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IWillSueYou:
I do, but your write-up has sexist undertones. I will take you serious when you write another writeup: "a husband is a gift to his wife"

You, I, and the readers know that you are portraying women as commodities for men which is bs. I am a firm proponent of equality of the sexes and I honestly do don't know why you choose to use that word. No woman would say this. Beginning to doubt the f in your monicker..

ProtectMyMoney:
Your summations are faulty and not well thought through.

SilvaBullet:
It will be simplistic to say this is your opinion without looking deep into your msg.

The quality of your marriage is exposed in your writeup. And mothers like you who put their kids first and above their husband go ahead to constitute nuisance in their children's lives even after they're married. After all, that's where most of all your physical, emotional and material investment has been. It would be practically impossible to have you detached from them as expected when they get married.

You're also a potential mother-in-law nightmare to your son's wives.

ProtectMyMoney:
What do you mean by a befitting man? Pls explain.

ProtectMyMoney:
Honestly..,.reason we are all surprised Lagosboi2 could find one Diamond in modern times.

IWillSueYou:
Your choice of words is denigrating. Did you just say a wife is a "gift" to her husband? Even if you're. SU, please banish this denigrating thought. Na wa oo!

iamloyalty:
So she was already pregnant before marriage and u are shouting virginity. There is no virtue in fornication.

LagosBoi2:
I can not provide any reasonable excuse to cheat then but according to our (my wife and I) observation , I was in my mid twenties, not really matured or experienced in life. It is not that I sleep with everything on skirts but i had other girlfriends as options, just like most (smart bad guys) people do in relationships but none of them could stand the test of time. At my late 30s now, I understand family, true love, relationships and sacrifice.

ProtectMyMoney:
The above is not in the book of Proverbs...if you find it, show us!

LagosBoi2:
Absolutely, I stopped some years ago. She doesn't deserve it in anyway. I am not ashamed to make public my past because she has forgiven me and my God has forgiven me, I am now the perfect type of husband ladies want to snatch, we both laugh at such attempts. Thank you so much for your contributions.

KINGreignn:
I've noticed a problem with most youths of this generation. They just jump into marriage without first destroying evil ancestral alters and wrong foundations then lay a good Godly foundation for their new soon to be family and when things starts to spiral out of control because the evil forces that be in their ancestral homes are angry, they start casting blames wrongly.

JONNYSPUTE:
. So what's your problem if I share it 50/50?. Both of my parents were always there for me.

You can share yours how you like.

Why should you be the one telling me that? Were you not the one that asked why I should share it equal?.

Akinsoladwayne:
PLS HIDE MY IDENTITY MA.
*Pls matured minds*
Copied

GOFRONT:
Randy husbands everywhere you go....


This a perfect example of Everyday for the thief, One day for owner. Madam, God was on your side and that was why God emptied the cooking gas and God pushed you to go refill the gas by yasef. God also pushed you to drive to gas filling station with your Oga's car, leaving your car behind.

And because God has something in stock for you, he pushed you to open the boot and wow, there lies the parcel.

Sha!!.....The lenght men can go to clear their name off their marriage just to acquire that New punna....

Ehmm......Madam Nurse, Marriage is for better for worse.....Try and burn off the photocopies of those credentials with you. There is no need. Just forgive him again.

JONNYSPUTE:
. For me,both are special and very important. So I will share it equal. Do you ve a problem with that?


That you don't see both of your parents as special and very important in your life should not be a problem to me.

You ve every right to share the money the way you like.

JONNYSPUTE:
. Is any of Ur parents more important than the other?

Bbbwings:
One time I tried giving dad 50k during my first empolyment, he rejected it outright saying I should wait till I get a permanent appointment.
I got one last year
He was dead before then.

Miarose:
Why the generalization that dads bring money? how many households are run by men alone? our moms are everywhere.. selling fish, oil,vegetable,kerosene, firewood. frying akara,yam,etc,very often they drag their kids along with them to their shops and markets. Moms still provide and care for the kids..
I know there is a silent campaign to discredit women now..but not ur mothers please..

freshvine:
There are gender roles no matter the excuses you make for the inequality. Women bond with their kids even right from the womb and fathers are just introduced. Without the toil of the father, the child has no future. It's the duty of a good wife to always make the children understand that their father is the bedrock of the family.

