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AMBIVERT:
Done.

Ok, thank you

Modified: Now I must read your OP

Chai!

The previous font is good o

Kimoni:


So my quoting him is what is giving you headache? Is he too young to explain himself? Or it's just an excuse to vent over an unfinished issue that has been eating you up?

[s] you have issues Bukatyne. You have been told you cannot serve two masters, but you continue to do the impossible weighing yourself down unnecessarily. I feel pity for you more than anything else.[/s]

I dont need to ask anybody's age, it always comes out in the comments. The moment he tells me his girl is already playing wife to him, cooking and serving him, then I won't continue the arguments cuz it's pointless. Those are not my values. I see those are not yours, [s]for you, it's all about feminism. Nothing else matters, they might be devil worshippers for all you care, they can blaspheme against your God; it doesn't matter, as long as they are feminist. feminism is your God. Lollzzzz good to know sha[/s]

@Striked:

Not necessary

or are all anti-feminists Christians

Acidosis:
Bros you're not a marketer, just a seller.


Marketing and Sales are two different terms.

In a number of firms, I think they are the same.

@OP:

Really really good points and a good thread

Kimoni:


So my quoting him is what is giving you headache? he is too young to explain himself? Or it's just an excuse to vent over an unfinished issue that has been eating you up?

you have issues Bukatyne. But not to worry, oju a tunrari

Have you done something wrong that will make me have 'issues' with you?

Confess, I will forgive and forget.

Abi you want my age to know if I am your daughter's age mate?

Kimoni:
If you need the English lesson, then swallow your pride and learn from it instead of quoting me and translating nonsense. Yet, you are not ready for an e-fight

And I repeat, I will not go back and forth with someone of my daughter's age on marriage issues. I will teach them instead where they make themselves teachable. So you deal with that.

Then you shouldn't have quoted him in the first place.

You can also tell people to indicate their ages before engaging them to save you the stress

Empero1:
The two indisputable hidden reasons behind this fracas in Emeka Ike's marriage are :

- The woman did not attain self realization before she conssumated her marriage with Emeka Ike . She attained self realization some 2 years ago since which she started feeling that Emeka Ike took advantage of her naiveness to cajole her into marrying him- this explained the reason why she always rant about that it was Emeka Ike that deflowered her . Emeka Ike loves his wife more than the wife loves him . Although I don't hold brief for manipulator sorry pastor Okotie , but I know that she is not under any spell .

- Secondly , Emeka Ike has been undergoing financial straits for sometime now , so this triggered her wife's rebel act because she has lost the temporary avenue she would have get some solace to stay put in the marriage .

Well , as hard as it's , I will advise Emeka Ike to let her be and go as she pleases . He should just take care of his children . This is a lesson to men that clamors for marrying virgins/ uninformed village ladies , so long as there's nothing bad in marrying a virgin or an uninformed village lady, however the danger of the lady feeling manipulated when she reaches stage of self realization in the future will cause her to rebel against you and the marriage or in worse case scenarior she may kill the man silently in other to gain the freedom she long for . Be you a man or a woman , never enter into marriage with someone who has not attain self realization status in life . A reformed and renounced and self realized harlot is a better marriage material than a virgin or uninformed village lady that has not attained self realization .

Hmmm

I so much agree with you

@OP:

If Emeka is saying his wife is under a spell, then he should go on his knees and pray

Kimoni:
Let Bukatyne push you this morning, that's what she knows how to do best. Anyways, I hope you have taken the English lesson.

O really?

Can you bring out 5 posts I 'pushed' people?

Have I 'pushed' you before?

Kimoni:
Do you have comprehension issues? Or are there more issues you will like to spill out?

Whatever it is pushing you this early morning, you know I am more than ready.

More than ready for e-fight, shift to the next bust stop.

The guy has said what he will do and you keep twisting it round and round.

Not every man will have issues dishing out a meal already served in front of him if his wife cannot do so.

Deal with it.

