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armyofone:
Really ? Why na ? Have you tried making it with smoked turkey?

Egusi and Uziza

Oh Yes I’ve had it with smoked turkey and it’s so good.
And with uziza is awesome as well

Just wasn’t cooking as much hence plenty stuff I haven’t made in a while

👌🏾

JeffreyJunior:
Lol, try to look at it from another angle.

When you guys were dating, she had some expectations from you, even in the early part of the marriage.

As soon as kids start coming, the expectations increase and if you don't meet those, that's when she gets mad and frustrated.

Naija men should learn to help out in their homes. Gone are the days when wives didn't work, stayed home and looked after the kids.

Now they work too just like men. It doesn't make one less a man when he feeds his kids, change their diapers, help with some chores at home and run errands for the family.

I believe every reasonable wife who gets her husband's attention at all times and gets litlle help here and there from him especially at home, will have little to complain or nag about.

Kids problems frustrate young moms a lot but young moms who regularly get help from their husbands have less burden and less burden means less frustrations.

Shalom.

Mindlog:
He is marrying a Nigerian wife using the son between them as a smokescreen.

exactly

Unfortunately your husband is not being sincere

I haven’t had Egusi in so long. This was comforting

You can’t use a stolen iPhone. Everyone who has ever used an iPhone knows that

So men are immune to heartbreak?


Some of you just open mouth and immediately your hatred for women starts pouring out uncontrollably

Robertgreene1:
Yes...90% of women in that age bracket are broken women...with countless severe heartbreaks...hence they are always frustrated...and transferring their frustrations and agressions on others...a broken-hearted young lady told me this herself.... So if you want to marry in Naija...better go for fresh young girls between 18 to 22...yes they may still act childish...but childishness is much better than being with a broken woman with multiple heartbreaks...and ex boyfriends that she still secretly loves... who still have the passwords to their pussies anytime anyday
Shalom

cenaman:
I return a bag that contain $7200 together international passport and some important items, the lady gave me $20 as a reward i politely reject it.

$20? That’s insane. Lol

descarado:

Look at them vibrating all over the place because they’ve been given the same advice they so casually give women. SMH

Dexy4yah:
You are absolutely wrong

interesting

Dexy4yah:
1) No marriage is perfect. She cannot be like that forever. She would definitely get tired and retire with you
So he should stay put and endure her cheating until she gets tired? Really?

You're really funny

Am I going crazy or is that not what is expected from a good spouse? To grind and bear and endure it order to keep the home. Am I wrong?

So you mean that’s not good advice?

YorubaRonu01:
Endure and live with the infidelity so the marriage can last
Tueh!

I don’t blame her.

Most of you even when you don’t cheat make excuses for men who do. It creates the impression that if you could get away without any repercussions, you’d do the same. Only a woman who wants to die young will not be mindful of the man who’s sleeping with her.

Why are you traveling often for work? Is it absolutely necessary?

Congratulations justwise

The same “average” men that making all the emotional decisions that end up hurting millions of people worldwide? That’s the average men you’re talking about?

sgtponzihater1:
When people ask what if? They simply want to argue, and do no deserve an answer.

The average man is stronger, taller and more muscular than the average woman. However, there are some women who could be stronger than a man. The what if group focus on that one woman in their village that used to beat men up.

However, we know from science and sports that men and women should not compete together due to the average male being stronger than the average female.

The average female is emotional and more focused on love and emotion, that why a woman will mostly will stick to her child even though he is a murderer, rapist, drug addict, or fraudster. She will rather give all excuses for him, and even claim society failed him. That's the heart of the average woman. She is 100% loving, but truth and discipline is not her forte. Some women try to be hard on their children especially in the absence of a father, but they take the control to excessive form, they were not created for this, so never find a balance. Other just pamper their child to stupor.

The average man However is less emotional and more focused on truth and fact. That's why men take time to make decision, as opposed to women who can make instinctive decision.

A child, especially male needs a good balance of love and truth to navigate life appropriately. We say I know a man raised by a woman that ended up well, however most people saying ended up well, are only looking at life in terms of money, and think if you have money then you are balanced and have ended up well. That's how depraved our society has become, a society that measure people in terms of finances alone.

I know a big brother star with cars and houses, raised by a woman. He was all over the house crying like a woman at every instance. People say he ended up well, however he is not an emotionally balanced man, as men do not cry at the blink of an eyes. Another owner of a Nigerian movie streaming app always rushes to social media to either boast of his children school fees being high or taking x number of holidays, then ends up making an apology, people say he ended up well because he earns well, but his obvious gaffs are not masculine.


PonziHater

That means men should endeavor to be good and present fathers right?

Printme:
The movie was cool. A Nollywood movie I actually enjoyed in a long while.

At the same time, I think it reflects on a very key aspect of life that most people never give much thoughts to.

That is, a male child will always need their father.

Regardless of how much a woman will love the male child, they will always need their father to be good influences in the society.

