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lilyheaven:
You should have used the opportunity to open up

72Morale:
I pray everyday not to meet a creature like you till I leave this earth.

If you are a man reading this.

May almighty God guide and protect you from marrying an inpatient woman who will be wayward and unfaithful enough to sleep around, getting pregnant for various men and deceiving you by making you raise a child that isn't yours unknowingly.

May you never marry a woman who will be busy thinking about sex and diiick while you are busy suffering hard on how to take care of her and make her and your kids happy.

Lonelyloner:
I logged in just to tell you the truth.

This is what you should do.

I was going through a breakup. My feeling were being used against me.
Suffice to say, I was being used.

But I loved this person. I was confused cause I didn't know how to stopping having feelings for this person in order to end my emotional abuse.

So one night, before I went to bed, my guardian angel whispered to me.

"Come to me all ye that are laboured and heavy ladden and I will give you rest."

I understood what he was telling me.

I meant that should tell Jesus to take away my sexual attraction for this girl away.

I cried and said that prayer. I work up the next day completely unattracted.

I don't know how explain it. But I broke up with her and never went back like I used to.

God can make you sexually attracted to your partner. I mean, He blessed your marriage at the altar.

He's just waiting for you to ask. And if your husband isn't attracted to you also, pray to God to make him sexually attracted to you. But you must do this with his consent since God will not force anyone.

Without faith, non of this will work. So pray for faith first.
I wish you good luck.

Girlwhocares:
I honestly don't need anyone to insult me please as I'm going through a lot. All i need is mature married wo(men) opinions

Thank you for your time.

healthserve:
These are the women we've been talking about. Narcissist doesn't qualify their wickedness

crackkhaus:
As much as your words might seem harsh, I'm inclined to add a like and a share to it.

I can't believe people are petting her.

Divorce the man already mehn..he will definitely be better for it because I don't see how she is helping/contributing to his life. No sex for years, no emotional support, no addition to his overall growth, NOTHING.
Just sitting there like a fvcking light fixture feeling like she's doing him a favour by staying married to him, acting like the victim, when in fact she is the antichrist herself.

LongThickPenis:
Yes waliu and his brother Fatai Ashafa, princes of oba of Ijanikin. Williams Jimabo. What set were u. I passed out in 95

cr7lomo:
U remember ashafar and nengi Gogo ??

niyogeol:
You are right. Once I sight this building then, I begin to shiver because I know the misery from IJ is about to get real.

What set are you if I may ask?

Biggaboi:
Same here. I've been searching for just this kind of comment since I saw that building that brought back memories of FGCL.
It's my Alma mater too

greyce:
Same here The great "builders of bridges, across young minds"

I used to feel like the building was following me while in a vehicle

Gogetta:
Yes, Era race! Back then in FGCL1997/1998 we past the building during the marathon. So many eerie tales about it that got me spooked as a boy. So it's still there..smh

TruthFM:
Just what was in my head. I cannot forget this building because once sighted all the joy of the holiday suddenly vanishes and you are overfill with fear of returning to the Maximum security Prison ( FGCL). I'm talking way back from 99. Just crazy they this building is still wasting away.

LongThickPenis:
I attended FGC Ijanikin. During our annual Era mini marathon, we run past the building. Back then in the 90s we observed, the building is sinking. When I last passed there, I noticed some windows were on sand level to show extent of sinking. Money was wasted. I don't think proper soil tests were done

Esthered:
That was the landmark when I'm getting close to my alma mater FGCL Ijanikin before seeing the great 'Waterworks'

radiolover:
The topic is self-explanatory.

However, if you were born between 1980-1994, 2020 should be your last year of being stupid.



We are getting old, people!..

You need to:

1. Get a job if you don't have one

2. Filter your current friends and make more business partners.

3. Start saving a part of your income and invest it (not in MMM, buy a land, shares, bond etc)

4.stop clubbing every weekend.. Stay indoors sometimes and read a book or 2.

5. (Ladies) stop waiting for a prince charming to come and save your self (Z-World and Hollywood lied to us) you should know that by now.

6. Stop dating anybody you don't see yourself having a future with.

7. (Guys) stop honoring every single invitation to go and hang out and drink and flex with chicks.

8. start sending money back home (your parents will be so proud of you)

9. Stop squatting around with friends, get your own apartment.

10. Stop caring about what people have to say about you or any decision u take about your life.

Copied.


Lalasticlala

Seun

Mynd44

Dominique etc

wizzytm:
I was going to ask the same question ooo, I have never seen any foreigner kneeling for anyone, no matter how highly placed that individual is.

