₦airaland Forum

aurenflani: Peolpe like you support gays, lesbians and all the crazy western freedom otherwise you would have seen that this is a mono religious community trying to keep It's values even at the expense of their daughters who get deceived by so called free "friend".

snakova: All these christians calling Islam backward dont even know their religion. Or do you think it was christianity that brought women all the freedoms they enjoy in western countries at the moment. Islam was the first religion to recognize the rights of women, not to treat women only as baby machines. Read some history and get englightened, stop feeding off western media propaganda.

bjcole: funny thread & complete waste of time, thank God, i didnt marry one of those so called liberal women, feminist, she would ve been long gone. If u cant submit 2 my authority, whether u like it or not, u r nt fit 2 be my wife, no wonder d whole place is littered with divorcees, even NL here, arant nonsense. My wife is a educated & knowlegdeable wit wisdom, she contributes her quota 2 d success of d home, [/bold]if i m nt please wit anything my wife is doing & she doent stop, thats d end of d marriage[/bold].

dinachi: @all the wanabe feminists, why will you submit to your boss, but not your husband? Why will you submit to your parents but not your husband? Only foolish women argue about submission. Every wise woman understands that submission dosent degrade but it elevates. You stoop to conquer! Any woman who argues about submision to the husband is suffering from the demon of pride, and remember it is pride that kept satan where he is today.Marriage is a CHOICE! If you are too proud and dont want to submit , then dont marry. Remain single and leave married folks out of your satanic wisdom. Dont join the new age movement in destroying one of the greatest institutions that God made. Finally,God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble! Submissiono is a sign of humility.If you are not humble as a woman , then marriage is not for you.If you want to make all your choices without any input, fine and good, just dont marry! You cannot eat your cake and have it. You want to be married, then learn submission , you dont want to submit then dont marry!

BetaThings: As a muslim, you should then obey the Quranic injunction that when an evil doer brings a story to you, investigate
Are you really sure, as you have implied here, that they are hiding under Islam
I hear of honour killings done by some people. As a Muslim, I have never personally seen people do it. It is even in my opinion something that will be treated as murder under Sharia law. But some muslims do it. Are we going to say they hide under Islam to do that evil. Indeed both muslims and traditional religion adherents in those places/countries might practise honour killing

My point, some people do things based on their culture rather than because of religion
Think about this, the Muslims in SW may have some practices that are similar to the practices of Christians in SW.
But Christians in SE might not do such things. So is it culture or religion that is at work?

aurenflani: Fornication and adultery are still frown at by descent people the world over. This includes both Muslim and Christian communities. Just because hypocrites like you think it is "freedom or civilise" would not stop descent humans from doing their thing. Ban them! Good riddance to abuse of opportunity! Viva decency!!!

la furia: what is wrong with some of you, simply because it was coming from the muslims you decided to go against it. well ignorance is an incurable diseases.

there is nothing wrong with what they did. they wanted to solve an issue that was of value to them than cell phones. their women are misusing the cell phones to communicate and elope with lovers, even married womam. this is a problem to them and decided the best way was to cut any form of communication. do u have a better solution? we know how cell phones break marriages in nigeria where a stupi.d ex will still be calling after the marriage.

there are advantages and disadvantages of using cell phones, in their case, the phone is being misuse by their women and they dont like. will approve of your wife making phones with men, i guess not.
my only reservation is how the women will make contact in case of emergency, a provision should be made available like a public phone both.

Tokotaya: Let me share an experience. The wife of a Pastor was delivering a sermon in a church in FESTAC recently and severely tongue-lashed Nigerian men for not being romantic. The girls screamed in agreement, while the boys grumbled. To prove her point she asked the men to raise their hands if they had bought flowers for their wives at least once since the year began. Only four of about 150 men in the audience raised their hands. She asked again, how many had treated their wives to a candlelit-dinner at least once. Only one man raised his hand and the women cheered him happily and glared at his wife with open envy. The next question: ‘This is the House of God, so please don’t lie. How many of you tell your wife ‘I love you’ first thing in the morning and last thing every night? Silence! The preacher thought that proved her argument convincingly that Nigerian men needed deliverance.
But this woman preacher, like most modern women have imbibed too much of foreign values that they don’t even know what is good for them. What will flowers do for a woman? She collects them in the morning and throws them into the trash can in the evening. What is a candle-lit dinner? These unfortunately are the signs some women look out for to be assured a man loves them. I say they are mistaken. Forget that rubbish about flowers and candle-lit dinner and watch out for signs of responsibility. A man may not buy you flowers, does he provide for you within his means? Does he stay at home with you and the kids when he has spare time? Does he offer to take care of the kids when you are tired? Does he sweep the dirty living room when you are getting dinner ready? Does he remember to send your mother money as often as he sends to his? Does he think nothing of emptying the trash cans occasionally and even cooking sometimes when he gets home before you? These are acts that add value to the life of a woman and ultimately improves the quality of her life.

