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kozmicity:
Nice one op,
I must confess that many girls think aout only their face and knees(sometimes sha... ), I have some female friends who complain that men do not approach them despite looking all chic and savvy but when i tried to teach them about personal hygiene and even skin tone, you need to see the way they lambasted me( I almost cried oo) and i said to myself not to advise girls who are not ready to learn. But I thank God that this is coming from a woman so that i can call them here to read exactly what i told them about attaches, wigs, black elbows, feet and knees, chest hairs and a host of others.

Look, my point is, I'm a guy and i know what guys want i.e

* Dress well
* Even skin tone
* Lack of BO (Body Odour)
* Good manners
*Good cooking & homemaking skills (Most Naija feminists will beg to differ but abeg... Una neva ready to marry)

*Last Last :- Shaved eyebrows!! (Yes, this is the worst of the worst and it should vanish)
Once again thamks @op for pringing this topic into the light disregarding the fact that many ladies might hate it (possibly attack you), it is one that is long overdue for discussion.

Thank you very much for your feedback.

Send your girls here, just pay consultancy fees.

folake4u:
My kind of thread.

Well,I'm a beauty advocate too and a Naturalista .
Not really keen on makeup too though.


@ computergeek . Achieving a silky smooth face is achievable at low cost.
Mix cinnamon powder, a pinch of salt, egg white and honey together and apply on a freshly washed face.
Leave for 10-20mins till its dry or you begin to feel the 'tightness' or 'firmness' of the egg white.
Rinse with warm water.
Dab a clean towel on your face gently and add your face moisturizer.

Voilà! You're good to go.
It works well for me .
Cinnamon (helps to reduce wrinkles and lines on the face)and increases blood flow.
Honey- for glow and moisture.
Egg white helps to make face firm,tightens your pores.
Salt is for exfoliation.


Or you can steam your face thrice a week.

@ bold:

Thanks for your contributions

Kennedyiheme:
Which beauty abeg.. is it the maked up face?... what happens when you take off the make up kwanu?

Read the OP very well.

Hahahahahaha!

You read things like this online and wonder if these people are for real.

Is it wrong for a wife to regard her pastor more than husband? Yes

However, I am amused because an average christian in Nigeria (read husband and wife) call their pastors daddy & mummy.

Perhaps everyone will send everyone packing.

NoToPile:
Nice thread bukatyne.

Nice tips.

Thanks

Divay22:
Lol
Makeup is just my problem, I don't see the need to.
And to think almost all my downloaded videos from YouTube are makeup tutorials still i can't shave my eyebrows to save my life

It's good to look good but do what makes you comfortable.


Like someone once said, If you wanna see the true beauty of a woman or get married to her, visit her in the morning (when she just dey wake up) cause that's the face you'll be waking up to see everyday.

Make up as per powder and gloss or makeup as per contour, highlight etc? If it is the latter, you are not alone. I can't do those things to save my life.

My glam sef is foundation, lip stick, eye shadow, mascara, eye liner and powder with ponds powder as my primer.

I think we need to go out of our comfort zone sometimes.

Clarathomp:
Bukatyne, your thread appears to be very subjective (meaning you have put out a list of your own likes and personal preferences out there as what you think of, as a woman's inner & outter beauty)

1. First of all the women who are strikingly beautiful to me on the outside are women who are naturally beautiful, who use little or no make and women who dress simply but tastefully.

On the inside, their inner beauty glows through good manners, they are not ill mannered but rather courteous, pleasant and helpful. Down to earth and easy to relate with is also part of their inner beauty.

2. The bum bum reaching braids may be trashy to you and some people, but pls note it is not universally seen or accepted as trashy. They are certainly not trashy to me and other people. I love & admire those braids on women, they look feminine & attractive - not trashy.

3. I am a sensual female not a sexual one. I like to touch, hold and cuddle my man, run my hands over him while we gist or watch TV, that's intimacy for me. The sexual part is more of his thing than mine. From personal experience (my experience) that's more often a man's thing.
You and I have divergent views on this. While you think we are sexual I think we are sensual

4. I strive to look and feel good, primarily for myself not for the opposite sex. Their admiration & compliments when voiced is only like an added bonus. Looking good helps to boost my self confidence, it is not first & foremost about attracting the opposite sex. If that happens hey great, but doing me was my goal. Anything else na jara not the koko.

All opinions/threads/write ups are subjective.

1. Exactly same as what I said in the OP. I touched on excessive makeup and mentioned somewhere I sometimes go bare and use ponds + coloured lip gloss on an average day. Ditto inner beauty.

2. I wish I could post pictures. I have not seen one attractive and I absolutely love long braids. I cut my x-pression into two parts... Go figure. Once it is past the waist reaching the bum, I haven't seen a nice one. The one I did too was not nice.

3. What I had in mind was sensual. Please note where you noticed so I can change it, thanks

4. We look good for ourselves generally and for our man specifically.

Processor01:
Perhaps it's a different person from the one that used to be on the "Boys Night Out" thread. For the records, I believe in equal opportunities for both genders but not a feminist, never will be.

