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Lol
See the way he is vibrating on her tweet. If these excuses were given for a man cheating would he have the same energy?
He better keep this energy for all the many excuses men give and are given for cheating.

Thank you jare person with sense.

I don't know why another human being will sit and stupidly think he is superior to another human being just because he has a penīs

Yet these fools think feminism is a problem and act like feminism is the worst thing in our Society.

Not the fact that their egoistical selves want to be superior to another human being and treat another human being as lesser than them, No, that's not a problem. It's feminism that's their problem.

Arrogant misogynistic idiots
They are all over this thread.

HajimeSaito:
What is really disgusting is the way Nigerian men are always so happy to beat their chests like mountain gorillas whenever feminism is mentioned.

There is no feminism in Nigeria.

Show me ONE piece of legislation in this country that endorses feminism.

Show me ONE example of feminism dictating how this country is governed.

The answer is NOTHING, absolutely NOTHING.

And yet these idiots pretend that it is the reason for their frustrations in life.


Nigerians are the most hypocritical, unintelligent and backward looking people in the world.

Jaqenhghar:
Why you no marry your nigga then?

I just tire.

It's these kind of husbands in this story that make women angry and make women hiss when men open their mouths to say men are the head.
What kind of weak man hides behind his wife and leaves his wife to handle his friend?
What is his use then as head of house? Protector of family?
These kind of men leave their wives to do everything.
Cannot protect his wife. Cannot defend her. Common to stand up to his friend he cannot do. Oya since he has become a woman and the wife has become the man. Let him cook and take care of domestic chores. It's still the wife that is cooking meals. SMH


Please what is the use of such a man in a woman's life? See the poor woman stressing herself thinking of strategies to handle her lazy husband's friend when the man should have handled his friend from the first disrespect.
Smh

Perfect example of how people get what they ask and work for not what others think they deserve or should receive.

She asked and she got.

I guess that's their pre-intimacy

Modified
Forēplay changed to pre-intimacy?
Na wa oh

MrPresident1:
Drop out and go learn handwork. Who school epp?

If the story in this thread is real. It's just a Thread by a typical fuxkboy.
After hurting her and making sure the relationship ended with your distasteful actions. You moved on with your life to a new relationship. No wasting of time.

Now 2 months has passed and you want to see how she is doing, you want to monitor her, you want to know if she is still available for you to enter her life as you please. You want to know if she is still available for you to play with.
You now come here asking for advice on how to play her again while masking it as "you love her so much and you want her back" and the worst part is that you are doing this while you're still in a relationship with another girl. And people are taking you serious. SMH


Mtchewwww. Shameless fuxkboys. No be today, All of you follow the same script.

I hope she ignores your ass and any silly attempts for a reconciliation, she should just block you everywhere, and I really hope this your present girl shows you fire.

1Sharon:
I'm telling you sis they should have kept their mouth shut. Ppl could tease the girl for this

They don't even think about how it would look, I know you can't expect much from people who considered selling their own child but still, this is low.

They said success has changed their lives? Let us see how relevant she will be in even just a month before ppl forget about her and move on to the next viral sensation. Deluded lot.

The way they are making it seem as though they are only happy about having her when she brings them money. Smh
They need to do better.

WTF did I just read?
Do people consider their children at all before they open their mouths and start vomiting rubbish?
How do they think success will feel if she grows older and learns that her parents considered aborting and selling her?
As if that is bad enough they are just happy they didn't because she started bringing in money for them almost immediately (I.e the 100k the man was owed which was paid back the day of her birth)?

And now they are even more happy they didn't sell nor abort because of the money and fame she is receiving.


This is why people are such trash parents. They think a child came into this world to help them and make their lives easier and that is the only reason they like their child, not knowing it's the other way round while the child owes them absolutely nothing.

Success parents failed her.

nextstep:
Funny thing is women prefer persistent men... there are a bunch of biological reasons that delight a woman's heart when a toaster is persistent: "if this guy just gives up at the first sign of resistance, how will he deal with my bullshit later in the relationship? How can he take care of and protect me and my progeny? How can he provide for us"? Will our male children be weak like him?" These are not conscious thoughts, but they are unconscious switches in the woman's head being flicked, and if the guys isn't flicking the right switches in the right direction, attraction remains low.

I'm not saying that one should continue pushing until it becomes abusive or stalkerish... every man should learn to read the non-verbal cues that a woman is giving; understand that one can persist without being a jerk; and also know when to back down. In this case, the game hadn't even begun. Even in tennis, you get multiple serves before the volley

I'm a woman, I don't prefer persistent men.

