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hotwax:

I remember some people telling us "one of the most important reason to vote for Buhari is because he is a military man. He will handle boko haram"

It wasnt this bad under Jonathan, a bloody civilian.

I have never seen a useless human being like Buhari...

Next time you see someone struggling to produce his WAEC result, you use your common sense and chase him away and not vote for him.

You see, pathetic as our case is, the president was largely helped into office by the mass of the illiterate North and the number of us who stayed indifferent when the political process was on.

I made the grave mistake of voting him in 2015 but was constrained not to participate in 2019 because of a defaced voters card.

To be honest, Buhari's type from the north would still be president if pitted against the best from the south if those illiterates religiously stick with him while we chose to boycott the process either for fear an unfair or incredible process.

As for this ambush, my heart goes out to the families of the fallen soldiers who would have to live with the loss, however, I am deeply saddened by the fact that the military authority would have us believe they don't know how many soldiers met the tragic fate because of fear of an outcry.

Such an unintelligent deployment of troops when they are well aware of the opponent's capabilities.

SanusiGworo:
Even voting sef.
The minimum requirement to vote should be set as well. We have millions of illiterates making the wrong choice for the country.

For me, your proposition should be prioritized over the lawmaker's.

Na those illiterates up north make thunder strike for thesame place two times for this country even when the Bible says "affliction shall not rise a second time" according to Nahum 1:9

If you stop those dolts, no semi literate being without a verifiable education would be elected by literates to lead.

bigpicture001:
Financial compatibility....

This does not mean being rich by the guy,instead it means being able to share na be of help financially in marriage..,.

Women are non not to be supportive in this aspect nd that see it as their right....

This is a silent home breaker especially for the middle income spouses.


A guy I know divorced his wife straight after sh delivered of their first child... He saved for the D- day..but still fell short of 95k cuz there was complication of deliverering that no one expected.....

While he run from pillar to post to his friends seeking a soft loan pending wen he is paid..the wife still held at the hospital sent her younger sis,who stays with them to secretly go to the house go nd to her matrimonial room nd collect the 65k sh kept in her bag b4 d hubby mistakenly sees it

Unfortunately for her the hubby went home nd met his teenage in law with 65k cash....sh TLD him her elder sis instruction....


He was shocked...nd told the gal to go ahead nd deposit d money to d wife's bank as sh was instructed by her. He continued his nuzzle nd two days later he got them out of the hospital paying 126k additional from the first delivery cost...

Sh came back home nd can't look him in the eyes...quarell after quarelk ensued DT led to divorce exactly one month later....

Gals of this days are too stingy nd mny of them take d Character into marriages.....never ever Marry a lady DT will not b supportive..as a guy,u can't solve all them financial problems in marriage...

This is a big p,no one talks abt

To say, gals are overall very stingy is to have stated it nicely. It would be near impossible to maintain the energy with which vows were exchanged on the wedding day. We both have been constrained by life's experiences to change, in some ways, and some of these changes are hard to cope with.

Some wives were very supportive pre-marriage and that was their unique selling point, but you find them being stingy to their husbands because of the need to channel resources to take care of their parents and/or siblings -responsibilities which would break down their husbands if asked to help out.

E no easy! We sha dey try.

Afodot0022:
Pls dont abort op. My wife also got pregnant like 8 months after our first child. At first, i was so devastated being that we are still struggling to even take care of the first baby. Let me even tell u, we attempted the pill abortion but the baby refused to be aborted.My wife bleed severely that almost cost her life but when we did scan, it was still revealed that she is still pregnant. Omo na so i just jejely give up and told her to keep the pregnancy. she gave birth to the child without complications though. Now could you believe that this second child is so dear to me that i love her so much. Anytime i think about my action to abort her then, i feel so bad within. Ever since then, i have a change of mind towards abortion,I will never advice anyone to do abortion in respective of the circumstance around the pregnancy except if its severely life threatened. Its never a solution to anything. Now am very happy with my two kids and after the birth of my second child, things started changing financially that i dont even have any cause to borrow or live in lack. I will say this my second child brought lots of blessing for me cos my finances change for good even better than when i gave birth to my first child. So pls op dont hurt that little blessing in you. Take your wife to hospital so they can manage her and follow up with her till when she gives birth. pls dont attempt to kill that child, else you will regret it. who knows if you are only destined for two children in life and with the fibroid issue of your wife, conceiving is always difficult. so this might be your chance to have your child. so pls and pls dont abort that child. you guys will definitely survive and bet me, when that baby comes, you wont regret having that child as things will definitely change for good for you and your household. I am saying this base on my personal experience.

