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@topic
A cripple? How is that? Does he or she have a handicap? defective hand, leg, limb, eye, ? explain oo

ken20:
What would you do if you are asked not to marry the one you love because she is from another part of the country?
For me, i love her and i must marry her.

Gosh will civilisation come home to you people? This is 2008, tell your parents to get with the program. If they dont want you to marry your true love, then ask them to marry you.

On a more serious note, continue letting them ruin your life, by trying to dictate your life. When you are 50 and still not married, take them by their ear and bite them as hard as you can.

@Ori, once again you have nailed it dear . Excellent job.

It's such a pity that the lil boys, in big men clothes on the forum won't read such topics. LOL.

I will soon find my two NL boyfriends to have them read this, so our relationships can florish

The below mentioned is really really deep Ori,

Boyfriends who are maltreating their girlfriends like animals, please ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.
Love is not by force.
If you cannot give her peace of mind, then let her go in peace.
I BEG!
Haba!
Na wetin?
Bicos of sex, you dey vex!
Please, let her be.


The only conclusion that I can derive from those guilty of the above mentioned is that they either grew up in homes where their fathers constantly abused their moms, so they somehow have accepted it as normal. Or they themselves were abused. I pity them honestly.

As females we need to look for thos early warning signs. A man who laces and praises you with the same tongue should be avoided like a plague.

@Topup, EXCELLENT write up girl. I applaud you . I also admire the OP for being honest that he is NOT a saint himself. Most men I know wont even admit that to themselves, furthermore make it public. Cowards, LOL.

Ola8:
NO Long talk,

she's not house wife material,

she can't love you without loving your family join if she truely love u.,
i beg quit the relationship because she will "NEVER" change.

This is such a silly and nonsensical statement, it has caused me upset stomach. Why must she Loves his family? Did the Bible stipulate such? I am not saying she should be rude to them or disrespectful, afterall respect is earned. SHe can appreciate and respect them, but there is NO law stating she must love them. The truth is there are some in-laws from hell. And instead of jumping on the girl's back, NO I am NOT in anyway condoning her behaviour.

The OP also needs to make it clear as to why his girl is reacting the way she is. I have a feeling he is not being 100% thorough. NO sane woman would just wake up and begin acting up without any valid reason. What has he been doing to trigger her behaviour? Too often men are guilty of provoking ladies, and we retaliate we are abled witches, Like I care,

My advise to the OP is to deal with his problem with his girlfriend. Take her away for a weekend and have a heart to heart talk with her. Listen ( a men deficiency) to what is bothering her and try to make ammends to the situation. Maybe, as I said, it's something you are doing that is causing her to react in that manner. If ALL have failed, and make sure you are NOT guilty of any sins yourself, then the onus is on you to walk. AS humans we can only take so much. Good Luck,

Orikinla:
A man who wants to be treated as King should be willing to treat a woman as Queen.

Not the one that will treat you like shit and expects you to treat him like king?

My American sweetheart called me her Afrcan King and actually treated me like one until she complained that there were too many women waiting in the wings.

A man who wants to be treated as King should earn it.
PERIOD.

Ori, my dear Your momma did an excellent job ooo, You need to educate these "small" boys here ranting, who know nothing about the topic

@Oniyne, you are cracking me up

onyinye2:
You know you aint right but as they say men are dogs, and dogs can be trained!

Sweetie, just like some people NEVER grasp the contents in school, so too are some men. No amount of training will and can deliver them.   .
But as I earlier said, I have no problem treating my significant other like a "King".Which translates in my dictionary as, respect, love and admiration". However, it he is NOT worthy of such, then Hell NO . Why waste my energy trying to do what his mother didn't even bother to attempt?

Viciyke:
Am d kind of guy that enjoys tickling, but i can't endure it because its, i know u can guess what i mean. But i would like to know how many guys can endure tickling when their babes do it to them and how they react to it. Cos my girl always get angry whenever she does it to me and i can't endure it. She tells me she enjoys it because its very romantic whenever i do it to her.

Seems you are ticklish then , Ok tell her, in a nice way, you dont like being tickled. I don't either. It can become annoyning sometimes,

LOL.funny thread indeed,

@topic
I have absolutely nothing against treating my man as "King". However, he must be deserving of such treatment. Why on earth would I treat a "dog"( true definition of MOST men) as a "king". And just to clear up any misconception, I DO treat mine like one. Sadly though, I had to "kiss a few toads before he came along"

Love is knowing you look like a "hot mess" and your hubby looks you in the eye and say," baby you are the most beautiful person to ever walk this earth" .Now that's love,

First off, why is it that ladies, 99.9% of the times, ALWAYS want to or would fight a lady found with their men? Leave the girl along, poor girl was probably lied to as well, and go after the goat of a man. If he hadn't invited her there, she wouldn't have gone.

