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Lordcassy:
You don't understand or maybe you have not got to that part of the redpill...

Men don't cheat, women do...(oo the misogyny lol)
Yes Men don't cheat and even God knows it...we are polygamous by nature and so can't be with one woman for a long duration of time....please note Men are polygamous yes but not all men can pull it off...

Woman cheat, yes they do...because of hypergamy...hypergamy is not fucking a bunch of dude..hypergamy is getting the best dude...it is their nature to stick with one man that fulfills a reasonable criteria...

In the good old days that criteria used to be...does he have a hut/house, does he has a farm we can both work for our daily bread, can he take charge of farm and take care of me if I am pregnant.....if you were a privileged chief daughter you can maybe on rare occasions add, is he handsome..

Even as simple as this criteria is Women can't still fulfilled their needed hypergamy alone...Society ordained the girl Father to check for her...and make the decision because women are easily decieved..

Then feminism and romance...Women in their almighty wisdom developed new hypergamy for themselves...things like.. dick, chiseled abs(do your exercises bros),smooth talker etc you know the rest...
you check the 80s magazine to find out

then 21century hypergamy you know the rest.

SO HOW DO MEN CHEAT I MEAN, LORDCASSY IT IS NOT FAIR, I HAVE A SISTER BLAH BLAH BLAH...YOU ARE JUST BITTER?..

Lordcassy replies
Men do cheat but not the way women do...polygamy is my mating strategy and hypergamy is your...well you got me to put a ring on it didn't you....so I would like to think you fulfilled your sexual strategy but what about me, do you want me to sacrifice my sexual strategy for you....never!

A man only cheat me if . he break his vow he made before God to his wife...
TO LOVE AND TO HOLD...yes I sleep around but I still love my wife and she is still in my house...
TO CHERISH TILL BLAH BLAH...Yes she is the mother of children, she will be cherished by me and our children.. Soo...

The point is A MAN ONLY CHEAT IF HE ALLOCATE THE RESOURCES NEED FOR HIS WIFE AND OFFSPRING NOURISHMENT TO SOME DUMB HOE...THEN THAT MAN MY FRIEND IS A CHEAT AND HAS NO HONOUR...

A MAN IS CHEAT IF HE SIMPS AND CHASES HIS WIFE AND CHILDREN UNPROVOKED OUT OF HIS ABODE AND BRINGS IN A NEW VIPER....THAT MAN IS A CHEAT...

MONOGAMY IS UNFORTUNATELY NEED FOR SOCIETY TO FLOURISH...BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO BE WITH ONLY YOUR WIFE JUST DON'T BE A FOOL...

I can go on and on...but the MISOGYNY..LOL

Yes my lord!

BigBashiru:
finances must be 50-50 for a relationship to be just and this has nothing to do with hypergamy. a woman presents herself at 27 for marriage after being used up by various bfs.... in such a case if I foot 100% or 80% finances that means I'm a fool. she's been bleeped by men she finds attractive and now wants me to spending my lifetime working to feed her under some nonsense marriage.

for this reason alone finances must be 50-50.

So, you expect a woman who was never industrious but a wh0re before she hit the wall to eventually become industrious and take charge of 50% of the house bills. Wonderful! Please, invite me to that utopia because I'm still in the real world. In fact, it is even an opportunity for her to continue her wh0ring stealthily as she tries to meet up with the 50%. What a great opportunity for her.

By the way, are redpill members told not to get engaged to damaged women?

Lol!

darkelf:
Bros you may well hate me for what I am about to tell you. You may even call the mods to ban me

But please HELP YOUR FELLOW MAN!!!

Don't let that poor struggling boy marry your SIL. Tell him the truth about the kind of woman she is and let him decide

Take him as your own younger brother. If you were privileged to discover that your own younger bro wants to marry such a person, would you allow him to go ahead.

Try and find out his number if you don't have it. Call him and warn him about the demonic trap he is about to enter. I fear for the guy already and I don't even know him

Your SIL doesn't deserve such a gem. She would never value hardwork if a good man just drops on her laps like that.

Bro, you will be savng that man's lide by warning him

I am a Christian and it's often said that the worst thing that can happen to a christian apart from hell fire is bad marriage

Warn the guy please. Put yourself in his shoes. Your SIL doesn't deserve him

To be candid, you don't give people advice! And those that seek for advice already know what to do and just looking for an advice to confirm their bias. Humans hardly change except by experience or their own volition.

A military friend of mine is making arrangements so that he can be able to relocate to Canada. He has two kids already and I don't know if to classify the mother of the kids as a babymama or wife. He told me once he relocate to Canada he will like to settle down and bring a woman from Nigeria to settle down with him. I told him that Canada is not a place for that as the marriage law isn't favourable for the man. He told me he needs someone to take care of the house, that he can't be alone blah blah blah... he even abused me with subtilty. Me just 'kukuma' rest for the matter. He has already made up his mind.