Anyway, kindly excuse me then since I do not wish to derail your thread.

I think women should dress pretty for men does not mean they should tolerant bullshit .

Pick a good man with his head screwed tight and be the best you can.

Together, they work towards building their home.

Together.

Seahawk:
Actually God didn’t give women longer hair.

We just grow our hair longer and men tend to cut theirs. Most hair grows the same according to your genetic tendencies but not according to gender.

Also bigger hips and bigger boobs just make us different from men. Not better looking. The tendency to think that it looks better is because of the sexuality attached to that.


I care about beauty a lot (I’m even a little bit vain but I digress).

1. But I don’t think every woman should. The reason why I say so is to avoid shaming women who have other things that interest them besides their physical beauty. And for some women, they might still do everything right the way we think THEY SHOULD, yet they won’t measure up to societal standards of what women should look like. It creates hopelessness and unnecessary low self esteem for those who can’t achieve that.

I would recommend many things for women who are interested in conforming to my ideas of beauty, but I wouldn’t say that every woman should do such and such.

1. I totally get your point. This thread is not to shame, just help us improve.

Thanks.

SixDividedByTwo:
share pictures, please.

What do educated people call taking and posting pictures without authorization?

Na night school I go and I no read law.

Processor01:
That statement is quite odd coming from a NL Feminist. BTW, I agree with your take but always known you to mostly kick against such comments.

And I don't know why the modern day woman finds it demeaning that men and women are made differently. Men are moved by their sight (well, not excusing those who lack self control).

1. I may be wrong but I'd wager a bet that you've shelved some of your Feminist beliefs from a few years ago. It is somewhat evident from your posts/threads.

Anyway, I'm enjoying the thread (maybe I go use style dey sight for wife here sef ).

1. Funny how I stumble on posts 5 years back and my thoughts are same. I have resurrected some dead treads that way.

armyofone:
Shaving my legs- a big no no. I love my hairy legs.
Aveeno face wash a daily must.
Shower - 2 ice daily. I don't drink coffee so cold water bath helps.
No make up just eye liner and lip gloss.

Nice one @ Bukatyne.

Pics or idonbelieveit

@computergeek: I believe Aveeno face wash is a cleanser.

Thanks

Processor01:
That statement is quite odd coming from a NL Feminist. BTW, I agree with your take but always known you to mostly kick against such comments.

And I don't know why the modern day woman finds it demeaning that men and women are made differently. Men are moved by their sight (well, not excusing those who lack self control).

You have known me bukatyne to kick against such comments?

It is obvious you know nothing about moi.

And I am NOT an NL feminist; I am a feminist who believes in the equality and equal opportunities for both genders.

Go through my threads to have a grasp of me (if you are interested).

niggi4life:
Money things...

I was hanging out with an old pal at a bar and the guy insisted he wanted to fck an olosho. I was like.. guy u are married na, i come ur wedding oo, e be d talk of d town ooo.
D guy was like, brov I'm tired of same woman, same sex position, same every every, even when we want to try new things we remember we are husbant and wife and we stop

I simply tell young couple, marry your friend oooooo

That your 100L guy doing your assignment mareyt him if u love him... That girl always calling you when u are busy brewing with your friends

Love is complicated. But i wish the new couple happy married life

The guy is not well.

They want to try new things and they remember they are married and stop?

Hmmmmmm.

BlackPantherCri:
First of all, for them to do DNA test in the embassy. It means the father is filing for their immigration. That means the man lives abroad.

As the man is abroad, she de take different men hold her side. No commitment, just the sex.

Apparently the man shuttles back and forth so it is likely she claims to be pregnant after one of his numerous trips home.

She's Alan Shearer... Has no regard for her husband. There are many of them cougars roaming Lagos. They are married for the title and the freedom of living single because the husband is based abroad . I personally know one, her husband is in US, she has 3 kids and was still trying to seduce my guy one time. Only God knows who the father of the 3 kids are

Your guy or you?

God help us.

ikhileomotayo:

Tell us what you like joor.

You just dey shine teeth.

SixDividedByTwo:
mine are almost weight length. i try not to judge other people on their hairstyles, so i wouldn't be quick to label anything longer than waist length "trashy". saw an Asian girl with hair longer than waist length yesterday. would you call that "trashy" or what's the difference between that and a black woman with waist length hair or braids?

yes, I'm fed up with shopping for jeans. most jeans fit like a size 1 or 2, which I'm far from. went to a couple of stores a week ago and ended up trying on up to size 14 jeans . was just like why the hell am I trying on size 14 jeans ((I'm not a 14)) and I still can't pull it up my thighs? i asked the woman working there nicely and said she can't wear them either because the sizes run small. ended up finding one pair at this other store but it was the last pair

I wish I could share pictures, that Asian girl is natural na. Nature would have somehow aligned it to be fine.

Sorry at buying clothes in the open market today. I totally understand the stress.

