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babygirlfl:
I agree with you. We need to send her back to her father's house.

cococandy:
That's the implication.

Like he knows if she get pregnant, it's not from him.

babygirlfl:
lol

thorpido:
Is that what you understood by that statement?
Let me re-write it for you.

If you do not have intentions of having more than a platonic relationship with a guy,limit your associations to public places.You can meet at the parks,classrooms etc.It's a precaution!

I hope you understand this above.

I never said or implied 'face the consequences of rape' as you misunderstood it.Did you read my first post above?

Enigma:
A bit long and complex but should be worthwhile: http://www.ntwrightpage.com/Wright_Women_Service_Church.htm

Etizz:
What suprise me is dat, if everyone is self employed, who will work for your firm or company

mutter:
She does not need to tell her husband- he knows the truth.
It is an unspoken truth that causes damages once it leaves the mouth. So best left unspoken for the love of the man and for herself.

This has been happening from days of old. People don`t talk about it.
It is a humane solution to a problem.
If she did not get pregnant the man would have married another woman who went out to bring him a child.

I know a man years back who`s wife never gave birth. A few ladies claimed to be pregnant for him, he would always tell them, if it is my kid leave it with me and go. That way he gathered himself a family together.
The wife took care of the kids like a mother but keep crying that she could not give him a child.
One day he told her that the day she got pregnant she would leave his house!!!!

Sometimes it is not about what is right or wrong but what is humane.

iwakolewa:
Must you quote it all?

Chillis:
You are not a feminist. Simply. I don't know there is a tag for feminist.

My dad is a feminist because of his beliefs but I don't go around calling him a feminist . He doesn't g around too saying I'm a feminist.

His actions shows it.
Non feminist should give themselves another name and leave our feminist name for us abeg.

Chillis:
There is no better reward believing in something and sticking to it.

I don't have a problem with non feminist.
I have a problem with those that enjoy the reward by the fight of some of these activist , those that preach the same thing the activist are fighting for then turn around and say..

"Pls oh ,I'm not a feminist '

What a joke

Realwvn:
Thinking about when you were dating should bring a smile to your face. You were young (at least younger than you are now). You had fewer pressures in your life and you could focus more time on the one you loved. If there were other important things going on, they only seemed to get in the way of your dating relationship.

Now, a few (or several) years later, it seems that everything is turned around. You have more pressures with work, hobbies, social activities and less time to spend with your spouse. Your marriage seems like it gets in the way of everything else you have to, or want to do.

So today, Naijanewsrave will be giving 7 tips you can really use to ignite the spark in your marriage again

1. Ignite a flame in your relationship again.
If a flame seems a little too ambitious to you, start with just a spark. After implementing these tips I hope you remember what attracted you to one another back those many years ago.

2. Respect

When you first got married did you ever think that you would treat your spouse as poorly as you treat your own brothers or sisters—those people you were forced to live with and knew every fault they had? Yet here you are a few years down the road and find that you treat your own siblings with more respect than you have for your spouse.

Your siblings come to visit and you offer to get them something to drink. You hold in your bodily noises when they are around. You call just to chat. What about your relationship with your spouse? Do you still show them the respect you did when you were dating? If not, get back to those days when you valued your spouse more than your own family.

3. Dress nicely when you go out. Let other people know it is an honor for you to be with the one you love. Speak kindly. Listen to one another again.

4. Spontaneity

Do things just for fun. Be random. Play. You don’t always have to act your age. When was the last time you invited your spouse to the back seat of your car to kiss in the mall parking lot? As a complete surprise you can arrange with your friends to take the kids for a night and you sweep your spouse off to a hotel across town.

5. Communication

That word communicate is a fancy word for talk. Remember when you used to do that without having to raise your voice? Pay attention to your spouse. Intentionally put your book down when they are speaking. Listen to what they have to say.

Compliment one another. Find something nice to say to your spouse. Then find nice things to say about them to other people. This honors them and communicates to others your affection for the one you love.

6. Public Display of Affection

It is perfectly acceptable to hold hands in most cultures. But have you held hands lately? When my wife and I were dating we were in an environment that did not allow dating couples to hold hands. How thrilling it was each time we did get a chance to sneak in a little squeeze. Sometimes we recreate that feeling by acting like it is taboo as we hold hands underneath our Bible during church.

Why do we think it is cute for teenagers to act like a married couple out in public, but somehow think it is disgusting for a married couple to act like teenagers? There should certainly be limits to what is done in public as a sign of respect to other people, but maybe a little bit of public affection would do your marriage good.

7. Dating Again

Plan some time alone with your spouse. A date doesn’t need to be expensive, but it does need to be intentional. If you just go out to eat at the same place you go every Thursday evening, that wouldn’t necessarily be a date. But if you would ramp up your wardrobe, show obvious respect to your spouse and throw in a little PDA (public display of affection) you could be surprised as to how exciting the local fast food joint can be once again.

8. Gift Giving

Gifts don’t have to be elaborate. It could even be as simple as a random card with a nice note about how you are thinking about them. My wife was cleaning out some files yesterday when she found some cards that we had given each other years ago. Though these gifts didn’t have monetary value, they still brought a smile to our faces as she told about some of the things we wrote to one another. A gift can be something simple, but it should be well thought out and given with purpose.

9. Studying One Another

I was around an older couple recently and witnessed a hilarious conversation. The wife said something about her husband liking a certain food. He said to me that he really didn’t like it, but he tolerated it for her sake because he thought she liked it so much. She was shocked and was genuinely surprised by this revelation. She hated the food but only made it because she thought he liked it.