Men in love are one of the most difficult to counsel, so you allow them to get burnt.

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Aaron12:
I AGREE WITH THIS, IT IS BETTER THAN YOU HAVE A JOB AND YOUR WOMAN IS WORKING THAT A LAZY PARASITE HOUSEWIFE AS YOUR WOMAN.

1. Only the few men that are able to abide to the tenets of the redpill through thick and thin will be the only ones to maneuver their ways with women and remain at the top. Because to be more truthful, this game will tarry and see many more nights and days as the male population aren't aware of it. Redpill aware men are a but a speck of dust in the desert of men.

2. Mum and dad might have told you stories how our grandparents, uncles and aunts wake up early as 4am or 5am in order to get to their farmlands early which was miles away. In those days when technology was still at its neoteny, and the tempo of civilization hasn't eroded the uniformity of the family unit, women right from their juvenile stage already knew that their husbands are their crowns and the men, took care of their wives and children and in return they helped him in his farm works and multiply his business. In those days, at midday when twilight seems approaching, grandmothers and some of the children are sent home to take care of the house and prepare dinner. All these ensured that the family unit remain stable!

Everything was cool until technology and science metamorphosed speedily and of which the government took advantage of. Men were promised better jobs than their farm works and slowly they drifted away from their families. And later, both their wives and children were introduced into the work force by the government.

3. The truth is that as a man, as far as a woman is beneath your roof, you will face different dilemmas. Which ever method you decide to use, you'll be on the losing side except you decide to cheer and comfort yourself constantly. If you're very pragmatic, you will see no need for romance and women and you won't enjoy both. By nature, men are the expendable sex! Like I will always say, your gain is the furtherance of your genetic line via your offsprings. Other things you think you're gaining are paltry.

4. 50/50 never works any where. Workers might be paid same amount of salary doing same work but if you go under the table you will find out that some of the workers do better than others.
In marriage, even if the woman is the most logical of all, a unicorn, it is already inscribed in her instincts that you're a man, a leader and must take the lead. Even if she agrees 50/50 and adhere to it, one way or the other hypergamy will always fight her within.

Enter the workplace or corporate organisations and see firsthand that both single and married men flirt with married women. The attention she ought to give you and her kids is spread towards her boss, colleagues and clients, what you get at the end of the day is poor attention, boring sex and complaints.
Women are attracted to men that supply them feel good emotions, and trust me, in the workplace with male colleagues they do get it! Women also get excited in places where their emotions can be heightened, hence, you find them as the highest population in religious and social gatherings.

On the flip side, a lazy woman is a doom to her home. Not able to carryout specific functions that can help sustain her family is catastrophic! Because her male children wouldn't know how an industrious woman looks like and her daughters what to do in order to become industrious and profitable to her husband and community. This again is another dilemma if you allow her be a stay at home mum. But at least she will have time for you and her kids.

5. Modern day woman requires a whole lot of energy from her man in order for her to stay put. Ensuring that round and square pegs are deposited in their respective holes, he can at least enjoy the relationship while it lasts. Many relationships fail today and continually because both sexes don't understand themselves and nature. Intersexual dynamics is an exchange platform where each or one must compromise for the success of the relationship. Both sexes might evolved to be complementary which of course is true, but deep down, they are not cooperative! (Women ought to compromise because men are already on the losing side).

50/50 relationship is void of respect and a lazy woman is a liability. The corporate world is not meant for your woman. So, what then?
Some men I have worked for have their own big business, what they do is find a place to attach their wives. This is also similar to what our grandparents practiced in the past, there's a division of labour there and the woman's boss is her husband. Other men I have also come across set up businesses (under their names) for their wives so that they can be their own boss, and some of these businesses are within or not too far from their place of residence.
This method is not ideal as women can still go haywire, but at least, it tends to minimize their craziness.

If you are interested in marriage as a man, Know your mission and what it entails, see if there is any space you will need a woman and if there be, marry a woman that her own mission blends with that space. Therefore, as the woman is fulfilling her purpose, she is also fulfilling yours.

