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edwife:
Bukatyne,please i called you here because the message i replied was removed.I was not in anyway referring to you,sorry if it sounded like that....

It's just something i noticed in Nairaland,and i had to say it,and i had no option than to use your mention as a medium,sorry about that.

I hope you understand,i have never been the type to diss people or ferment trouble be it in real life or Nairaland.

Hope we good...

Goodnight

Using my post as a springboard to address the people you have issues with was off and I w as surprised because I did not even post on the thread in question

I do not advise people based on what I would do but their peculiar situation

WE are good

Goodnight

iykedare:
What is your definition of being "happily married "? Does the wife not play a part in a man being happily married?

I don't know where you are going

Yes

tatiana009:
I have come to the realization that people just have these gender arguments for fun. Posts after post on nairaland on this same issue with the same members arguing with each other day in day out. No one changes their minds and no one learns anything new.

Lol!

You are right, You know

babygirlfl:
Thanks

You are welcome

edwife:
Godmystrengh,i do get where you are coming from,but my only worry here is if you dont want to have kids because of financial reasons,then be straightforward with it.Do not deceive your partner,let him know that you are on pills,no matter what he says.....

Don't go behind his back,that is wrong....
Let your yes be yes and your no be no.....

IT is common place for a lot of woman to do family planning without hubby 's consent especially they know he would not agree. I understand where they are coming from because they are responsible for carrying the baby and the primary health care for a while. It is their lives hanging in the balance lliterally. I would also understand if a man that is the sole provider withdraws his child from a school because he cannot cope with the fees especially after discussing with wifey

During counselling, the pastor told the story of a wife who kept on giving birth after warnings. After the last baby, the doctor. Decided to tie the woman's womb but it was too late. The The es woman died and yep, hubby has remarried.
I

EfemenaXY:
(sigh)

Bless you LewsTherin. Why can't there be more of your type, eh?

HE is one of those you know are truly happily married

cococandy:
yep. Same way I can send him to buy groceries for us and then turn around to lambast other women

It is sweet

Misogynist2014:
Jesus said: if they are not against us, they are for us.
The enemy of my enemy is my friend. God bless Omotola and Mercy.

Feminists are enemies to you?

Goodluck bro

Free advice: Pick on one or two to channel your hatred so that when they die, you are free (Not that what you think affects them though). Picking on all feminists is 'death'

Truckpusher:
Hehe
One of your own finally said what you all believed, but always saying otherwise on social network.

*spreads mat*

Don't get you bros

Mondisweets:
from now on i am following Omotola's footsteps. if i kiss different men onset just to make money and spend more time abroad pursuing my career than i do in my matrimonial home, don't come and call me names abeg!

AS far as you can come out and say that men and women are not equal

cococandy:
another woman who does half of what omotola does with a less liberal husband will be termed an evil anti family feminist. But hey omo t has a husband who let's her be herself. Leave her kids and trot the globe. Spend nights in different hotels alone or with Colleagues, hire cooks and house keepers and every other thing that makes other women evil. With such a husband,she can afford to be anything she wants to be and take any stance she wants to take.


I would love to read her opinion again if the husband had been the quit your career and face the home kind of man.

Lol!

I can seat comfortably in my living room with my husband 's ATM card and say that all wives should submit their salaries to their husbands

Hehehe!

Mondisweets:
she is an interesting character. she spends most of her time going around the world, pursuing her career, instead of catering for the needs of her family personally and she will come and shout "I know my place as a women"

You know that once she publicly denounces feminism, she is a good wife material

NL eh!

If late Dora said, I might be more receptive but Omo Sexy? That pretty hardworking woman is a complete joker

Misogynist2014:
Omotola is a very popular person, who knows you? Her opinion counts a lot. She is rich famous and even submissive. What a woman! She is worth her weight in gold.

God purnish gender equality! Lazy women! This is a woman that can afford marrying 15 men, but lays low before her husband- virtuous woman. When people like Linda Ikeji are making opulence look easy, some sit and type gibberish with the phone purchased by their MAGArin.
I will love to cook and sweep for a women like omotola and mercy johnson- true role models unlike Rihanna and lady gaga that expose their nudes online.

Mercy Johnson is now a good role model?

What would I not read here?

Someone said Kim K and Amber Rose are not feminists so they are role models

NL. cracks me up!

