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this is a must read for some gals not all who use social media! i mean where has the brain of some ladies gone to? 'i am friends wit a married man, he's asking me out, i say no, he say yes, i say issoright, he invited me for party, he touch me but didn't penetrate, he's a good, i am a fun, he invited me for party, bla bla bla! i mean she opened her mouth to say that disgusting story i don't know the kind of training pple get these days! that's why it's good to introduce a child to God @ an early age! i don't understand the logic behind meeting an unknown person online and fixing a date, sending unclad pictures etc. these are the kind of children i support their parents selling (lol!) thank God she has given her life to Christ. she should better spread the gospel to other ladies like her who are a disgrace to womanhood! u know a man is married and u re stil frolickin wit him! as for the 'married' man, their wives should better pray hard that such things don't visit their daughters cos if those retarded empty headed good for nothing gals curse them, it'll stick like glue! i'm pissed up wit this story!

LagosShia: every prophet in his days was the way,the truth and the life.only Muhammad (sa) sent as a mercy to mankind as stated in the holy Quran is the way,the truth and the life of all times up to the day of judgement and even afterwards.

that is exactly what Jesus (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said about Muhammad (sa).

from the below also,you can see that Jesus (as) could not have taught "all truth" because of time constraint during his stay on earth and persecution he faced:

John 16:12-15
12 "I have yet many things to say to you, but you cannot bear them now.13 When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth; for he will not speak on his own authority, but whatever he hears he will speak, and he will declare to you the things that are to come. 14 He will glorify me, for he will take what is mine and declare it to you. 15 All that the Father has is mine; therefore I said that he will take what is mine and declare it to you.


even if you do not agree out of fanaticism that Muhammad (sa) is the prophet described as the "spirit of truth" -note that in the bible's new testament a prophet is called a spirit.

1 John 4:1
" Dear friends, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, because many false prophets have gone out into the world".

1 John 4:3
"And every spirit that confesseth not that Jesus Christ is come in the flesh is not of God: and this is that spirit of antichrist, whereof ye have heard that it should come; and even now already is it in the world".

and also the prophet to come is referred to as the "paraclete",my point is to show you that there is "a truth" which even Jesus (as) mentioned and accepted to be greater than him in leading people into "all truth".

and you got from John 16: 12-15 that Mohammed is the Spirit of Truth? was he a spirit? Do Christians and muslims serve the same God?

maclatunji: ^The rule for men is different to women, a man may leave without blame any part of his body outside the area of his navel down to his knees.

and why is it different? women don't lust after men too?

dlex21: What three numbers have the same answer when added together and multiplied together?

what has keys but open no locks, has space but no room and u can enter but not go in?

A man was going to buy a $5000 car, but he didn't pay a penny for the car, how is this possible?

1. numbers 1, 2 and 3.
1+2+3 = 6
1 x 2 x 3 = 6

2. keyboard has keys but can't open a lock.

3. thru POS terminal

maclatunji: I guess if you repeat that long and hard enough, you will actually believe that. Jesus (according to the Bible) was crucified abi? What's special about that (apart from you being brainwashed with it)? There have been hundreds or thousands of people crucified over time so what would be the big deal to humanity if another man was added to the list?

Jesus Christ was God who came in the form of flesh (man) to die for our sins. His blood that was shed on calvary heals, saves, delivers, cleanses, makes one whole, redeems etc. read Philippians 2

Sweetnecta: @bukatyne: there is no fantasy, but reality unless the another comforter has not come, yet? no one fulfill the duties out lined by Jesus that the another comforter will carry out, considering that Muhammad [sa] was a cousin of Jesus [as] trough Ibrahim [as] the father of true faith and not faiths. And just because a female is corrupt does not make her not to be a woman, still since there are still elements of womanhood remaining still. Same with the Bible: God did not reveal it to any prophet, But God revealed Torah to Moses. Sabur to David [as] and Injil to Jesus [as]. Since each was successive after the former, the purity of each when the prophet that received it was alive was at its highest. Hence, when Jesus was alive what he was preaching was more pure than the Torah that was in the community before him. This was his reason that he was correcting and admonishing his people, whom he was sent. Quran is preserved during the lifetime of the Messenger [sa] and remains in the authentic form, in its original arabic.


