₦airaland Forum

LordKO:
Maximum respect to a fair-minded woman.

Awwww,

Thanks

sisisioge:
Hmmmm...I simply wish there would be no gender fights where we women are made to feel or feel by choice like the slighted parties in our professions.

Indeed instead of that special recognition for being female each time we reach a milestone, we should be simply recognised as a professional who has achieved regardless of gender. No special treatment for a beautiful curvy female soldier biko ( she doesn't even need the curves to do her job!), none for a pretty female pilot ( she just wanna fly the darn plane!), please no special tag "women in HR" (this profession has had people in it for forever!)...let's just continue to aim to achieve without any special umbrella placed on our heads.

And oh boy, do we relish it, absolutely! We sometimes see it as an advantage of sort and just completely leave our professional competence by the side and capitalize on our gender prowess... Yet we scream equality!

Yes, we understand that we are a minority representation given that it was only within the last century that the world started seeing women beyond the hips, let's just move past that and continue to walk our ways to wherever we want as professionals not women - the minority. Surely, the glass roofs will keep rolling off if we head boot them.

Interesting.

I very well agree that we need to get to the stage where we say

'Mrs. XYZ, an HR manager' than 'Mrs. XYZ, the first female HR manager'.

The second way is victim hood mentality.

crackkhaus:
Now you Bukatyne I can call a feminist.

Your words here are the embodiment of true equality, one with no special considerations for any gender.

Hahahahahahaha!

My message has not changed.

I opened a thread on quota system years back.

Never believed in it.

Or maybe we just let more men answer.

Because so far, the men who answered said they would feel she is buttering them up to ask for cash or something.

That they see it as 'buttering' in itself is positive.

Mariangeles:
We all know that but feelings are irrational.

See Cococandy's post:

I am yet to see the negative in it. It is another way of saying 'I love you and not your money or what you can give.' etc. etc.

Except we are talking need in terms of emotional support and the likes.

ReneeNuttall:
Wow!I sincerely hope and pray that one day,just one day a woman Would emerge as Nigeria's president for a change.

Well,

I know Sarah Jubril contested, nobody voted for her.

The question is:

Are Nigerians ready for a competent woman president?

Fiyinfoluwa20:
A lot? Like ?

@Abidounspectre I am eager for your answer.

eyinjuege:
Excuse you....

Females drive caterpillars, drive commercial buses, do bus conductors, drive keke napep, work on building sites lifting bricks and cement, even female vulcanizers.

Many women are sexually harassed at their work places, in colleges/universities even as we speak and you say nothing is stopping them from achieving greatness.

How is sexual harassment stopping women from achieving what they want to?

What is sexual harassment?

Mariangeles:
Does the context matter?

To "need" someone, it means you can't do without them.
It is a very deep feeling.

I believe a man would rather you need him than love him because there's deeper love for someone you need.

Does the context matter?

Yes.

If we want to be logical, it is only God we can't do without.

It actually sounds like buttering the man up.

Mariangeles:
It's deeper than you think
Believe me, it can break a man.

Oya explain.

Maybe we need the context it was said.

Omar09:
Marriage itself is boring.

Marriage just like life is what you make of it.

No complete society without a woman: True.

A parents'/father's approval of a child matters a lot: also true.

Mariangeles:
A woman said to her husband "I'm not with you because I need you, I'm with you because I love you"
I thought that was a strong statement, and I wondered as a man, how those words would make one feel...
If as a man, those words were said to you by your wife or someone you're in a relationship with, how would that make you feel?

P.s: She's got her own business which is thriving

Guys, help me out here

I thought it is a positive statement?

It means the wife is with the husband because she wants to.

Or are we missing something?

CsRockefeller:
That's because u don't know the real meaning of love.

emmaodet:
I know but with time, when the bills start growing from having children to entrying primary, secondary and university coupled with events like weddings, family burial, buying land and building house, saving to buy car for family and maintenance, parents calling for emergency medical help etc you will lose appetite for sex.
That is why university students are the most active when it comes to sex because won ni ironu until they graduate and Life hits them Sooooo Hard on the face.

Even with the bills which is a part of life, you guys can still have a go at it like rabbits
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emmaodet:
Believe me, marriage don't give much sexx as you think.
Marriage is more of responsibilities and that is why singles fvck more than married on average because they don't think nor worry much, parents are there to take care of their bills.

Sex in marriage is fun of both are in sync.

Today is International Women's Day themed Each for Equal and the air waves is filled with all sort of messages.

Even corporate organizations have keyed into it and there are all sorts of events to mark the day.

While all these are commendable and interesting (there is a pose for this year),

1. I really wish we get to a stage where we do not need multiple days to 'celebrate' or 'highlight' women: International Women's Day, Mother's Day (about two or three dates) and International Day of the Girl Child.