I'm taking "ask her out" in this instance to mean ask her on a date.

There is a difference between no and "I don't want to go that place". "Or I can't make it this day", "or not yet" Or anything I can say that will show you that I would like to go out with you but the way you're asking won't get you that yet.

No on the other hand is final.

If I tell you no, I mean no.
keep disturbing me after that and you become nothing more than an irritating pest.

It leads me to start asking questions.
If this guy doesn't respect me enough to walk away when I tell him that I am not interested. that means he doesn't respect me nor respect what I say. What kind of love or relationship can start from that?
It also shows the markings of an abusive relationship in the making where the guy has no interest nor care for what I say and only goes after what he wants, even if I tell him that isn't what I want. What of relationship is that?

Besides, There is no non verbal cues when I have used my mouth to say no. How can you still be looking for cues again when I have said no?

He triggers her too much. Any word from him about her and she lashes out.

Tonto I don't blame you,
A man who already is a deadbeat dad still has the guts to say his marriage became a movie script.
No shame.

I actually respect that he respected her no.

I like men who listen to women. Who listen and respect it when a woman says NO.

ogunjobiolaide:
Guys of this generation are always in hurry in everything including parent, they want their child/ren to start school early, get to university early, get married early, want the best car at early age, die at early age(God may not let this be our portion).Just within two weeks u are already claiming her. Where una they rush go?

LOL

pappilo:
Thank God oh! we actually posted the same message at exactly the same time

I really thought my brain had not fired up this morning cah I read the message like 20 times but couldn't deduce anything.

Lol
I was considering asking people and even op to interprete the message, I was lost too but I decided not to.
I couldn't make sense of the message, I then guessed the "smiles and lovey dovey" are emojis written out. (That's the only way it makes sense to me)
And the only only thing left is "where is he going"
Is it be cause of "where is he going" that op opened this thread?
I don't even understand at all

What's the big deal about that message?
It doesn't really say anything.

faith551:
why is it ppl keep on getting this whole thing twisted. A girl shows up, had the the strength to air her feelings to a guy, if for nothing I admire that.

That's nice.

Is there a specific period of time it takes to care for someone??.

Not at all.

I wasn't planing on dating her

So you shouldn't really be bothered about that message. Or have you changed your mind?

but she did things that led me through respecting her boldness, getting to like her person and that human feeling of not really wishing to hurt her by playing tough guy. I only brought this here so I'll sample ppls opinion on a befitting reply and to make sure my actions will be vindicated.
#cant belive I typed all that

As for her behavior of pulling back, maybe she just wants you to pursue her since she has been the one going after you. E.g using your friend and taking you out on dates. So she is pulling back to see if you'll make a move.
If you don't want to you can move on

You met a girl 2 weeks ago, went on 2 dates in a week and she is already your acclaimed girlfriend?

Where are you guys rushing to?

Take it easy

faith551:
Ok, let me make this as short as possible as I need urgent insight.

I met this girl 2weeks ago through a friend. We had casual chat, then I noticed my friend was always saying good things about her (I got the hint the lady must have incited him to do that so I'll pick interest).
On meeting (by coincidence) a second time we exchanged numbers, I dnt know how she did it but she got under my skin in a flash. We went on dates twice in a week and the most shocking fact was she footed the bills. (I didn't like that fact tho, but she gets angry when I protest).

Fast-forwarded to few days ago, she travelled back to the west where she works and started acting weird. Actually they were really subtle changes but my 6th sense has a way of magnifying such anomalies, painting vivid pictures. She stopped calling as she does, misses my call without calling back, starts speaking Ibo when she's on phone with me around her colleagues and many more of such acts. I acted cool and matured by not jumping into conclusions.

This evening*
I got a text from her which read "Smiles, lovey-dovey. and where is he going to??".

Normal me would ignore the text and wait for her to come up with flimsy excuses before I flay her, but am scared she would have time to cook-up a coverup story if I don't point it out that I SEE HER.
whats ur opinion guys.
sorry for the lenghty write and typos tho

see how short this thread is. No one came here to call all Nigerian men oloshos, ashawos, hoes, farm tools and say all Nigerian men should be used for fuxking and nothing else + every other stupidity they exhibit when it's a woman in the wrong.
But if it was a woman. The misogynists would rush to insult their mothers and every single female in their family on FP
The few who managed to comment were busy pampering and babying him despite the fact that he is a disgusting cheater who gave his girlfriend a fuxking S.T.I. Handling him with kids glove. Making asinine jokes about how he should have blamed her.