Kimoni:
I highlighted "will" in my response for a reason. When an action is conditional, you don't use "will", you are better off using "would".

You negated everything you said with that conclusion of yours. And this is why people fail.

"my girl" - whaaat You are still in the boyfriend-girlfriend/oshofree stage? Mtcheewwwww Run along kid! Forget I quoted you but take away the English lesson sha for your own good.

There is no need to twist the guy's quotes to suit yourself

And the fact someone is not married doesn't mean he/she doesn't have a roadmap for his/her marriage...

He has said he will dish out the food served in front of him if his wife is busy to do it.

MrsChima:
I am against child marriages for obvious reasons.

Hahahaaahhahaha!

sinizia:
I can serve myself. I don't mind. I never said it's a must that she must serve me. If let's say she is busy or not around, i can go serve myself. But if she is not, then she serves me or put the food in plate and give our kids to bring for me. I do cook and serve my girl when she comes around. No big deal in it.

You have made your point clearly in that post.

You don't need to justify yourself to people kin on twisting it and the OP.

emusmith:
Bible student! The disciple don turn to wives abi

So Jesus can serve His disciples but husbands cannot serve wives

Ok

Bible Teacher

sage2:
I think she is allowed to look submissively into his eyes. But on a more serious note, a woman in love will gladly do all those things. Only whores and side chicks will make a big deal of it.

I thought side chicks are known to do them or why the saying 'do it so He doesn't leave you for another woman'?

UjSizzle:
Methinks the men who make a big deal out of the hair issue are being delusional
I mean it's just hair! Why must it be tied to her self-worth in this present age?
I might understand the need to admonish young African women a decade ago, but this is the age of enlightenment; there are very few women out there today who really give a damn about being light skinned, skinny or nappy haired.

Perhaps what the men need to understand is that every woman has a right to decide what works best for her. It is her body after all. It is her hair!

Ask yourself one question. When you see a white woman rocking a 'fro, do you also assume she's plagued by low self-worth? Yes? No?
I'll take your latter to be the answer. You'll likely say to yourself that African style is going global ad you'll super proud to see other races grow their boobs and arsee into the full figure of the African woman. But where is their self-esteem? Better still, where is YOUR self-esteem? You worship these women who imitate our natural looks and yet castigate us for imitating theirs (even when our reason could be something as simple as switching our look--like women are prone to do.) and yet WE are the ones with low self-esteem?

Men need to ask themselves some serious questions.
More so, you folks need to leave women alone. We love being complex beings. We love to play with a variety of looks. And when it suits our fancy, we'll try our hands out on the African 'fro (but I won't hold my breath on this one. Maintaining a 'fro is one helluva task!)

Beautiful

babygirlfl:
That is my point exactly. Is Ngozi Iweala's husband going to ask her to leave her job and dish the food in front of him? People won't call a spade a spade. This issue is simple. It's not whether we can serve our husband or not. It is about a man waiting for the busy wife to dish from the food right in front of him. Notice how the story has been turned to make the woman bad. Agreed it won't kill the woman if she dishes it but to ignore the obvious lack of respect and love on the part of the man and exaggerate the woman's refusal is beyond comprehension. The question is would it kill the man to dish his food too?

Hahhhhahahahahahahaha!

Timbuktou:
And I believe the point most men are making is why is this matter in public at all? Why isn't she talking to her husband. This woman seems mentally unbalanced posting this on facebook. This isn't the business of anybody but theirs.

Please give us the link to the men's thread

I am sorry I haven't read such point here from the 'men'.

troy20:
thanks much.

You are welcome

babygirlfl:
People will twist it in a way that the woman will be at fault. It's simple. There is food in front of the man and he refused to serve himself instead waiting for the busy wife to come and serve the food. It is not if you can serve your husband or any other scenario people are making up. Nobody said they could not serve their husband.

Na today?

SAMBARRY:
I don't know why I like this couple die


they fit each other and deserve each other I swearugawd

if God wants to finally punish them they should cause their kids mental trauma by displaying their madness in the presence of their kids


if the kids grow up they'll never forget what their parents did to their psyche for life

It's terrible

Truckpusher:
What do you say to a desperate individual? You simply tell them what they want to hear.

