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frosbel: Lastpage , sorry this is where we differ, GOD never had a spiritual SON.

His SON came into being when conceived by MARY and eventually born as a MAN.

tete7000: Go into the world baptising them in the name of the father and of the son and of the holy spirit. Note the use of conjunction and qualifier the in the above scriptural passage. The entities are distinct

QueenAw: Lol @ most of the above comments

@ OP, I'm sure you're already regretting coming to table your case on nairaL. As if the insults from your wife never do, see as them join their own put!! Lol at you!
Hope you won't suffer depression sha?

Anyway, my own 2cents is act sad around her for a few days or so. She might feel bad about the mail she sent & apologize. Use that as your chance to apologize too. Tell her you will be a better man, & mean it.. If nothing comes forth after 2 days, go & apologize o... That one means say water don pass gari be that!

pro01: Lol. She for kuku marry Prophet T.B Joshua or whoever the Bleep else is a clairvoyant that can read her fickle mind. And by the way, LOL to "be swift in attending to those needs". What can I say? Smh for this self-appointed Queen without a tiara.

Anyways, @ Topic
I read the the post dispassionately. . .and unfortunately, the one thing I am sure of is that that woman is having a passionate affair currently. . .and it's clear she's enjoying it, and that's why she comes home to you feeling discontented with her reality (i.e. you). Only a woman whose heart/mind is in another man's loins can write such a noxious, conceited, impudent letter to her husband. And to be very honest, do NOT underestimate the role money (or the lack thereof) is playing here: If you read between the lines of her poisonous letter, you would see abundant evidence of this.

In any case, it is your decision to make; your cross to carry (or cast aside). The choice is entirely yours.

Carius: Why is everyone taking d side of d erring wife?why should d OP be d one to roll on his back and beg d wife to love him?women are capricious,even when they're wrong,they would still want d man to take d blame.a wise woman builds her home with her mouth.i cringed when i read d part were she exchanged words wit u.this means she has started questioning ur authority as d head of d home.don't grovel for her.it would make things worse.i noticed she never mentioned her own faults or occassional failings in her email,meaning she doesn't want to resolve issues.women file for divorce 70% of d time.hence,if she wants to pull down her home,dia's very little u can do.

GboyegaD: I have an experience I would love to share. My brother in law thinks we are disrespectful because we say our minds on whatever discussion we have and at a point, he told me he wasn't going to call/talk to my younger sister anymore because she is too disrespectful. I told him point blank that she wasn't and the challenge was his ego. He was amused and when I explained to him the need to understand each individual and how best to address her, they have been best of friends. All I told him was, why not stop demanding/authorising and suggest your solutions/opimions on issues to her and see her reaction and since he started using that, it has really worked. That is why I tell people I am very free with my younger friend because I do not believe in condemning even if you did something wrong. I would rather hear you out and suggest something I feel we can make work and as you progress, I applaud you so that you can feel so much appreciated.

afam4eva: Does it really matter in whose name they kill? The most important thing is that they have killed.

seunajia: At times I just don't feel the need to clarify or say anything. Humans are inherently and incurably prejudicial.



Not true. There are two options a muslims has when attacked or when someone wrongs him.

1. Leave the transgressor to God,
2. Retaliate, an eye for an eye only. If he take more than measure, he automatically becomes the transgressor!

I can bet my life the Holy bible say this too.



The issues in the middle-east is a complicated one that transcends this thread. I'm sure historians and political students understand these issues more than we do. Isaac, Ishameel, palestine, Israel, Arab, jew, the west, sovereignty, capitalism, socialism, worldpowerlism and a little of the "opium" just for fun and to skim the support of blind men like you and I. Hahaha. We're just PAWNS



Yeah the OP and muslims must stop being bedroom warriors and start speaking up. Enough is enough! This thread is a right step in the right direction.

Non-muslims alike who know the truth too should join the crusade. The world belongs to us all!

Angelahoney: Its a pity a lot of men suffer inferiority complex. I grew up in a wealthy home, I studied in UK, I have a business with a monthly turnover running into tens of millions.
My husband is struggling with a peanut salary job. I asked him to resign and work for me so that the money I pay doesn't leave the family. But he refused.
I'm very beautiful with a child and not up to 30. Some people say its because I'm richer. May be. In fact I bought him a brand new car but he prefers to drive the Tokunboh jalopy.

I would not want to mention his tribe so that the thread does not deviate. That's my side.

maryjames9: Marriage of 5 years. Firstly madam,do u have children cos they strenghten union btw couple. I need to assume that u dnt have cos how else would u wana leave ur marriage just like that. 2. You are sturborn and non submissive. You see the culture of oyinbo people is different 4rm ours. A key ingredient in the success of marriage here is absolute submisn. God said in d bible that husband should love their wife and wife to SUBMIT to their hubby but oyinbo's culture didnt want that. 3. I dnt think u love ur hubby and truly ready 4 marriage when u did. Why else would u wana jump at divorce. Me think u married him cos of money. That explains ur unbearable urge 4 intimacy in a week. What happens if he travel 4 a month. You'l bring another man(one of those men eyeing u making u feel MARKETABLE) into ur matrimonial bed. Finally,even if u divorce and remarry,exept u marry a woman,no sane single man wil want a sturborn and averagely submissive Quarter-to woman 4 a wife. Off course u can get those Alhajis as 10th wife. My dear,apologze on ur kneel and swallow ur pride b4 its 2 late

pro01: Wow. It must be the weather or something. . .I read the first page of the thread and virtually all the ladies made sense and were reasonable in their replies! There's hope afterall.

