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@peachbloom

Let the wife get a restraining order and face her new home.

Except she has something to hide.

The ex's behavior is normal. When people throw away good relationships, they are always bitter. Especially when the discarded ex does way better than them.

Their reactions are dependent on their personalities.

musabayokanu:
Adviser wamagbe
1. you didn't say how long they married.
2. What is the major cause of the quarrel/beating?
3. how long between when they separated, when she met the new guy, and when she got pregnant.
4. who Is she to you (relationship)?
5. are you single or married?

With this I will decipher and elucidate the role you played vis-a-vis your advice and the possible effect of your advice on the union.
Since you are celebrating the separation, divorce and twin pregnancy.

Answer my question pls....thank you

Very funny.

You are not happy she moved on well?

Any reason why threads encouraging infidelity is making a lot of rounds lately?

The gown a little longer and I would jump on the dressing.

Mutemenot:
Op writing a long note without giving us the main information . What is the repayment plan? What's the duration?

Check second page, he attached the repayment plan.

Joy2Dwise:
Mr. Doubting Thomas

This is about N150k interest on N1.1m. Makes a whole lot of sense.

Six years old

In addition to my earlier comment,

What does a typical Nigerian man bring to the table apart from Money?

Ineedyouradvise:
Good day nairalanders, I had to use a new moniker.
I was married for 5years, blessed with 2 children, we dated for 1year before we got married. At a point in the marriage, domestic violence became a regular occurrence, after which he would apologize. I wouldn't say I noticed this aspect of him while dating. Of course I know I'm not perfect, but I tried my best to be the best wife to him and mother to the children.

To the main issue, there were a lot of issues that made me leave his house, he wasn't providing for his home, he works and earn well, so money wasn't his problem, I work also so I wasn't totally depending on him for everything, he hardly wants to have sex with me, I am neat as well, keeps late night, and he hits me severally. I left his house with my kids, after he hit me and left me in a pool of blood, this happened about 4months ago, but till now he hasn't called to find out about our whereabouts or to even know why I left.

I loved him so much that I endured a lot of things, but things kept getting worse,i had to leave. It's 4 months I left but only his elder brother has called once to find out what happened.
I am actually surprised he can stay this long without thinking about where his family are, probably that was what he wanted.
I never wished for my children to experience this, they keep asking me where's daddy?

Was I wrong to have left?
What necessary actions do you think I can take for him to be involved in his children's life?

N.B: both families have been involved in settling issues resulting from domestic violence severally.
He grew up with his father as his parents were separated due to some issues, leaving him and his siblings while he was barely 2years old due.

I need matured advice please.

Madam,

What really happened?

If things are as bad as you painted, why are you second guessing now?

Better late than never.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Real man. Blissful marriage devoid of heartaches I wish to you both.

What makes him a real man?

pocohantas:
This wouldn't even be a problem at all, if he can be smart enough to factor in the gender distribution/ratio.

That way we don't have anyone crying on SM media when he discovers his wife/gf is another person's spare. But na im type dey jealous and possesive pass.

Men are polygamous in nature, na for another person woman body.

For some strange reason, proponents of male adultery never get it.

lawrenzo007:
why is mama Chioma (plantain seller) is still in her marriage of 20 years but Joy (Bank manager) is divorce after 4 years of marriage?

What has their jobs for to do with Longetivity?
What has Longetivity for to do with health of a marriage?

chii8:
Some women can brag shaa...

That's how my stylist told me she doesn't make friends with married young mothers.Due to the fact that her married friend told her that she's in total control of her husband and her home,that anytime her husband maltreats her in any way,she should just pack her things and leave, little did she know that her friend was bragging. Not until, she visited her friend unannounced and caught her kneeling down with her hands up like the way a child is punished. She even eavesdropped and got to know that her friend's husband gave her punishment with curses to spice it up.She opened their curtain and made sure her friend saw her,the later was totally ashamed and humiliated. Since that day,their friendship ended.
So forget it,when it comes to what goes on in people's marriage,some women can over exaggerate and tell lies.
One of the reasons I don't Facebook or do Instagram ish is because of so much fakeness some women exhibit there.It's even seen in nairaland but at least, this one is a bit of a faceless forum.

Very funny.

On all sides.

I find women who exaggerate funny.

I also find women who think all other women are exagerrating when they have nothing bad to say funny.

Blackivy27:
No. Lets come down to earth.

me: guys theres this book i read. Do you know that...

friends: its okay nah. Are you the only one that knows book.

among themselves: i got 100 likes for that picture i caption,"bad, badder, baddest"

me: that isnt even correct.

friends: shut up.

Change your friends.

Else, your thirst for less mundane things would earn you their jealousy which is the best recipe for frenemies.

Rich Northern women sha.

AntiBrutus:
Will they listen? Forget all the attacks on ladies online, the men are same and worse than the women they so denigrate.