Holy spirit is synonymous with prophet of God, being "spirit from Him" in the test the spirit as see if it is from God. A prophet is a warner, a teacher, a leader from God. so your holy spirit who did not fulfill any of the roles of "another comforter" cant be what Jesus promised. I doubt if the students of Jesus would be so daft to have forgotten what Jesus taught so quickly that they needed correction on Day of Pentecost.


i hope you will return to examine all about Jesus statement about another comforter giving the opinion that there must be at least one former before the another comforter. I hope you will let us examine the functions of another comforter, and just maybe 'comforter' as a whole, former and another that is after all the former. I also hope that you will appreciate the examining of prophet being teacher,

do you think we serve the same God?

andromida: For anyone who believes in Jesus Christ we know for fact that mohammed is not our comforter. We know the spirit of God has existed since the beginning of creation and since God lives forever his spirit abides with those who are willing and able to submit to his authority. Naturally there will always be those who scorn the existence of the holy spirit but should not be our concern.

Mohammed is not the comforter our lord Jesus promised us.How can he be since he is long dead and will rise like the rest of us on the last day to be judged. But praise be to the Almighty God in the name of his holy child Jesus who in his infinite wisdom allows us to have fellowship with his spirit even here on earth.

good one!

maclatunji: Think deeply, Jesus (AS) was never married for example. What lessons can you learn from him in terms of marriage or being a father? It is silly to think that God would send Prophets to the earth and would not seek to give proper guidance in terms of the basic social unit of human existence which is the family.

We Musims love Jesus (AS) but understand that his mission was limited. Hence, there had to be someone who would come after him to complete God's divine message for man that had been revealed bit-by-bit from the time of Adam (AS). That person is Prophet Muhammad (SAW) and like you said, Jesus (AS) did tell of his coming.

If you just think without the bias of all you have been trained with, you will understand that this makes more sense than claiming that Jesus was talking of the "Holy Spirit". The concept of the Holy Spirit is even more laughable than that of God having "a son." Think about these points deeply.

read John chapters 14 - 16. a question for u; do u think we worship the same God?

Kobojunkie: Does it matter what extra activities YOU CHOOSE to get yourself hooked on the side?

it does... i am not for/against maids, it depends on individual situation but i won't make a general/blanket statement/standard for everyone.

lepasharon: no mind them..the bible says a comforter who will be with you FOREVER.Mohammed was not here forever,and he sure aint no comforter..

thanks. i know it's true but i wonder wat makes them think that.

@ deols: thanks for ur explanation. i like ur attitude to this hijab thing. u make it sound like fun! so the aim of the hijab is to cover d muslimah's beauty so men wouldn't lust after her. so wat do handsome muslims do to cover their handsomeness because if i get you right, clothes are accessories and i believe men should also be covered. i always find d image of a handsomely dressed man wit good clothes and his fully hijabed wife funny! however, i kinda like some small sexy hijabs muslimahs put on, it's nice. once again, i like ur logical reasonin in some instances.

Tinkybabe: Answer this:

6-1x0+2/2=?(show your working)

using BODMAS:
2/2=1
-1*0= 0
6 + 0 + 1= 7

any accessory that doesn't complements the lady's body structure, complexion or face.

dlex21: u need panasharp!!!

