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What is she saying that is out of this world?

The average Nigerian wife would accept or condone a cheating husband and still feed him join.

While I agree that the wife is/was deceitful, ending the marriage makes the man a joker.

Except he is leveraging on that to end the marriage.

johnydon22:
That was a extreme

Almost everything on this thread is an extreme.

I imagine how we would turn out if God treated us this way.

Ideally, your children should never doubt your love.

johnydon22:
Source: https://www.google.com.ng/amp/s/johnyskystory.com/father-is-the-enemy-an-essay/amp/

Both father and mother in this story are dysfunctional and stereotypical.

Such fathers breed low self-esteemed children or bullies.

The mother? Breeding self absorbed children.

Blest are the fathers and mothers who can combine discipline and love to their kids.

I don't know why we think a loving parent cannot be strict. My mother was a tough cookie and I never doubted her love.

She will beat you and tell you what you have done wrong.

Bought books and taught us.

That woman trained three kids in a house with glass shelves and not one was mad enough to break any part of it or tear cushions with blade or other abnormal things I hear kids do.

Or you turn Johnny Waka and leave the house? Don't come back.

You will eat in a neighbor's house when you are out with her or she hears about it? You will throw it up or you make sure it fills you up for life. Till tomorrow, if I go out it her, I would only eat after she has done so and ensure whatever I take is not more than hers.

When she taught me maths nko?

And many many other things.

Abegi, there are parents who are balanced.

What is the Blac Chyna story for days?

ChiefAzubuike:
Even mediocre diry things like yemi alade and simi will never hug you not to talk of black chyna. Don't you know your mates and where you belong?

How dare you rate Simi and Yemi Alade known for their musical talents and have built empires lower than Blac Chyna known for stripping?

Congratulations to VP and his family.

I find Madam Dolapo too subdued like she is trying to suppress who she really his or is wearing a facade.

It is her anniversary and her children have more life on their faces than her.

Beautiful children who are alive and free.

@Topic: interesting.

I think the issue is complex.

Will dig in.

Guitarlife:
While northerners and muslim men get married early southern/christian men delay much into our 30s because of economic reasons. I myself have delayed marriagr cos of similar reasons, I am in my early 30s, things have turned out fine and am looking to settle down however, I noticed there are a lot of unmarried southern/christian women who are well into their 30s.

These people have not chosen not to get married but simply havent been able to due to lack of men willing to settle down. This is looking to me like a bug dilemna, the church is not doing enough to educate, direct and support men in this regard.

Most of these ladies turn out to soft hoes sometimes due to frustration and some men also take advantage of their visible desperation.

In the north parents have a responsibility to support every young man of marriageable age and expectations are also commensurate with existing realities unlike in the south when inlaws and parents put pressure on children to make money at all cost.

A good number of our women are becoming frustrated and fast loosing hope of ever getting a partner since most unmarried men in their 30s including myself will not marry a 30 year old but look for younger girls.

Somebody needs to address this otherwise things will get pretty out of yand in no time.

What is stopping you from marrying a 30yr old and above lady?

Stupid topic.

Did the bestie rape the boyfriend?

softwerk:
Awwwwwwwwwww

This is so lovely, I could forgive him for ass-raping that bit@ch in the US

You can forgive Ronaldo for anally raping a model because he took selfie with a fan?

How do you single handedly rape a girl's bum by the way?

I have never accused my husband.

He has not given me any reason to distrust him.

It is either you are giving your lady a reason to distrust you or you are dealing with someone who has unresolved trust issues.

Something tells me the topic is for sensationalisn.

That said, it isn't enough to call Yoruba police to talk to Yoruba women.

The question is: what makes the wives call the cops on their husbands?

How many of the cases turn out to be false alarms? How many are to get spousal/child support while the wife is free to galavant?

Any noticeable patterns coming up?

Any serious punishment melted to deter other wives from playing pranks?

I really do not trust Nigerian men in the matter of she just calls the cops.

They are a species that wants to have their cake and eat it.

God console the family she left behind.

Happy Men's Day to all the wonderful men in NY life.

Tonto needs serious healing that plastic surgery can't cure.

I pray she finds peace.

Richdad50:
Good Annie, i celebrate your day. Not for anything out of the ordinary but for teaching young women never to settle for less, to hold their man both in prayers and on deeds. Never to run from a failing home but to stand strong.

How did Annie teach young ladies not to settle for less?

Happy birthday Annie.

I wonder the kind of de-humanization someone has to go through to comfortably live and bring up kids there.