On a personal note though, I would walk away and hold my peace. You need to get rid of the guy. It's obvious he isnt worth keeping around. Only God knows where else he has been. Save yourself the drama, and let both of them be.

@topic
My temperment. The other things I thank God for.

whitelexi:
My directness
My principles
Wish i was not born a naija man sef

Educate me ,

cyrusdevir:
Women also cheat n lie. Its not even at all

Seems you were having a hard time falling asleep, thus this nonsensical rant at that hour of the night.

Now show us where anyone has ever said women are exempt from cheating and/or lying. That's not what is of importance. The fact is Men were born to lie and cheat, and it's a shame how terrible they are at it .

FYI, women lie about the following:

1. Their size( shoe, clothes etc)

2. Some lie about Their age(they can either say they are older or younger than they really are)

3. The lenght of their hair( we all know the 100% Lugo is NOT their real hair)

4. Breasts/tummy tuck/lip and nose jobs, A number of them have gone under the knife, but will deny it even on their dying bed.

5. The true price of a merchandise. ( We know we didnt buy that new pair of miu miu on sale, but to prevent our spouses from bombarding us with questions, we simply lie,"honey it was 70% off)

NOW A MAN LIES about the following:

1. Where they work. Too many of them know they are either jobless or peddling something illegal. yet they will give you a run-down of their imaginary job on Wall street.

2. The girl they are seeing on the side. Even though ALL evidence points to them being the chaser, they will turn the story around claiming it's the girl who is chasing him,  lOL.

3 Their place of residency. Now too often I have heard guys telling me they own their cribs. Only to find out later, they are "begging a lodging " with a close friend or a relative.

4. Their financial worth. Hmmmm. I had one telling me recently he is worth a certain amount of money. Lo and behold, he couldnt even afford to take me out to a decent resturant. I had to foot the bill.

5. Their academic achievements. LOL. This one has to be the story of the century. I met this guy,NOT yet 30. He told me he has 4 under-grad degrees and presently completing his 2nd Masters. Now I aint hating o, just wondering,

6. Their sexcapades. Lord have mercy on them.  They will brag about shagging 100 women, yet they do NOT own or have ONE woman in their miserable
life.



, I am hopping to the gym. But will be back with more

onyinye2:
Omo, well said.

Don't mind them. Apparantly their significant other found out something about their doggish life and dumped them in the garbage pile( exactly where they belong), that's why they are here now whining like sissys, 

tope2000:
Amen

LOL, Women are difficult, then they should start chastising  the woman who dealt with them 9 months, and is still dealing with them up to this day. Bunch of nitwits.

Y'all need to shut up, Women are difficult, and Men lie and cheat (even with your BFF's LOL)as if they were going out of style. So we are even. End of story.

Lard have mercy. I am posting this to a friend of mine who works with the Child welfare department. This is child abuse,and the adults involved should be punished. I weep for my people. When we continue to paint this picture of looseness, and vulgarity for the other races, who then turn around and stereotype us, we later have the audacity to go on air ranting. It's a damn shame,

Joseph6:
aah the list is long first of all u have 2 have an hnd in spiritualism and divinity then u'd have a b.sc in witchology, m.sc in bizwiz and phd in satanism and animalism ehen the most important if u don't have exactly 666 in your jamb and pjamb, u're automatically denied admission into the institution

Thanks a lot for the advise dear , Nuff nuff love.

Erhmmmm, I am stepping out for a while, but I will keep in mind and also share, what seems to be like a lucrative business proposal with my other half. Maybe we both will be interested

@Okija, best of luch Sir,

Okija_juju:
My dear business is very slow o! With the heavy rains, all our herbs and roots are all dying off.
But we dey manage small small. Atleast we still get one or two customers that come in for money juju.

. me likey your honesty dread, So  tell me, what are the credentials to become a Juju master like you? ,
Just curious o. You see recession is reaping havoc here, so I may need to stay thinking of an alternative career path. Help a sistren out na, abeg

@Okija,
I am just curious, but how is business?


@J, thank darl, I know I can count on you as ALWAYS,

Queenisha:
as in bulk purchase ?
ROFL
she needs to stock up on juju since the price maybe going up

YOu better pull out your bottle of Olive oil and let's join hands together and intercede on his behalf

Okija_juju:
My uncle messed with the wrong set of dudes and he got smoked.

