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coogar: a woman cannot love her husband and cheat because women are mostly emotional beasts. a woman must have weighed the consequences of her action before carrying it out. she must have thought it through - women don't just act instinctively and are less adventurous than men.



stop double-speaking.
you are not advising she leaves but you are fuelling her to leave cos her husband has rejected her and blah blah blah. it's not in anyone's place to tell a married woman to leave her husband - unless you want to move in there after she leaves. it's not only about her - the kids have to be considered as well.

dwas: I know its a difficult situation irrespective of who is involve, however if a woman is a serial cheat, the man should keep loving her. Fighting her will only worsen the situation. I paused for a while, can I cope really with such a woman? hmmm!!! I pray that I should never experience such. Nevertheless, you can never tell what your action could be except you experience it. Until our confessions and faith is tested, we can never be too certain of our true person.

Like I said earlier, I will focus on God and continue to love her, though my current faith on this is not completely tested.

KINGwax: why won't he find another woman since june, when his wife has refused to embrace him into her life since june? And besides, stop being a man-hater. Help the OP heal and stop fueling her doubts by creating scary but truthful situation

KINGwax: why won't he find another woman since june, when his wife has refused to embrace him into her life since june? And besides, stop being a man-hater. Help the OP heal and stop fueling her doubts by creating scary but truthful situation

Johndoe100: Hysteric fits? Just concern for one who I look at as a daughter. How is your mum? Been long we had a session. She still good at getting things done with men? She was very good at getting lots of things done with me. Anyway you must have misheard her, the voices were what she said she hears whenever I ram my cvck down her throat and her head bangs on the wall.......bang, bang. bang. bang. Kinda messes up your perceptions after a while. Anyway I think I will pay her a visit this weekend. Has she got a new set of false teeth yet? Nothing like a mouth with no teeth for some cool deep throat. Damn she is a trooper.....bang, bang, bang, bang. bang, bang, bang

coogar: love and sex are 2 different things - only women put the 2 together as one. a cheating husband still loves his wife. most men don't even remember the names of the women they are sleeping with cos most of these extra marital affairs have no emotions attached. sex to most men is a physical expression like handshakes or hugs!

ekoboy: Your dad has given you a good advice but you've ignored it to come to nairaland. SMH. You think there is a perfect man out there? You have a man that did what many men would do but had the courage to come out and tell you and apologise and you are looking for advice. You can go ahead and kill a good relationship but don't blame your husband. It'll all be your fault. A wiser woman would just grab him immediately leaving you with nothing. Maybe then you'll realise how foolish you were.

Kingsleyinfo: that is exactly why the woman here has applied wisdom.
marriage is for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do you part.
there is nothing i fear more than those vows o....
if the woman choose to respect her vows, and find a solution that works then why not?

please there is a huge difference between boyfriend and husband.
if your boyfriend is cheating, dump his behind.
if your husband is cheating....that one na bad market
na to find way to benefit from the scenario be that.
untill Nigeria passes a law that makes cheating partners to pay during divorce proceedings
men will continue to misbehave.

and while they are misbehaving, fighting them has never and will never solve anything.

Clemzy16: The wife only stayed because the guy was rich.

salt 1: The man was enjoying the attention he was receiving and when she stopped giving it, he changed his style. It is ok if all your friend wants is to be his legally married wife. Good thing too, that he agrees to using condoms with his wife. Some husbands won't. They will insist on killing both themselves and the wife.
Now she expressly approves of his adultery and he showers her with gifts for accepting the role of a mother. She may soon accompany him to settle paternity issues involving him and the girls she sleeps with.
Since you are her friend, tell her to get a job, if she doesn't have one. She shd also pour her love into her children, if she has some.
Actually, she is not married. She is co-habiting. Unless TRUST is no more an element in marriage

salt 1: The man was enjoying the attention he was receiving and when she stopped giving it, he changed his style. It is ok if all your friend wants is to be his legally married wife. Good thing too, that he agrees to using condoms with his wife. Some husbands won't. They will insist on killing both themselves and the wife.
Now she expressly approves of his adultery and he showers her with gifts for accepting the role of a mother. She may soon accompany him to settle paternity issues involving him and the girls she sleeps with.
Since you are her friend, tell her to get a job, if she doesn't have one. She shd also pour her love into her children, if she has some.
Actually, she is not married. She is co-habiting. Unless TRUST is no more an element in marriage

LagosShia: Perhaps the bible can help us to answer your question:

"For if the woman be not covered, let her also be shorn: but if it be a shame for a woman to be shorn or shaven, let her be covered".(1 Corinthians 11:6)Then thou shalt bring her home to thine house; and she shall shave her head, and pare her nails;(Deuteronomy 21:12)

"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)

"Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience, as also saith the law. And if they will learn any thing, let them ask their husbands at home: for it is a shame for women to speak in the church."(I Corinthians 14:34-35)

MRbrownJAY: although there is nothing "seemingly" wrong with a 30yr old single woman, the alarm bell will clearly ring in my mind, but that's just me....so here is how i will evaluate such person (this is just MBJ's views, pls dont get offended):

[b]- as much as a +30yr old would "seemingly" look great, we all know that the skin elasticity may have seen its fair share of cream etc, so before settling for such lady, a GOOD LOOK at her without make up is necessary in order to have a clear evaluation of the skin quality/elasticity. a poorly cared-for skin would mean that this gal would quickly look like an old hag, after a few months/yrs (check her mother without make up for CONFIRMATION).

