₦airaland Forum

sisisioge:
What are you saying? The fact still remains that procreation is a choice with them, it is not an expected occurrence from the society like is obtainable here. All you typed only point to another fact that where a woman/couple have chosen to procreate but nature is against them, they go to any length to actualize their dreams

It is also an excepted occurrence over there that's why the few who choose otherwise have to explain themselves.

We are all humans first.

habsydiamond:
The more we copy the western culture, the more everything will be crumbling. Mode of dressing.. a typical naija lady in the 80's would wear long skirt and blouse through which u can hardly see their boobs or their thigh. because of copy copy everything has changed. Ladies can even where ordinary pant to an event. They can't go out without having parts of their boobs exposed. Same goes for marriage... Divorce came from the westerners most things it happens because of when the couple are acting like two captains in one ship which will make the ship to capsize. The only aspect of the westerners worthy of imitiating is their achievements and governance. When it comes to marriage there, the issue of feminism has eaten them out. That's the reason why there are many broken homes there. It's time we start tracing back to our culture and norms. Divorce is a disease which kills the kids emotionally and psychologically.

Divorce came from the Westerners?

I laugh in Japanese.

The West might just be playing catch up.

You know how many wives their husbands sent packing and replaced or relegated?

KevMitnick:
They don't make them like our mums anymore...a lot of ladies nowadays cannot weather the storms of marriage. Another broken home.

Instead of looking for a woman to weather the storm, why don't you decide to be peace and calm?

Why are you planning to be storm looking for someone to weather?

That's satanic my brother.

Richy4:
Maybe you dI'd not understand me.. hope I wasn't speaking German.. I guess U quoted me wrongly... all I was saying is this, if the groom should send a picture of his court marriage to his 'father in law ' after what they did to him, I won't blame him for that..

I get you and I am saying while it is tempting to do so, it is not necessary.

sisisioge:
Well, it is the truth. The western world view procreation different from us here. It is a stigma for a couple to be childless in Africa and a thing of choice for the westerners. Simple.

Yet, all the technology for assisted conception came from the West.

Where technology doesn't work, they designed surrogacy to ensure every woman who desires can have her child.

Don't let the minute few advertised deceive you.

Those of them who are very conservative are worse off than Nigerians.

peepydelano:
Reasons the mom gave was that she see no reasons involving them since she has been solely responsible for her and her siblings after their fathers death and no one cared from their father's side if they existed or not.I stated that in the post

I read it which I think is a joke.

In most Nigerian culture, paternal families are involved in weddings.

Richy4:
The paternal family disgraced them publicly.. he has the bragging right to let them know that the wedding still took place.. ie if he's into stuff like that... People cannot just be afraid for the rest of their life.. Every one will die someday... The fact that we are alive today, does not mean we will not go...It only means that the inevitable is being postponed for another day until the appointed time....
So if he send some pictures.. I won't blame him.. we are just reading it.. that is a total nightmare that shouldn't happen to anyone...

If I'm to be in the groom's shoes.. I will let him know that we got married eventually..

To what end?

Not necessarily.

And it is the girl's family that determines when a couple is married traditionally.

Same religiously.

luminouz:
Lol,
What are the private parts?
Name them naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

They are private

ahnie:
Covers face#

He does always...but I no longer fancy sex
So local man has held his peace

To be honest....sex has evaporized outta my mind.

Abeg o, bring it back, you are punishing him and depriving him of his rights and to think you tease him like a naughty girl

It starts from the mind. If you have a mindset of pleasing/pleasuring him, your body would crave and hunger for him and if there a physical /emotional issues, you are more willing to address.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/unveiledwife.com/are-you-a-wife-struggling-with-low-sex-drive/amp/

This is a Christian website to help wives with low libido.
https://www.oysterbed7.com/blog/

Wishing you an orgasm filled week

peepydelano:
They struck at the right time,and according to the bride's paternal family there was no wedding and if he's still interested in their daughter,he should follow the right procedure as it is against their culture for a woman to give her daughter out in marriage.

Well, the family has given him a way of escape.

He should just appease them and start the marriage rites.

I fault the mother and daughter though.

Mother: should have involved her husband's people or told the SIL the reasonz they would not be a part.

Daughter: should have hinted her husband to be.

And since they decided not to involve the girl's father's family, is there any reason they made it loud?

ahnie:
I had sex last since February....funny enough I walk around unclad in the house in bra and bumshort.

I'm in my very early 30's... dark skinned and booRIifull.i'm a mother of 2 kids.

Guess my sexual urge has gone on a long trip ..
So I asked....who epp me see my libido?

Daddy Zino makes moves and you say no or he doesn't?

luminouz:
What's doing you na?
What's the meaning of 'privates' you dey use upandan?
The so called privates no get names....

No make me vex for you oh

Privates refer collectively to male and female private parts

Richy4:
Court wedding... He should take her lady and head straight to the court now that the whole marriage fever is still in the Air.. He should select few people to bear witness... After the wedding, If he was in social media crazy bandwagon, he can post the pictures on social media and make sure that the paternal side sees that he was not defeated... Two wrong cannot make a right.. If they can do something so disgraceful like what they did, I won't even want to see them if I was to be in that groom's shoes...

