₦airaland Forum

"Ibi gbogbo ni ilẹ ọwọ"! Whichever.

@ efosanice

Why would anybody run a race he doesn't have the stamina for? Desperation, everybody is looking to be able to make two ends meet. But at the same time wouldn't you say that is foolhardy on their part.

bibiking1:
Why would you take people through the rigors of physical exercise without making adequate preparation for first aid devices and kits.

Rightly said. All the allocation for first aid and medicals must have been shared by the officers.

The question now is do these people in hospital and the families of those that die get compensation from either the Federal government, Ministry of Interior to the Nigeria Prisons Service, Nigeria Immigration Service and Customs Service. These people die on their grounds in the process of interview.

The boy is only a child and should be in school, period.

aderonke12:
I am happily married with a beautiful son. I suddenly stumbled on my ex and he keeps tailing me all around and telling me he still loves me even though he is married. Funny enough, he married one of the girls he dumped me for. What do i do?

Happily married? And you're still giving your married ex audience! Then you're asking us what to do. I think if you're that happily married you should be able to discuss this with your husband.

Ajebota:
Yeah would definitely want to enjoy time alone with my husband and settle into married life first. Also finances must be sorted out before babies start coming. Is just that why can't people mind their own business and face their own marriages? And why is it the norm for people to have kids straight after marriage?

Thank your stars you're too far away from prying eyes of extended family. You and your husband can sit down and plan your family the way you want it without interference.

Upbringing.

No.

Lack of communication, understanding, trust and loyalty.

Nothing wrong with it, 'What a woman can do a man can also do!'.

She doesn't love you, if she does she would respect you. Obviously she's more matured than you are and just toying with you.

Oh, I've had a relationship that I wouldn't exactly say ended badly, but I knew from the beginning it wasn't going to work and trust me I still went ahead with it. The writings were all over the wall, I could see it very clearly, but I chose to ignore it - but all that is history now.

Rabeshi:
people say love irrates when u give your all to your partner and d love is not returned.my girl says i don't lov her what would i do nairalanders!!!!!!!!!! and i am very faithful

zeal500:
If you love her confront her and tell her how you feel AND IF SHE is still not decided then give her time because if you love her you can hold on. but if she dissappoints you take with good faith and move on.

Don't tell her. SHOW her. Action speaks louder than voice!

bookione:
Should a man marry a woman even if his parents didn't agree to it.

"Words of wisdom", those are the words of our parents, and it's always good to heed their warnings. If parents don't agree to their son marrying a lady, I think the son should find a way to stop the relationship fast and not stubbornly go ahead to marry the lady - such marriages don't last. The parents must have seen, heard or stumble upon some facts about the lady or her family and don't the Yoruba's say again "oro agba bi o se l'owuro, bo pe titi a se lojo ale" - it's only a matter of time.

bookione:
On the other hand if someone's parents finds a wife for him should he marry the girl even if he is not inlove with her or should he say no to it.

Do you know that in those days there is what is called 'arranged family weddings'. Most popular in the Northern Nigeria and also among the Ondo people in the south. Two close affluent families would, the moment they have both sex children, decide there and then they would be married when they grow up. The families also become in-laws immediately. And no matter where these children are raised, home or away, whether they've met or not, they know they have a wife/husband waiting for them somewhere. And when the time is right, they are married. I have seen arranged marriages like this work over and over again. But times are changing, and its changing with our custom and traditions, and most young men nowadays feel they have a right to decide for themselves.

[quote author=$$Rhino link=topic=150093.msg2489876#msg2489876 date=1215719795]yeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee, coolier is wierd [/quote]And why would you think that?

Suprisingly the smell of tobacco trips me. And yes I would date a man that smokes.

No. But respect does matter.

brownbaby:
Hi,
Its going to be my wedding in less than two months and i'm trying to brighten my complexion for the occassion,
I'm dark/chocolaty in complexion. Some one then recommended Clear essence and fashion fair cream for me with skin success soap. What do u think, is it ok.

Black is beautiful. Don't damage your skin. And congrats on your wedding.

eminemkayc:
In our modern society, its now normal to find most Nigerian men insisting on their partners getting pregnant before marriage! this practice, however, is grotesque when compared with the norms practiced by our parents of old. Most men argue that they are not sure of the lady they are about taking into their homes, so the litmus test must first be carried out on her to ensure her fertility! however, others (especially the religious heads) have thrown counter argument saying that the practice is contrary to the content of religious books. so everybody, what do u think?

If the couple are not slated to be married in an Anglican church(cause they frown against that nowadays), or are born again christians(they also say no to sex before marriage), I would say get pregnant before marriage. Sometimes the excitement of the whole celebration, the reality of change and stress of marital life prevents some brides at times from getting pregnant immediately.

