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naijababe:
Hubby: I prefer if you serve my food and dish it as well

Me: Ok

Hubby: Babe, hand me the spanner will you please?

Me: I can't darling, I just had my nails done and don't want to be touching any spanner.

Does that help?


I don't even understand this busy thing sef! Busy doing what exactly? How long does it take to serve food? I recall that my mum after serving my dad's food as described by the OP would sit beside him and watch him eat till he finishes.

zeeblamj:
Watching him or eating together could be a sign of love and support. But being busy and still be expected to come and serve him when u probably haven't eaten urself cause u are sorting the kids out for school or preparing for work is absurd. Some people are not understanding at all.

byvan03:
She can dye her old panties to red, he won't know .

Timbuktou:
Right after, you advise her to prepare for jail.

Timbuktou:
Why didn't she tell her husband that she doesn't like serving meals properly before marrying him if he won't dump her foolish ass?

I feel so much pity for this man. She might poison him soon, so she can have enough time for her other chores

byvan03:
I will have her wear red bra n pant to seduce him out of the spirit of wanting his food to be dished for him,so that he doesn't look outside, inside and around .

Timbuktou:
What's hard inside is that if she had used her brain to hire and pay someone to do what she came to facebook/nairaland to spam the world with we wouldn't be here discussing this tosh now, would we? This topic was started by women, was it not? Talk to your sisters abeg.

Timbuktou:
Says the babe who regularly misquotes the bible to fit her ideals. . That's quite bloody rich.

Do you?

But you can. The Lord's Prayer, The Grace, National Anthem. Praise The Lord. We say these things over and over and over and over and over.

I'm arguing the bible with you because you claim to be a christian and use it as a reference for your arguments. Alas, your ideals and that of the bible are at variance. It would not sit well with my conscience if you deceived others into your fantasy and I stood by doing nothing. Consider it my service to humanity . Besides, I've read the bible through twice, I can't suddenly unknow what I've known.

naijababe:
And any wonder the oldest sister (played by Vanessa Williams ) with least nurturing skills ended up getting a divorce. I have no idea when being married became a power struggle

Timbuktou:
How so?

Edwife is saying husbands and wives have their duties in the home and should do them to the best of their ability. Stop putting sarcastic spin on a time-honoured practise.

Indeed, he does.

Maybe she should pay so that she can see first-hand what proper service looks like and learn or if she doesn't want to learn, at least, provide the husband with proper meal service.

The point is to get the job done and done well. Plus, what the Bleep is the woman's priority sef?

Timbuktou:
I just duct-taped you to your desk. Try moving let me see

Timbuktou:
what does this mean? Let's assume, and this is an assumption, that husbands don't do these things, who gets them done or hires those who get them done? Joy, Joy, Joy, Joy. It is hot here abeg, don't add your own. Please, I beg you.

Timbuktou:
Abeg. Don't run away. I'm eager for you to neutralise my points with biblical facts, of course. I patiently await.

edwife:
Don't mind them,the same people here when you ask them how many of them do the plumbing,electrical repairs or car servicing will raise their hands. But when it comes to cooking and house-chores it is equality.

Have you watched soul food,the black american series?and most of Tyler perry movies?

After all this is Nairaland.....

Timbuktou:
Yet, theses disciples called him master and they served him in the way Jesus expected of them, didn't they? now, that you're referring to Jesus and his disciples, shouldn't wives call their husbands Lord? Anyway, moving on.

Surely, you're not referencing the conventional bible we have all come to know. If not you'd have no issues with the head of the house and Lord demanding that his 'disciple" do as the master demands. Then, again, it's you. We don't know what bible you read.

There's cooler/tray in the bible? Or her expectations trump that of her master and Lord? In what biblical planet are these roles reversed Deaconess Bukky? Which means she can leave foods half-cooked or burn them because there are other chores to handle. Having chores is a good reason to leave other chores half-done or abandoned completely? That wife is a very special foolish breed.

We greet you, our 'Nigerian' wives.

byvan03:
Believe me when I tell you that I missed that part too,may be not dishing in a cooler first shows lack of respect .

byvan03:
;DThat thread about who greets first, very unbelievable thread i tell you! One will go nuts if you take anything read here seriously.