Thank God for your experiences of a turnaround in financial fortunes following the birth of your second child. It's a 50/50 chance of success. For me, the decision to abort, with pills especially, should be dependent on how far gone the pregnancy is so has not to risk birthing a child with deformities.

To the Op, my advise to keep the pregnancy is because your wife has fibroid! The weight of being responsible for a kid is huge, not to talk of adding another mouth when you're already struggling to be practically responsible.

Good luck with your decision.

khorex:
You can ask the guy if the withdrawal is on deposit or winnings? As for me accessbet has the fastest payout including weekends..

About Accessbet, we are both united in commending them for their prompt, honorable, innovative and customer -centric services.They are on a class different and far above bet9ja.

As for the guy I quoted initially, you can be rest assured he is not talking about a withdrawal on/deposits. I don't know of any being company that allows that.

Was actually corroborating the guy's experience because my payout is still yet to be retired into my account since making the application yesterday morning. Something Access bet would have settled not more than 5mins after the application.

God forbid that Bet9ja would push one into patronizing their shops that is open to all manner of miscreants.

Organicist95:
Same here
. They refuse crediting the 8k I won since last week. I keep seeing pending.

It's like the online betting na scam, better to go bet in a shop

it does sure look like scam, but they'll get served.

They assume theirs is just to pool people's money lost to bets while looking to tell stories when people manage to win.

I pointed out to a call center agent how they should have gone past this inefficiency especially given their market share, but she thinks they are too big to fail. As soon as my account is fully drawn down, I'd resist the temptation to look their way.

Wetin Accessbet dey tidy under 5mins na im dis guys want use agbari corner.

WilliamsTheGrea:
Bro your words hit me, do you really think so? Although I'm a very fine guy no doubt most girls would fall for me the way she acts I kinda feel she loves me but the child is the only problem and she doesn't even have any friends she is mostly with me all the time..

Single moms, especially those without the means to adequately cater for their child(ren) tend to show extreme love to clueless guys, who could fill in the gap, because they're in a mad search for a lifeline.

Final decision would have to be yours ultimately, but be aware that you would train another man's child whose only duty after donating sperm, say thirty years down the line, would be to cry and beg for the forgiveness of your wife (assuming you go ahead to marry her) and his son.

Being responsible for a child is not beans and it's the joy of knowing that you sired that child that serves as fuel on the journey!

Then, to 'father' a stubborn child whose mom suspects your motive at correcting/moulding her child? Damn!

Five years ago, I would have done that, but today? God forbid!

Dpharisee:
I am sure he did not even take care of his own mother who may be in the village suffering, but was infatuated a deceptive woman. I guess he never had a mentor to tutor him about putting 100% hope on a woman.

I had a girl in school but I refused to sponsor her education, I was just sending upkeep stipends even with hope of us getting married after graduation, she went for another man, I wept due to her betrayal, cleaned up my face and quickly moved on. Happy that I didn't train her in school as she wanted me to do

Truth be told, some guys may have committed suicide if they faced the kind of betrayal you faced after all the commitments.

I think people resort to extreme measures relative to the extent of their commitments; the length of the period involved and above all, the likelihood or not of hitting that level of financial success that made them commit to such fraudulent ventures.

Way back, I heard of a story of a guy in Rivers working on the NLNG train VI construction, who in the hope of marrying his gf, paid all expenses on her schooling (as a matter of fact, he usually surrendered all of his earnings to her, in the name of love, while she in turn hands him stipend to live by).