another 1
Three brothers share a family sport:
A non-stop marathon
The oldest one is fat and short
And trudges slowly on
The middle brother's tall and slim
And keeps a steady pace
The youngest runs just like the wind,
Speeding through the race
"He's young in years, we let him run,"
The other brothers say
"'Cause though he's surely number one,
He's second, in a way."
who are the three brothers

a wall clock

@OP: these rules are really important when one wants to have a beautiful relationship. however, we are not perfect and so might be lacking in one or two areas. the most important thing is not a perfect man/woman (b'cos there is none), but an imperfect person striving to be the perfect partner for you. when guys start ranting like this, it makes me wonder: are the quality of men in Nigeria so low? those having their marriages/relationships sweet worked for it and it paid off. the key is looking for a partner that deserves ur best and not saying u can't do this or that. those rules above can stil apply to friendships so wat's d problem? it is because we are not ready to go the extra mile or work hard that our human relations is so poor in this country! we don't GENUINELY care for one another, we just pay lip service!

taryour: realy

yes, really. read freshera's posts on the first/second page, he/she did justice to this topic. u can have ur person opinion but please don't misquote the Bible to prove a point. the Bible never stated anywhere that a man and a woman are not equal. thanks

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cap28: nobody takes anybody away from anyone - people leave either because they are not happy or they think they have alternative options open to them, a man who loves his wife does not simply get taken away by as you say "desperate women" that man must have already made up his mind to leave.

and i thought i was d only one that was amazed when people say 'be careful so they don't snatch him away' like men are a senseless handbag that 'women' can snatch. any man that uses that to threaten his woman is indirectly saying 'i've no brain of my own' or 'i don't have a worth'!

@OP: if u understand the mystery of the married union as established by God, u'll know that there's nothing like inequality even in marriage

deols: So many reasons to wear adornments my dear. You may just love them, and that you should never be denied. You need to see beautiful henna(tattoos) on arms or ears pierced at many places with beautiful ear rings. how about belly buttons. In fact, the clothes you wear that the hijab covers are adornments. Hairstyles too.

that you are not wearing adornments doesn't mean you can't wear the hijab. The most important thing about it is as an obedience to the command by Allah that you should wear it. the other things like the adornment, modesty, etc are secondary. (and these are exactly what I was hoping to talk about when Mr. moderator pointed at derailment. I hope I havent done that already sha #novex

i go wit mactunji on this. the hijab covers up a woman's beauty. u must really be a liberal muslim/person talking of body piercings and multiple ear piercings. if u do al this stuffs, who do you do them for? u'll agree wit me that it is natural for humans to dress up better when goin out than @ home. are u telling me that when in your room, u make up, wear earrings and al that, wear sexy clothes and then when you are goin out you just cover up? then who are you dressing up for.? i appreciate your detailed explanation

deols: ^^no problem about not derailing the thread. I would still like you to point out references to the hijab being meant to conceal beauty. there is a difference between beauty and adornments. Don't get it twisted.


I remember emofine2 saying she finds eyes attractive. Does that make covering the eyes compulsory? How about beautiful good looking men, do they get to conceal their beauty too? and in what way?

what is d use of wearing adornments if u ll conceal them? wat is the function of concealin them? does it mean that if a woman uses no adornment, she can go out without an hijab?

for those against maids even wit heavy workloads in the office, monster traffic, husband not helping in the house, little kids to take care of etc, pls wat do you do apart from all these? wat extra activities re u into? are you active in church, community, politics etc etc?

Dis Guy: surpring how people dont really see anything wrong with a catholic nun/sister wearing a veil but have very strong opinion about how a muslim woman choose to dress

And does the bible differientatie between 21st century women and old testament women?

my dear, wearing of veils on d face was never biblical! the only person who did dat was Moses and it was to cover his glory! christianity is a way of life and not a religion so it has no dress code as far as u are decent. the way a yoruba christian would dress is different from an hausa christian, an igbo christian, indian christian etc. i'm sure u know that when something new replaces an Old one, u follow the new and mesh things compatible wit the new from the old. the Old Testament basically talks about d isrealites, their relationship wit God(the law) and the coming of Jesus Christ which was fulfilled in the New Testament. for example, in the OT, men wore skirts and gowns. i'm sure u don't expect christian men of today to wear skirts. God's laws is written in our hearts so it's no religious show of wear this, touch this, do this, eat this etc. all those rules were just a shadow of the NT.