- skin elasticity also means that her tittays would certainly sag quicker than a 20yr old (if they didnt sag already).....so a good look at her nekkid and standing IS A MUST. if her tittays already sag pass the belly button, then you already know what to do. pls dont get fooled by them gals with big tittays firmly locked in push up bras, this is one of the fallacy of the 20th century and just another trick used by our sistas out there, lol!

- if that girl is beautiful, then alarm bells will be ringing even louder, as you most definitely must ask yourself:" what is it about this beautiful gal that drives people away?" YES, there must be something within her that is driving all potential mates away, something so foul that men are willing to disregard her beauty...so thread carefully!

- then the idea of WHY she has never been able to meet the right person must also be considered. as much as many may be unlucky like that, there are equal chances that she may have the wrong attitude, the wrong goals in life, the wrong mindset, the wrong lifestyle, the wrong background/past, TOO DESPERATE etc. again, a thorough check must be done to get to the bottom of it all, and know exactly what it is.

Cuddlemii: Lmao! Op, your own husband is a chronic womanizer and a sick man.

Married men cheat on their wives but they make the terms clear to the mistress that they are happily married but just want to have fun. For your husband to consistently deny the existence of you and your kids means he is a sick man. Infact to identify a married man that would take care of his mistress is by what he says about his family. If the married man tells his gf that he is happily married and the fault is not from his wife then he would take care of the gf.


For the gfs to keep calling you means your husband doesn't treat them well or take care of them as therefore they are warning you that your hubby is sick!!! One gf is even considered normal/acceptable for a responsible married man but numerous gfs only confirms he is a useless man.


Well, here is the truth your hubby won't change cos he dated two women in his office despite the fact that he was bursted the first time. Its like an addiction, his fettish is to screw white collar chicks and he is bored with his normal routine. There is nothing prayers can not do, just don't waste your energy fighting him or any gf. You can have a matured conversation with him though


But didn't you notice his womanizing ways during the dating/courtship stage or did you overlook it expecting him to change after marriage? How is the sexual activity at home going? Are you doing your best to satisfy your hubby? Do you sleep off or refuse to connect with him using facial contact? Have you refused him unconventional ways of intimacy? Have you been concerntrating fully on your kids alone? Maybe you need to spice things up a little and add a little spu-nk

toria1980: Dear Nairalanders,

My ex proposes to me, i refuse his marriage proposal because he is a Muslim.
in his words he said "i wont stop you from practicing your religion". but i refuse him, for two years now he is still beginning me to marry him

dlex21: nah...tinkybabe got the answer

dontador: Nah i only remove it wen am about to go for skinny dipping...**winks**

Blue moon: my dear, i like it o! its very sexy to me. but that's for boyfriend material. before we get married, he go commot am..lol

dontador: That's nonsense... I gat a tattoo with my nice body shape and physique.... Whenever i remove my tops gals will shout lyk wow!!! I am ugly but wen it comes to body shape and physique am the boss....##no boasting

LagosShia: You've being answered and I'm done with your thread.if you're not happy,get medical help.

Its 1:00am.I need to sleep.I'm sure you'd agree you're not another 'witch for Jesus' like the one Oyedepo gave hot slap in his church.my final advice to you at 1:00am is: get a husband!

LagosShia: Don't dear me.I'm not your dear.be patient next time as I've replied.or is satan pursuing you?

LagosShia: Yes! And also what is for sure and very embarassing is that 2 billion christians falsely believe their 'holy spirit' is the 'comforter'.the bible as I've explained makes it clear your 'holy spirit' isn't the 'comforter'.


Yes he is because the bible says a true spirit is a true prophet and a false spirit is a false prophet.therefore 'prophet' and 'spirit' are synonymous biblical terms.

Didn't you read my post where I explained that and used the relevant bible verses?


We worship the One who made you and made us 'in spirit and in truth'.we worship Him part of our belief in the unseen.if you don't,too bad for you!

afam4eva: Tufiakwa...why can't these Islamic countries redefine their mode of practicing Islam.

LagosShia: Read more:

"The New Islamic Nation In Undeniable Bible Prophecies"
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-820160.0.html

The Fifth Kingdom(of God) In The Bible Prophecy Of The Book " DANIEL 2" Is Islam!
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-772940.0.html

"Jesus (pbuh) Only Sent To The Jews And Not To Nigerians-leave Him Alone"!
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-821784.0.html

"Islamic Practices In The Bible Unknown To Christians"
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-817518.0.html