Heard he committed suicide from shock, disappointment, betrayal, and an irredeemable waste of an economic opportunity when the girl, shortly after her graduation was mindless enough to thank him with an invitation to her wedding to another fellow entirely.

You need some strength to cope with these situations, bit the best safeguard is not to allow oneself to commit to such misadventure.

While we remember all we lost to ventures like this, and thank God for the strength with which we bore the losses, May God rest his soul and comfort those he left to mourn him.

mideactive:
Are they sure the guy is really dead,this might also be a scheme

Now this is "Angle C"!

kittykollinxx:
10% in two months is a waste of investment

Not exactly a waste sir. Treasury bills doesn't pay that much when compared; stock market won't guarantee such gains, though it has the capacity to deliver multiple of that in a bullish market; sports betting? I reserve my comments.

Because they fell for a ponzi after all the warnings, one could say they deserve to lose their monies because even the Bible says a fool and his money are soon parted (proverbs 21:20).

kerzhim:
Izit not the same Wolves wey Chelsea waya 5 goals Liverpool dey struggle with? Besides, dem dey even happy say dem score 2-1.

Ogbeni, football no dey follow the logic of syllogism.

This match hard us gan , but overall na the results we go remember after all the sweat.

Congratulations Liverpool.

YNWA!!

izospindle:
A Friend Wanted Me To Lend Him Money I Told Him This. Am I Wrong?

So a friend of mine told me that his girlfriend is about to lose her admission, because school fee deadline is tomorrow. He asked me to lend him 70k.

I know how he loves this girl so I asked him to fill a form before I give him the money. Am I wrong for doing that?

He started saying a whole lot of things and has not spoken to me since. Note this is half of all my savings and I have a purpose for this particular fund just that the time has not come.

Advice is needed please

Don't dare do it.

Way back, a friend quite particular about my 'progress' as an undergraduate scholar brought his nephew to make a business proposition to me that is supposed to be an equal partnership.

We drew an agreement and I made my equity contribution but was shocked not to find any profits to share as per our agreement, when the date fell due. Of course I took drastic measures which produced a fraction of my investment but ended up destroying the friendship (no apologies).

Not against helping a friend, but rendering assistance for a purpose which doesn't profit him directly is taking a hugely very risky gamble..... and you would lose!

He wants to make up the fees of a gf? Makes it even worse! Let's not talk about monies lost to such enterprise at all. Just tell him to gamble with his money so he can learn his lessons when it's break time.

How young men wilfully take on responsibilities they shouldn't contemplate is beyond me. She no get papa?

My brother, if your friendship should end because you have refused to funnel your funds to take care of your friend's foolishness, let it end! Just take 2k from your savings and get 2 other friends to a roadside bar to drink beer because you would have lost the whole of your 70k.

ambassadorgozie:
guy dis is d truth, i know wia to go if i want sex

Paddy, the haste with which some bad/unfortunate cycles go to completion would marvel.

For me, it was absolutely insensitive and inappropriate not to have judged the situation correctly before proceeding to wrap your hands around her shoulders all in a bid to persuade her to eat with you. Haha!

I take lessons from experiences and would not have done what you did in 2006! So, don't fight your sack after all no be you create the job and no be you go pay yourself salaries. Take the lessons and continue with your life. Las Las, you go dey okay.

Sorry for your loss. All shall be well!

patani:
This is very commendable.. 7,5percent VAT is like ome of the least in Africa.. Then exemptiom of SME from paying tax is very commendable

Up until your post, I only got to read silly rants of properly uneducated fellows, that I wondered if I had started lacking comprehension.

I don't know about Nigeria's VAT of 7.5% being one of the least in Africa, but would have loved to be availed what items are covered. But the part I loved was exempting companies with annual turnover less than #25m from paying company income tax. Another one that gets my thumbs up is the PSC profits. Makes sense to me!