Thanks.

emmaodet:
My annoyance with the present day marriage is not because of the set-up rather the mentality of the women entering it.
Tbh, many of them are not or have not prepared themselves over time for it.
A case study is my SIL - she will be 26 few months from now, a graduate, finished serving, no job nor does she cares to look for one.
All she does is post her pictures on her Fb and WhatsApp status, saying how beautiful she is even though to me she looks 5/10 but the way she carry herself as if she is 9/10(don’t know who are deceiving these ladies), sometimes she will be dancing in her room and post it, Dre’s up and video herself cat walking and post it. Many more.
I always just wander what is really going on with most of them, always seeking internet attention and validation.
She will be marrying next year to a guy that has been hustling is ass off sinceeee. He became an orphan at a very young age, just a little age difference with my SIL yet over time, out of hustling and jostling, he has developed the necessary skills needed to survive the harsh world without any parental help. Always doing one thing or the other to survive yet his gf is virtually useless and not bringing much to the marriage table rather a big mouth with a big taste for what she can’t afford herself.
I looked at her and I compared her to my youngest brother who is also her age mate and I saw a big difference in thinking between the 2 sexes of same age.
While my brother is lonely, hustling trying to get his feet on ground because things are not yet straight for him, probably struggling to keep a decent relationship because he is a hustler and not sexually attractive to the average female, she on the other hand is busy dancing, cat walking, concerned about her beauty and all because she is not worried about life. Another human will take care of it for her - the boyfriend cum future hubby

Excellent take!

If only these men hastening themselves into marriage will for once sit down and have some introspection, they'll know they are doing themselves much hurts by committing to these kind of arrogant women. She will hardly appreciate the man that commits to her because he's one in a thousandth or more that brings attention to her. Social media is there to supply her more and more attention, so why respect and show concern about the man that placed her under his roof? Why bother to improve on herself? Why not bask in hedonism and enjoy her h0e phase when she's guaranteed a secured man?

Social media and dating app has enabled these women who are lazy, average or below to corral at the top when they really have nothing to offer. Men out of scarcity mindset or in an attempt to experience sexual novelty always validates these women entitlement mentality putting a five(5) star review on it. Men's standards when it comes to sexual relationship is low; nevertheless, following an evolutionary explanation, men just want sex and with whatever woman. However, in this modern age, man must thoughtfully and consciously work with these underlying instincts to secure women who are worthy of his commitment, because of a truth, modern day women want to have their cake and eat it when they have nothing to offer literally.

Thanks.

Tonnyray:
Haha
As the Lord lives and His Spirit lives I kuku never do ashawo before in my life.. (at least not knowingly if ever) I owe it to my parents though. The creed in the home just too strong.
But as per the church thing I mentioned, guy, let's not call a dog a monkey
There are some mega churches (one in Guzape, one in Asokoro and one in Maitama especially.. I won't mention their actual names but any Abuja gamer go don code), I will just tell you where to park and wait after service and see the wonders of the Creator as they file out and go by.
Your life shall never remain the same again like they say.

Looooooooooool.

Oga Tonny, leave my life alone for Jesus!

Tonnyray:
You did the right thing dawg..
With that tone it would have amounted to demeaning your frame acquiescing to her wish
If the tone was different, I for one would have obliged like DeusMagnus suggested. That is my personal MO.
Modern day churches are vast fishing fields for hot bootys.

'Ashawo man'. Repent!

Lol!

PS: as for me and my house and martinez39s we'll follow Jesus. Skepticus and Luminouz, no hope, they are idol worshippers.

ProphetJeroboam has left God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob to follow 'yansh', yet, he will be the one telling us to chase purpose yen yen yen. Mtcheew.

Omini247:
Evening TRP there's this point I want to stress a little..."To be chosen"
You have to receive the confirmation that you have been chosen b4 taking action
Girls these days give fake green lights just to count you among the guys that tried to bang her.
There's this mindset I use it's called the-more-you-look-the-less-you-see
When you are looking you might get to see a fake green light.
But when you are focused on your shit you might even get a girl grab you by your alm.
Authority: Don't second guess it, don't save her.

True!

1. Greenlight can happen within split seconds and you don't need to have the whole day or week to draw a confirmation. It can happen in social gatherings, or even with women you're just meeting for the first time. All it requires is a keen sense of observation and her reaction towards you.

2. (Damaged) women fake greenlight so that they can quickly sell themselves out of the sexual market place and get hooked to a simp. It's a subtle art.

What you need do is to be redpill aware and protect your time, energy, attention and resources(TEAR). If after the greenlight the woman tends to show much concern on your TEAR, you cut her off. As she fakes the greenlight, you must continually use your TEAR as a litmus test to demystify her. And that's why you must initiate your mating calls when you sense a greenlight(real or fake). She might fvck you, then, quickly switch to gold digger mode, dump her!

NB: it is an attention boost for women to see their list increase with the number of men they reject. But what matters for you is that you don't end up orbiting around them. Hence, spin plates/abundance mindset.

3. Real greenlight or what is known as genuine desire 'although will need these things(TEAR)' but never it is considered as the reason to fvck you and stay close to you. Remember: alpha fvcks beta bucks!

Whether real or fake greenlight, guard your TEAR with all diligence because out of it flows the rivers of life when you fall into mishaps.