The prophet according to Fela "everything is upside down, disorganised patapata" first the teachers, now oil workers, who's next?

baby4u2:
so @ayomifull what are u suggesting she does? forget him and move on to another man? These things don't just work the way you imagine, its an emotional attachment. She is bound by marriage to that guy

She is not bound by marriage to the guy, they were never legally married.

@ Poster:
First the bitter truth: The law says they are not legally married, only traditionally engaged to be married. The guy can go ahead and marry someone else legally whereever he is and he wouldn't have committed bigamy and that would be his lawful wife. Your sister is just the mother of his child. A marriage certificate is more powerful than bitter and cola nuts!

That notwithstanding the guy had been a let down. But it happens - there is nothing new under the sun, people change. We should all learn to move on and not hang on to the past. 9years is too long a time. Live!!!

@ deor03
"All these from this poster from previous threads, I don't see much credibility in your stories."


@ poster

July 07 it's "i and my oga dey go out, each time we are in the office he is always requesting for sex"

July 07 again: "we've been doing it but it's always in hotel"

July 08: "am being impregnated by my stepfather"


Is this some kind of joke?

aysometin:
@ Coolier,
I am Brtish but I live in Nigeria, I was thinking UK but recently my Bro-in- law suggested Ireland. need your contributions

UK

Work experience teenager in £13K law firm fraud
9/07/2008

A work experience girl who tried to steal more than £60,000 from a top law firm was jailed for five months yesterday.

Titilayo Olaifa joined Freshfields but within three days had used their computer system to generate 11 company cheques.

She forged her boss's signature and paid six cheques into her bank, a court heard.

But the City London law firm became suspicious.
Four were stopped in June 2007, but two totalling £13,500, were cashed.

Olaifa, now 19, of Clapton, East London, admitted theft and fraud but refused to say what happened to the cash. At Southwark crown court, Judge Martin Beddoe said she "betrayed" the firm's trust.


http://www.mirror.co.uk/news/topstories/2008/07/09/work-experience-teenager-in-13k-law-firm-fraud-89520-20636776/

aysometin:
Hello,
Please I need professional advice on this topic, with reasons, benefits, negative effects and so on
Thanx

UK if you're british, resident there or can comfortably afford to pay the hospital bill.
Ireland if you're Irish, have a stay or can afford to travel and drop there.
Nigeria if you're Nigerian, live there and can't afford foreign bills

It's some sort of propaganda! I don't trust these politicians.
According to the news story, he was poisoned some weeks ago, flown abroad for treatment and is now back in the country. Why is the 'poison' story just breaking out? why didn't anybody, not one single newspaper report it then?

There's "fire on the mountain" in Ogun State presently and that is a good way for the government to divert our attention from the crux of the matter. Or maybe a way to whip up our sentiments!

Feesha:
A lady colleague at work travelled home for two weeks. When she came back, everybody welcomed her back warmly. On my own part, I playfully told her i missed her. Though we used to share jokes and generally gist before, now she hangs around me and sends me text messages. Its seems obvious to me that she assumed that i toasted he by saying i missed her. Please what do i do now? I don't really "miss " her like that!

Then tell her soonest in a nice friendly way and don't unintentionally lead her on.

Moyola:
y shuld she cry? did he beat her?

I wonder o!

bisibaby:
My fellow Nairalanders please help me contribute to this Matter ohhhh.
I have a boyfriend and we are intending to get married but i went for counselling in my church concerning both of us. My
pastor said that both of us should come and see her. But now when i got home i explained to him and he said he can't
go to any pastor for now.

But i believe one thing that no matter what if he loves me he will surely follow me to my pastor but now we are on the
matter he said he can't follow me to my pastor
so now i want to ask his he truly in love or he his just playing me with this he said. because i don't understand.

I take it you are a christian and that was your pastor you went to see. But is your fiance one or a non-believer?  Did you discuss the counselling with him before you went and alone? And what sort of church do you go to - some men abhor some churches. Maybe what you need to do is find the right time and place and try talking to him again about this if it's that important to you. And he is the only person who can tell you if he truly loves you.

nalijah07:
Does your family share meals together, or does everyone go their separate ways when mealtime comes. Lately I'm noticing more and more families that do not eat together. Is this practice becoming extinct?

No, we do not eat together. I don't even have a dining table, just a kitchen table. And we do not eat the same meal nor eat at the same time either. So it's not uncommon in my home to see me eating rice or drinking 'gari'(cassava) for lunch and somebody else is eating beans and another a take away.