₦airaland Forum

Daisy17:
This is the reason I used an Oxford comma. This is to show the fact that they are two separate things. A close relationship that encourages openness.

Still sounds funny.

What is an Oxford comma?

Danwakae:
EVIL PEOPLE

While I agree it is an immoral show, I wonder people's fuse.

You have to literally set out to watch BBN.

I heard it airs on only special channels you have to subscribe to.

So why are people ranting?

How do they even know it is pornographic?

Noblefirstlady:
Men are selfish and heartless.
The old fool has other wives and he sleeps with them, but he still expect the woman to wait for him even when she is in need.

Sometimes I get angry that I came out a woman.
Men would cheat and expect women not to cheat back.
Muslims are entitled to four wife. Imagine a woman waiting patiently for her own turn. What if she is really in the mood she has to wait for him to go round first, is this not wickedness!
Women are been cheated !!!!

Only the first wife is wronged in this scenario.

Other women are willing participants.

Cantonese:
Na waoh! Who opened the door when the man got there? The woman opened the door. Did her husband ever wear a mask on his face when he visited? No. Did her husband's younger brother wear a mask hiding his face? No. Who removed her clothes? She abi the man? Ok fake husband. The body weight na the same? No. So there was no discussion? greeting, etc? So the man just mounted and started riding? If she did not identify the man before he climbed, how did she identify him when
he disclimbed? By the way na the same rod and staff the two men get? Sotay she could not differentiate between the two instruments of work.

I put it to that woman that she is a PATHOLOGICAL LIAR! She was always emjoying herself with her husband's younger brother. She needs flogging.

The husband too, haba! Na only am be man? How many wives. If 5 women gather one man e fit survive? Just give them 3 hours.

Ok what about the fearless and cursed younger brother? His rod and staff must be sanctioned and decommissioned. He's.a very useless and worthless person.

Didn't process it like this.

Daisy17:
I disagree with you. Beating does not solve the problem. The dad has to create a safe space for the boy to feel comfortable enough to express himself and have an honest conversation. Beating will cause the child to close up. This is the reason why a lot of parents do not have close, open relationships with their kids. What will make a child be open when they know that it will lead to beating?

Close open relationship.

Sounded funny.

genq:
I don't mean to gloat over your son's misfortune but this is what happens when a mother leaves the raising of her children to outsiders. Let me guess your wife is too busy to take care of the kids right? Because shes a "modern working class woman".

Go and ask women abroad how they manage to work full time and still raise their own children without househelp. Unlike these ones in Nigeria who after just one child, they can't do chores again. House helps are then put in place to assume the duties of a wife and mother.

Your son is one of many children out there suffering the consequences of these lifestyle choices.

In haste to comment, let's make sense.

1. Most husband of working wives are Very Very hands on. Several peeps have commented how Nigerian husbands automatically take shape when they move abroad.

2. There are several part time jobs

3. The system is more predictable so there is better planning.

I know that wives don't leave their homes early, get home late, run the home and care for the kids alone in the 'abroad'.

There is decency and there is appealing.

Some things are not decent although very appealing so they are easy on the eyes before we caution decency.

How can it be that someone dresses indecently and yet can get the simple art of being appealing?

How can someone not use all the fashion arsenal to look dashing while we let her man worry if he is getting what he subscribed for or not?

Why would this mgbeke torture us with this?

I sort of believe the woman.

Seahawk:
Please hurry up and come.
I always wish to have visitors/guests so I can have more excuses to cook.

The visitor would leave fat.

And coming to your house during a diet would be a punishment.

Yuneehk:
Monday's breakfast and Lunch

No plantain?

GrammarNazi1:

See milk.

Acidosis:
Here is the bitter truth no one has said to you; your darling wife is not going to change! She's simply the opinionated type. Some folks won't understand as I am so sure this isn't about the call/alert thing.

People who can't say sorry even when they're not at fault are very very dangerous. I avoid them like plaque. But hey, she's your wife, you have to deal with the issue once and for all. Otherwise, you will continue to apologize till eternity, leaving your woman and malice with the power to control and manipulate you like a doll.

Next time she offends you (and you're sure about it), don't go f00ling yourself by begging over what you didn't do. If she doesn't and can't seem to recognize her mistakes, and consequently summon the courage to call you and apologize like normal people do, let her be.

For once, do not CALL. People like her do not always give a damn; some of them prefer to break and end the relationship than say that five letter word (sorry). You teach them and their malice great lessons by ignoring the consequences too.

@OP people treat you the way you let them especially if they are not prone to goodness in the first place.

Your wife is ungrateful and unapologetic.

@ungratefulness, give her another chance and discuss about it. If no change, give her only the basics. You are not obligated to give her extras or luxuries till she earns it.

@unapologetic, talk about it again. No change, don't keep malice however relate with her on the basics. No unnecessary familiarity either.

She might pretend to change for a while: until you see genuine change, the above applies.

If she decides to take your goodness for granted, then let her earn it hence forth.

Goodluck

@GreatGod007

KIDfurniture:
No sex no disease.....no fornication no disease .. marry and stick to your partner . Herpes & hepatitis B bad pass hiv

@bold:

100% true.

mrakeli62:
Everyday, there are more than one million new cases of curable sexually transmitted infections among people aged 15-49 years, according to data released by the World Health Organisation.

This amounts to more than 376 million new cases annually of four infections–chlamydia, gonorrhoea, trichomoniasis and syphilis.

“We’re seeing a concerning lack of progress in stopping the spread of sexually transmitted infections worldwide,” said WHO’s Executive Director for Universal Health Coverage and the Life-Course, Dr. Peter Salama.

He added: “This is a wake-up call for concerted effort to ensure everyone, everywhere can access the services they need to prevent and treat these debilitating diseases.