That place is a breeding ground for all manner of diseases and vices.

Favor99:
Too many negative comments. A lot of haters on here.
When it comes to Edo, even when its positive news like this, other Nigerians will find something negative to say.
Nigerians from the other 35 states.. smh

This news is positive to you?

Does the pictures show a quality job done?

You must be one of his minions.

Congratulations to them.

Happy married life.

And anyone (male/female)who is NOT a virgin has no moral standing to judge them.

7 years old

The feelings depends on the age gap.

Two years? Three years? No wahala.

Six years? Well, there will most likely be issues especially if the elder sister wants to be married.

It is natural in life.

Same feeling if she/he has a job first, enters the university first etc.

belcom10:
These words are very correct.
Some may not understand what the writer actually mean but that's just the true.
Some women will say ,my husband ,i must do every thing to satisfy him.This is a silence trick that men want but no overdo o.

How long have you been married?

Les:
if you know how old I am, the joke is on you! Evil woman!

At this rate, I agree that those women you quoted are evil.

Only an evil person will not see the wrong the waster aka OP's girlfriend did.

N500k?

And God will not be happy with the OP if he had an immediate family who genuinely needed money during that period.

highqueen:
Mtchew.
You are very stingy.
To even think that you spent months before sending the damn money after she helped you with your business and everything.
She has been supportive yet you still wanna wave that off by quitting.
Na your type deh tell their wives not to help their family members.
Mtchew

Again?

Liliyann:
Your mates are spending more than that on their girl and you are here crying coz of 500k!!!

If you are truly in love with that girl, everything about her should come first!!
I can't date someone that doesn't have the welfare of my family at heart!!
So, you allowed her to use the money to settle family issues when you could have done it as her boyfriend!!

You are such a pathetic broke ass guy!
Free that girl so that she can be with someone that loves and value her!!

Another one.

Nigerian men ti gbe!

Pureety:
Op you said she used the money in settling family issues? Its not like she used it to go shopping for herself or on frivolous things!!

To her, family comes first, probably she didn't want to be selfish and use the money on herself while her family are in pressing need of money!!

If this is your reason for breaking up then you were never in love with that lady!!

Read this aloud to yourself and type the right thing.

I hope girls like you are few for the sake of the guys with their heads screwed right.

ramselly:
My Relationship Is Tearing Me Apart

Hello Nairalanders!

Please i need mature advice only.


I and my girlfriend have been dating since 2015, she has always been supportive in everything and every business i do, thou we dont stay in same part of the country.

I have always told her i cannot settle for less and i cannot get married to a lady who cannot manage her resources and make do with what was available as i want the best for us. In 2016 we talked about setting up something for her to do so as to keep her busy and so i had to enrol her to catering school where she learnt baking n so many more. Fast farward to 2017 january, we planned in opening a shop for her, in july 2017 she got the quotation of roughly 700k for the shop opening the shop and buying Goods for the shop, In september 2017 i sent her 500k for her to commense with the opening of the shop but to my greatest suprise she never used the money for the purpose rather she used it in settling family issues. Its been a year now and i intend quitting the relationship because its not what i planned 4. Please i need matured advice. Sorry if my points re not clear enough.

@OP:

Weaknesses of your girlfriend:
1. She has no ambitions
2. She is not straight forward: It took you finding out that the funds were misappropriated aka used for her family.
3. Her family is not straight forward either; for someone who has no visible source of income, N500k is a huge amount of money. It is either they were in on the funds diversion or she told them you gave her. If it is one, they lack self respect and are dubious; if it is two, they are an ungrateful lot else they would have called you to thank you and you would have known.
4. She would not be able to build a loyal home with you without her family intrusion.
5. She is not financially prudent and woe if anything happens to your ability to earn in future.



Verdict: She is not a wife material for you.

MhizzAJ:
Who is thos cocoNUT head above me.

How is she a useless girl.

Its not by force to be in a relationship

If you cannot cope with her , leave her alone.

Some men are very capable....they wont complain..
They wouldnt mind spending all their savings for her afterall shes your girlfriend.
Stingy man

Did you read the OP?

Obviously not!

Not an unreasonable list.

princfred:
Leave these ones to they deceive themselves. Talking career career up and down....who unmarried ladies career epp?which relationship women career epp and power? I dont see it as low self esteem though its more like them pursing their primary essence to us just like we men have ours to pursue to them.

Hmmmmm

Another perspective.

His write up is on point.

Happy married life