The dating dynamics in Nigeria is so fcked up and parasitic from both sides.

I said it the other day that if not for ego and god complex, I do not see why lots of Nigerian men will be looking for one small girl to confuse with money. Marry within your social class and stop disturbing SM. They wanted to blow up my mentions.

They see no need to work on any aspect of their lives. They just convince themselves that they can make money and get any woman they WANT. But as with any human devoid of common sense, they forgot the difference between a WANT and a NEED.

Money will sure get you the woman you want in a 3rd World Country where food is still a problem. Would it get the woman you NEED?

Oko oro.

successmatters:
Moral of the story, never lose your job.

Nope,

Never marry a gold digging parasite.

Is it raunchy pictures he can pick off the net?

I am sure the internet has enough raunchy pictures of you.

This is why sense is important.

If you think that your body is a bargaining tool in your relationship, you should guard it jealously and not spread it all over the internet.

Also, I wonder if this tactic would still be effective now that it is all over the internet.

Sweetie, get sensilin.

karo93:
People always hinge the absence of God or the insufficiency of Christianity on failures, misfortunes of christians, unanswered prayers, evil in the world and the general observation that the average christian life tends to be no more different than the life of the atheist muslim or buddhist.

People hardly tell muslims to quit or doubt their religion due to unfortunate circumstances. And this i believe is because Islam hasnt sold the idea of an all involved caring supreme being. Thus its a given that God gives and takes. He intervenes when he wishes to and is silent when he wishes.

People continue to worship faithfully; buddha, krishna despite passing through the same conditions christians pass through

Christianity has however sold the message of "the God of the superman" and this always comes back to haunt the faith whenever things go wrong.

The message has recently being about ability to do absolutely anything and triumph in wealth health safety and all.

Its one thing when people cant experience such in their lives but when the pastors that claim to experience it completely are seen helpless in many situations then people begin to question if its really true.

I believe God completely. I just wonder if we have made priorities of things God did not prioritise.

Deep.

I think that is the problem with comtemporary Christianity.

I am amazed when Muslims can thank Allah in whatever situation they find themselves. We went to console someone who lost a sibling and she was encouraging us that it was her time to die as destined by Allah and we should leave well.

The Bible promises us old age so how can a Christian mother or sibling accept a young death and not lose faith?

To them, it is as he wills and they take everything in good faith.

Perhaps that's why they also help themselves because they are not waiting on Allah to help them.

Can someone be kind enough to advise me why people think indecency is fun?

How can someone tag herself as 'felashrinegirl'?

And please I don't what 'what is indecent to you is decent to someone else'.

We all know what indecency means.

cerpvad:
In-laws can actually make one lose affection for one's spouse. It happens to a friend. His father-in-law verbally humiliated him in the presence of the wife's mum and siblings. Ever since then, my friend has lost affection for his wife and hates her family with passion. To make the matter worse, he is no more sexually attracted to her because she facially resembles her father. Each time he sees her, he is seeing the face of the her father. He is currently contemplating divorce.

In-laws, please be careful with how you handle your sons or daughters in-laws.

What did the wife do to remedy the situation?

And why is the husband visiting the sins of the FIL on his wife?

Acidosis:
Truth is not measured on the scale of wealth. My kind of truth don't give a fck about a man's wealth.

Like David said...

When he sees the wealthy flaunt their wealth, he is tempted till he remembers their end.

I am sure Invictus Obi was a source of inspiration to many on the streets till the international disgrace.

Logobenz3:
I will tell this same line to my bunkerer neighbour's wife who is living large from the proceeds of stolen crude.who knows,she might preach to her husband to stop.
Word on the street say she finished college in the UK.

You do not believe in morality?

Or the end always justifies the means to you?

ahnie:
Local woman says thankhu!

LagosismyHome:
2 hours kneeling under the sun........ Really . Then what happens behind close doors ... She trying to do damage control now she has been caught ........ Only God knows what she subject those girls to on a daily basis .

Wicked woman . Thank God for social media that is exposing and catching all these wicked madams one by one. At least now she check her behaviour

Did you read the OP?

It was the girl's uncle that allegedly punished her.

missjo:
Hi bukatyne, I hope you remember me.
About the question you asked on my thread, answer is the latter. It Happened last December.

Ceaser?

Interesting.

Give us full gist.

Olorunnim:
Male, Single.

Bros,

Hold body till you marry.

Olorunnim:
I'm thinking sex is overrated,I last sex in October and the urge has not been there at all the stress alone can kill libido.

Male or female?

Single or married?

sisisioge:
Time, dear time, please be kind to us.

Thank you.

As in.

Imagine this was done 40, 30 or 20yrs ago.

He does not like someone who was suffering sha.

Ishilove:
So long and short is men can be dogs but women must be saints? So men cannot carry demonic spirits from careless sex?

As if a Saint sleeping with a dog would not still inherit the demons from the dog.