Thanks.

sajmark:
Weak men are about to create hard times...

Since they can't improve on their competency and thrive through, they should just be given a leeway to legislative seats. That's to tell you that EQUALITY BETWEEN THE SEXES IS A COLOSSAL LIE!

Meritocracy must be downtrodden so that women can be accommodated. After all, the 'pains of childbirth and cooking is hell for women'.

Sigh!

Hustle2flex:
It has been a long while since I have posted on this 'peaceful crib'.Yeah,I called it 'peaceful crib' cos any time I breeze into this thread to top up my pill,I feel like I am liberated all over again.My brain continues to be reconditioned from the bullshit we were fed when we are still in the 'world'(chains of female manipulations).

One thing that I have continued to observed is that Women gat to no love for men and that any time they profess 'love',it is because they saw that you have good potentials or resources to gain from the association.Once you as a guy refuses to make it available,they zoom off.Very selfish set of people.

Women in general are quick to get you commit to them because they know they gat nothing to offer apart from sex.Securing long lasting commitment is women greatest goal and also their greatest achievement.Any woman that fails in this regard suffers terribly.
That why they can adapt to any role or assume different personalities just to fulfil this particular purpose.

You are a woman,you are not yet working or doing something tangible for yourself to earn some income but you have the guts to demand that your man should be financially well to do,take care of you and all that.Then what exactly are you bringing to the table except to come and become ungrateful liability.Many guys are afraid of commitment these days cos they are looking for something more valuable beyond sex which is currently what women can offer.Only few women that acquired other valuable tools(good genes, connections, financial competency etc) are worth of commitment.Despite that,you as a guy is still at the losing end in such association but a bit manageable.

Currently I have a Facebook friend,a lady of about 29yrs old.currently looking for serious commitment that could lead to marriage.she is not even working yet o.
When I asked her why isn't she with any guy now,she said that is not that she hasn't been with a guy,but she is trying to avoid the intimacy part of the relationship.
you see her hypocritical nature.
So you want a man to spend on you,take you out on dates and yet you don't want to get intimate with him.what does he gain from dating you?You are even not financially capable to assisting him if even needs one.
I just pity her cos guys has wisen up these days and that explains why she is still single.

My fellow brethren,my point is that you all should have standards and don't settle for less.Vet any lady very well if you are to get into any relationship.women are also ruthless when it comes to expectations they have for their man.
Me personally finds it hard nowadays to get into any relationship cos am yet to fully understand what benefit am to get from such association.

HAVE STANDARDS.KEEP DOSING THE PILL.

Guys shouldn't make the mistake of thinking or running into relationship these days. The sexual market is 'bearish!' No regulation in the sexual market place any longer because the internet has blown open so many things.

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Winnerly:
The Bleep, are you me? I just did same 2 weeks ago. Met a clown at a mall, she was pretty and all. I called next day, we talked. I called some days later, she was asking me to introduce myself as she cant remember who. I said i will never do such, i hung up and deleted her number.

Ladies of these days are downright disrespectful and even worse if she is pretty. They are just lucky nature wired it that we do the approaching.

Funny thing is, even women in business or customer care are not left out. Most times i prefer to interact with a guy offering services than a woman. It’s a real pandemic.

Personally, I’m nolonger enthusiastic about the dating or marriage scene in Nigeria or anywhere else. It’s all based on what you are and not who you are.

Funny thing is, if you travel out of this country and return, you would see how plain looking Nigerian ladies are. I travelled out for a month and when i came back, i was asking folks if ladies here donot wear make up? Lmao.

I conduct many social experiments from time to time. When i feel like playing, i go out plain but not dirty. Maybe worn out sneakers, small phone etc. First thing they do is stare me stylishly from top to bottom. I wonder if they think we don’t catch those stares. Another looked visibly disappointed when i removed my small phone to collect her number.

She then gave me a fake number. Meanwhile i have an iphone 13 at home and too many airforce one’s to fit on my shoe rack.

These are the kind of clowns some people take seriously. Loose your wealth and loose them.

I will never put forth what i am just to be accepted by someone of thesame flesh and blood like me. Only acceptance one should seek is from their maker.

There are a whole lot of things to say on the issue of game and rejection and women's way of interaction in this modern age both in first and third world countries. However, it is of noteworthy that all interactions as per the intersexual dynamics must be understood from an evolutionary lens.

(Gosh! Nairaland ought to have an audio option)!

Let me go down the drain a little:

1. All humans fall for the halo effect: judging people from their physical appearance first before other of their features are paid attention.

2. Women desire handsome men because it signifies handsome kids and resourceful men because it signifies good welfare for her and the kids. While men desire beautiful women for same reason women desire handsome men---beautiful kids.

3. When you approach women and women don't see these qualities they will never take you serious, same way you'll never take an ugly woman serious.

