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CrazyMan: Exactly.

Besides I'm not her house boy...if she wants her nails cleaned, she should patronize female cosmetics saloons, they're quite affordable.

MRbrownJAY: ^^^how else do you want to call this, if not insanity?! it says a lot about a man, if he needs his wife to act as most maids do. but i cannot blame this man, i can only blame the equally insane women who would do these acts in the name of MARRIAGE!
but hey, to each their own.

biolabee: nice discussing with you..

biolabee: Wow.... deep!

So why do we have gender wars and why is feminism perceived as throwing the yoke
Why is it seen as allowance for hypergamy and disrespect to male authority

rigormortis: romance in soaps is to the female mind as p.or.n is to the male mind, dont judge guys with qualities you see in soaps just as you wont expect to be judge by the roles played by female models with huge everything thing and great moans with bodies that can take it anyhow, they are both make belief

biolabee: Biblical submission can only be viewed in the context of biblical times which I was not privy to and do not agree to certain things myself like spouse inheritance and sacrificing virgins

I speak of what I know in my time

Over to you

Do you believe in submission in a marriage and secondly;

What does submiSsion mean to you

biolabee: I agree with your post

If this is feminism so why all the fuss

Why do women support other women blindly

Why do we have issues and genderwars

biolabee: I believe in the medium ground which is growing
It will definitely still be full of conflicts but I am the head of the house and the woman defers to me

Authority can be delegated as seen fit just like a modern corporation but the buck starts and stops with me

biolabee: Excellent.. Thanks ...

What I meant by sanctity is aside from purity etc, do you think marriage has a role to play in society and is it relevant in our times

2. Ok I agree we have rights as humans

3, Ok I believe we have different roles in society and we should play those roles

Women though working in the workplace are generally better suited for certain duties, they should be assisted as much as possible by the man

The issue is that we have traditional roles which we are used to from time but that have to change due to time and there is inertia

I am interested in your opinion of how you see the roles of man and woman in marriage

rigormortis: guys with all these qualities only occur in mexican soap operas

musKeeto:

biolabee: Yes I know we are traditional here but things are changing

Men are becoming more involved in their kids lives and are not ashaned about it

So in 30 years it will be normal here

I guess submission means different things to many people but in a partnership there must always be a head

Men have traditionally being this head and I believe the challenge is the degree of input from your war room if I may say

Some believe the woman should have no say ie the conservatives some are more liberal

100 percent to me means a domineeting woman who will not take to the authortity oF the man

There is a growing view which believs in a middle ground thus;

On iSsues where my woman knows better I defer to her

Where I don't accept I expect her to agree and defer to me

What do you think

biolabee: Lol.. I'm particularly incensed about rape now because it's getting so bad especially with the insecurity

From what you said it's a morphing cause.. Hmmm
This could make it politically expedient and convienient depending on who is who


In addition why can't women tell themselves the truth if another woman does bad

A man cheats - the man is a devil
A woman cheats - the man is a devil for causing her to cheat (You and I know this is not true. Look at all the threads in NL and you will see that it's the other way round)

Personally what do you stand for

Do you belive in sanctity of marriage (YES, however it depends on what you call sanctity)

Do you believe in equal rights for male and female (Yes)

Do you belive males and females have seprate roles to play and are complementary not competitive against each other (I don't understand what you mean by seperate roles but males and females complement each other)

Let's start from there (Oya now!)

devour129: beautiful but don't forget d love making,I know no 1 kinda of covers it but let's be very clear on that

ocman: hahahahahah!!! i dey tells you, it is easy to login and type perfections but our actions are so different from what we wish for, dream of, preach and encourage...hypocrites!! keep wishing for a perfect or good husband. appreciate what u have and make the good out of it.

musKeeto: Do you think there are?

musKeeto: Life changing lines indeed. You suddenly realize that there are no good husbands, as defined by that post.

A good husband is a good wife is a good husband.

idefix: don't worry, for me.

I pity the next generations, I pity the males of the next generations

ItsModella: I just want to tell you that I am one of the blessed and intelligent people who liked your comment.

Keep preaching the truth to educated ignoramuses like the OP.

biolabee: choi,,, this one na curse o... i no go say hin no deserve am make my oga talk something else

idefix: he didn't break any vows, last time I checked it wasn't forbidden to chat with random girls, I know your kind, next you will tell us that saying good morning is cheating, giving a ride is cheating, etc, so I'm not even going to discuss anything with you. We need a new law : "virtual cheating"

coogar: i am coogar and i do not support your comment. i wish you would agree to carry a functional pënis for a month just for a change and see if you won't consider straying. the burden men carry is much more.

testosterone vs oestrogen? testosterone is more agressive, more daring, likelier to fall into temptation. i agree there should be self-control regardless but infidelity is not the same between a man and a woman!

CAMEROONPRIDE: don't twist our words, of course the society is male dominated, first of voice we created these societies, two back then women weren't interested so men took an advance on then, so it shouldn't surprise u, that there are more male teachers, soldiers, doctors etc....
So that's not the point, the point is in 2013 as I'm typing are u marginalized? Do people discriminate you because you are a female? That's the question and so far you haven't reply, you keep beating around the Bush blah blah some men say how a woman can talk to me like that, as if women don't say the same thing.

MRbrownJAY: so many people asked the OP the most important question and she has yet to reply. when did you learn about this insanity? well before marriage or the very day you got married?

nikkykay: I can understand u dear but d thing called" head of d family" is really making them to misbehave. Of which bible doesnt not say dey shld abuse it. They always feel its their birthright to do the wrong thing(esp infidelity) and get away with it.
Unfortunately we have society to blame for the way they have abused the leadership role in terms of infidelity while women get punished for the same atrocity.

nikkykay: To the women saying because the man is a cheat so the woman is justified, will 2 wrongs ever make a right? And also it is a wrong thing for the man to even cheat on his wife but does it mean d woman shld go and sleep with another man when she was pregnant and after she put to bed, she still continued with the act for 5months like she said> We dont if she was sleep with d man b4 she got married or its more dan 5months afta she put to bed.
In any case, lets look at it ds way and put ourselves in her shoes.What happened to dignity?
Its unfortunate that in our society (African)as of ds moment, its pardonable when a man cheats but a woman cant go unpunished. She was aware of ds fact , why did she go into it?
Lets reason like sisters and forget sentiment here, can we do ds if we were in her shoes? Can we advise any of our friends or sisters who come to us for advise to retaliate of dir husband cheat? Will u say kudos to ds Mrs. if u eventually meet her?
I will never cheat on my husband if i discover he is cheating on me! That i can say about myself.
So lets stop saying it is karma! Its indirectly encouraging some to go ahead and do d same.
We have all right to banish d man, abuse him, slap/kick him if we can lay hands on him but we shldnt support what d woman has done. Lets make her realise wot she did was wrong so dat she can show remorse to the world.
This is all for now.
thank you

mbulela: What is so amazing? After all, men remove their boxers to sleep with females besides their wives. Why should it be any different with women? cheating is bad for both genders. If women can forgive,men should too.Forgiveness is not a feminine fruit of the Spirit.

biolabee: bukatyne.. i respect your calmness

pleep: kumbaya kumbaya... do you guys want to hold hands and dance around a campfire now?

good grief... this is an E-forum. Stop the emotional babble and get back on topic.