Abujaexpress:
Strictly professional. I took her like my younger sister

Thanks for being humane to pay her wages pro rata after she absconded. Many won't do and that includes me too.

As for flinging a document to/at her, let judges that don't know what heck it is to run a business masturbate on the propriety of your actions, if it makes them feel good.

As for accepting her back, especially for compassionate reasons, please be guided! Even, IT students that in some cases pay for internship would not absond and dare to beg to be reinstated not to talk of someone in a paid employment, however small she considers her take-home.

I don't know how big your firm is or how many people you have in your employ, but I think there's even no need to tell her to come formally end her employment.

Baba, simply change your locks and get a new secretary. Please allow people to always take responsibility for their actions so that one day, in future, we shall have more sensible people than idiots.

LesbianBoy:
Liverpool will be handed their first defeat in this game

Quote me after the match

Your oracle lied on this.

Ancellotti résumé is quite rich, suggesting it would be odd not to expect him to achieve measurable success with Everton especially considering the array of stars therein that have been consistently dismal before now.

But, when I look back at how Pelligrini has been demystified at Westham after his successes at Man City, I cannot but wish Ancellotti well.

We enjoy the competitiveness of the EPL and would be sufficiently excited to see him genially appropriate a UCL slot for Everton.

HolyHero:
I was arguing with an attendant at the filling station today... he insisted I pay the N50 if I want to use the POS and I told him it doesn’t work that way.. I later had to pay sha.. I no fit Dey speak too much English because of N50

Good you reconsidered.

Filling stations for example have been structured to earn fixed amount on their products while compliance is ensured by the DPR. POS was a tool to help the government's cashless policy and more suited for the convenience of the customer. So why should one expect a business to eat into its profits to remit a statutory 'Stamp Duty"for a service not more beneficial to it as it is to the customer? Doesn't make sense and is impracticable!

In due time, CBN would know just how sensible this 'clever-by-half' clarification is and how well it bodes for the government's cashless policy and act appropriately.

rockcitie:
Why did he not WALK AWAY No man has any excuse for hitting a woman.

He could have entered the room and locked himself up there until when she finally calmed down. It's much better than slapping her.

A man could have a reason sir. Here's mine: It's less than 7 months and i can't recall the details but i guess wifey wanted us to talk nd i said i was tired and needed my sleep. She started, I left for the parlour with d blanket for fear of mosquitoes yet she followed me, ranting endlessly and was even moving to seize the blanket so mosquitoes could kill me. Where else would i have walked away to at 2am in a self-contained?

Tell me why a slap wasn't a good way to cure such irrationality.

YelloweWest:
Do u want the marriage to end just because of 1 irresponsible act? If your wife came back by 2am won't u be mad as hell? The op was wrong! He never mentioned that he apologised as he returned home which would have doused the tension.

A small thing he could have handled if he was mature in mind has now escalated involving in-laws...

He was the wrong one here not the wife! Her nagging of whatever is natural and justified.

As married men, we face challenges that are huge, varied and very real, as such I don't subscribe to facing yet unnecessary squabbles on the home front. I did say it was irresponsible of him not to have called to inform his wife he would be returning so late. Yet, I consider it unreasonable to hound him everywhere, even after his apologies (he said he did before the slap), on account of the slight.

Talking about divorce, I don't see a reason not to if the head could be side-stepped in such manner. They are a young couple and should be allowed an opportunity to resolve issues without interference, except it hs been established that a party lacks the ability for peaceful timely resolution of conflicts but is yet still interested in the union.

So, my advise remains: ignore the wife and her family ! If it ends that way, so be it!

What do I do?[/quote]First off, I am most unlikely to return from an outing by 2am when there are no unforseen incidences without putting my wife on notice. You got that wong man.

In extreme instances of nagging, I could slap, if I am not allowed space even in the parlour. Done that once without apologies.

Except you owe your livelihood to those in-laws, this is one very dangerous precedent to resolution of quarrels.