She gave birth to five children and all their fathers were absent. It's a lesson for women. Once you spoil your life, men will continue to chop and go.

No man will ever want to settle and train another man's child.

It doesn't matter how much you try to manipulate them with the "it's a mistake" or "a real man ought to take care of another man's child"

It won't work. They will just chop you and go and probably add their own seeds since you want to be unfortunate that way.

Also, statistics shows that male children raised by single mothers tends to be the "bad eggs" in the society.

And we all saw that in the movie. Not even one of the children turned out fine for the society. Instead, they were filled with that selfish love that put only their needs into consideration and never the needs of others.

And that's the kind of love women can give their children. Only a father's disciplinary love tells the child that other's needs are important.

It is the father that seeks to make sure the male child, no matter how strong he is, he never used that strength for his own benefits alone.

If she had thought the children to protect others and not just herself, they probably would have turned out fine.

Overall, I think the movie was entertaining but the lessons were still there except you choose to ignore it.

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Obainomilano:
very stupid question to ask ...if she kept her legs together and stay away from hotel room tell me will her head be missing from her body ...we hate the truth in this country... everything we do have consequences

Seun
Mynd44

(Rule 3)

Cos here we go again with a bunch of depraved people supporting violence against a murdered person because of their own personal views about what she should or shouldn’t be doing with her body

Klass99:
You deserve an award for this. Seven blessings!

They did not experience the slave trade or actual slavery with the colonial masters, but their inferioty complex, mental slavery and mental belief that anything and everything about the white man and white skin, is better,is just legendary.

Tufiakwa! Who did this to them?

It’s mental colonization.
I honestly don’t blame all black men for this because on an individual basis they each can’t fix the whole problem alone. But I get really frustrated that don’t see it and continue to contribute to the issue with these stupid public opinions and comparisons that no one asked for.

Ugh 😤

Blessings to you too

Kolanalife2:

My my post dey pain all you low lives and empty headed baby mamas? Na so the thing pain una? Or are you just realizing that after wasting your productive lives away by sleeping with every tom and dick for iphone and noodles no sensible Nigerian man will look your way?
Hey, please gimme chance make i see better people for front abeg.

This is a lame comeback to avoid self reflection. But it won’t stop me from telling you it as it is.

Black men in general have a hard time getting respect from other races of men because you are the only ones who disparage your women publicly. A lot of you merit respect on individual basis and I’m sure when people get to meet and know you, they might discover that and respect you according to your personal qualities. But as a group, it’s hard to respect you.

Sure every race of men have their problems and so do their women. They fight and do all whatever within their communities but you guys are the only one who make it point to loudly tell other races of women how lowly you think of your own women. You don’t think it affects how they view you but it does. Who will respect someone that thinks so lowly of the wombs that birth and raised them?

This is evident in the fact that as a collective, you don’t care to improve your community for your women and children even though you’ve been in leadership for centuries.

As terrible as white men are (and this is coming from someone who wouldn’t touch them with a foot long pole), one thing they know for sure is that they value their future generations and work relentlessly as a collective to conquer the world for them. That’s why the negro community remains conquered to this day.

You have a goal. And your goal is to make sure that none of your future generations looks like you. That’s why you’re obsessed with white women and light skin black women.

You’ve accepted your place as a lesser race hence your need to mate with anyone other than yourselves. Pretty sure once a light skin woman smiles at you, you’ll leave your Ghanaian babe and go running. Truly pathetic.

If a Nigerian woman divorced her husband after four kids because he “simply” cheated, I’m 100 percent sure that you would be among those calling her a bitter westernized feminist for abandoning her African values and running out of her marriage for a small reason.

Who do you think you’re talking to? Someone who doesn’t know how y’all reason?

If you don’t shut up.

Kolanalife2:
i know nothing will be interesting about someone that is educated, gainfully employed in the sight of an average dull headed Nigerian gum chewing woman like you because those attributes are alien to you.

To an average dull headed parasitic baby mama like you, visiting a man means sex thats why you all keep having babies like rats out of wedlock and expect one innocent man to come wife you and swallow all your garbages.

She was married and legally divorced because her husband was a serial cheat and alcoholic.
And what part of your Bible tells you a pastor woman is not supposed to date before marriage?

And for your info, i am not of the same stock of men in your family that can marry even a corpse just to japa or become a citizen of a foreign country.
I schooled in Europe and have been in over 6 european nations, i am a tz passport holder and dont need to behave like the men in your family before i can travel to any country of my choice.

No I don’t think Nigerian single moms need soul checking. I think Nigerian men need to examine their biases. There’s no way on earth that you won’t judge a Nigerian single mother of FOUR KIDS before even getting to know her. Y’all have expectations from Nigerian women that you don’t hold other women to.
It’s a sign of deep self hatred

Tell yourself the truth for your own peace’s sake.

Kolanalife2:
my first two babies alicia and adam are two years old, they are twins and my last born daniel is barely four months old.