They shouldn't have done that stupid thing on their daughter's wedding day... That's the kind of things Christian women might see in their dreams/ nightmare and starts pleading the Blood of Jesus..

Though my concern is the cake.. the cake!!.... what happened to the cake?

After a successful court wedding, who is he advertising to by posting pictures online?

Would lack of public announcement annull or make the marriage void?

And some people that cannot build can destroy. The young couple should be mindful of the paternal family.

peepydelano:
The bride's paternal family insist there was no marriage

Did the wedding take place?

Any which way, let the new couple appease the paternal family and move on.

I am sure too much advert was what filtered the wedding plans to the paternal family.

AmazonTopaz:
It is her daughter she has every right to train her as she wishes.
It is left for the daughter to decide her own path when she is an adult.
What is even wrong with the pictures do not judge a book by it's cover
@topic, What is she even doing in that country. She nor see school teach for US.
She suppose know say that is one of the worst countries for women to be in.

Every one has the right to as they wish.

They also have the responsibility to face the consequences of their actions.

Duggedised12:
going by your logic i think all European countries should ban hijab and that ninja masqurade dress whatever it is called ,since its not the European lifestyle to wear hijab , , and if Muslims are not happy about it,they are free to get out (in your words)

And why should Europeans be obliged to allow Muslims wear Hijab if it does not suit them?

That's one thing I admire the Chinese for.

They do not care about your political correctness.

maasoap:
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If it makes you feel better about yourself, who am I to deny you happiness? But just so you know, Islam or Mohammed is not the source of the bitterness in your life

Oga,

While we all agree that the woman was stupid to leave liberty in the US and enter bondage, it does not remove the fact that it is hypocrisy to deny minorities in your land freedom while you lots clamour for same in other countries.

Anyways, I don't blame you guys. I blame the nations that have let political correctness weaken them to put you in your place.

Trump fits you guys well.

Explorers:
A Washington mother, who moved to Saudi Arabia to teach at a university, lost custody of her daughter after divorcing her husband because she was too Western to raise the child, according to a Saudi court.

Bethany Vierra, 32, lost custody of her daughter four-year-old Zaina in July after the court determined that the mother was too 'new to Islam.'


'The mother is new to Islam, is a foreigner in this country, and continues to definitively embrace the customs and traditions of her upbringing.

We must avoid exposing (Zaina) to these customs and traditions, especially at this early age,' Judge Abdul-Ellah ibn Mohammed al-Tuwaijri said in his July ruling, according to CNN.


The 32-year-old student had moved to the Middle Eastern country in 2011 to teach at a local university.

Vierra's ex husband used her social media as evidence that she was allegedly living a non-Islamic lifestyle.




https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-7367719/Mother-32-loses-custody-battle-daughter-Saudi-Arabia-new-Islam.html

How on Earth does an American liberated woman marry a Saudi man and live with him?

Since she decided to marry him, why did she not activate her senses and learn from their women how to live with him? Especially as she was open enough to embrace Islam?

What is even verbal abuse? And the drugs? Something tells me he always did drugs.

The woman is MOST LIKELY the issue in that marriage, if any.

She had the freedom to visit her family in the US, she also had the freedom to vacation and yet she could not find a way to take her daughter away if she really was in danger.

By the time her husband is done with her, she will have sense and know where to carry her exploration and wandering to. She has forgotten she is not dealing with the American system.

The comfort and freedom she has grown up in has obviously made her lost the ability to reason strategically and logically.

Her parents sef are not helping matters.

GrabHisBalls:
LOL.
Just to add to that, some female students actually deliberately go after lecturers. I have one whòre in my department whose job apart from not reading for exams is hunting on lecturers for a relationship.

So if the female student ask the lecturer to put his hand inside fire, he will?

There is no justification for a lecturer's privates to be in a student's privates especially when the lecturer grades the student.

I knew of a male lecturer in my school that was so disciplined that he never entertained only females in his office. He never had a female course rep or projectee assigned to him.

If a lecturer does not have the reputation of trading sex for marks/money, there is no way a student would offer such.

GreatDad19:
Let me tell you something, you women should stop competing with men. It can never happen, you are not designed to do the same things as men.

Unfortunately when a woman begins to have multiple sex partners it deteriorates every single part of her existence. It begins to show on every part of her body that’s why you will see ladies of 26 looking so worn out and old. Why do you think men are looking for younger and younger women to settle down with? Because by 28/29 the average Nigerian lady has slept with so many men and her body and face is already haggard from the multiple dicks and spirits that have entered her. Even after finding one maga to marry you, the marriage will never find peace because the experience you have is too much from the past.