Maybe there is a manual, talk of robotic marriage, union of the clones .

byvan03:
Lol, but seriously dear, imagine setting the table in front of your husband wanting to dish the food then you heard your baby wailing like there is no tomorrow, you thought he had fallen from the bed. You dropped the plate, rushed into your room, picked the boy and stuck his natural pacifier into his mouth.

On returning back to the dining, guy man still sitdon dey mope at plates ,waiting for you to dish into a plate for him, is that natural? If a man really loves his wife as himself, chances are ,he ran into the room with his wife or he started sorting out himself while asking "wetin happen?".

There are things that will never be an issue if only people marry for the love of me + u =1 "us".

byvan03:
They know wella but longer throat/desperation dey wear some tinted goggles, so to see am nah war.

When such flimsy thing becomes an issue, then something is wrong. I mean is natural for one to pull out a plate and dish food that is set right in front of him, it is still very natural for a wife to pull out a plate and dish it herself for her man, either way it goes shouldn't be a problem in a healthy union.

Chidoks:
lol. nne dish food o.hian ! food wey don dey in front of him? abeg my sister it will cost you nothing to leave your chores and dish food o.after dishing his food linger on till he starts eating then rub his head and call him " your majesty" ( only if he's the playful type o because this your husband be like say na GOC)
but wait o are you a 24/7 house wife? i asked becausr as he was hurrying out you too should be hurrying out.

byvan03:
Stuck up mentality, "that is how our fathers did it " mentality, I believe the signs are always there from the beginning, let them enjoy whoever they married abeg.

Some women claim they married their friend and suddenly he changed to....people can say anything when they choose to cast blames.

Why can't people be spontaneous, flow with the tide, just be comfortable with themselves, just serve each other for the love of "us".....

byvan03:
If a woman actually brought this out as an issue for discussion, I doubt the efficacy of her brain box .

Timbuktou:
Ewuro, thanks for bringing this angle to the conversation. And this redirects me to Bukatyne who is a supporter of service for christians. Bukatyne, would you say this man was out of line for demanding his wife serve him? I'm asking you as a christian not as a feminist.

Chidoks:
I believe that there a faithful husbands.no doubt there must be.
the question concentrates on unfaithfulness thus the question.again i say not all men cheat

Phema:
That is definitely all. Abi, what else is needed to run a happy home?

SAMBARRY:
nawa o.this is a serious matter

byvan03:
Most women mistake the gift bearer as a friend, you look at the content of a man's heart. I realised that when you see a Man/woman whining on how terrible and beastly their spouse is, know that he/she knows exactly where the rain started beating them.

Any woman that claims she doesn't know who she married is either a liar or chose to stick her head into the sand.

byvan03:
Until women learn to marry their friends and not some psychologically stuck up old stick in the mud, woe shall continue to be their tales. Marry your friend and lover, period!

TV01:
She's a wife, not a slave. Plus kneeling with face down, willl hinder, not help her serving her husband


Oga' preference to the fore once again on this. Don't take anything for granted. And it differs from culture to culture. Not everyone lives in Idumota you know


I take it you mean "belch" - again, Oga' preference.



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freecocoa:
I don't know why everyone is acting like there's no problem, OP there's a big problem and it's you, you are cheating while still planning to get married, you better just leave the young man you want to marry alone and sort yourself out, I wish he'd catch you, mschew.

cococandy:
you go fear hair cut

That first pic. Lol.

Why are they so sad?

TV01:
My views?

The wife is in serious dereliction of her duty. The expectation is;

1. She prepares all meals fresh in direct accord with his taste and preferences
2. She sets-up and serves him accordingly
3. She waits on him while he eats - being proactive in ensuring he has all he needs
4. She clears up at his prompting - although she should learn to take non-verbal cues here.
5. She presents warm soapy water for washing hands, followed by a scented towel for drying - he may prefer you to dry, verify this.
6. She should thank him for allowing her to be of service
7. She should make enquiry as to how she could have improved the service

I also think he's a bit slack for permitting this slovenly approach - give 'em an inch and they'll take a mile. As for "having other chores to attend to", what could take priority over serving your husband .

Arrant nonsense. A woman that loves and is committed to you will love to serve you. All these side-chicks masquerading as wives. Next she'll be asking for you to consider her needs during intimacy .


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