There's nothing more to be said. Unfortunately, the OP and her kind would never change. . .the marriage would hit the rocks sooner or later.

Not even God can change a woman afflicted with congenital stubbornness. It is a hopeless case; wise men recognise these types early enough and flee for their lives.

SmileGirl: Pray abt it. Pls learn ur husband language. There may b a woman who speaks ghanian language dat may B lookin @ ur husband lustfully will use dis ghanian dialect to take advantage over u. Hurry n learn it

blank: When we were in UK, my sister used 2 attend a Ghanaian church where they spoke mostly twi. She so loved that Church and can now speak Twi very well though she stayed just a year.

Madam, u are slacking. The sooner you stop seeing yourself as a Nigerian and start seeing yourself as a Ghanaian, the better for you. How many years have you leaved with your Ghanaian husband and yet you don't understand his language neither do your kids? Seems like you need the switch to whip you into line. Abeg, do the needful and stop the pity-party. I can imagine how hurt your husband is.

gboss4sure: If the FG dares responds or even release a statement about this issue then they are fools and I will champion the fight for compensation of the genocide on biafra and all the people that Boko Haram has killed

franchizy: I'm 100% in support of d Northern Muslims suit against the Federal Govt, if d Igbos are agrieved losing there people in d North, they shud go to d court and stop talking rubish here. Insha Allah

akthedream: You cant sue Muslims.You can only sue bokoharam if you think its possible.

Tolaaaaannni: Type 1- The Know it all's.
I know the bible even better than jesus.

Type 2- The Hypocrites.
You need to change your ways *Goes back to another thread and talks about girls they have "been with".

Type 3- "The I don't give a #%*&'$"/ Openminded
Yes, I believe in God, but I also believe allah and God are the same. I believe that even the common man can enter heaven if they do good in life and stay away from wickedness. (Me)

You people that fall into this types know who you are

Tolaaaaannni: Type 1- The Know it all's.
I know the bible even better than jesus.

Type 2- The Hypocrites.
You need to change your ways *Goes back to another thread and talks about girls they have "been with".

Type 3- "The I don't give a #%*&'$"/ Openminded
Yes, I believe in God, but I also believe allah and God are the same. I believe that even the common man can enter heaven if they do good in life and stay away from wickedness. (Me)

You people that fall into this types know who you are

Sweetnecta: @italo: i wanted to respond to the "near extinction" of reyginus and then i saw your entry.
let me share a reality of how an earlier muslim man shut up a christian missionary of his day:

the christian asked the muslim if Muhammad [sa] was the last messenger [sa], why didnt Allah help and safeguard his grandson Hussaine [ra] instead of allowing him to be killed?

Fair and smart question until the muslim gave a knock out punch of an answer:

Muhammad [sa] was bold enough and probably furious with Yahweh, the muslim said.
Yahweh burst into tears and apology.

He said that even His own begotten son He couldn't protect as he was killed by hanging.


Swallow that for a moment.

We know who is the liar and we know who is not alive and we know who is weak and we know who does not care enough to stand for God.

Sweetnecta: @Omo Alata: This is ironic. The irony of it all is that the Christian Bibles say that God of the Christians in Trinity was killed by hanging. Omo Alata, was that "arm" too weak or cant save Himself? Jesus prepared for war in the same way they say Nidal of US army prepared for his last war; he sold all his belongings [Jesus told his disciples to sell all their belongings [your cloaks are the last of your belongings to dispose off, unless you wanna go about nu.de in a religious community. Thats a no no unless you wanna die].


@plappville: unless you admit that corinthians writer is the another comforter tell the disciples what they knew not during the time of Jesus, the above verse does not count. it is absolutely irrelevant.


they did not survive for all men to see them. you as a woman did not see a single one of them. Heck. Jesus said "you vipers". You need more to know that some men were not loved but hated by Jesus "Fools" Jesus was reported to have said, thought he had earlier condemned people who say "fools" to hell.


and the God that didn't have anyone to fight for Him was hung on a tree [Paul said he was a cursed soul]. Allah says dialogue with with them in wisdom and in a way that is noble/decent. If I show you that from the Quran, will you accept Islam, while i show you from the Bible that The God that does not hate evildoers by their deeds does not exist and the one who does not have strong fighters to follow him will get crushed by hanging?

LagosShia: If God is "literally" your "father",then who's your mother and who's her husband literally and how many fathers do you have literally? I hope you know what someone with more than one literal father is called.when you say someone is "literally" your father,you're claiming him to be your biological father.I hope you understand the implications of the words you utter.

AbdulSleek: You serious? I actually thought that you were very intelligent. What kind of remixing is this? commandments are rules. Please, I like listening to preaching sometimes but stop this convoluted logic and brainwashing.

deols: You people just don't get it? I as a Muslim don't need you to think Islam treats women as equals to men. SO, why do you want to?

Does christianity treat women as equals to men? Isn't submission to the husband preached by the bible? Your hypocrisy makes me laugh. You all act modernized, belonging to the new world whereas your religion says the opposite of what you proclaim.


ok. so, Islam doesn't put men and women in the same positions. They don't have the same social, biological and religious responsibilities. They are seen as two distinct groups whose roles make a synergy, one that makes a perfect society. Any problems you may be having with this is yours, not ours.

musKeeto: Hard to catch
Easy to hold
Can't be seen
Unless it's cold

ebonyvibe: @bukatyne

I agree with e everything you have said but I think we are saying the same thing just using different words.