Published online by WHO Bulletin, the research showed that, among men and women aged 15–49 years, there were 127 million new cases of chlamydia in 2016, 87 million of gonorrhoea, 6.3 million of syphilis and 156 million of trichomoniasis.

“These STIs have a profound impact on the health of adults and children worldwide.

“If untreated, they can lead to serious and chronic health effects that include neurological and cardiovascular disease, infertility, ectopic pregnancy, stillbirths, and increased risk of HIV. They are also associated with significant levels of stigma and domestic violence,” the bulletin explained.

Syphilis alone caused an estimated 200,000 stillbirths and newborn deaths in 2016, making it one of the leading causes of baby loss globally.

STIs remain persistent and endemic health threat worldwide. Since the last published data for 2012, there has been no substantive decline in either the rates of new or existing infections.

https://www.akelicious.net/2019/07/over-1million-get-sexually-transmitted.html

How will it not increase when every effort to make people sexually pure is rebuffed and discarded as archaic and slavery?

truthsayer009:
You need Kane

Since we didn't win, is it not to support our brothers?

blackslayer:
the question is why the inept NFA keeps hiring these overpaid european rejects as technical head coach when results are never delivered!!!?

Because they are inept.

Senegal for the trophy!

Go Senegal!!

Algeria played better.

Jonscotin:
I struggle to make ends meet every time. When others are lucky, I struggle even when I put in my best. Right from childhood. Am really depressed. I have made millions of naira but all always end up in people's hand. In 2014 I gave a family friend 1.14m for his co-operative society after preaching how I will be getting interest from it. Till now, he ran out of town. In 2015, I gave my neighbour 1m since they were struggling and wanted to change business and I wanted to help out. That one is stuck and and they haven't been able to pay back. With so many other little sums ranging from 200k to 15k that I have used to help people and they end up not paying me back. I am the type of person that hardly say no to people after much persuasion. I don't know why am this soft....
This year, just a month after my wedding, I have been making wrong choices. I borrowed someone 350k to give me back last month ending and he hasn't given me back. I initially refused giving him but he was calling and begging for one week, saying it won't get up to last month ending, he will give me back the money, well today is 10th and he is not picking my calls.
My business has been down of late cos of too many competitions and the people selling fakes are been patronized more then me cos I usually stick to originals. I had to put my only car for sale and I gave it to a friend to help me to sell it. Now the car just got got burnt after we just saw a buyer that was ready to pay this next day.
Am confused, why is all this happening to me. Am now a laughing stock among my classmates and coursesmates cos I was among the top in secondary school then but I wasn't lucky to study a good course. The only lucky things I have now are my wife, mother and brother. But am depressed now esp over the burnt car and no money again. I can't stand this shame. I feel like am losing it now

Brother,

From this story, I am seeing poor decision making and not ill luck.

Even the car might be a set up.

Or how did it catch fire with everyone in it intact?

You need wisdom and to be weary of frenemies.

People keep going against nature sha.

Nice nail polish.

Happy birthday ma, God bless you.

victorian:
Good if u graduated at age 21.

Then start thinking of getting married

Hahahahhahahaha

I finished school ten years back.

And started with my Husband in 100L.

PUSSYHOE:
A girl in her 19/20 wouldn't listen to advice her pussy controls her.

Not every girl.

Which is why I said parents should train their kids.

Also, if the parents themselves had a good marriage, the kids would not want to chop life first (which is the major reason people want to marry later) before settling down.

victorian:
My dear at that age , my daughter will be in the university , reading her books and pondering on graduating with good grades at least first class , then getting a job before settling down.
I dont want her to know and study man yet biko

I cant shout .

A lot of people were done with school at 20.

Despite strike and staying home for 3years due to Jamb, I finished school at 21.

And marriage is not a destiny stopper.

A bad marriage contracted at any age is.

ojun50:
Is that all?

What else are you looking for?

Born2Breed:
You and sense.

Thanks

Is food so hard to cook that there is rancor everywhere?

Good afternoon peeps or like we say, happy sunday

Just decided to drop this here:

A wife is a good thing/gift to her husband to better his life . In what ways is she a gift?

1. Beauty: She is to look good for her husband. Take good care of her beauty (inner & outer) and look good for her husband. It is not ideal to dress shoddy at home and deck up yourself when going out or in the midst of other people.

2. Body: She is to always be willing to gift her husband her body.

3. Resources: A wife is to bless her husband with her resources: time, money, gifts, talents, wisdom etc. No one else should enjoy your good qualities more than your husband.

A wife should also be wise enough to know what her husband needs per time/season and provide it. For instance, the needs of a doctor is different from the needs of a tailor or a lawyer.

A thought provoking question: Are you are gift to your husband? Do you use all you have to bless him?


P.S.: Please no 'what about men here:'

1. I am a woman.
2. The onus is one every woman to marry a befitting man.

I am guessing this is my shortest thread yet

Apart from some generalizations, good advice.

Parents should also prep their kids physiologically for marriage.

A girl of 19/20 should know herself and the kind of man that suits her.

Ditto a guy too.

Auxtin85:
Thanks and noted

You have a psychological need to be needed so you will always pose as a saviour to friends and foes to remain relevant.

This would naturally attract users or fair weather friends so there is a balance.

This is one of the signs of low self-esteem.

Let people earn your friendship, trust and loyalty; don't give it on a platter of gold else it decreases in value.

Please note that frenemies are much more dangerous than enemies... You never see them strike.

AntiBrutus:
Who has ever tried isam (periwinkle) in egusi soup?

Did it come out well?

And which is tastier all things being equal.

Egusi + vegetable?
Egusi + bitterleaf?

Lovely

You can do Egusi + Bitterleafsoup + vegetable