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@Elder0001:

You are right.

Most of the kids (mentally and agewise) here do not understand reality.

I am however sure that their parents would frown at them going for random pool parties.

Thanks

temi4fash:
Is that your definition of good husband??

Cheating men??

I should ask you.

Your sentence 'All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.' is funny if in this context, the women are against Rosy because she is encouraging the wife to pray and maintain status co for a cheating husband.

crackhaus:
At least we've dispelled the notion about you NEVER hearing of man-size before.

As for suddenly not knowing/picturing a size in your head when you hear "man-size", I take it you're like the 4yr old son of Lisa who has never taken classes in figures of speech.
While we can forgive the boy's juvenile understanding, I don't know what your excuse is.

Yea they changed it already, probably because they couldn't be bothered with the number of dumb women who would use the opportunity to unite and bring down their sales.
Lisa is a deceptive mother - capitalizing on her son's naivety and exploiting it for her own agenda. She could effectively have told her son that the same way there are king-sized beds and it's not only Kings who sleep on it, that is exactly how there can be man-sized tissues and it's not only men who use it.

First, I find your post rude.

Second, from my posts, it is obvious I Bukatyne have issues with the 'sound' of the word and not the 'meaning.'

I can't help what you understand from my posts so far which is clear to anyone reading it.

temi4fash:
Boss...

I dnt understand where there is much bitterness from some female folks on this thread, Look at the venom their pour on Rosy...

All is well oo.. MA sure as you say a lot of them are wishing they actually have good husbands and they come here and begin to form macho.

God help us all oooo

Good husbands = cheating men?

God will really help us.

crackhaus:
The truth is that a lot of women just like those attacking the Rosy lady, are out there caring and doing exactly what she's advocating without even knowing their husbands are already cheating on them.

A man that has not been caught cheating (emotionally/sexually) on his wife is still receiving the best treatment from her nonetheless...
Depriving this care and cheating back on the occasion of finally getting him caught is NOT likely to change him, it just shows the woman was waiting for a good reason to go fvck that man she's been having the hots for...in which case, there were already deeper issues in that marriage from both ends.

First, I have never advocated a spouse cheating back, it absolutely makes no sense to me.

If a wife doesn't know the husband is cheating, it is a different ball game.

Elder0001:
You no wan hear word abi??

You're too stubborn


Just get the message :Next time you should try calling non-well dressed fellow females to help you push your car.

Elder0001:
Next time you should try calling non-well dressed fellow females to help you push your car.


Thank you.

And ask non-well dressed men where they sell agbo in the market.

crackhaus:
This is probably why you're not into product branding. What is the difference between man-size and king-size?

By the way, you've never heard of man-size clothing before?

@bold:

You are right, I am not into product branding however, king-size sounds better to me.

Just like Indomine hungryman size sounds better than hungryking size.

What is man-size clothing? When they say man-size clothing, I can't even picture a size in my head.

Elder0001:
He's allowed because he's a guy but you (a female ) making such callous and ungrateful remark is unacceptable.

Next time you should try calling non-well dressed fellow females to help you push your car.

Hahahahaha

E pain am!

I am not ungrateful (ingratitude pisses me off), I am stating facts.

I sincerely appreciate everyone's contribution towards making the society better.

I find it amusing that the company listened to one person's complaint and acted on it.

Will they do this for every random complaint or is the lady influential?

I find the mansize odd anyways. A better word would have been kingsized.

Never heard mansize

Oyindidi:
1. Wear bum short or pants alone for your husband. no more buluku and wrapper. The young girls no dey tie wrapper for road. Show off those legs to him.

2. If you must tie wrapper let it be a clean one and make sure you're not wearing pants. Reason is when you're serving him food in the evening, let it fall off so he can see what he is missing. An old sexy grandma taught me this. Try it and see if you can walk the next day

@2:

Hmmmmmm.

Elder0001:
This reference makes sense and at the same time doesn't make sense.
This is one of the reasons I hate men (irrespective of their social status) who help ladies to push cars or change tires because this how they'll be rewarded.

