₦airaland Forum

TheStoriesOfMan:
According to the university bylaw of the NUC, it is forbidden for a lecturer or any staff to have intimacy with a student or learner.

The punishment is outright sack of the lecturer, and in some few cases rustication of the student for at least one academic session.

I don't believe that the bylaw is talking about student in general. What is obtainable globally is: No intimate relationship with a student or even a staff that you have authority over. This restricts it to students in your department or offering a course you teach.

If a young lecturer in Physics dept, for example, admires a student in Theatre Arts dept, they can fall in love. Provided that student will not offer any Physic Course.

ednut1:
No direct flights from Nigeria to Canada imagine

Canada is not a city, but a country. It takes at least 4-5 hours direct flight from West to East of the country. Nigeria to Canada direct flight is practically impossible even for well established airlines.
They should start from economically viable routes, not just mentioning cities/countries to please certain demographics.

loveth360:
And Yorubas were already rejoicing .

How do you think the story started?

My house is on fire, but I went dancing in the village square. When my neighbor called me out for being complacent, I replied by shouting that arm robbers just entered his compound.

Let's keep playing with fire!

NetbizBoss:
I know the have eaten better cash from the former Governor Of Akwa Ibom State to write this rubbish.


Akpabio I know is not as tribalistic as he is being painted here

I'm free Akwa Ibom

Don't mind this ones. They hated Akpabio's got to challenge former governor Attah. Akpabio was hated by Ibibios throughout his 8 years as governor.
They should continue their hatred!

In my opinion, factors that keep encouraging these inhumane, wicked businesses are

1. Bribe taking NAFDAC/POLICE covering these people.
2. Neighbors and families shielding their 'sons/daughters ' even when they know they are doing something illegal.
3. High cost of doing legitimate business in Nigeria. Start a genuine business production today, you will see how same NAFDAC/POLICE and every thugs from the government will harass you till you quit.
4. Nigerians like cheaps wares to their own detriment. If you set up a winery today to produce original wine and call it "Okechukwu Wines", Nigerians will still line up to buy fake 'Carlo Rosy' (note the spelling) because they believe that one is foreign made.

Nigerians are too greedy, even to our own detriment.

Freetech:
I won't be surprised if this becomes fake news again

Even if it's true, he's broken the act of confidentiality which is part of agreement as a civil servant.

Why will you leak government sensitive information to the public.

Even in America any staff who leads government info will be dismissed and face the law

Are you for real? Is the AGIS database considered as CLASSIFIED?

PDPdestroyer:
Leave her for us, we Obidients like her. She's fighting for a better Nigeria for you

Natasha is PDP, Obidients are supposed to support LP candidates. But most importantly, Obidients are supposed to support efficient, transparent government in favor of the masses.

I take the issue of sexual harassment very seriously. But I also know many men have been brought down by false accusations of sexual harassment/abuse. Sexual harassment shouldn't be a thing of media trial.

I lost interest in this case when Natasha said on Arise TV that her case is like a female student failing exams because the students refused to sleep with a lecturer. This was really insulting to genuine/innocent lecturers/professors. We have beautiful girls in Nigeria graduating top of their classes, did they all sleep with lecturers? All the girls that fail exams in the university is it because they refuse to sleep with lecturers?
Such sweeping statements give wings to lots of false accusations already rampant in Nigeria.

If you're an Obidient, support justice, fairness and truth. Not because she is fighting the senate leadership.

zero8zero:
Enemies of Nigeria in the mud

I now understand why we keep getting the kind of leaders we have.

What a way to reason!

NetbizBoss:
This people had abondon Calabar/Itu highway

We still have people like the senate president, Goodwill Akpabio, Minister of state for Petroleum, Ekperikpe Ekpo, former Governor of Cross River, Ben Ayade, and other major Tinubu supporters from Akwa Ibom and Cross River states. None of them can lobby Tinubu to fix that road that has become a death trap.

Who brought this to the front page?