TonyeBarcanista:
By TonyeBarcanista

One of the major problems bedevilling the society is the collapse of relationships, courtships, marriages and family system. Although people in these failed relationships do credit their partners as those responsible for the collapse, but I believe that most marital relationship collapse due to the failure of men to be men! Being a man comes with some burden of responsibilities that nature in her wisdom has placed on male folks. The way and manner men, as family heads, realise and discharge these responsibilities will ultimately determine the fate of the relationship/marriage, and the beginning of this start at the foundation of the relationship. To have successful relationship, men should note the following;
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Starting A Relationship:
Before starting a relationship, it is expected of the man to determine his life's vision, as well as and his expectations from himself first and his would-be partner. He has to also determines physical and non physical features of his would-be partner in terms of beauty, physique, character, medical, ethnicity, faith, age, education, ideology, etc. Every man must determine his according to his heart desire and must not be coerced or bullied by societal or peers narratives to accept any standard other than his.

The next stage is to approach/woo only ladies that appeals to them and also pass character test according to their expectations. The character of a would-be partner is the very key as it determines the happiness or otherwise of the budding relationship/marriage/family. This is one step that no man can afford to gamble with. The ideological, faith, medical, and others must not be gambled with. The truth about relationship is that good character is not enough qualification for a man to decide to settle with a woman. A woman's ideology, perspective towards life, family, genotype, faith, culture, tradition, family, sex and other sociocultural issues goes a long way to determine her compatibility or otherwise with the man. For instance, a man that believes in the traditional hierarchial headship of a husband has no business getting married to a woman that doesn't hold such ideology sacred. Partners with fundamental ideologies different from each other have no business marrying each other. Doing so will only be laying foundation for an inevitable doom era. May I emphasize that NO MAN should relegate his ideology in order to accommodate any woman for any reason.

Set Ground Rules And Stick To It
Every man should lay basic ground rule governing the relationship from the onset and ensure strict compliance. One important area that should not be overlooked is the subject of privacy. There is no privacy between a pair as long as relationship is concerned. Each should have unrestricted access to the other, including knowing passwords of phones; it is not a sign of insecurity contrary to what society would want to make one belief, it is simply a testament of oneness. As a man, any woman that doesn't believe in "No Privacy" relationship is most likely hiding something from you and should be a no-no.

Post-Proposal/Marriage Stage
With all the aforesaid in check and confirmed, men in relationship should proceed to take only women that match their criteria and meet their respective physical, character, ideological and other fundamental requirements to the "village" and altar, and do the needful. The purpose of courtship is not just for "free sex", it is a platform for would-be couple to confirm compatibility.

Once married, men should be prepared for greater task as family head, and ensure he leads by example, while their partner (and kids) also live by the family standard. Men shouldn't be slow to assert authority, appropriate sanctions and discipline on whoever that derails from the path, including himself.

Some Key Responsibilities And Expectations For Men
Having established the above, a man must recognise that as the hierarchical head and burden bearer of the relationship and marriage, he is saddled with greater responsibilities and expectations than his partner and/or any other member of the household.
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Some key responsibilities/Expectations include;

Fairness: Being head of family doesn't mean the man is a higher human to the wife or the children. It only put him at the top of authority within the family. He must be fair in his dealings with his wife at all times, knowing that he is accountable to God and nature. In fact, a man that isn't fair in his dealings will never know peace in the home.

Leadership: As a man, you can't flout rules and regulations and expect the woman to abide by it. It doesn't work that way! Leadership is by example, and men who aren't living exemplary lose every moral justification to address err by his woman or even his children.

Independent Mind: A man should have an independent mind that is not influenced by peers or societal narratives. He must realise that issues that concern relationship and home affairs are unique and he doesn't need popular opinion of relatives and strangers (on and off social media) before taking decision.

Openness To Ideas; Although a man is expected to possess independent mind, he is bound to open his mind to opinion and ideas of his woman on virtually all issues without having an impressionist mind. Though a man is the head and final authority, he is not omniscient. He may not even be the most knowledgeable between the pair. Even if he is the most knowledgeable, he may not be the most knowledgeable on the issue in question. Also, there is a wise saying that no idea is a waste, this applies to relationship. His final decision must be in the overall interest of the union irrespective of whether it comes from him or his wife.

NB: Without prejudice, a man must insist on decisions and actions that he is of a strong conviction that is of the benefit of the union/family even if his partner insists otherwise. But he should be prepared for the consequences should the action/decision yield unfavourable outcome.

Responsibility: A man must be first be responsible to himself and the woman in his life. A responsible man is one that knows his onion and live a life worthy of emulation. An irresponsible man cannot lead a woman not to talk of family.

Accountable: Although his woman is accountable to him in all things, the man is expected to first account to himself and the woman in his life. That way he shows a pathway for the woman to follow.

NB: A woman that is not prepared to be accountable to the man is a no-no irrespective of other factors.

Financial Stability: While no one expect a man to be very wealthy or live in affluence before meeting a woman, it is expected that he should at least have source of livelihood that to be able to cater for his needs and that of his partner/family. Any man that is yet to have good source of livelihood should suspend the idea of marriage altogether until he is ready. It is not a crime to be broke, but it is a sin for a grownup man without anything doing to be talking of relationship and marriage. The reason is simple, the woman is not meant to take care of financial any burden! It is the man's responsibility to cater for the woman and the home while the woman gives helping hand. I repeat, the woman is meant to give helping/supporting hand and not to inherit the main burden.