Just like a fellow who doesn't work for her own money won't value money that's the same way ladies won't appreciate what the so-called agbero are doing for them until they start pushing their cars by themselves.

Don't be overly sensitive.

Yes, the thread is focused on women hence the example.

I will bet my glasses that if a guy has issues with his ride, he will call an agbero to help him push it/ lose the tires etc.

He will not stop a suited up gentleman like himself.

Now, the gentleman observing can decide to be of help to the lady/guy.

However, you wouldn't bypass the touts and walk up to a guy in three piece suit to help you push your car.

Now if Mr. Gentleman swaps his suit for a dirty looking T-shirt and shorts, you will call him.

It is all about dressing or carrying yourself how you want to be addressed .

Hope mama is already in prison for violation of human rights?

If she couldn't care for him, why not put him in foster care or give him up for adoption or send him to his parternal grandparents/family?

Was sperm test done?

If yes and it is a match, please castrate him and lock him up for life.

BlackManta:
90% of your comments on this thread are targeted at blaming the victims of sexual harassment.

You barely spoke out against those evil men

Your comment are always about blaming the victims.

Women should bear the consequences for sexual harassment abi

How about men stop sexually harassing women or get locked up in jail when they do.

How about that for a change

You think you are fighting sexual harassment when 90% of your comments are focused on blaming the victims
You have not yet started fixing the problem.

Sane countries would sentence a man to jail for sexually harassing a woman.
But over here in the shithole, all we do is blame the victim while the man goes Scot free.

In some driving schools, they teach that assume all the other drivers apart from you are crazy.

You know what that does? It makes every driver fully responsible for their safety and road experience. You don't stubbornly face an oncoming vehicle because he is 'on your lane'.

If a man rapes/malhandles a random lady/kid/guy, we are talking business.

If a lady walked into a pool party with bikini and tells me a guy harassed her, she is on her own.

I am all for self preservation and dignity.

[quote author= post=72518372]Truth is bitter.
Shame![/quote]Let's hope this ma'am is 100% clean.

If she was never part of any government, I would listen to her.

Madam Oby, why don't you run your campaign and face your lane?

BlackManta:
What is the right outfit for swimming

It's a simple question.
Why not answer it.

You don't like the idea of women going to swimming pool wearing bikini or swimsuit

I wonder what you want them to wear

Please tell us.

We are talking pool party, you are talking swimming pool.

Decent women don't do for random pool parties.

If you don't understand that, I can't help you.

Whatever they decide to wear is totally their prerogative.

They should also be willing to bear the consequences of their actions.

CheeZena:
Lame attempt at... Sarcasm or... certainly not a joke. Leaves me wondering what the "hahahahghhgfhhbvjkjj" was for.

How pathetic.

Of course, I find the fact you as a lady lack common sense as regards self preservation and dignity pathetic.

Happy partying in pools with bikini and crying blue murder when irresponsible gutter men manhandle you.

Hopefully, your body is still useful and useable when it is time to get married.

BlackManta:
Sexual harassment can happen anywhere.

Even in the church, school, office, market etc.

Sexually perverse men can be found anywhere.

So all this talk about running away from public swimming pool is very naïve.

There have been reports of catholic priests sexually molesting little boys.
Should I also run away from Catholic Churches

I don't think I have told anyone to run away from public swimming pools; after all, I can go with my girls to swim, I can go with my husband or family members.

Same way thieves can be found anywhere. We lock up our money in banks and safe boxes to drastically reduce the rate of likelihood of theft yet we can't keep our bodies safe.

Everyone knows that the probability of a drunk driver having an accident is 99.9% higher than a sober one.

Everyone is free as they deem fit. After all, I am not the one thinking of suing someone to court after six slaps and counting.

chilisauce:
I entirely agree with you. It helps that you're a lady so you know as the thing dey be.

I believe no woman wants to look shapeless and bloated. Some are non-challant about it, while some are trying.

It's just the same way many ladies have physical desires of their men but the guys just dont seem to care. They can't even be arsed to wear clean clothes or have a good haircut.

Very true.

May our willing attitude produce positive effort which translates into results.