Good ridance to bad rubbish.

Jesus please forgive him

@J girl, please keep me safe from Okija when I come to Naija o. Abeg

Okija_juju:
My juju comes with a 5 year warranty. After sales service is also avaliable and as long as you keep updating it, it will serve you forever.


_{Warning; Okija_juju is not responsible for injuries or any side effects that may result from the use of our products and services. Our drugs are not NAFDAC approved and are not legal in any state. Goods purchased cannot be returned.}

ROFL

I will pass. I don't juju to attain an/or sustain  my hubby. We love each other naturally, even with all our "handicaps" . . But from the looks of things, it appears as if you may be in for some lucrative deals. Best of luck dear,


@J gilr Okja, seems like one serious dude. That's the business spirit dude .

j-girl:
It's better to do something the whole way. Don't leave it halfway.
CUT OFF HIS EQUIPMENT AND HE WILL NEVER CHEAT AGAIN!Yeah. Walking is also an option but cutting is a better option.
That will guarantee he doesn't cheat with anyone ever again.

You think? Naaaa, Cheating has now taken a new heights. If you cut the willy, they will cheat with their fingers, tongues, toes, , I am serious.

j-girl:
EXACTLY!

I'm no Baba. I've just been in enough situations to know that it's insurance (it's a necessity). If you don't hold them down using juju, it's very difficult when they treat love like it's fickle.

hmmmmmmm.Food for thought. But i will pass. Can only imagine what will happen after the juju fades

j-girl:
@ Topic,
I have always said it. . . . . .
Cut off his equipment. . . . . . bobbit-style. Very effective.

You are one wicked child , I believe is the wine you drank last night talking here. Why bob it? leave him with his equipment. The HIV will do a better job than your knife darl

j-girl:
On a serious note. . .
Leave him. He's not worth your stress. There's a very high probability that he won't be faithful even in marriage.

Now this is you talking here( not the alcohol) , Walking with your sanity is best. Years after, you will thank your lucky stars you did. Trust me,

j-girl:
Make a girl fall by being what you're not?

Okay, I don't have to say much because you've said it all yourself. Girl, you have no idea.
It's possible in Nigeria.
You just need a bunch of spiritual guidances.
Love potions are available too.
I was just about to recommend them to the poster.

A lock of hair, red candle, and all that ish.

LOL, So your are now Baba? Lawd. ,
Ok how about lying through your teeth? Tell her tales about your make-belief life, ,

naaaa, Leave the damn girl alone if she doesnt want you. Look elsewhere dude. According to Oprah, "She is JUST NOT into you"

@topic
You pack your bags and run like a fugitive. Keeping A cheating friend, boyfriend, associate, iaround is like signing your death warrant,

As Busta said, Karma is a bitch, and what goes around, comes around. Just my two cents

topup:
[color=#cc0066]Just when I thought finding the right guy was hard enough, now I gotta think about connection too?!?

Does anyone ever wish we could rewind back to the past when people were content with satisfactory relationships and marriages? We all think that what we see in the movies and big screen is now the rule, when in fact it is the exception. Being in a relationship isn't always going to be fireworks and love, it's hard work, probably boring at times, can be a drain, but it also has its high points too.

Now I gotta think of interests we have in common, physical attraction, education and life goals, but then if all of those meet, something such as 'connection' can throw that all away,

*sighs*[/color]

You make a lot of sense in this write up dear. I must admit that I never knew relationships can be this tedious and stressful. My mom always told me as a child, NOTHING good in life comes easy. Too bad I dont think I have been gifted with enough patience to stick around and find out.

Okija_juju:
I call it body odour

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL, very funny

Ok. I do hope she learnt some sense though,

@topic
And why would you want to covet what's NOT yours? And what makes you think He is worth the stress? Remember, All that glitters, isnt gold. You have NOT a clue if the guy is worth "stealing", yet here you are willing to sacrifice your value all for the sake of a man.

Leave the girl with her man, go and find your own.  Karma is a bitch.


@Pandora,
Excellent analogy dear

Sure, you can say "I love you", to build their ego( especially if he has a huge one). However, saying and meaning it are two different things.

Islander:
Saddest day of my life was that Tuesday night when my Hero, my dad, went to bed and never woke up


Happiest day was when I found out I didn't have to remove my tonsils after all,

hmmm, Happiest day of my life was actually when I found you and ALL your craziness .LOL


Saddest day of my life, was when the King passed. Wished he was around. He would have been able to provide me the answers to many of my questions. Miss you Hugh. God knows I do