Loveangel: I don't know if it's just about me but i hate virgins,no offense.

honeric01: Why should i wash my wife's clothes?

addictiv: i don't get it, why should someone see service as a punishment even something as little as food.....i mean the main idea of marriage is to serve each other isn't it? there is no law that says a woman must serve her hubby's meals and there is no law that says if she does it she ll automatically become a slave....so whats the problem here?

ArQueBusieR: Sounds like prostitution.

Idowuogbo: Joker! Go find oyinbo abeg!

Tokotaya: I think most women got life backwards. They have been westernised to place emphasis on things that, in the true sense, add no value to their lives. Who truly adds value to the life of a woman; a husband who buys her tons of flowers and calls her a dozen times in 24 hours while keeping a string of women he does the same thing for all over town, or a faithful man who is not romantic but diligently provides for his home and helps with house chores including changing his kids diapers?
To the ladies in the house, which would you prefer?

tshepiso: N TO THE O!no maid should even be closeto the pots.personally i wouldnt want a maid at all no matter how big my house is,is she not a woman like myself,how can she do all those house chores and i can`t.i would rather cook,clean ,fetch the kids from school,and iron for my family myself.Its better to be safe than sorry.

Elebiju: here comes another feminist,I know ur type and d kinda man u want,u need a mugu that will do d cooking,laundry even d baby's diapers and ur f..king undies abi?I do the cooking sometimes if my babe is tired but not as a chore,I'll only agree to d maid serving me if only she can serve me in bed

Frankie9ice: You r wrong lady,....submission in marriage for a woman has no requirement. Just be submissive to him,shikena! Even if he were a womanizer,an alcoholic,a abusive husband,an irresponsible guy etc,....just submit to him

50calibre: You seem to be championing the course of ignorant women who don't know their role in their quest for equality with men.

I am just laughing at you, I really hope you do get what you see i.e a really stubborn woman who will really put this your belief and theory to the test.

I only pity women who are mislead by your advise, because they will only have themselves to blame by the time they are in their 50s and single or divorced.

Foolish women get carried away by this so called male-
female equality cr*p being pushed by feminists who advise women to be rebellious to their husbands all in the name of equality whereas they themselves go home and submit whole heartedly to their husbands.

It has been proven time and time again that in any marriage where a woman doesn't want to submit to her husband doesn't last. Just look at marriages of old, and look at the modern marriages, the stats speaks for it self.

So many divorces with children left in the custody of the woman who fails to train and instruct the children right, they grow up and end up being failures.

Yet people won't learn

Nashville: So do you believe in equality in marriage? Do you think it can really work? Two captains in a ship? Two CEOs in one organisation? Two Presidents for one country? Two governors for one state? Tell me how it works, I am listening!! Or you may let your wife be the leader when you get married

Shollypopz: Submission of women without sugar-coating:

1.) Your husband has the final say. If u like voice your opinions as much as u want, his want and will comes b4 urs
2.) He decides what you do to help the family. It's not your choice
3.) You are a subordinate, he is the boss!
4.) You help him achieve his dreams. Yours doesn't matter cos what ur goal and dream should be is helping him achieve his.

hheheehehee *evil grin*.....Submission is crap, plain oppression and bullsh1t! If a home has to hv a head, then let the smarter one take the role. The role shouldn't be defined by gender.

Nashville: I have been seeing the word "HELPER" being wrongly used to describe a wife. The wife should be a "HELP MEET". A helper is someone coming to help you, a help meet is someone that completes you and that is the role of the woman. She should complement and complete her husband. She is his missing rib.

The issue of submission is both scriptural and sensible. Most companies are never run on a 50/50 basis, there is always a CEO or Chairman who has overall responsibility and that is the man's role. He has overall responsibility and accountability. Submission to your husband means loyalty, commitment and sacrifice. It means trusting his judgement and deferring to him if you disagree. It means you should not insult, belittle or ridicule him. It means you should honour and love him. And a real man will respond by giving you undying love - sacrificing anything for you.

For the men, you should be a leader in your house and not a BOSS. You should serve your family and lead by example. Service includes financial and material provision, protection, emotional and psycological support. Bringing the children up (it is not only the responsibility of the wife) and showing unconditional love. You should have the vision for the family.

Shollypopz: Submission of women without sugar-coating:

1.) Your husband has the final say. If u like voice your opinions as much as u want, his want and will comes b4 urs
2.) He decides what you do to help the family. It's not your choice
3.) You are a subordinate, he is the boss!
4.) You help him achieve his dreams. Yours doesn't matter cos what ur goal and dream should be is helping him achieve his.

hheheehehee *evil grin*.....Submission is crap, plain oppression and bullsh1t! If a home has to hv a head, then let the smarter one take the role. The role shouldn't be defined by gender.

50calibre: Submission of my wife to me means

- She accepts and appreciates my superiority and never challenges nor contradicts my decision rather she can let her opinions known politely.

- She respects and see me as her priority coming second in her life after God and can only pray to God and hope that I reciprocate the respect.

- She sees me as her supreme leader, and should always make herself available without second thoughts or hesitation for her conjugal duties, cooking, or anything else should I demand it of her.

- She should see my love for her as a privileged and not a right, and should work tirelessly to earn and keep my love.