tai2: Lol...it's good you're appreciating God's gift in your life but when dealing with these females sometimes devilish tact is required. Them no know God, thus control measures are required.

thank God u know ur tactics are devilish! the fact that some men are bad, dogs etc doesn't mean i become a bi*tch! it means i prayerfully and commonsensically choose a guy! al d guys complainin and agreein wit al this bullocks, ow did their relationship start? my dear, ur 'theory' can only work in a loveless relationship/marriage. if a man genuinely loves a woman, it shows! everybody knows it and it's the woman's loss if she let's d guy go. i'm not saying women are perfect, i'm sayin that instead of u becoming a monster that can't express love b'cos u want to be 'in control', look for the gal that suit ur ideas! al this fake control and real control bull don't work wit me. as a poster said, pres. lincoln taught his son to be gentle on gentle pple and be tough on tough pple! when pple treat me well or say nice things about me, i try hard not to fail them! i pray and strive to be d best for them. my advice for u is too look for a gal that is virtous and u'll not be afraid to express urself to her. i have lived a life where i don't show my emotions, i don't cry, i try not to feel and my dear, it's empty and draining! i wouldn't trade this life where i can tell my guy anything or express myself and vice versa for anything in this world! God created us wit a hunger for certain things and like it or not, til u fulfill them, u can never be satisfied! a real control man may be happy in his relationship but a man that expresses himself fully ll have joy! one is temporary and depends on situations another is permanent no matter the circumstances! go figure the one u want! have a splendid day.

Cuddlemii: I am just giving general security measures for visiting people outside your state. If u look closely you will notice I used the words, "unknown/known men" in another state. I wasn't only referring to an unknown person. A known bf/friend can still harm a lady knowing she is visiting from another state. We are not safe with both known/unknown people. The people out there are dangerous whether known/unknown.

Whenever anyone is visiting anyone, make sure you let people know where you are going and whom you are going to see. A person going for just mere official visit with his known business partners can be poisoned to death and buried and no one would find out because he didn't inform anyone about his travelling.

Yes, a decent girl/guy shouldn't visit people they met online but realistically they do and some got away with it. With this now, I am sure everyone would be more conscious than negligent.

i agree wit ur security measures for known persons cos it happens esp during business deals. anyone that tells me he/she is goin to 'visit' someone he/she met online, he/she is on his/her own!

Jubby: House plz let jst allow d gal rest in peace cos we all r quick to 4gt dat it waz destined to end like dis for cynthia and nobody else can predict his/her destiny,but pray to GOD that ur destiny ends well. for every1 that as spoken including her parents,u all talked as humans where some said the right thing and some just said things irrelevant to this case. above all let GOD be the judge.

my dear, i don't agree that everything that happens is 'destined'! if we tried to follow God's guidelines, we would save ourselves a lot of heartaches. a gal that died of abortion is not 'destined' to die that way. it's a consequence of her actions. as we lay our beds, we lie on it.

i went thru this tread and i was like woaw! we have guys that stil think like this? and people wonder why there is so much bitterness in this country! some people even talk of real control in marriage! it's very obvious a lot of guys don't know wat love is about. pls read 1cor13:1-8, it's one of my favourite Bible passages. some christians even agreed to the OP. it has been said that people ll be desperately wicked and here we are. a guy even boasted that he ended his relationship on val's day! another boasted that he slept wit someone's fiancee and later they ll wonder why things re not working for them or why they re miserable in their marriages. ladies have to pray hard that God gives them their own man b'cos d heart of man is desperately wicked. a poster said something i like so much, if u change from a nice guy to a control guy cos a gal hurt u then my dear, the hurt is controllin u and u re not in control of anything cos when u don't express urself fully, u can never live life to the fullest. i'm also very grateful for this thread, i knew the treasure i had but such treads widen my opened eyes and help me to appreciate God's gracious gift to me. i ll text him tonight to appreciate him again! the Bible says 'he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord' and i believe it applies to women too! in the Nigeria of today wit such mindset flying about, a virtous woman who finds a faithful man who genuinely loves her is blessed of the Lord!