The writer is promoting the gender fluid agenda. Is this what Nairaland wants to promote now.

Uwaomaokey:
yes boss, i was trying to reach you in regards to wine business, can i have your WhatsApp number so that i can reach your sir

Ok. Check my signature. Whatsapp only. The we can take it from there.

Tolu2024:
Instead of you to curse the man only you are cursing the man entire family forgetting your 3 kids share the same blood with him?

Sense una no get .

Though such curses do work if you hurt someone deeply I remember one of my aunt who lay a curse on her on son dad because the man denied it. The curse was “ if this baby is yours and you deny it’s not yours you will never have a child “ for over 20 years the man couldn’t bear a child he have to come back and apologize to my aunt and pay her bride price for his son.

So whatever you do don’t hurt a lady who gave birth to your kids , because you have already shared blood with her .

Even if the lady is after man's life? That a lady gives birth to a man's child(ren) shouldn't mean the lady is entitled to toxic and unruly behavior. Every human has a right to life and happiness.

Yesterday I went to friend's house for a kind of house warming party It was a small party, as all the attendees were mutual friends. We were served assorted kinds of meat, from chicken/turkey to goat meat, beef, peppered snail, and fish. The ladies started a conversation that I initially thought was something mundane. But it got to a heated argument. Some said that the meats were too tender, and that Nigerians love tough or as they put it "chewy" meat. Some said soft/tender is best. I was sitting on the fence till I left.

I want to ask. As a Nigerian, do you appreciate "chewy"/tough meat or you love tender/soft meat?

I need your opinion please.

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I believe this guy is asking on behalf of someone else. Or he is planning his exit before starting.
No one who has spent 1 year in a major seminary would ask these set of questions.

All the major seminaries in Nigeria are affiliated to Nigerian universities. So, their degrees are NUC recognized. If your bishop permits, you can even do NYSC. Some use those degrees to work in secular offices.

The question should be, what kind of work can someone with a degree in philosophy or/and theology do in the Civil service or corporate world?

LilMissFavvy:
God bless that great woman who walked her daughter down the aisle, doing what a father is supposed to do. Africa needs to root out all those evill ancient cultures which forbids women from doing certain things. Let other women take note, walk your children down the isle, don't stress yourself looking for a bad* ex husband.

Walking a daughter down the aisle is not and has never been an African culture. It's copied from the West.
Sadly, we have copied lots of things from the West, such that we can differentiate what is originally African.

Hey Brethren, does anyone know where I can buy Mason jars in Nigeria? I need the 8 oz preferably, for some project. The pictures below show what they look like

LilMissFavvy:
She should have adopted a female child years ago, I truly do not know if a woman who has boys only, plus a failed marriage can be happy. If she had at least one daughter, she would be happy.

Coming from a lady, I am inclined to believe you. I don't think she would be willing to do that at this present stage of life.

Mariangeles:
If your story is true, then the only thing you need to tell her is that she needs to heal from all her hurt, and that only God can truly and perfectly heal her ( heart, soul and spirit).

She doesn't believe in God anymore. She even mock people who do. How do I start such a conversation? I will try.

Good morning my people.
I will try my best to summarize my plight about my "friend".

Background
For almost 15 years I have known this lady. I think she is in her mid 50s. I knew her through a mutual friend. We used to chat about lots of things. She appeared down to earth. She used to tell me about her then relationship, and even sought my help (during her separation/divorce) in some ways I could. She is intelligent, outspoken, and loves helping the less privilege. I used to call her a good friend.

But in the last 7-8 years, she has turn a 'Voltron' of the 3rd wave of feminism. For her, every man with any masculine characteristics is toxic. All fathers are deadbeats, and abusive. Every woman who appears to be happy in her marriage is abused and suffering. Men are to be used and dumped. She popularize the statement "Don't listen to men! And don't listen to women who listen to men" on all her social media handles. She also turned agnostic/atheist (or would I say anti-christian). Most of her religious followers left her. I doubt if I can call her my friend any more.