Nothing as painful as profitless hard work.

CheeZena:
None. Just disgusted by you.

Hahaha

An IP address disgusted by another IP address?

What a feat in IT.

BlackManta:
I don't know if you know how to swim talk less of visiting a swimming pool.
But a lady with a functioning brain will never go to swimming pool wearing Agbada or hijab

What is right outfit for swimming

Swimsuit/bikini or Agbada

Please remind me

When you let your girlfriend/wife/sister/daughter go to a pool party, we can discuss.

Till then.

sanpipita:
Wow this is crazy, on a normal party do you know everyone you see there? she could have tagged with someone she knows haba, seems you don't even have any issue with the harasser, Nigerians are alwy blaming the victim

Maybe I am old school and conservative however common sense states you are careful.

Ever heard fools rush where angels fear to thread?

Are you comparing parties where we deck up in our prettiest laces with Aso Ebi to eat Nigerian jollof rice with a pool party?

This is not about the harasser, this is finding the root cause of the issue and ensuring it doesn't happen again.

What if her drink was spiked and she was raped by an HIV patient? What if the slaps damaged the vision in her eyes? What if the slap burst her ear drums? What if head harvesters kidnapped her?

If she was in a decent party, no guy will chop liver and start touching or slapping her. And if he was crazy enough to do so, the security would have thrown him out with better beating or people around mass him.

We need to be really careful and be on watch. Too many insane people roaming the streets not to be conscious.

And the amazing thing on this thread is that 99.9% of the men who seem woke having no issues with girls swimming unclad in a pool party will never allow their sisters, girlfriends or daughters to attend one.

Anyways, were dun wo, ko se bi lomo.

sanpipita:
Going to a pool party doesn't make anyone indecent, and why do you think a girl must be paid or under contract before she attends one, this is the mentality that really sucks here

You mean a decent lady plays in a pool clad in bikini (a fancy name for pant and bra) with unknown men she does not intend to sleep with?

OK o.

chilisauce:
And bukatyne, if I may add, women indeed go to hospitals and are expending alot of time on trying to get rapid weight loss.

In naija, have encountered many in my practise, and for most, I refrain from prescribing drugs for many reasons. We still advocate exercise and diet, which brings us back to Sq 1. Even in the western world with all the free healthcare and good economy and free gym sometimes, the burden of overweight women is very very high. Ironically, the men here are more demanding of slim figures than naija men

It is the attitude which spills into negative and positive behaviors.

CheeZena:
Spits.

Are you pregnant or a snake?

Daeylar:
Proud victim blamers and shamers
Yes it's her fault she was touched, after all, why did she go to a pool party, why did she dare wear a bikini at a pool party,

Next time she should wear a burka, lock the doors and windows of her house and dare not step out of her house.

Look at them defending sexual harassment and violence against a woman.

No wonder those useless Nigerian men are very comfortable behaving like animals.
They know there are people like this who will cover for their madness by making inane comments asking why did she go there?. Why did she wear that? what was she expecting?
Nonsense.

Proud Products of Nigerian misogynistic society
Mtchewwwww

We are meeting quite often.

I will advise the girl to tell her parents to get her a lawyer after narrating the story to them.

Hopefully, they have their head screwed tight.

chilisauce:
I appreciate that ladies like you are willing to go the extra mile to keep the clock ticking. It's very commendable. At least it's a breathe of fresh air from the surging feminist wave.

While not trying to be downbeat, it's worthy to look at things from the socio-economic aspect. Of a truth, many desire to gym or go on morning jogs/walks and have vegan diet. But my dear, the summary is that it's not easy, when you put in our present security and economic state in perspective. In summary I would just say, it's not easy.

I haven't said it was easy. I know from experience and I am not even slim.

I am addressing the attitude behind the behavior. They do not care about the men's feelings.

See the OP, almost everything was provided yet no desire to even move an inch.

I have heard women who might not know what a gym mean talk to eating a lot of garden eggs to reduce their stomachs for oga.

Another snail seller was telling her daughter who just put to bed to drink lime and lemon water so that her stomach would reduce.