Cuddlemii: I want to enlighten us on some security measures we can take in the future.

Before Departure: If you are visiting an unknown/known men, make sure you inform four of your friends/cousins/family members that you are going on a trip. Provide the Location, Name/phone number of the guy(s), Facebook/Forum account & images, the duration you are spending there. Tell them you would update them if there is an extension in your stay, inform them that after the stipulated time you ought to spend elapses and no word is heard from you, they should get worried.

Upon Arrival: Inform the men that you have told 6 people where you are going and given all their details to them for security reasons. When you get to any location, text the address of the place or name to your friends. Also update the men that you have told your family where you are. If you are moved to another location again, update your friends. IF the men have hidden agendas, they probably would be irritated by now and get rid of you for being a liability or at least be conscious and considerate with whatever they want to do to you.

I know babes like being secretive & coded with their waka but when it involves strangers in another state, you had better inform reliable hands that can get you justice if it ever deteriorate to this level. Assuming there was no camera in the hotel or the men did not call the hotel back, how would they have traced the men? The information the babe provided to friends/cousins would have gone a long way.

and why would a well brought up decent gal/boy in her/his right senses go and visit someone they have only met online?

sheyma: Na wa 4 all d men wey dey support dis motion o, men are now becoming women and women r becoming men.very soon men go leave dere surname and bear d woman papa name jst in d name of God knw what. Smh men r nw becoming weak.

and ur definition of a man is someone who is a bully or doesn't respect women or wat? if you want to know who a real man is, study diligently the life of Jesus Christ, u ll learn one or two things from him.

sheyma: Na wa 4 all d men wey dey support dis motion o, men are now becoming women and women r becoming men.very soon men go leave dere surname and bear d woman papa name jst in d name of God knw what. Smh men r nw becoming weak.

and ur definition of a man is someone who is a bully or doesn't respect women or wat? if you want to know who a real man is, study diligently the life of Jesus Christ, u ll learn one or two things from him

Donxavier: I weep at what some ladies are spewing here. We are in trouble. No wonder marriages never last this days. Westernazation has already destroyed our family values.

and wat is our family values?

LCASHMAN: Y'ALL ARE DUMB bleeps.I DO MY OWN LAUNDRY BY MYSELF BT WATS D BIGGIE IF UR G.F CHOSE TO DO HER MAN'S LAUNDRY? ITS AS SIMPLE AS, 'HONEY CAN U DO MINE AS U RE DOING URS'?.SO UNA WAN TEL ME SAY IF SHE PREPARES HER OWN WATER ,U TOO,U GO USE ANODA BUCKET PREPARE UR OWN 4 ANODA CORNER.MY PPLE WAT HAPPENED TO WASHING TOGEDA?

i ll say there is no general rule to somethings! we all have our principles but when we get into relationships, we study and c if we ll modify our principles or stick to them. as a person, i don't like cooking for guys. i can go to my galfriend's house, cook, help her clean up and all that however, i can't do that for a boyfrnd. when i met my guy, i had that principle but i studied to see how our relationship would be defined. he saw no prob in cooking for me, we doing laundry and everything together. in such a case, it would be extremely foolish and stupid of me to stick to my guns and say 'i don't do a guy's laundry'! i had to format my principle when it came to my fiancee sharp and probably pick it up for other friends. i cook for him and do other things that needs to be done when necessary cos he does d same thing. he helps me to cook so y can't i do the same? infact, b'cos he loves good food and he's an excellent cook, i sit down and create new ways of cooking a meal just to see his beautiful smile lol! however, if it is a guy that thinks it is his 'right' for me as his galfrnd to cook for him or wash his clothes, he go grow bear bear! infact, d relationship wouldn't last!