4. The intersexual dynamics is an exchange platform: women bring sex and men brings resources. The one who allows its own goes cheaply is a fool; woman is called a slut and man is called a simp.

5. Sex is mutual, but you must understand that it is what the average woman or women in general has to offer, hence, she must leverage upon it to get a man's commitment. If she offers sex freely she will die poor! Same way a man will become poor if he offers commitment without getting a woman's best both in body and soul. This is the friendzone dilemma!

Should men now save money so that they can bolster their notch counts? Philanderers may agree to this because it is their desire to bask in an avalanche of sexual fantasies. Therefore, paying large sums of money to experience different sexual escapades is no problem for them especially if they got the money.

Lest I forget, remember that from an evolutionary perspective, egg is expensive while sperm is cheap! If women lollygags with their eggs they will pay dearly for it.

6. But women do have sex with men who don't give a hoot about them. Why? It is because of females dual mating strategy: alpha fvcks beta bucks.

This is where game comes in and you bringing sharply to your consciousness that sex is mutual and should cost you little to nothing.

(Also remember that simps are also reacting to what our male ancestors felt in the wild: "since egg is expensive lets give the women we desire more meats, fruits, honey and protection so that they can give us offspring". And we all know that this quid pro quo was roughly beneficial to both parties involved.

7. In the PUA community, rejection seems as a joke. Men are just told to spin other plates and forget about any woman that rejects them. Easier said than experience! Rejection is no joke be it a man or woman at the receiving end. Spinning plates is not an easy task because a man don't have the whole time" chyking" women and neither is it wise frolicking around women because he wants to quickly curb the effect of former rejections.

8. Spinning plates is easy when a man already has that aura of resourcefulness and very attractive which takes us back again to the halo effect.

9. As far as I understand, PUAs success is in parties and sex clubs where already there are females who just want to be fvcked!
However, on a normal day, such is uncommon with the women you come across in the course of your daily duties.

10. I'm not disqualifying the PUA community because they've garnered lessons a man can glean from and improve on his game. But the real world experience is beyond reading "how to seduce a woman in 60 minutes and bring her to your bedroom" or watching infield YouTube videos that are most of the time sponsored and faked.

11. Women have sex but it is mostly with men they are around with. (The problem of kiss and tell is there though, but trust me, these women know their game and play it very well).

Women by nature are emotional and any man that is around them who is able to provide that emotional rush for them mixed with adventures will always get her pvssy wet! For that reason our ancestors mate guarded their females. Same reason long distance relationship is not advisable for any man. For women, sexual feelings must be felt as texts and calls doesn't always suffice.

12. As you approach any woman you must understand that she has a man that's supplying her this emotional rush; he might be a chad or a simp or both. But just know it. These are same men women run to even though they are still engaged to a powerful and wealthy man.

If you approach her and she agrees immediately or hesitantly know that the first reason is your appearance and in addition, maybe your personality. If you are not able to dominate her and surpass the benchmark from which she used to measure her emotional rush, she will still go back to her alpha or yearns for him always in her imagination.

13. That's why the game of CHOSEN (aka the Greenlight Approach) coined by Ubunja is the ultimate as far as I understand. Here, whether you are good, bad, handsome or ugly you'll easily get along with women because they chose you.

Where I think PUA beats CHOSEN is women's availability; the former grants you access to many different women but with less success rate while the later grants access to fewer women but with a higher success rate.

Extrapolating the PUA mentality, you'll be successful with women if you place yourself in a place where women are abundant. Rather than hoping from place to place and trying to get women, you just improve yourself and stay in that niche. Clergymen gets women without doing anything. Ditto for male celebrities, craftsmen etc.

14. Women don't really/necessarily wait and wait to fvck the only 20% of men even though that's what they desire instinctual. They still fvck men who pretends/emulates and posses such characters. And this is only possible with the men they find around because they've already judged this men as a result of their proximity over time.

15. In third world countries to get women easily is by wagging cash. It's as simple as that.
But if you understand the game, you use your cash as a bait! Women must first see attractiveness and resources or their similarities before they get down with men. This is also applicable with first world countries women, however, it seems attractiveness comes first. Notwithstanding, hypergamy is at play any day or time in women regardless of whichever turns it decides to take at any particular point in time.

16. Whether PUA method or Chosen, a man should know what best fits him. Rejection is still part of the game and he must be willing to accept and learn from it.

There are still more to say, but I draw the curtain here for now.

Thanks.

Cc. Bloodysperm, Osas187, Ichidodo et al.

heartofcity12:
Beta clowns always leading with money, meanwhile she’s daydreaming about the guy who “took her for granted”. The body language says it all.

On top woman 'may don use tatoo zanzan her breasts'.