2. I wish women would not need to 'remind' themselves or be 'reminded' that they are strong. Tags like 'strong woman', 'independent woman', 'strong black woman', 'boss lady' means being a woman or lady is not enough. Anthony Joshua does not need validation/reminder that he is strong. His works have spoken for him.

3. I wish women would realize that they hold the keys to their achievement hence need to always make right choices of career, spouse, lifestyle, conduct etc. That they should always be ready to face the consequences (good/bad) of all their actions and decisions. That refusal to bear the consequences of our actions make us seem like perpetual victims or children.

4. I wish women would understand that this 'fight' cannot be won without the right circle and/or partners. That they cannot do it alone hence need to be very intentional about who they let into their lives.

5. I wish women would understand that quota system hurts us in the long run. If we have to bend the rules to include women, it only means they cannot compete on a level ground and don't deserve the position. That men would not respect them because they think they did not do the back breaking work to get to the top. No man can rubbish an Omotola or Ngozi Okonjo or Late Dora or Genevieve or Ibukun Awosika because they paid their dues.

6. I wish women would understand that men and other women would only respect them as much as they respect themselves. That self-respect and self-esteem manifested by dressing, speech, way of wife, decision making would automatically be mirrored in the way they are treated. Nobidy would place a premium on someone not deserving.

7. I wish women would understand they must something to deliver inside of them before expecting the support of others. Nobody would support a vision that does exist, they don't understand or the visioner cannot communicate.



Happy International Women's Day.

Gerrard59:
When I read about what feminism is all about these days and how modern day misandrists masquerading as feminists want rights without its responsibilities, I give twale to Sagamite. He explained the illogical behaviours of feminists and how it doesn't work. Whenever dude is, I troway salute.

In summary, feminists are demons.

E ni suru broda wa!

From 0 - 1,000

DicklyD:
Like they are not taking other forms of contraceptives and opting for abortion.
It's ok. It's clear the problem isn't awareness issues but the the typical African mentality.
It's fine to pretend there is no problem.
I am male and my options are very limited.
Just as my options are limited so is my share when a mistake happens using the commonly available preventive methods.
Vasectomy is more of a permanent method.
Will, I suggest to my lady to use contraceptives with a more assuring and lasting effect, and if she declines fine.
Unbridled sex,occasional sex. Sex is sex
If I chose to have sex I do so responsibly.

Vasectomy is reversible.

If you are so concerned about your lady, you can explore that option.

SyrusdeHansome:
Let me start my own this way, I know in this life nobody owes us anything but that doesn't mean our lives must always be about us nd us alone. There's a blessing in giving.
I'm opportune to have an uncle who has stayed in US for more than 20 yrs now. He's a surgeon nd one of the best in his field but the biggest gift I've received from him was 800 naira in 2007. Though he use to give me those big bargy trousers once in a while I still see the 8h as his biggest gift to me because trouser no be my problem.

Pls tell me ur own.

What is the biggest gift you have sent to a relative abroad?

Dexpro:
Nah not funny if the story is anything to go by. The husband is a sadist. I had a boy working for me back then, he would boast about sexing his girlfriend (Anal penetration) to the extent she'll start bleeding profusely. That is the point when he cums

I never believed this until when news came to me that the girl was hospitalized coz of excessive bleeding from the anus

She told me he inserted metal rod into her anus and was so excited about it. I reported him to the police.

The woman involved in the above story should call it quits. If she does not quit that marriage, she'll end up in a body bag.

You mean a girl NOT married to man endured all these?

She is a disgrace to her parents and her lineage!

DicklyD:
Is there any law regulating when anybody should have sex.
I guess the trauma of unwanted pregnancies and abortion is shared equally by both gender.

Correct me if I am wrong,

You are male.

Leave us females to sort ourselves out till marriage.

Imagine singles talking contraceptives. If you want unbridled sex so much, go and get married.

DicklyD:
Not only married people have families.
It's against the ethics of the medical profession for any one to be denied such medical care especially when the advantages out weighs the disadvantages.
In the long run the women suffers more

I thought family here meant the woman's husband + kids? (I am lumping married and cohabiting couples here).

How is contraceptive for a single woman considered medical care? Is she legally bound to have sex?

And how do single women suffer not getting contraceptives when they are not having kids?

crackkhaus:
Why would you want random men to show their emotions to you?
Only your husband and brothers should do that around you.

My personal philosophy about being emotional as a man is to identify the people who I can be vulnerable around, people with whom I can bare every single emotion I'm feeling.

Not everyone deserves that honour to see a man at his most vulnerable emotional state.

It's why some people will describe Mr. X to be very tough & hard-as -shells, nothing gets to him, not easily broken...yet his wife will be secretly smiling & finding it funny just because she understands it's a front and they don't know that part of him that's a big bag of emotional vulnerabilities - she is among the few who have seen that part of him, perhaps his parents and siblings as also.

This is what makes a man a man as regards being emotional.
He can't just go about showing every non-essential person how vulnerable and emotional he is - even the crying you mentioned is absolutely not for public viewing, we keep that shít restricted to the presence of those who are dearest to us...that's if the tears have to come out.