The Problem
She has 3 handsome sons (23, 26, 31). When she started making her vitriol against men public on her social media handles, I asked her if she would recommend the type of women she is encouraging modern women to be to her sons. She said that she doesn't care. If any of the sons "do anyhow with any lady" he would "see anyhow", or better still they should "upgrade".
Recently, she has complained like 3 times that the sons have "ghosted" her. The one in UK stopped talking to her about 3 years ago. The two that lived with her have moved out, and she doesn't know where they live, neither do they pick her call. She basically cried few days ago, that she has no child.
I felt like telling her that her adult kids may not see her as a role model in a lady they may be interested in marrying. That if every lady listens and acts based on her views, her sons won't marry or have a peaceful marriages. That the kids may not comfortable in the way she demonizes their father, even when the man has seen them through universities.

Should I tell her or mind my business?

So, it pains you guys (gods of men) when your wives listen to another person? Yet, you all are being worshiped by peoples' wives to the detriment of their husbands. In your presence a woman would insult her husband, and turns around to call you 'daddy', and you don't call her to order? A woman would come to your 'all night' without the husband's knowledge or consent, if the husband complain, you prophesy that he is demonic and the wife should leave him or deny him marital respect and rights.
I wish some Nigerian Christians are less emotional/gullible, and tell the truth about some of these pastors. The number of families/marriages destroyed directly or indirectly by some of these 'gods of men' are enormous.

Kelklein:
The percentage simply means the concentration of alcohol in the drink.. if it says 6% Alcohol, the rest of the component 94% is just water. That is why you pee alot when you drink.

Even if you take one spoon, it means the percentage of that small quantity you are taking.

Beer are mostly between 3-7.5% alc
Whiskey between 17 - 42%
Vodka - 20 - 45%
Palm wine - 1 - 2% depending on how much dilution is done. Raw palm wine is only 2% alc.
Gin (ogogoro) - 30-47%
Red/White Wine - 7 - 15%

Good information you gave to the OP.

But the percentage of alcohol in palm wine is not static. It mostly depend on the fermentation stage. Raw Palm wine is continuously fermenting. That is why, if you drink freshly tapped palmie in the morning, it taste sweet. Higher level of unfermented sugar, and contain less alcohol. If that same wine is left unrefrigerated till next day, it become sour and stronger. That means high percentage of alcohol. This may continue till all the sugars are converted to ethanol (the alcohol) or/and ethanoic acid (the sour component).

Fresh Palmie is between 1-4%, sour palmie can go up to 5-6% depending on how old it is. Dilution is another factor, but only done by commercial vendors for profit purposes.

BlindAngel:
That's the church she was attending before we got married, so I don't want to stop her in order for it not to seems like I'm wicked and for her not to call me names.

Yesterday she reminded me that after our marriage my family forced her to do thanks giving at our church. She has been saying this for long, but stopped, until yesterday.

I told her that doing thanks giving at our church is now a bad thing or something that's forceful?

She cried a lot yesterday because of our argument of this naming.

Same tears she used in forcing me into getting married to her when I wasn't in anyway ready.

The bold part is where the mistake started. If you don't put your feet on the ground and damn the tears, then you will continue to be a tool in her hand. She will do something wrong, then cry, you will take the blame and apologize. Get a book or article on how to resist manipulations.

Jaftee:
This one-sided post is intended to finish the man. there are various reasons for divorce and it is not a crime, even in the US, everyone what custody of their children. let the court be the judge

Not only to finish the man, but also to malign his business. The writer kept mentioning FarmFresh as if the case is the woman versus the company. It is between the man and the woman. It's common knowledge that when marriages break down (irrespective who is responsible), most women always want to eliminate the men from the planet.
My dad warned me with these words; "who you marry can make or mar you".

Klass99:
Lol 🤣. Have you actually been to those places yourself and seen photos of men there?

The fact that you are lol shows you know this to be true.

I have not been to prayer houses, but I have the people running some of these places around me.
Things people ( mostly ladies) do to hold a man down in Nigeria are scary.