These days they no longer pronounce the word 'marriage' because some girls can hold you to your words eh!

They slide it in during serious talks and allow her to choose the most positive probable outcome of such cunning talk.

Women are too smart but we are always one step ahead of them.

Sad sad.

Truckpusher:
Na so na and it is unfortunate that most women still fall for it.

The way some ladies fall for 'I want to marry you', get as im be.

TV01:
Not "don't do", "don't have to do very much" Wifey is so attuned to my preferences she factors them in and adjusts accordingly, so I don't have to exercise myself with very much commanding. One-flesh innit . I remain head, leader and commander !


TV

Stop talking with both sides of your mouth

You command or you don't?

Or you define command with 'Mama I think...'

See wifey is intune with my preferences as if you are not also intune with hers Oya na try your fantasy with her Abi your one-flesh no reach that side?

When you start 'commanding', let us know

Till then, take the back seat when commanders are talking

kikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki

mutter:
The hard truth is that you are lying and cheating on both men.
Do you know what it means for a man to ask your hand in marriage? That is a very honourable thing to do. Do you know how much love, time and money he has invested?
Then the second man you are talking to. You are lying to him by not telling him you are planning a marriage. From the look of things you have already gotten intimate with him.
What goes around comes around.
Even when you get married as a man or woman there would always be wonderful people left in the. World but decent married people stay off.

The funny thing is that he might know about her wedding plans and be luring her with 'wedding' so that he can 'chop and clean mouth'.

@OP:

Biko increase the size of your font na so we can read.

Happy Birthday

Long life and prosperity.

All the best

TV01:
The concern is not for you - it's for those you would lead astray .


We command and we serve, I love & cherish my submssive wife. I cannot help if that pains you, or is at odds with Bukatynianity


TV

The command you don't do?

Or the non existent one

Kikikikikikikikikikikikikikiki

What should pain me bros? I couldn't identify it

Joy1706:
Suddenly o my dear. I wonder if they were not the same people strongly in support of the man

It is well

The OP says A, we twist it back to the point it suits us.

A wife cooks and serves food in the cooler on the table with the plates and cutlery beside it.

She can't dish it (for whatever reasons) and we are talking of 'equality', 'rights', 'slavery' etc.

Which is harder to do? Cook and serve on the table or dishing it?

Whatever

It should be for Mother in-laws and all

vizkiz:
never marry a girl who argues with you a lot. There is high probability she is capable of this when You get married

I thought the OP said they stripped each other?

At OP:

They are both shameless

SonOfEl:
stop fooling yourself, everyone can understand the instance of her hands being full with rigorous chores, not the 'forming' your type does nowadays....

Suddenly everyone can understand?

TV01:
If indeed a husband serves his wife - and children, and community - is he therefore not the head of them?
In washing His disciples feet, was The Lord "mutually submitting to them in love" - as you have described it in the past??
Was The Lord not Head of the Church - as a husband is to be head of the home


Of a necessity, your answer as "christian" must contradict your response as "a feminist" in this case, as they are diametrically opposed and cannot be reconciled without re-interpreting one or both ideologies.

"The whole Bukatyne" - what is that exactly , a new syncretic reigion, merging christinity and feminism, but being neither fish nor fowl? You must be the only adherent - on NL at least. No other adherent of feminism has claimed it aligns with christianity - especially regards marriage dynamics - on this forum. They all choose one or t'other .

Isn't it a lonely struggle? It must give you palpitations having to make so many assertions that simply don't make sense or accord with either doctrine in order to forcibly align the two - somethings gotta give

https://www.nairaland.com/2351801/feminism-joke-nigeriafor-now/6#34377924


TV

Thank you for the concern, it is not necessary

At least I am not the person who says one thing to paint a picture and does something else.

Save your concerns for yourself; this thread is not about me.