Every emotionally intelligent person should imbibe this.

LordKO:
What most people don't know is that it's only someone who's emotional, who can make a rational/logical decision - and being emotional is different from having an abnormal emotional quotient. Humans are emotional beings

On point!

lecoeur:
Hello nairalanders

This might sound like a kinda girlie talk but I'm a guy a real one...
I discovered I'm too emotional and I think it's a problem because it's been said that as a guy/man you're always how to feel hard emotionally like you're not meant to feel shit, but mine is a different case....
The thing is, I care much about people, I'm in a way generous, harsh words hurt me a lot, I'm more of an introvert, I detest hurting anyone, A simple sorry softens my heart (if anyone does me wrong) and I hardly get angry but whenever I'm angry it's not cool at all.
All these are hidden deep and you can't notice.
As a man to be, do I need the hard kind of emotion/conscience and how do I develop it?

Is there any man that is not emotional? Anger, joy, etc. are all emotions

Do you see the raw emotion men display during a football match? It is interesting to watch.

As for your question, irrespective of your 'emotional' display/make up, be assertive enough that nobody messes with you.

Ennyholar:
Women continue to face enormous struggles in every single part of the world, from seeing their basic human rights recognised to gaining leadership roles in corporate boardrooms due to gender inequality.

Every 8th of March " International Women's Day" is a day set aside to celebrate women achievements all round the world the world. It's also a day for us to come together and actively lend our voices to challenge the stereotypes, bias faced by women in their everyday.

This year International Women's Day is themed " EachForEqual. EachForEqual is an advocacy to create a gender equal world. A society without gender roles.

The creation of a society where a man can do the dishes and woman can turn on the generator. A society where women can take the same leadership role as men at their various working place.

Let's hear your view about EachForEqual. Do you think it is attainable and how do you think it can be achieved?


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Cc lalasticlala , Royalroy

Do men not do dishes? Stroll to any mamaput with male attendants.

You want to see women putting on Gen? Go to hairdressing saloons and notice househelps or homes when the father/don is not around.

Is there ANY law stopping a woman from getting to any position she wants? From becoming a leader if that is what she desires?

Is there any group of people in this world that doesn't face stereotypes and biases?

Most of these things you are asking for would be over granted when a woman married a good man who loves her.

Let us re-channel this energy towards telling women to chose husbands well.

DicklyD:
Just a thought.
Rather than taking postinor out of panic which disrupts the system while don't ladies go for temporal long lasting more effective contraceptives like IUD especially and the rest. Especially sexual active ladies. When such is combined with correct condom use that's a complete definition of sexual peace of mind.
Though we are hypocritical in this part of the world however rather than disrupting your system and exposing yourself to abortion decision making trauma and the likes.
I recommend it to every sexual active lady.
NLs what do you guys think.

It is called 'family' planning for a reason.

Ideally, people should abstain from sex.

If you now decide to chop, endure wearing condoms + other methods till you get married.

Why would a single lady want to get a contraceptive that hospitals are reluctant to give until a woman has at least two kids?

What if it develops complications?

Michellekabod2:
Exactly ,this sexual liberation has actually led to mendacity and not freedom as expected. Sometimes we set ourselves free just to go to a worse state than the previous.

Sometimes we shoot ourselves in the legs when we are loose.
Our mothers never suffered heart wrenching heartbreaks,womb damaging abortions ,deadbeat fathers and chop-and-dump syndrome.
Las las after you tell people to do with their bodies what they wish,when they have issues with it,you will not be there to comfort them.



what anyone does with his or her body has not and will never be my business.
But use your bodies responsibly else you end up vanquished.

Sex was never reserved for marriage from the beginning,it was humans that decided it was best for them to do so and it became a general ideology many accepted. Anyone who doesn't want to adapt to it has done no wrong...

Chop kiss



Oil dey your head.

The illusion called 'freedom' ehn!

BrickDevo:
After they say they don't believe in God, but they believe in cobra gold and blood, physcos

Who told you the military doesn't believe in God or gods?

Have you not noticed that their band usually consists of hymns (for countries that acknowledge religion/existence of God).

When you are doing things greater than yourself, you will realize the need to leverage on a higher power.

cruxgemmata:
The Military all over the world are the real cultist.

You see the Military, Lawyers and Doctors?

They are the enlightened ones that understand spiritual powers.

They now align with light or darkness.

Acidosis:
As far as I'm concerned bro, there are no single men of age 35 years and above. You may want to ask my definition of single to ascertain my level of reasoning. Those I consider to be single are people without any form of attachments whatsoever with the opposite sex. You can't be sleeping with someone, got one stubborn ex on your neck, or one form of bestie whom you discuss intimate stuff with, and tell me you're SINGLE. I don't know a single man of that age by my own definition.

Let me freeze this moment in time.

Even 35yrs sef is old.