Ask these same people hyping Omotola how many would marry a woman exactly like her and you see no one.

cococandy:
omo t that her husband goes grocery shopping for

These guys can't cope with a woman half the weight of omotola. See them jubilating

I honestly don't take her or them serious

Ngozi will soon come and tell us that she holds her husband dear when she left him to pursue her career (not saying it's bad or good)

@OP:

Weldone

DBestDoc:
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What if a person's predestined spouse dies before attaining adulthood, does it mean that the other living person will die single or spouseless(if there is any word like that )?

95% of married people are not married to who God destined for them

God can even tell you the Musa is your destined husband and you refuse to marry him. He will not force you ke.

There is the perfect fit and good fit. If perfect fit dies, there are still a lot of good fits

crackhaus:
Bukatyne you are now arguing based on sentiments. Read that interview again and take note of the parts you refused to put in bold:



I now ask that you be objective and tell us what she implied by those statements in bold.

Arguing based on sentiments? Is this a template response or something?

Does her posts look like she is saying otherwise? I am concentrating on the first paragraph.

I am being very objective; all my subsequent posts can tell

And whether she thinks women are 7th class citizens and should bow down when men are passing or women are goddesses, it does not change my opinion of her.

goldfish80:
This girl is stvpid. There are plenty young, rich, handsome bachelors like Yuzedo she could get married to but instead she chose a man older than her grandfather. What a shame!

Na loff

freshdude2:
1. Well, a company is an organisation, an organisation is not always a company. That's the angle I was looking at it from.
Also, submission in th bible and dictionary have the same meaning. Any complication arises strictly as a result of practice. What I mean is submission in marriage would be differently practised from submission in the workplace or in regard to public authority(read law enforcement).

2 . Gracious.

True that, I was not looking at it that way

justirich:
“I don’t believe in gender equality. I do not believe that God made man and woman to be equal in any way. I believe that in every organised institution, there is always a head and an assistant. It doesn’t mean that one should take the other for granted, or disrespect the other. I believe the husband is the head of the home and the wife is an assistant."

"My husband is a pilot, I have flown with him several times and I understood that here is a captain and a co-pilot. They are both responsible for the passengers’ lives. But when there is a final decision to make, it is up to the captain to make it. He is more experienced and the one with the responsibility.”

“When there is a quarrel, I usually apologise first. He doesn’t say sorry. Overtime, I have come to realise that it is an ego problem. Even when he knows he is wrong, he will rather do every other thing or buy things for me than say, ‘I’m sorry.’ Fortunately, the ‘sorrys’ are not too many. He is very responsible and more hardworking than me. By God’s grace, we have been able to understand our routine.”

Opinion:
Are you surprised that her marriage has lasted so long and will continue forever? I'm not implying that women should be subjugated but most modern ladies try to take the God-given place of their man hence so many crashed marriages nowadays.

Pls drop your concurrences or disagreements below. #1luv

crackhaus, what her statement in bold imply?

Like I always say, I do not really take what they say seriously even when I like their 'personality'

Whatever rocks her boat.

When she released one picture of her in leopard skin, her marriage almost broke with her beating her hubby/hubby beating her (whatever version you want to believe). I remember praying for her home to work and I am glad it did.

If her spewing that men and women not equal is what it took her home to work, good for her.

However, irrespective of whatever she says, I will give her husband real kudos; that man determined to make their home work and it did (from what we can see ). In previous interviews, she said so herself.

Once again, kudos to Mr. Ekeinde

@ those mentioning Ngozi Okonjo-Iweala, did she not leave her husband in US while she was building her self without minding if the marriage broke or not?

It is well

freshdude2:
1. A social unit of people that is structured and
managed to meet a need or to pursue collective
goals. All organizations have a management
structure that determines relationships between the
different activities and the members, and subdivides
and assigns roles, responsibilities, and authority to
carry out different tasks. Organizations are open
systems--they affect and are affected by their
environment.

m.businessdictionary.com/definition/organization.html

OR:

An organisation is an entity, such as an institution or an
association, that has a collective goal and is linked to
an external environment. The word is derived from
the Greek word organon, itself derived from the
better-known word ergon which means "organ".

