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truthsayer009:
If I can earn 20M while working from home, I don't think I would share that secret with anyone. Talk more of sharing it online.

Oga you be scammer.

ibkayee:
Lol smh

Mynd44:
Lola is a brave woman

Wouldn't let her daughter be alone so she risked her own life too.

Those of you who insult her for whatever reasons, hope this changes your minds

Tillatalk:
Giving .. I cherished that alot

neonbash0:
"I was once thrashed so badly that I couldn't believe it myself. It was like watching a movie. When I cry after a beating, my children console me. But I still believe my husband loves me. I will never walk out on him."

GboyegaD:
Thanks. I do not need any interference just the way they see I do not interfere. Had a fair share at some point they asked questions I felt were not supposed to and had to remind my wife on our agreement. It is called fairness.

Plead:
Lol. What do you have to say on the op?

Plead:
Africans way of life is quite archaic tho...

GboyegaD:
I will not see my friends stranded and not help. I even help strangers so no big deal with in-laws. Nonetheless, they are not a part of my immediate family. I do not believe in interference in marriage and would never succumb to marriage involving in-laws. We are cordial and that is what it is and nothing more. If you act properly, we remain cool otherwise, it is good riddance to bad rubbish for me.

GboyegaD:
No vex, who is she getting married to and who is marrying her? It is a husband and wife relationship and not wife and husband family or vice versa. Whoever would not accept your spouse shouldn't be bothered about because they don't care about your happiness.

chukwuibuipob:
And listen up very well,dnt allow ur father to destroy U.Yes ur father .Ur mum support u wen he eloped with a strange woman.Ur mum mean well for u.Dnt allow ur baba make u turn ur back to ur mum.As said up here,find her Church Pastor to plead with her on ur behalf.A man dat separated from ur mum is a SNAKE..Beware

GboyegaD:
I will use my family sorry growing up as an example.

My mom resigned Her banking job because my dad needed her to focus on us (the Children). He was doing well until the Structural Adjustment Program (SAP) was introduced. He lost his job and it seemed everything was going to ground zero.

My mom decided to sell cooked food believing at least we will have food on our table. My dad vehemently refused but my my mom couldn't watch us suffer more. The food business was meeting many of our needs and that was how it became the family business for the 20+ years she did it. My dad got another job almost three years later and was supportive of my mom's business.

For me back then, if you cannot help me carry firewood, we can't be friends.

Morale of the story:
They should find something to engage in ASAP.

coputa:
i disagree,less kids does not guarantee quality living,as some people cannot take care of the only child they have,but those with half a dozen do.

Myketuale:
those that can that can stand on their own without depending on anyone.

coputa:
Sometimes,life is not fair,a family man with wife and children,suddenly lost his job,landlord threatening to throw him out,no savings,no investment,the wife is the type that sit at home,taking care of the children,she has nothing doing,the man is at the middle of the devil and the deep blue sea.In this state,how do you think the man can solve this puzzle.

Ningen:
Yes. It is.

I've seen awful things happen to women who marry into families they aren't welcome at all.

Francis609:
posted few months ago about my mum doesn’t approve of my relationship with my fiancé ,after being informed by my sister that my fiancé started staying with me she left her house and came to stay with me in a single room she actually came to chased her away .

Well after reading all your comments which I really appreciated it and I concluded that I should allow my fiancé to go and stay with her friend until my mum leaves so she could come back. My fiancé was 2 months pregnant we decided to keep it a secret until after our wedding

I have planned to meet up with her family for introduction and traditional wedding during this pandemic with a small number of family member, we want everything to be done before her stomach start showing . I didn’t tell my mom but my dad was aware of that but i didn’t tell him about the pregnancy.

My mother was so happy to see her leaving and she told me about this girl that she want me to marry , the girl is from the same tribe as her and she is from a good family etc etc . I wasn’t even concentrating on what she was saying because my mind was busy thinking about my pregnant fiancé how she would cope staying with her friend and for how long she would be there because I wasn’t sure for how long my mother would be staying with me , fortunately she left after a week and my fiancé came back three days later.