Having apologized profusely and made efforts to placate them, I'd advise you absolutely ignore all of them for demeaning you. This meddling will never stop if you can't be the head in name and in deed!

Chanchit:
The narrator said she had tears in her eye for the first time this year. On Top people weh bite more than they can chew? Abi na by force to do elaborate wedding ni.

May God rest their souls. But, it has to be stated that debts aren't only incurred to procure elaborate weddings only.

Depending on the ages/financial standing of the intending couple and the level of financial contributions they get from friends and family, they may even find themselves borrowing to get items listed as dowry sef! And this can be compounded by adding parties to it.

Man City have got the memo: 2019/2020 EPL Title Race C'est Finis

Minemrys:
lol. Bros na shaqiri fault jor. Any time the guy score, them dy sack coach. Na him single handedly sack m0urinho. I just pray say Klopp go play against man u again.

Mehn, all join. Klopp has done incredibly well with this former mediocre Liverpool team.

Klopp made this happen!

YungJo207:
They should just sell us that Napoli Central defender and we are good.

Kalidou Koulibaly? If we bid and Napoli offers him, that should be answers to many prayers

J111333:
I don't think I can or will have time to always pay the fees, I reside very far away from them right now.
I thought of stipend but the thought of them depending on it made me had a rethink because I know my cousin.

I have a favorite cousin whose works of kindness and benevolence actually surpasses yours. He got seriously burdened one day that he asked for my advice. I told him:

Bros, I love you but do you think those fellas you are absolutely responsible for will die if you either become incapacitated or deliberately refrain from living your life for them? That was years ago. Now my fv bros os retired and not much of the people he did all manner of good deeds for have died following his seeming lack of capacity to play at that level he used to roll.

When you choose to be largely responsible for a supposedly educated adult human, you kill his creativity. I would have stopped the moment they went ahead with birthing a fifth child they obviously had no means to take care of.

Summarily, please stop being their breadwinner so they can think for themselves
By then your favourite cousin could sign on to welfare support from the church that makes her take life less seriously while her husband could become level-headed to find a practical business that would make him play his role.

Please note that these same people are not obligated to helping should tides turn against you. Then again, these people would ask what you did with all your money when you run into tough times, God forbid!

E no get wetin Musa no go see for gate! One bloody heck of a gold-digging ashewo woman.

I quite like tally with with his views most times. A great brain he was.

Condolences to those left to mourn him. I quite value his contributions to discussions on the economy and would miss him.

May the souls of the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, rest in peace!

solmusdesigns:
true the article didnt specify whose parlour, but if you check the thread of David Lyon and sylva visiting Jonathan and Mama peace, you'd notice its the same seating room

.

Didn't quite follow those threads. But if true, would exactly blame him?

I find it out of place to have Obj and Jonathan cram themselves into a seat if they are not guests to Dickson. Then again, this could just be a momentary change of position, as such no biggie.

Or would have preferred Seriake kneeling the way that banker knelt while talking with Fayose or Standing the way Emefiele was when he was meeting with that guy that was lleged ro be a strongman of the Aso rock cabal?

solmusdesigns:




The body language says alot, inside Jonathan's parlour you are putting foot on the chair as a guest and pointing at Obasanjo (military General/ head of state, man who finished the assualt on biafra and made them surrender, and two terms President), even Buhari cant do that to Obasanjo or Gowon...

he was like i don arrive, a whole me, local man from local village in bayelsa creek to state house of assembly now governor while this men are out of power,.. but are they really out of power? i guess he knows now



..

Not quite sure I read the part where it was stated whose sitting room that was. However, I had read somewhere where it was said Obj and Jonathan were his guests to prevail on him to rescind his decision to make his cousin the guber candidate against a hugely popular Alaibe.

Guess, this 'pinchure' was from that occasion. Anyways, appears local mn ws feeling fly having two former presidents visit him to ask a favour.

...and you know how it is: pictures like this only start circulating when a previously living dog becomes dead lion!

Now people are rationalizing how the PDP lost Bayelsa. You're welcome to Joi John's angle!