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Organization

2. Please confirm that your marriage isn't in any way like the above definitions.

1. I thought we were referring to organization as per company? Just like submission in Christian marriage is 'different' from dictionary definition, same with organization as per company

2. Let's say it's like 2

yosmen:
I lost my wedding ring today,it sliped off my hand.The rain that fell caused it,now I don't no how my wife will feel if I tell her.
Has this ever happend to you,how did you handle it as a husband and for the wifes,how will you feel...

Explain to her and get a new one

freecocoa:
Now all of a sudden she is the perfect wife because she doesn't believe in gender equality, as if that's the only attribute a good wife/woman should possess, I laugh in Tiv.

If I've not dated men before, I'd be willing to not have anything to do with a man judging from what the mofos on here spew, rubbish.

I do like her too.

It is well

Stillfire:
See Joke Silva with much more stellar career and much more longer marriage, if not the longest marriage in nollywood

"I'm Not A Cooking Kind Of Woman & My Husband Is Fine With It' - Nollywood Actress, Joke Silva

http://www.naij.com/66593.html

The couple who have been married for 28 years are still very much in love and have remained inseparable.

Veteran actress, Joke Silva in a recent interview with City People magazine talks about why she doesn’t like cooking and how her husband doesn’t mind someone else cooks for him.

“I have never lied about this, I have never been ‘a doing the cooking kind of woman’. When my husband met me, he knew. He was the one who used to do the cooking because he is good at it. I used to do the cooking when I felt like. Sometimes, it comes out to be a huge success and sometimes a failure. Some years ago, I cooked vegetables and it was terrible and my husband is such a gem, he ate it like that. It is not as if my mum didn’t teach me.

For my husband, cooking is a therapy and for me it is a chore and yet he will always tell you that I look after him so much, I do that in other ways. We have somebody who does the cooking. I have taught them to cook the way I like and we have people who do the general cleaning.”
Olu Jacobs obviously doesn’t mind as his love for his wife as remained stronger as he was quoted in an interview saying marrying Joke was the best decision of his life.

Bone all these people

I heard Joke gets girls for Olu Jacobs to sleep with while they are both taking serious 'Igbo'

freecocoa:
Seriously it's annoying and depressing to say the least.

These same ones ranting here won't stick with a woman like Omo T, these men sha don't know what they want.

You dey mind them

You need to read treads about her

It is we 'feminists' that will be supporting her and wishing her well while they will be ranting how she is not a good wife, how she doesnot have time for her kids, etc. especially when she started her reality show

Besides, she earns way more than her hubby and this might just be a trick to make him happy

I like her very much anyways

freecocoa:
Your point being what exactly?

Is it normal to go apologizing to someone who offends you?

You don't know typical Naija marriages?

LOL!

crackhaus:
Buahahahaha, see uproar by angry ladies over Omotola's opinion.
I know it must hurt having someone as successful, recognized all over Africa and in the US, named by time magazine as one of the most influential women in Africa, and to top it off, a family-oriented woman - saying that she doesn't believe in gender equality.

There's a reason Omotola is one of the few Nigerian actresses who has had a successful and lasting marriage so far, didn't she marry when she was 16 or so? Lol...and y'all are here hating.

How many of you ladies have been able to make a lasting impact in your village?
Sorry o, Omotola's opinion will trump all of yous put together on any stage - local and international. What she believes in has obviously worked for her so far and God-willing, it will continue to.

I thought you said on Nashville's thread this

crackhaus: Abraham Lincoln said, '...for two different things to be considered completely equal to one another, they must be be equal to the same thing...'

The sexxual, emotional, and physical differences between the sexes make us equal to different things - this is why there is such a thing as 'predominant' gender roles/careers/responsibilities.

However you did misinterpret me, I never said a woman is unequal to a man because of how she reasons - I said a woman is equal to a man on the basis of both being humans, which is just about how equal we can ever get.
The inherent differences between the genders thus make each subject to a different kind of treatment - thinking differently and feeling differently are examples of what make us different.

Since a man and woman can't be equal in all things, then that makes way for inequality - this in turn does not mean one gender is superior to the other, it means we are different and not equal to the same thing except of course as just humans.

With emphasis on the bolded?

Now few threads later, you are agreeing with Omotola?

Yet when I said people who say 'men and women are unequal' mean men are superior, people said it means different

Whatever rocks our boat

The Nigerian society is still volatile so I really do understand her point

I can say I am the tail, my husband is my lord and still be beating him in our room