How long would you have suggested i wait before i move on with my life, shey make i get greyhair before i go move on ni?

She had four kids, "twins". before her death and she was barely 33 years old. Same age bracket with me.
Why wont i marry her when despite having four kids she doesn't depend on me for money, she even suports me financially, spiritually and in every little way you could.

Despite having four kids there's no form of toxicity in her, a pastor, a graduate and works with mary kay.
She gives me peace of mind.
If a nigerian single mum can offer these qualities and more why wont i marry her?

FYI: i am married to a ghanian and she was a single mum of one before we started making our own babies.
So if i can marry a european and ghanian single mums and cant marry their Nigerian counterpart doesnt that mean nigerian single mums need to do some soul checking?

If you know how many Yorubas are abroad and married to foreign women you won’t be saying this.

People are people.

paris10:
This is where identity & culture comes into play. For the Hausas & Yorubas, their identity & culture comes before anything. That self-actualization is paramount to their decisions. There are 0.001% of the Hausas/Yorubas getting married to white women.

The Igbos on the other hand aren’t immersed with the idea of cultural belonging. They think commonly & often go with “women are the same everywhere”. The Yorubas have a rich culture, likewise the Hausas. The Igbos are more secularly inclined. They account for 99% of Nigerian men marrying a white woman. This is so because they believe in western ideology than the traditional African ethics.

Self-belongingness is a key factor here. While the Yorubas & Hausas believe they are indigenous African & Nigerian, the Igbos believe they are Jews & from Israel. More reason they want to secede from Nigeria. The election also gives you a glimpse of who the Igbos are; they’re predisposedly & inherently not a respecter of anyone. They hold no one in high esteem. A big contrast to the Yorubas/Hausas.

Patriotism & culture plays a significant role when talking about this topic. And we all know who displays patriotism & cultural affirmation here.

This your timeline is not clear. She died in 2021 and since then you’ve had 3 children that you named after her and her kids? You loved her so much that you couldn’t even wait to move on. 3 kids in 2 years since she died? Na wa

P.S you almost married her even with children? Would you have done the same if she were Nigerian?

Kolanalife2:
I have dated a phillipino, an Australian and lastly the love of my life, an eastern european, a polish precisely but i lost her to convid in 2021. Alicja, wherever you are may your soul continue to find rest.

If you have dated a foreigner to date a Nigerian will be a herculian task. I never knew what it means for a woman to love a man till i met my late polish fiancee.
She did all she could to make sure i was comfortable enough, she showed me the true meaning of love.
I named my first daughter after her and my two sons after two of her sons. .

Acidosis:
Ahh

Did I lie?

NwaAmaikpe:
Except in the process of pulling off pant and one has to kneel for further inspection of the port of entry or to take an oral tour of the female orīfice, I am yet to imagine any reason in this world that justifies a man kneeling for a lady.

Yea, if you’re willing to eat her kitty, you will kneel down and beg if the situation requires.

Commot for here with the gra gra

That’s crazy. I’d kill for that.

I know I’m rude because I didn’t let your sneaky comment about “thickness” slide? And as typical crude cave man, you’re going to tell me to stay in the kitchen the moment I challenge your ill-informed takes. Would be funny if it were even a tiny bit original. But it’s not.

The boldened summarizes how little you actually know, how easy you are to brainwash and how resistant to new knowledge you are.

Botragelad:
Such a rude girl. Lol
I didn't ask for you to fancy my personality love. You are just another random human on this app. Of course we're going to disagree. Up to you if you let that bother you.

You started it, so why so touchy about my reply. You cheer for Hamas killing the Israelis without reason, I back the IDF protecting themselves . Where's the genocide?. You weren't even clever enough to make a point to challenge mine, instead you played the usual genocide card.

You are just another 'high school kid' who gets her info from propaganda pages on tiktok, etc. I would offer you some advice which is to get some savvy on this issue, read a bit of history, help yourself or if you are too posh to do that then you can just stick to the food section since that's your forte!

godguy:
Americans are happy with the invasion,

Speak for yourself. Only easily brainwashed people like you are happy with the invasion

Realguyman1:
So na the Isrealis forces come dey deliberately kill civilians abi?

Absolutely yes. If you don’t know that now, you’re living under a rock or just intentionally obtuse.

Go online and See videos of isreali soldiers tying women up and dragging them through the streets and shooting them execution style. Tell me what warfare combat style that’s called

obinna58:
The western media is deceiving them

They’ll be the first to tell you they are against “Western influence”

Half of the time 90 percent of them don’t even know WTF they are talking about. Just parroting stuff

tctrills:
Nigerians did not vote for Boko Haram to be their government. And 70% of Nigerians do not support the terrorism of Boko Haram. There is a big difference here. Please stop compering Nigerians to Palestinians. We are nothing like them.

You think Palestinians held an election and voted for Hamas? That’s what your brain is telling you?