Chief Planner: The man in the relationship is chiefly responsible for making short and long term plans to ensure that his relationship and home doesn't suffer; and ensure that he sticks to it. This is very important as those who fail to plan end up losing it. Although a woman is expected to partner her man, it is still the man's responsibility to ensure things work as the Planner in Chief.

Physical/Mental/Emotional
/Sexual Fitness: Every man should always take priority of physical, mental and sexual fitness. A man who is weak physically, mentally, emotionally and sexually is not appealing to a woman. In fact, no woman wants, deserves nor desires one who is physically weak, emotional wimp, mental retard and one who cannot perform sexually (not saying men should start using drugs). Men that fall short in these areas will have serious problem in their relationship/family. It is the duty of the man to work on his weaknesses!

Discipline: A man should discipline himself as by doing this he creates precedent for his partner and children to follow. No man should tolerate or forgive indiscipline in his home, not from himself, his woman/wife/girlfriend or children. Discipline is one of the way of expressing love.

Godfearing And Godly: All said, this is the most important. Any man that fears God will love and honor His Words, and will want to live godly life; and thereby be the best man any family would have. By this I don't mean outward religiosity (like many) or mere churchgoer, but for one to have reverence towards God Almighty and to follow His word.

Finally, marriage is not a bed of roses but it is a union ordained by God meant for human pleasure and not for humans to endure. But it is the duty of the man to seek and insist on woman that meets his desires and matches his expectations to have his dream home.

May God Bless Us All...

Acidosis:
How do you guys do it? How do you date a 19 year old girl? What do you discuss? JAMB, Post-UTME, Makeup, NYSC? At 30 years, this is what you want to do/discuss with your life??

By the time you're married, you will find yourself spending more time with your age mates and friends, keeping late nights and doing all sorts of nonsense because the teenage kid-dult you kept at home do not reason the way you do.

Go and marry your best friend sir. A best friend is likely going to be someone in your age group.

LewsTherin:
I'm really wondering why I am mentioned in this. I don't know if I should be flattered, worried or miffed. Bukatyne, what do you think? You were also mentioned.

First question I will ask is this. How old are you? I'm not trying to be insultive here. But young love especially for the first time is usually strong but fleeting as it tends to be shallow. Not to say there are not couples that met as kids and lived as husband and wife deeply in love to their 70s.

So what you may be feeling could be nothing more than a strong hormonal reaction that has little or no foundation for deep affection. Sex doesn't make it any better by the way. In fact, most relationship of this sort are damaged by sexual relations.

So how old are you? What's the range? Teenage? Early twenties?

Andersonc:
I have a girl I have dated for six years, since my secondary school time, I want to marry her. I checked her phone the other day and noticed that she saved my name as fb and smart. While I was going through her contact I saw another number saved as desire, I checked it and the number is wasn't mine. I went ahead to check her text massages and I saw some romantic massages they have been sending to each other. When I confronted her she told me that he is just a friend, then I told her that if he is just a friend that why will she save his number as desire and save mine as fb and smart.
She told me that she is not cheating on me that she loves me, that I shouldn't mind what I saw. When I pressed harder on it she told me that after all we are not yet married.
Pls what should I do, and I love her, am just confused

OcVoice:
He beats up his wife mercilessly, with 3 teeth off because all the children(3) she bore for him are not his.

From the news making rounds on Twitter, He actually wanted to relocate them to Canada. A compulsory DNA test of the kids was carried out and he found out none belonged to him. He pounced on her immediately he got home.

A twitter user: @Mazipita shared the story.

The kind of ladies we have now eh
Only God will help naija bachelors.

bigiyaro:
madam, just focus on your children, old age will calm him down.

raumdeuter:
The purpose of the creation of Unity schools is to have equal representation from all states in Nigeria. The admission is not solely based on the highest marks its to have every part of the country represented in the class to foster Unity. That is the purpose for creating Unity Scholls
So cutoffs are set to ensure that happens

What is the point of a Unity school if all the students are from Anambra and Ogun state, what is the Unity in that

Blu03:
let us be realistic tho, financial security is a very important factor. Money would influence the level of happiness in the relationship. Life is complex. That 300k wouldn't be enought to start up a family with at least three members.
The child's basic welfare, feeding, education, health care, etc. Apart from maturity, both physical and emotional, money is another solid foundation on which a decent marriage would built.

stupidity:
All parents here will notice babies do let out a big smile when they are sleeping. Starting from few weeks old babies.

Are they dreaming happy moments or are they having flash memories from their former life or the gesture is a subconscious one? Just curios.

I’m carrying a baby right now and it won’t stop. lol. Abi she deh laugh me ni?