Like you said, "she's daydreaming about the guy that ignored and took her for granted"...perhaps, the photographer.

See the way she clutched her hands outside the guy's. The guy be crawling like snake just to get her attention even in a private location and his expenses. Damn nigga!

leesamyoung:
you too can save yourself from stress, manipulation, divorce, depression, paternity fraud and so on.... if kids is what you want go for this and save yourself from daughter of eve

1. Surrogacy, "babymamaism" always sounds cool on paper until children raised under the auspices of a weak parent especially single mothers grow up to become dysfunctional adults who easily oscillates here and there without a stable foundation. Do you expect a baby girl raised by Ini Edo to become a good woman who will respect men and understand the operational system of a society and work with it?

2. Every child requires a good father and a good mother in order to at least gain the rudimentary knowledge and training required for interacting and cooperating with the world. Let me shock you: children raised under the umbrella of a stable poor family performs better than children raised in an instable/single parent household despite a high socioeconomic status.

3. Simps are because no virile figure to coach them. Ditto for damaged women. So many lost kids today because their families are unstable; fathers and mothers always on each other toes.
Children learn first from the home by observing human nature in its dualistic dimension: male(father) and female(mother), in addition, siblings and family members. If they don't inculcate the right form of learning in a secure environment like the family, they go berserk when they launch outside.

4. I understand your notions though, marriage is not favourable for a man in this current culture of ours, true of course!
But rather than create more dysfunction for society and more problem for yourself and kids why not forget about procreating? It's a better option! Because even though as a man you opt for a baby mama, you still have her to wrestle with and the child not functioning accordingly. Ditto for the women involved in surrogacy.

5. Children must be provided with the right environment to grow and mature, especially in a stable family involving both father and mother. Or else, by means of procreating more damage unleash.

6. The only solution is to restructure the legal system surrounding marriage. Government should either take their hands off it or improve upon it to benefit all parties involved, most especially the men. If not, more inescapable chaos awaits all both for the guilty or innocent.

But for now, each must be ready to do what's best for him or her and allocate proper time in giving their kids proper home training to the best of their abilities.

Thanks.

raptex:
Brothers, I think I need the aspect of the redpill that doesn't have to do with women. My recent experience with people has been bitter and disappointing.
People I helped refused to repay the favour when I needed them the most. I'm ashamed of the L's I've been taking lately. Omo people don show me . Now I know that not knowing how to say no to people begging for favours is a disease.

Extrapolate Sir!

Average man and woman are almost the same; 99 and 100 respectively.

It's as simple as that.

Raalsalghul:
Lol, that is one thing women hate: seeing a young man doing well career/business wise and is not yet married.

It irks them, pisses them off and I'm sure it's not because they care about the said dude but because they know that a member in the sister hood should have benefited from his resources.

They are never concerned when a broke matured man is not settled, but once it's a well to do dude, na wahala oh.

A very brief story: sometime ago, my mum narrated to us about how a girl falsely accused Uncle Favour of impregnating her. Uncle Favour has one of the largest cosmetics store in the market where he trades on a daily basis.
This girl normally comes to Favour's shop to seduce him but Favour never for once succumbed. However, she still finagles her way to take some cosmetic products when her mission fails. Uncle Favour never really bothered about the products she steals because he had them in a truckload.

Some months later, this idiot and ungrateful b!tch came with her battalions to Uncle Favour's store to "chauzze" and harass him. They said he must marry the girl because he impregnated her. Uncle Favour a quiet guy narrated everything that has happened between them. After so much pressure on the girl, she later admitted that it was a false allegation. That was how Favour got his freedom from the bandwagons and her family that came for his head that faithful day.

Successful men to women is an aphrodisiacs.

Thanks.

leetylee:
I overheard a conversation between a business man and a girl who came to visit (in course of the visit she was assisting him), they were talking about marriage and the girl asked this man why he hasn't marry since he's making profits from his business. The guy just laughed and told her he'd rather remain single and fend for himself and immediate his family.

Continuing, he said he doesn't have the money to spare for marriage, the obviously irritated girl was like "you don't have to wait till you have a certain amount of money to get into marriage, the moment you get married you'll see God will start blessing you" oga told her outrighttl that he doesn't believe in that and that mentality will lead to debt and begging. He even said his self control would make him not make stupid decisions so he doesn't get trapped into marriage and he's focusing on his hustle, the girl was lost in words and convo ended.


Marriage is like a redeeming factor for these female who feels it's an achievement of leaving the street to pepper their gender, it's all about the 'big day' for them nothing else...

Stay focused, keep your energy, channel it to your productivity

Marriage is women's retirement plan!