See women who can't string a correct sentence in English get girdles, makeup, jewelry and hairdo to make themselves attractive to their men.

It is an attitude suntim.

Elder0001:
Women are filing for divorce at a higher rate than men because, let’s face it, marriage is more likely to negatively impact women than men.

What Is It About Marriage That Causes Women Such Discontent?

1. Marriage does a number on women’s self-esteem.
Especially those women who choose to forego a career and become stay-at-home mothers. When you become financially dependent on a husband self-reliance and self-confidence flies out the window. Women is such situations begin to view their husbands as their only hope for a good future and themselves as someone who has nothing to offer.

These women lose their own image and replace it with that of a mother and wife whose role is to care for and about others before caring for and about themselves. They set high goals about their ability as mothers, homemakers and good wives. Goals that are hard to attain and when faced with not being able to meet those goals experience negative thinking about themselves and their abilities.



2. Women are not the captain of their own ship.
Let’s face it, men out earn women and if a woman is married to a man who out earns her, he will feel he has more power over marital decisions that are made.

Career women with children, even in this day and age, do the majority of the child rearing and housework. It is the wife who keeps the house running smoothly in spite of the fact that she also has a full-time job. When women have free time they focus on what needs to be taken care of at home.

When men have free time they focus on finding leisure activities to engage in.
Women are called “nags” when they ask for help from a husband and find that doing all herself is easier than suffering the wrath of a husband who feels that is “women’s work.”

3. Women expect too much from marriage.
Those expectations, when not met leave women feeling frustrated and resentful. Women want intimacy and autonomy, security and stimulation, reassurance and novelty, coziness and thrills. This isn’t possible.






Bukatyne ,eketem,crackhaus,capslocked,postmann,pcguru1,Jasonschoolari,acidosis

Your contributions shall be appreciated

Thanks for the mention.

The summary is that a number of women neither know themselves nor know what they want so any trousers that comes along fits fine until they have a sense of direction and it is too late because the man is dragging them in the opposite direction.

Ask most girls what they want to be and they are blank.

1. Before a woman gets married, she should know if she is open to becoming a housewife and if yes, for how long. She should also know what the man's stance on such matters are. I know a man who got a nanny and a maid so hid wife works. The wife wanted to stay at home yet hubby said she MUST work and no, he doesn't need the money. I know another man whose mother was picking from school everyday in senior school and he was looking forward to same i.e. a wife who is available to pick his kids from senior school. A woman looking forward to building a career will be frustrated marrying the second man; a woman who dreams of staying at home will be bitter with man one.
One must also be flexible and coachable.
A woman's self esteem is dependent on how she views herself and how her husband views her. I have seen women achieve so much under intense environs that you know that once you have the vision and passion, the sky is the stepping stone.

2. A woman is free to marry a man whom she earns more than. Again, if a man believes in traditional roles and the wife is insistent on working, she is on her own. What is each others outlook towards finances and chores? I agree that a number of wives have to juggle both tirelessly however if it is no longer convenient, she should speak out or show in her actions.
A lot of women are realizing the need for 'me time' and go to cinemas, spa, parties, neighbors houses, women meeting/fellowship etc. to refresh.

3. No idea of this point. A breakdown would be appreciated.

chilisauce:
And that's exactly what applies to women generally. Many women put up a show outside. Many women live plastic lives outside. Many women 'act's outside. But home is a place where ladies let out steam, let their hair down and live normal lives.

So men who look at slim figured ladies outside are actually attracted to what they see. They don't know if at home she farts loudly, or doesn't have a bedtime shower, or doesn't clean her mouth after the evening meal, or maybe she actually has a body odour but hides it with an expensive perf.

So while I appreciate your drift (I really do), my point is just that there is no perfect woman. Men have an insatiable knack for changing tastes and stews.

I 100% agree that there is no perfect woman; I am not either neither is any man.

If a spouse is communicating what they do not find appealing, it is our duty to work on it.

I am sure if the husband saw the wife go to the gym or reduce her portions or go to the hospital, he wouldn't be lamenting on SM.

And I disagree with you that men have a knack for changing stews.