As much as men should keep their bodies whole, women should especially learn to be virtuous. The boobs, the vagina, the skin, all become worn out after excessive use from various men. Go to a brothel house and you will see what I am saying. The girls that have been sleeping around for years age the quickest. Forget what science tells you, science will tell you that we evolved from apes. The truth is that your vagina will expand, the boobs will sag, the face will age, the skin will start looking saggy it will not be firm again and no man of value in his right sense will marry expired goods. Keep your body, and cherish it like gold. Value yourself, if you have slept with more than 2 or 3 men before 30, look at yourself in the mirror and question yourself.

Message for the wise.

We do not know if this message is for your ex considering past threads.

I would however, take the message and leave the messenger.

I very much agree that multiple sex partners in women is very nasty and the body wears out except women who can seriously care for their body. It is simple logic, if you misuse your body, it would wear out.

My problem is with the assertion that women should not compete with men.

I have NOT seen a woman who sleeps around because men sleep around. Worst case, she cheats to retaliate a cheating partner.

I keep saying it. Sexual purity/faithfulness/responsibility can only work if preached to both parties.

Except the men are gay, they will sleep with women (married/single) to exercise the cheating license society has given them.

You cannot tell us in one paragraph to be sexually pur and in the next paragraph tell us that men can cheat. Sounds stupid especially as we are talking to heterosexual men.

You also talked of spirits; except men are original carriers of this evil spirits, I believe that these spirits are passes on from one partner to another during sex. That is, a man gets the evil spirit deposited in his female partner and vice versa.

A man's body would also sag and he would lose his strength from too many sexual partners. Just as it tells on a woman, it also tells on a man.

And just like you, I do not want men who have had numerous sex partners. I love my men as chaste as possible and got what I wanted.

Another thing is that someone with to much sex partners is too fragmented to make a wholesome partner except they heal.

In all, good thread to both men and women.

Maxcollins042:
This massaging procedure does not in anyway conform to massaging mapped out standards.

Why is the lady's rear end uncovered? I thought it's only the sections that are kneaded that are left uncovered or she wants her hoo-hah massaged as well? Clearly, this is done to remove checkpoints and ease movement of the guy's tool into the destined land?

You won't see this kinda position in a professional massaging centre.

Very true.

And except on request, I believe ladies massage women.

I remember taking hubby to a twin massage as he had never been to one before. It was female for both of us. He was uncomfortable because the lady was trying to be funny.

That ended his professional massage experience.

safarigirl:
He might as well be a gigolo that serviced her overnight.

A lot of black people do not understand the concept of romance, they think throwing money at everything is a sign of love.

True.

iykbethany:
Ladies pls stop sending your nude photos to men, especially if he is not your husband.

Some men � don't have sense, once you guys fight or quarrel he may want to use those nudes against you.

Remember that your lover or best friend today could be your worst enemy tomorrow.

A real boyfriend or husband will not ask you to send him nudes bc your nudes can't do us nothing. Let's say I'm in Jamaica and my wife is in Kafanchan, wetin her nude pics wan do for me if I'm horney? NOTHING.

In many cases it's even girls that willingly send nudes to different men for whatever reason.

I'm not judging anyone as we are all sinners and no one is above mistake, but pls if you are in the habit of sending nudes to men pls stop now. What if your phone is stolen or hacked?

REMEMBER, REAL MEN DON'T ASK FOR NUDES...
Shalom

I agree with you.

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.
(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.
In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him). I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.
She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.
In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf. In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped). Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that shes already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.
Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone. My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.
I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

I Pray God gives you the strength and wisdom to move on.

If not for you, for your kids so they are not twisted.

The boys may grow to hate women for the stress your wife is putting you through and the girls may not Learn what it means to be loyal wives.

If people are not ready to build their homes, just fvck around. Don't bother with marriage.

You cannot want the coverage of marriage without wanting to put in the work.

Lovely Abaya, lovely skin.

Chidexter:
Maybe, alakija has spent all her money on owambe

Extremely funny.

I thought it was Oprah

goodgirl2409:
My husband has really changed. He is so unemotional and revengeful.
I will cook for him severally and he won’t eat. I will serve him food and he won’t eat. I will ask him what I have done and he won’t respond. Every time he gives me the silent treatment.

I feel so pained because I expected more from this marriage but barely 1 year after, he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. Sometimes 1 month will pass, no sex. He would go out and won’t bother to tell me where he is going.

He would come back very late and would just ignore me like I don’t exist.
Although he drops money for me to run the house and communicates strictly with me, it make no sense to me.
I am tired. Is this how marriage is? Is this how men are or am I just suffering?

I don’t have anyone to beg to talk to him,and I was told reporting him to any of his family members is not good. things are getting worse everyday. People who have married for many years and are succeeding please help me. What am I not doing right?

What happened?

OboOlora:
Op, you and the author of this article need to go back to school and learn punctuation. So much headache guessing where to pause and stop!

As in.

I wanted to read the OP and stopped half way.

I am just running on the title.

And I think the OP means sex and not love.

Not smart.

There was no need to tag other religions.

If she was not in the habit of posting spiritual posts on Sundays, she should have let the Muslims enjoy their day.