I've observed it: women once they hit puberty especially when their breasts balloons, have suitors corral around them for marriage. From age 18-25 suitors comes in their numbers but because these women are myopic and lacks good upbringing, they jettison the good suitors for bad guys. You even get to hear flimsy excuses like: "I'm still young, I want to focus more, my mentor said, my this said...blah blah blah". But they still binge on cvcks on a steady amidsts these excuses.

Even men has been bamboozled to think that marriage is an achievement despite the fact that it increases their problems 100x. I'm not saying marriage is bad, because family is basic unit of civilization, and good family is based on a good marriage foundation. However, women don't see it that way, it is alpha fvcks beta bucks for them. Same woman that says " the blessings of a man increases towards marriage jubilee" is the same woman that will abuse her husband when things go south or still commits adultery when her horniness desires novelty.

Only few men like the one you narrate above got the scope. These women are not here because of love; they want to continue their leeching spree!

Thanks.

Martinez39s:
One man's hoe, past or present, is another man's nawalt now. Thanks for sharing this. More grease to your elbow.

Where's the lie? No lie!

PS: Vaseline and grease which is more better? I think I need to improve. What do you think?

Have you started using grease? Badt guy. Lol!

CandyOps:
Another thread for superstitious folks. A thread for people wey there brain no dey function well because spiritual matter done take up memory space

Imagine this unfortunate spineless man blaming his wife for his misfortunes in business and life in general without even pointing fingers to the main cause- himself.

Nothing dey vex me like when adult go blame spirit for him misfortunes and bad luck because him no say spirit no fit talk or defend themselves. So instead of taking responsibility and handling his finances like a man him go rather blame juju.

Religion is wrecking havoc on us.
No where in this long post did the OP ask the man how he spends his money and how much he makes... No financial responsibility whatsoever recorded.

I've gone from earning 2m monthly to zero.
I was suicidal. Started doing weed and ashawos just to take my mind off things.

But it only gave me temporal relief till I took the bull by the horns and tackled my demons head-on. The more Africans and Nigerians keep relying on spirits for something as simple as a financial growth the more we sink into backwardness and rot.

Religion done kill our willpower and thought process. Na why one old hag of man or woman go tie red cloth or hold Bible do small acting for una tell una say una wahala na spiritual una go believe because we are too weak to hold ourselves responsible.

Weak spineless men wey no sabi their roots everywhere. I just feel complete utter disgust for this fellow not because he is lost but because he doesn't even know how far lost he is.

Money/income does not have a spiritual connection. If it does Nigeria would be the richest country on Earth. Right diagnosis is half the cure.

Why on earth will a man in his right senses consult a witch doctor or a priest for financial advice when we have people who's actual job is Financial Accounting??

It's like having the manager of a football club consult a DJ for technical advice on how to win the football league.. its all shades of wrong and makes no sense...

Yet we do this every single day and expect some kind of magic to happen. Sometimes I'm forced to think we aren't ready for any real change in Nigeria and Africa but then I understand the bigger picture -- keep them illiterates, uneducated, religious and divided. So the looting and syphoning of our nations wealth will keep on.

No wonder Boko Haram agenda na to kill education in it's totality. This country is already boiling over. Those kids born without proper education in the North years back are all doing big business as Kidnappers and bandits today

Na them de influence the elections and political decisions of this country. Yet una still dey fuel superstition and backward religious beliefs over free-thinking, understanding the importance and capabilities of the human brain when fully empowered.
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.this continent (not just the country) is completely exhausting. Nothing is structured to help you evolve and grow.

Acid! Base! Solid!

Dizzyyish:
Your reply was really enlightening, I should be the one saying 'thanks'.

Thank you for your kind words.

Tonnyray:
Keep spitting facts CaveAdullam.
I dey your behind you like hunchback.

My uplifter!

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
How can she ever respect you?
I’m sure this one is getting her back blown out by some masculine dude out there, only getting free attention and resources from this effeminate man. What a shame.

Men that want to have peace or at least experience some molecules of peace must first be able to rule themselves. The truth is that the average man just like the average woman is weak, too emotional and lacks discipline. These men launch into relationship with their deficiencies but expect women to be submissive. No, things doesn't work that way. The woman will always be shit testing and when her man falls at every shit tests that comes it implies that his dominance level is low. This is one reason women keep going back to bad guys or jerks. There are too many Mr Nice Guys orbiting the earth.

You even find out in our contemporary day that men shy away from leadership positions in schools, church, mosques, shrines, parties etc. They are scared of the stress that comes with responsibility but are willing to get married at any moment. They tell you they are not chance, timid, can't face the crowd and a whole lot of stupid alibis.

Leadership positions are warfare grounds where he can be able to learn and assimilate lessons from the humans he interacts with. From there he can gain a good understanding about the average man and woman.