What things are you doing because you think your spouse likes it, but you never took the time to find out the truth? Of course you can’t know until you ask them and start studying them like you did when you first met. In fact, it can be a fun game to go to an event and pretend you don’t know one another. Ask each other questions like you are meeting for the first time. You might be surprised that what you thought was true, or what may have been true 20 years ago, isn’t the case any more.

I hope these 9 tips for keeping the spark alive in your marriage will inspire you to spend some quality time with the one you love this week and for many years to come.

If you are still single you can bookmark this page for the future



http://www.naijanewsrave.com/9-tips-for-keeping-the-spark-alive-in-your-marriage/

Fhemmmy:
Even the actors MUST start as supporting cast first . . . . Many will run if they have a clue what it takes to be the owner

Fhemmmy:
Angels does everything for my people jooo . . . .Everyone wanna be the boss

Jahblessme:
That's the myth that's perpetrated to keep driving a wedge between women.
If i have conflict with someone,its about personality and opinions not gender.
I hear a lot of people say they prefer to have male friends bla bla women are this women are that,their own cup of tea.I actually view such people as odd or with a chip on their shoulder but i still respect their choices.

Not being able to manage relationships with people of your gender in my opinion speaks more about you rather than them.
I actually prefer being friendless,reduces potential for strife..

Cheers!

EggovinMma:
I never knew moi moi with corned beef could taste so good together.

Nihilist:
No

A side chick is a nothing more than a replaceable sextoy. She's just there for the excitement and only gets promoted to main chic in the rarest of occasions.

Thus the side chic is always at a disadvantage. She is aware that she is second choice, and that the man she likes does not want to be associated with her in public. She knows that no matter what she does, her man's heart belongs to someone else, and she can be discarded anytime with no legal protection.

A wife who confronts the side chic surrenders the psychological advantage to the side chic. Suddenly the side chic knows that the main chic is just as insecure as she is, and realizes a chance for promotion no matter how slight.
The side chic could be violent.

The husband is then put on the defensive, and may decide that he doesn't want the wife anyway. The issues of broken trust from the wife's confrontation may prove insurmountable and wreck the marriage.

It's never a good idea to confront the side chic. Instead the wife can deal with the fact that her husband has wanderlust,accept her status as the number 1 woman and use it to her advantage. Or she pushes for a divorce immediately.

It's not the side chic's fault anyway. The side chic is not the one that has a marriage contract with the wife.

misspicy:
You all remember that topic about a sidechick that added the wife of the man and started threatening her?do u all expect the wife to be mute in such case?.

If it was me,i would confront my partner buh if the sidechick threatens or show her face,i will surely put her in her place.....if she doesnt,i will simply allow her to take her place....sideplace

Cutehector:
Guys guys, let's not display foolishness here.. Some of u guys lack understanding and comprehension skills.

D lady said she got drunk and d next thing she woke up and found herself naked and possibly "raped" by her brother in law. I chose d word rape because it was out of her will and consent.


Most twins r indentical, some may hav identical voices, even faces dat are hard to spot d difference. They may decide to smell dsame by using same perfume etc.. So the lady may hav not noticed all these things or even if she did notice, she may not have taken it with a serious thought.

tearoses:
Kimoni but is it true though?
Do we genuingly have that drive and do we actually care or is it just for money?

Walk into any Bank, hospital or govt office in Lagos and see the level of mediocracy
My oyibo postman does his job with a passion
How many Nigerians actually like their jobs to start with?
The security man you see at the bank jumping up and down to help you get your car out is only doing so becasue he is expecting something from you.

So what motives an average Nigerian apart from money & flexing? Is there more to life than this?
A collegue of mine has one kid but lives in a 6 bed house. He said he is not having any more kids.
A contractor!
Why?
Only a Naija person will do that. What happens when your contract ends tomorrow or God forbid you are involved in an accident and cant work again?

Are these competitions healthy?
What spurs some people on to be fraudsters? its because they want to belong and flex and cant wait to get there by doing a hard days job

The oyibos are coming in from s different angle
Their parents left them property
They are already on the housing ladder at age 21
Nigerians are starting from scratch.

Why are we here on Earth?
Is it just to flex?
Or to make a difference and put smiles on peoples faces around us?
When you die, what will be said about you? The guy who drove the 15 reg Mercedes? Is that it?

We have put so much emphasis on money and material things and that is why some people will do anythng just to get there and its already affecting our nation. Ritual killings, kidnapping, frauds, govt officers stealing public funds and the likes.
We all suffer but we dont realise it.
When govt officers steal money meant for repairing roads, any one of us or our familys might die on that same road. God forbid.

donholy28:
These are d main reasons…but its d girls that put men in this...dem go useless their body then an innocent man go marry them and suffer...Dont trust girls...but am against d pregnancy before marriage act

limamintruth:

Chidoks:
Okay i didn't put that well..what i meant was that he won't only respect you but would show it by making sacrifices for you and fulfilling all his duty and obligations to you. if he doesn't respect you he wouldnt want to please you na.

thorpido:
To the critics of the bible who say the bible speaks from both sides of the mouth or people giving their own definition to words e.t.c.
The bible was not written in english and so words written in the english bible were translated.Some words could mean more than one meaning e.g knowledge could be eido or ginosko and they don't mean the same thing.Learn about the Septuagint.
Submit as used in the bible could be hupakoe or hupotasso.
Hupakoe means to obey or subject to.Hupotasso means to be at a disposition of another.It also means to lift one up to a level of worthiness.When the bible says a woman should submit,it's talking about Hupotasso.
What's wrong with a woman elevating her husband to a level of worthiness?Of course it goes both ways as shown in other bible verses.