So far we have been planning to meet-up with her people which my dad had agreed but my mum has been against the decision saying if I marry her , she will disown me , she is been saying a lot of things that I am just stubborn like my father and she regretted keeping me with her after her divorce , if she knew I will turn up to be just like my father , she would have had abandoned me with my dad that she is regretting all her money that she has had spent on me etc etc , actually she curse me.

I had informed my dad about what she said to me and he said I shouldn’t listen to her , what matter is I love my fiancé and I should go ahead with the wedding that his wife ( my step mum ) will be representing my mum , have told my dad that the idea is not bad but she is alive and I think is good for me to get blessing from both of them at that point I had no other choice and opened up to my dad about the pregnancy even taught he scolded me for getting her pregnant before marriage but he was so happy at the end and accepted that we should see her family as soon as possible.

I taught maybe if I have had also told my mum about the pregnancy , she would accept my fiancé and give us her blessing because she love her grandkids a lot and an additional one would have make her more happier but I was wrong , after I had informed her about the pregnancy all she could say was she should keep the pregnancy and after giving birth DNA must be done , if I am the father of the child we will go and collect the baby from her so she could be to move on with her life. I become angry with her and I asked her as a mother herself , how would she feel if she had given birth and her baby had been taken away from her or if it happened that any of my sisters got pregnant and the guy family want nothing to do with her but they only after her baby , she said it wouldn’t happen to any of her daughters because she has trained them well , she said lots of things that my fiancé is a loose girl that she was fully aware that she never liked her but she intentionally gotten pregnant thinking that she will change her mind so she can start liking her but that will not be possible.

I become angry with her but I didn’t say anything, I left her house and called my dad and I informed her about what she said , he said I should go ahead with the wedding without her and stick to his decisions that my step mum should represent her. I don’t know if it is possible to go ahead with the wedding without my mum being involved because the way she behaves if she doesn’t want something she will stick to her decisions no matter what , and my fiancé had been crying since because she doesn’t want to end up being a single mother .

I love my fiancé and I don’t want to leave her but I am so confuse to the point of I cannot concentrate anymore because I am depressed right now . I want to go ahead and do as my dad said but I am still asking myself , If I ever go ahead and marry her without my mother blessing would I ever be happy into my marriage because I don’t want to end up a divorcee like my parents , I want to spend the rest of my life with my fiancé and nobody else. I have been thinking since And I have lost sleep because of this issue sometimes I just wished that my mother could be an easy person to accept my fiancé even if she doesn’t like her but at least she could try to accept her for the sake of her unborn innocent grandchild in her womb.

Please help a confuse brother

Ningen:
Do you understand what is at risk for a woman to marry into a family that she is not wanted??

I don't think you do at all man.
Because you are making it all about YOU.

People will choose sides so it's not longer about your mum but your siblings & relatives inclusive.

You'll have to literally fight them in the future.
So please understand what you're getting into.

If you CAN'T shield her from all this, QUIT.

Rokiatu45:
Damn people will still kick you while you’re down.

No real live or real one nowdays.


Now this dude suddenly has no family, no love one, no friends.


I am pretty sure when he was spraying money at patties and stuff he had a lot of friends.

Smh at the end of the day just do things the right way.
Because bad always comes to light.


What an incredibly lonely journey for him right now ouch.

Xisnin:
You miss my point.
All overbearing people are not "terrible" is patently false.
Some people want and prefer overbearing people.
This may be new to you but regardless of gender, not everyone is in the "normal" range.
There are those who prefer conditions that will make you sick to your stomach.
I guess the fact that many people pretend we are all the same is why some marriages don't last
while others live in misery.

The OP knows the man better than you and what was her reaction?
She wanted to "change" him rather


I never said that it is not bad as it looks as I have no idea how it really looks.
My point is that he is not bad if he found a compatible person who likes to be dominated
and controlled.