Only when a man is able to rule himself first, and understand female nature will he experience peace in his relationship. A 'yes' man might seems the actual way to experience peace but it reeks of low vibes, low dominance and decreases attraction. Women in the real sense don't like 'yes' men.

Thanks.

Dizzyyish:
I remember a lady saying "women don't help women because they want to see the 'new' girls fall on their face like they did."

True!

As I explained above it's the anxiety that comes with competing for the 20% of available high value men. Since they were unable to get these men, they will allow the "newer girls fall on their faces," make mistakes and later welcome them to their circle. It's also similar to the bucket crab mentality: if I can't become like them, I will drag them down to my level. Or, I'm afraid of being alone, I will drag them down so that they won't leave me.

Dizzyyish:
I find the differences between men and women in this instance interesting..

The competition anxiety is also found in men. However, men tend to convince the women and try to level up their game so that they can get all the women. That's men acting mature and on the positive side.

On the negative side, men become violent when they can't get women; remember that lack of mates means no entering into the next generation. So, in some communities like the middle east e.g Pakistan, Afghanistan, Iraq, Northern part of Nigeria, where the mate inequality is very high, such communities experience real time violence. And who are these violent people, men! In this scenario, it is men acting immature.

Let me break down this matrix a little as per competition anxiety:

1. Women augment their body to get high value men.
And when unable, slander the women engaged to this men. Extreme violence or cases of homicide is rare. Or, set up a conspiracy against the man; how? Rape allegations, subtle jabs, "marry your age mates," throwing tantrums etc.

2. Men augment their status to get women and persuade them outrightly. Men don't really care about a woman's position in the totem's pole of the society, what they are after is sex and procreation.
And when they are unable, they run amok with violence. But violence is rare but slightly higher than that for women.

Therefore, as result competition anxiety, a woman will want to 'destroy' other women to GET A HIGH VALUE MAN, while a man will want to 'destroy' other men to GET ALL THE WOMEN.

Dizzyyish:
For example, women are less likely to help each other, but they have this hive mind-like herd mentality to defend each other (against men). Men are more likely to help each other but have the opposite of the aforementioned 'hive mind' to defend each other (often defending women instead).

The hive, group or tribe mentality is everywhere and exists both in men and women. A group must unite her members to fight another group that stands as a threat. See it this way: family members do have altercations and fights sometimes/many times. But immediately they become threatened by an external force, they unite together to fight that force despite their in group differences.

Women are emotional and that's the reason they always bond together not to help themselves but to satiate one another with emotional rush and feel good platitudes. They do this despite the fact that each will become jealous of the other when a high value man sticks to one.

Men do fight for and defend their individual tribes and not the men in other tribes. Men uplift men that belongs to their tribe.

Hey Cave, why do men help other men when if they do, these other men will absorb more women. Won't it increase the competition anxiety?

No! Women are not scarce and will always go round (except in places like the middle east like I mentioned before where the rate of spousal inequality is extremely high as a result of high status inequality). And it is high value men that are scarce and will never go round.

Dizzyyish:
From that tiny thesis, I would say modern feminism is not about helping their fellow woman but about 'catapulting themselves a newer dimension' by acquiring power, which is also evident due to women's natural tendency to be solipsistic and egocentric.

Feminism uses broken women or women lacking in proper awareness and upbringing to bait other ignorant women and leverage upon them into power. In this game of feminism some men and women are involved in pulling different strings behind the curtain.

Thanks.

heartofcity12:
Apt!
And you wonder why marriage is messed up in their society. They give females all the power while cornering themselves(men) to the lowest end of the food chain, inscription literally said she’s doing him a huge favor by being with him, compilations of trivial things like this made everything worse in their society.

Perhaps, some Afghanistan+Iraqi stunts can pull us all out of this sh!t. Lol!

heartofcity12:
Don’t be caught up in stuffs like this. Notice how the writings are never flipped, it’s always about the man acting all simpish.
Better sayings woulda been
Man shirt: I lead
Woman shirt: I listen.

Lol!

Since I discovered the secret of maintaining frame and posture when it comes to pictures, I always make sure I'm on the right, taking charge of every pics both with males and females. Body language is more audible than the larynx.

Looking at the pics above you will observe that there's no polarisation, is as if the woman is doing a good thing getting married to the man. Woman be like "hey I'm the boss" and the man, "at your beck and call ma". After all, she's everything he needs. While the woman on her side is portraying self sufficiency, "I can literally do without you; I'm everything".

How men in their numbers are able to stoop so low to such bullsh!ts when they are still the one that will piggyback the feminine conundrum in marriage and 50% likely to face the dilemma in the family court in cases of divorces baffles me.

The inscription on those shirts literally mirrors what's embedded in the inner core of the couple. Whether they later change the inscription doesn't matter, what matters is their attitude towards each other and how they view the intersexual dynamics.

Thanks.