Processor01:
Has your account been hacked?

Why sir?

blackgold2018:
One thing that attracts me mostly on women is neatness. Just be fresh, dress good whether poor or rich just look good. Then any other things can be added.

Be fresh like Agege bread

winj3:
shallow rubbish.
your brain is your blessing

Hahahahaha

When you instinctively approach a better looking person, you have x-rayed into her brain.

computergeek:
Aunty Bukatyne and Ishilove, I need to know how to get a perfect smooth facial skin devoid of acne. I'm super-scared of trying out creams cos I got sensitive skin. They'll just make me break out in a major rash. I hate using make up, just use brown powder or ponds and lip gloss.

But I want to get a super-smooth face so I won't have to worry about spots looking too shacky When the powder wears off.. Please tell me of cream or a regiment I can take up.

Oh and Ishilove, since you got hips, I'd recommend you just stick to sweet trousers and tops that go long enough just to cover your ass, so no one sees there ain't much there... lol

Hmmmmmm

Check that the brown powder isn't adding to the breakouts.

Once I had some stuff on my face, I washed it at night and used skineal till my face cleared (about 5 nights consistent use and stopped). Prolonged use of skineal makes your skin dependent on it and once you stop, it is back to ground zero and then, the skin is immune to it.

For regular, got a toner (Skin Doctor) which I applied after bathing.

In the mornings, get a cleanser or your regular soap, a toner and a face cream/moisturiser. Face creams I know works are Palmer's daily face lotion and Dr. Organic bioactive skincare skintone correcting cream.

GreatManBee:
How about the men?

A boxers and a pair of socks a day is the way to go.

With good grooming, you are better assured of spontaneous BJs when you get married.

franchasng:
1.You are sexualizing women

2. in Feminists own voice...if you are to abide the feminists rules, women are supposed to dress and look like men and not to be adored or admired because of their sexiness or beauty, so I am surprised seeing all the nairaland's e-feminists having ecstasy on this thread, wonders sha

1. Women are sensual beings

Daeylar:
Na wa.
See unnecessary rules and regulations for women.


Please women do what you want and do as you please. Abeg.
You didn't come to this life to live for anyone.
Dress as you want to dress, play with your hair and make up as you please. Do what makes you happy. Just do you.

The only thing is to have the confidence to remain unshaken when anyone tries to bring you down for not acting as others are or for not dressing as they expect you to and you're good to go.
Self confidence will take you far.



And also women,
NO ONE, and I mean, No one is allowed to disrespect you in anyway because of what you wear.
Not a single person.

� at 'unnecessary rules and regulations'. It's just funny to me.

It is natural for a woman to want to please a man with her appearance that's why when you are going on a date, you take extra care to look good.

It is not for yourself ( I mean you don't need to make an impression on yourself), it is for him.

And that should trickle into marriage.

You are right: women have the freedom to dress as they please, talk as they please and conduct themselves as they please.

In return, we observing her has the right to label her as we please.

I mean, a ghetto chic cannot force me to see her as a lady even though she is free to keep displaying ghetto.

jnrbayano:
Wetin Agberos do you with too many mentions?

Hahaha

thorpido:

Flat tummies are good to look at.

Thorpido!

BlackPantherCri:
Another angu..

It is possible the children were bought or stolen so that she can save face.

I 100% doubt a wife interested in a marriage will get pregnant for four different men.

Cheat, maybe. To be careless with four kids?

Doubtful.

Except she knows the husband is impotent.

Ishilove:
On second thought, I have thick thighs and I don't think skater gowns will work for me

Because skater gowns flare out from your waist, they will accommodate your thighs without hassles.

Should we call this karma?

If true, very sad story.

That said, did they confirm if the mother actually owns the kids?

I still believe that more paternity fraud results from baby trafficking than adultery.

It is possible that the wives lost their wombs and bought babies or are looking for boys /girls and bought from baby factories/swapped in the hospital.

This however highlight what I always say: you can't give men pass for adultery and not expect this to happen.

Who are the men sleeping with?

Ghosts?

Seahawk:
I’m a fervent beauty advocate (really passionate about it).

At the same time I have to say that it’s not required for every woman to do the same. Some people don’t care about physical beauty (I don’t mean cleanliness) and that’s okay.

Women with shaved hair are still mighty glorious. The hair is not their glory.

Every choice anyone makes about their own physical appearance is okay. I might not like it but it’s okay. There are no rules about such things and there shouldn’t be.

There is a reason God gave us longer hair, wider hips, bigger boobs etc. in relation to men.

I think every woman should care about beauty, it is God's gift to man. I was surprised when I was in the midst some women (Deeper Life like) and they were concerned with their looks, how neat their hair was, how their colours combined, silver brooches to silver wristwatches etc. They were obviously not concerned with the normal makeup jewelry thingy yet they actively pursued beauty as they deemed fit.

I believe there are don'ts and then ladies pick the dos that suit them. For instance, I wouldn't say don't wear trousers, I would say don't wear skinny ones if you have bow legs.