Why must anyone "compliment", "praise", "mock", "insult" another?
The question is pointless.
People will do whatever they like if they can.
The question is whether you want to be part of it or not.
That is how the world works not how you want it to be.
He is taming her because she is okay with it(so far).
There is no where in her story where she was forced with a gun pointed to her head.


This is laughable.
Even a well-brought-up kid wouldn't fall for such cheap schemes unless
they are comfortable with it.

I don't ask for a second opinion if I find someone repugnant because I don't need any.
But the OP can't even decide if the relationship bad is greater than the good which says a lot.
That is why she needs advice.
I am sure she is not his first girlfriend and others might have run when they couldn't cope.

Microwhy:
My wife is a very good lady.. She's respectful, caring, a tireless mother to her kids, and a person who can sacrifice her happiness for you, some would say i married her for her cool headedness but, she's not the type you can lay your hand unto even if you're mad and very angry.
I have never dare to beat my wife or ever intend to beat her but I just know that she cannot forgive/cope with a man that will lay his fingers on her.
Hence,
Please let him know what you can't really take (by action not by saying though) before the relationship get more serious. Be sincere with yourself and be truthful , some women prefer beating to silent treatment while some cannot let go of a man who act manly and always incharge. Forget about social media and its definition of a perfect man.
Just know what you want and act accordingly.

JustCryptos:
@op. I don't know if anyone has told you this but please, there is nothing you can do to change him. I am married and one primary lesson that I have learned is that you can never change anybody. Marriage does not change the character of people, rather, it amplifies it. Once the love has cleared you will start to see things you never thought were there.

So, if you've weighed your boyfriend and seen that you won't be able to manage this in marriage, I beg you to leave now. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage or a broken head.

Finally, all men are possessive. I am too. But it takes understanding and logical reasoning to know when your partner won't be available. Good luck.

lomprico:
A clergy once told me if you have any form fears at all concerning the person you want to marry, that person is not for you.

Alwaysachick:
Even when its obvious he is being in considerate. What happened today? He told me to go change my laptop battery today. He wanted me to leave my house by 4pm to Ikeja. My house to Ikeja is like 2hrs journey. I tried to pacify him that I will go first thing in the morning but he insisted and started bringing up other talks.

TheSourcerer:
Religious folks should like this
In 2006, Israeli authorities ordered the evacuation of illegal outposts, such as Amona. Oded Balilty, an Israeli photographer for the Associated Press, was present when the evacuation degenerated into violent and unprecedented clashes between settlers and police officers. The picture shows a brave woman rebelling against authorities. Ynet Nili is the 16-year-old Jewish settler from the above picture. According to Ynet, “a picture like this one is a mark of disgrace for the state of Israel and is nothing to be proud of. The picture looks like it represents a work of art, but that isn’t what went on there. What happened in Amona was totally different.” Nili claims the police beat her up very harshly. “You see me in the photograph, one against many, but that is only an illusion – behind the many stands one man – (Prime Minister Ehud) Olmert, but behind me stand the Lord and the people of Israel.” Ha!



Modified * She was later pushed out of the way , but somehow managed to ease the riot , she was beaten as flour about to be baked
Photographer: Oded Balilty.

Myketuale:
your last statement though..... You mean all ladies that are not staying in their parent house is an olosho...
There are strong n independent women out their too.

Brightgem:
How does a man tape his wife's mouth, turn on loud music pull her hair out with pliers, stab her eyes and body while she's still alive and stab her all over till she dies and then he kills himself.

Yet it is claimed the previous day the two were seen jogging together. Some people must have screamed #couplegoals

See Hush Puppy, boasting all over about his dirty wealth, with plenty people tapping in the unholy blessing. How do you defraud almost 2million people, that's families, businesses, some people's life's savings.

Then some God forsaken people who the Devil have become their partners and guardians will tell you any way na way, na scam e scam e no kee person. Should it even be well in your life for saying such?

Your kobo kobo will pay off. Leave people with the flashy life alone. Your process and consistency will pay off.

GOD bless all the legit and honest hustlers.