read your post again.

That's not love. She is a means to an end and the family is aware of that. Her head will soon reset when she is tired of that black mola.

DenreleDave:
Are u married now??

Liposure:
its like everything matters 2 u