[quote author=wwwkaycom post=129841348]In 2018, my cousin, who resides in Germany, tragically lost his wife to cancer, leading him to contemplate a new relationship. Encouraged by one of our aunts, he began dating a single mother from Nigeria in 2021, thinking that at 52, all he needed is a mature partner such as a single mother, widow, or a mature and stable single lady.

Unfortunately, this single mother turned out to be overly focused on money and material gain. Her family, especially her mother and younger brother, viewed my cousin as their financial lifeline, demonstrating entitlement and selfishness through constant demands for money and favours. Disheartened by their behaviour, my typically reserved cousin eventually ended the relationship after several warnings.

He then found companionship with a 36-year-old unmarried university lecturer in Ekiti State, Nigeria. They married in March 2023, and he has since relocated her to Germany.

Recently, he confided in me, revealing that contrary to his previous assumptions about many Nigerian women and their families, especially considering his experience with his former single mother acquaintance, his current wife and her family have never pressured him for money. Instead, they express genuine gratitude whenever he helps them, underscoring the toxicity of his past relationship.

Unfortunately, his former partner, the single mother, has been harassing our aunt, who introduced them. She even aggressively confronted me at the front of a bank last week, falsely accusing me and our aunt of advising my cousin against marrying her. I was furious and almost considered involving the police when she threatened me, but my friend and some mature bystanders intervened, and she was eventually escorted off the premises by bank security. It was an embarrassing scene for me.

Reflecting on these events, I can't help but wonder about the audacious and self-centered individuals we encounter in today's world. It felt like something out of a Nollywood film to me. She even had the audacity to claim that we drove her "helper" away.[/quote]It's not really about being a single mother. It is no more secret that great percentage of Nigerian families see marriage as poverty alleviation program. Plus, the "abroad " factor, some ladies with the help of their families can go extra miles to get a guy they consider a meal ticket.
Go to prayer houses, babalawo houses, and many alters, you will be surprised by the number of men's pictures in those places.

IamR:
PRESCO PLC proposed dividend of ₦24.30

Can you please post the link?

Biglittlelois:
So the best the husband can do to defend the housemaid is to throw a glass table on a 6 month old pregnant woman resulting to serious life threatening injuries? A housemaid that stole from the wife?

I am sure as a lady, you know that most ladies are good at lying, and acting as victim after causing problems.

We should give a margin for lies on every story we read on social media, be it from man or woman.
I have seen ( not heard or read), where a women smashed their TV screen, then call the police to report that the husband broke it while hitting her.

I have been a witness to a case where the husband hid the car keys so that wife won't go for a party. The wife slap her in front of my apartment, went home to cut herself then call the police. The man was arrested, and almost got sentenced but not for the 11year old daughter's statement to the police.

I am not doubting the lady's narration, nor do I believe it 100%. But the way you are defending it, and attacking anyone who questions the veracity of the story, makes me ask, were you there?

Remember, as a man, I have sisters and a daughter. As a woman, you have brothers and possibly, a son. Let's do to others what we wish be done to us.

seanery:
48hrs...!!!

Lord please.

Have you people contacted police authorities? Go to local Radio and TV stations. Not sure if those ones will need police report before making PSA.

This is a clear case of Dementia. Nigeria is not serious with mental illness, especially concerning the vulnerable like elderly people and children.

obataokenwa:
you don start, I hope you're not keyboard warrior oo cos no prove of what you're saying incase you're picked up

Can we stop all these threats?

I am venturing into food processing. I give out samples to people for review periodically. In the last few years, I have gotten very useful and also very ridiculous, insane and insincere reviews from friends, family and even competitors. If anyone, individual or corporate entity, is not ready for these, they should quit. Enough of this bullying.

DeOTR:
Unmarried
But I believe someone is trying to make us believe he committed suicide.

Same thing we are made to believe every time people die mysteriously.
I hope the police will investigate this one that involves their own. So many murders covered up as suicide in Nigeria.