This forum. SMH.

LadyHeaven:
I so enjoy the hypocrisy exhibited on this great forum, just negodu men dem advising the op to not tell her until notices herself, heap the blame on her whilst accusing her of been a cheap farm tool, just a pat in the back, no outcry on his disloyalty, some even going as far as saying girlfriend no be wife, but if the tables where turned and the girl did even something minute as cuddling with another guy this topic would have been up to 25 pages of pure curses.. Smh

abdulkayus:
I am just trying to imagine if the situation is the other way round, as in, it is a girl that cheated and then infected her loyal boyfriend, Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, only Almighty God know how the hypocritical guys on this NL would have finish her with abuses and curses.
But imagine that thrashes they are spewing here. Some advising him to turn the accusations onto her, some telling to not to ever come out truthful. Just imagine the kinds of so called guys we have here on NL? To me, they ain't mature guys but sissies, hypocritical beings very annoying set of neophytes.
I am also a guy but don't condone hypocrisy.
Mtwsssssssss.

Men showing how much they are scum all over FP.
See advice, "blame her for it" smh.

I hope she dumped your stupid cheating ass right after she read that message.

Ugosample:
interesting


depends on how you look at it tho.


IF at the point of her escapade with the "unku" she was in a relationship, then she is a hypocrite.

No story.

I know so many young girls like that

Having a "committed" boyfriend while having many "blessers" by the side.

Why is it interesting?

Is there really another way to look at it? He only said she slept with his uncle, that doesn't show disloyalty nor did she do something wrong by sleeping with the uncle.

What other way is there to look at it?

If the boy had provided a back story say like you said she was in a relationship or the uncle was married. That's different.
But he had nothing. Just felt confident enough in the slut shaming ways of this world to post the trash that she slept with his uncle and expected people to drag and disgrace her for that. (Maybe even assume she was cheating and drag her based on that)
That was foul.

Epic reply indeed.
Simple innocent post she made and someone rushed to disgrace his generations because of it.
Stupid boy trying to bring her down by slut shaming. She slept with his uncle and so what? why is it paining him? How does it make her disloyal and Why try to slut shame and disgrace her for that?
Did he make moves on his uncle and got himself rejected? Is that why he is in sifia pains? Jealousy?

Glad she remained unbothered. Can't be giving idiots attention they don't deserve.

HonAdeli:
2years jail term is small for raping an underage girl

Unfortunately she isn't underage in France. Age of consent is 15.

I don't even think there is any age of consent presently

But 2 years for rape is just pathetic.

Nukilia:
Are you trying to depict my dearest country Nigeria? A country where head is used for carrying load

LMAO

Mudia07:
I just fell in love ;

Lol I'm honoured

nairaland strikes again
Creating new ways to bash ladies nonstop. I guess we are going with the paranormal today.
Nairaland's bread and butter.

Mtchewww.

Organs:
Bros, na poverty dey do you. Stop blaming it on any girl. Invest on a desk and chair for your laptop and stop putting it on the floor. I pity the girl that allowed you sleep with her on your mattress on the floor, go and buy bed abeg.

These guys are so annoying. Poverty is tormenting their Lives, but they won't do something to fix it. They prefer to spend their time and energy inventing stupid reasons to bash ladies and blame ladies for their life problems.

@bold. This is why lie ladies need to vet the kind of guys they entertain properly. Avoid all these with such deep poverty mentality

Promoting someone for doing what he is supposed to do/doing the bare minimum

This is much better, I just hope the pilots would be able to make it in time to the passenger cabin

JOMAX:
not so, the pilot joins the passenger cabin before cockpit disconnection. System is fully automated and timed do all the captain does is set it off as in autopilot . Though this system must be independent of the planes operating system to prevent failure in deployment

GloryIsaac:
Wow, I'm going to modify the comment because this question has popped up multiple times and my response has been that the pilots will evacuate the cockpit before detachment.
The aim is to record no loss of life,and that includes that of the pilots.

germanized:
I don't think she deserves to be bashed cos of her expression, it's a free world and different people have different priorities...

For some ladies, it's a God fearing man, for some, it's a rich guy, for some, it's a handsome guy... Either ways, you will definitely see your type in this life...

I need a clap emoji.
So I can just use it when I agree with a post.
Nice

VULCAN:
Everything said to be impossible was done during the lifetime of the person who said it could not happen.

Within 20yrs, there will be a end to "everybody on-board perished", once someone can find a cost effective solution.

This is true. A lot of things which were said to be impossible are what we are using now.