A dad gave his wife money to get clothes for the children, ask the children afterward who got them the clothes, its always mummy. A wise woman would create a balance for the children to acknowledge their dad.

or do you expect daddy to explain to his children he provided the clothes...oh no, he's out again looking for what they'll survive on next.

safarigirl:
The 'system' did nothing to dads, most men just refuse to admit that there are many deadbeat dads .

Some of you think caring for a child is just about bringing money all the time, these responses shows that a child is not a toy that you can just pour money on, and most men failed in raising their kids.

Mothers have done more than their own parts, but fathers are still slacking because they think only women should nurture a child. Only few fathers have healthy relationships with their children, compared to mothers.

Notice how, many people are sharing based on who showed more love and affection and who they think sacrificed more. Some are giving their dads more, based on this. You cannot bully a child most of their lives and expect reward just because you were paying school fees, while reducing their self esteem.

Men need to pull up their weight, you cannot buy affection with money and you cannot emotionally blackmail people into forgetting who showed them love when they most needed it. You don't know anyone's personal experience with their parents.

So,yes, many are bastards because their fathers were never really there.

Mymynd4u:
U r d one dt is manipulated.. Shebi na our parents, we no what we are saying nq

babslepe:
The entire 100k for my dad and if possible Force my siblings to add to it cause he was both our mum and dad ,my mum left when we were still very young

JONNYSPUTE:
50k to each. We are advocating for equal rights except you people are not sincere on the course.

vizkiz:
It is not difficult to identify a bastard nowadays.

Just take a look at these kids undermining the post of a father in their lives. The system has so much brought down the role of a father. Making him look like a figure head. Praising the mother alone.

Little wonder we have so many days assigned to praise women and just a day to notice the value of a man (Father’s day). Most times the Father’s Day come and go without anyone noticing it

Same father who worked all his life to take care of his family? Same father who will risk his life day and night just to put food on the table? Same father who paid your fees from the very first day you were born till you started earning your own money? Same father who put a roof over your head and even assigned your own room? (No wonder men die early)

Only for him to be cheated again when he is to reap the fruit of his Labour. Little wonder most of you are cursed. It is because you have offended God and man by being a fool.

Just take a look at the cheap gold-digging girls we have nowadays. All they do is look for a ready made man. So after having kids for that guy, those unfortunate kids will rather take care of her than their father who has worked for money all his life?

What happened to 50:50? To hell with you simpletons.

My mum has done a whole lot for me and I’ll do anything just to make her happy but my dad (bless his soul) deserves as much love and happiness.

Even the 50:50 sef, my dad will still buy gifts for mum from that money. I understand most of you are not from stable homes sha...Una dey use una family problem judge the matter.

RisenPhoenix:
Women generally do not love their children. They are possessive of them merely because they see them as personal possessions or future pension plans for when the husband can no longer provide financially. And these days more than ever before, women are even more bitter and frustrated that their lives do not conform with Telemundo and African magic ideals. They take that out on the kids too. That's why it's rare to see a man overcome his human feelings and really hurt a child of his, while angry women do it so often.

elektra:
My mother did most of the punishments except you really bleeped up, then my dad will step in and fvck up your whole life with intense flogging.

LordKO:
Men who lack self-esteem have been making women whose self-esteem are rooted in weak self-sufficiency to be feeling fly like superhumans since time immemorial.

LewsTherin:
"You said I shouldn't talk and let you finish"

Savage!

Holycity:
why can't you take her daughter....

you sound selfish

do you think it's easy to bear the shame....

that the only way you can compensate her for everything...

and I know she won't ask for more because I see her as a very nice person...

Omar09:
Michellekabod2, you still think DNA check is not important? Cause obviously it's the man's fault for not being there for the woman sexually that made her become promiscuous.