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gedtalks:
My people pleaseeee I need sincere advise here. Your advise will definitely guide me on the next step to take.

There is a beautiful girl I've been considering getting married to, but the way she requests money and fast food is making her look very ... lol.. "hungry" and opportunistic to me. The values she sees in a man seem to me like its basically what he will BUY for her. I confess that I made matters worse initially by "fast fooding" each time we meet... Now I think she sees me like a free lunch at crunchies. If I call her in the afternoon, she says I'm hungry.. its so irritating now.. in fact I lost a lot of regards for her..but she doesn't know yet.

Recently she asked me for some money and I refused very politely..she said she was "disappointed".

I wonder if she even loves any other thing about me asides the MONEY I WILL GIVE HER. she pays ABSOLUTELY NO attention the things I want her to see in me...like level of maturity, my leadership skills, I taught she was just being childish, but lately I discovered its just her nature. her ideology about a guy is WHAT WILL I GET FROM HIM.. I might dump her .. i wont even talk to her about it. please advise me

bbmpin:
[color=#000050] One of my favorite quotes

"A person's tongue can give you the taste of his heart."

Most importantly, NEVER ignore your feelings, They are a best barometer as to where you should be heading, Can't stress that enough.

As for her, don't judge her, Judgment doesn't help, I can't confirm (based upon the incidents you mentioned) that she is 'materialistic'

Everyone has seeds of 'materialism' and 'spirit' and 'intellect' ingrained in them. Too difficult to judge a person

I would recommend just talking to her about it and telling her how it makes you feel. Otherwise if you never speak up

I can guarantee you that things are never going to change. [/color]

ephi123:
Not only presidents, anyone in a position where there could be a conflict of interest.

ephi123:
That's not completely true, there are alternatives like Blind trusts. No savvy business person will want to divest their assets just for the sake of a temporal position.

https://www.theguardian.com/us-news/2016/nov/17/trump-organization-blind-trust-business-holdings
http://www.investopedia.com/terms/b/blindtrust.asp

Evaberry:
This is simply sex education and knowledge. I don't see anything wrong with it. It's better a child becomes aware of all this early.
My 11 year old niece already knows about sex and condoms and also other sexual things

OZAOEKPE:
He made a mistake by not selecting a JEW





WELL WE STILL GOT SOME AFONJA JEWS

Okuda:
Lol. This man is too big for nigeria govt. Do you know what it is to be a director of Goldman sachs? omo gbagbe oshi o. This man cannot find satisfaction working in and for Nigeria.. No jokes!

sukkottt:
thats my point, there is no such thing as a man of integrity. all these men who perform well abroad only do so because they are in a system that is sanitized. if you steal 1 kobo they will lock you up. its a no nonsense system. bring those men to naija and they will turn to common criminals. i have seen it happen many times. brilliant men abroad coming home and then turning to common thiefs. which is why i said we need righteous men, emphasis on righteous. matters not what their location is

Mrhauxiliary:
Ogunlesi did not involving himself in Nigeria politics and that is why he cant be appointed into any political office. So my brother if na you wentin you go do?
If you are not appointed and you have been working tirelessly for the good of your nation and at the end of the day your party go and choose someone from no where as a minister will you be happy? Say the fact after all your contribution and support to make your party come to power...

fkdmods:
Obviously you don't understand how Wikipedia works. Just because it is on Wikipedia does not mean it is fact. But you still haven't answered my question. Can a non U.S citizen hold public office? And remember that the U.S does not recognize U.S citizenship. He denounced Nigeria the day he became one. Part of the process for his secret clearance was shredding his passport. Lol. He called me i too know. The retort of an ignorant mind.

sukkottt:
speaking of accomplished outsiders we tried FFK AND HIS BRITISH ACCENT AND ACCOMPLISHMENTS ABROAD . dat shytt didnt work.

I repeat, we need righteous men be they outsiders or insiders.

ELKHALIFAISIS:
buhari cabinet is the worst Nigeria ever had in a recent time... now tell me how a medical doctor is going to overseeing and manage portfolio of labour and productivity. a lawyer that knw nothing about power is overseeing ministry of power, tell me why we won't have darkness all over Nigeria,

Onechancearmy:
Wow! All these intimidating credentials! No wonder a certified i. d.i.o.t semi-illiterate a.b.o.k.i like the Daura D.u.l.lard did not appoint him as Minister of Finance in Nigeria because the D.u.ll.ard is scared of anyone more intelligent than himself.
Ogunlesi would have been an upgrade on Okonjo Iweala because he had a double first: First class degree in Law and First clasd degree in Economics.
America's gain is our loss.

sukkottt:
yeah we tried the outsider thing with JAMES IBORI. it did not work. what we need are righteous men irrespective of where they are in the world.

Onechancearmy:
Wow! All these intimidating credentials! No wonder a certified i. d.i.o.t semi-illiterate a.b.o.k.i like the Daura D.u.l.lard did not appoint him as Minister of Finance in Nigeria because the D.u.ll.ard is scared of anyone more intelligent than himself.
Ogunlesi would have been an upgrade on Okonjo Iweala because he had a double first: First class degree in Law and First clasd degree in Economics.
America's gain is our loss.

devilson:
chai,see Brain.why can't buhari make this guy our minister of finance instead of one olodo rabata called kemi adeosun.

people like this nd noi inspire me to av lot of degree in life,after law school am definitely traveling out to study economics nd I must still study other courses.



proudly omoluabi

givan:
If u relate with Goldman Sachs in anyway, u're relating with a U.S earthly Cooperational god.

I think he's well read. An exception in his race

HtwoOw:
I once suggested that Buhari should look beyond Nigerian borders to look for great minds, this guy would have been a big fish, but then he's not been in Nigeria in a while, he might actually be useless

chocolateme:
you really don't understand? Hmm

chocolateme:
you really don't understand? Hmm

chocolateme:
i won't accept that message, so many other ones I replied, you ignore them so don't worry OK?

basilo102:
Lawyers went law school to win cases using the laws of the land and not some "moralist" grandstanding

basilo102:
So the lawyers will not hustle for their daily bread?? blame your own legal team for incompetence

badaoyeyemi:
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Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...

Ujuhot:
The most difficult time to be in a relationship as a guy is in your early twenties.The period when you are stuck in a limbo, trying to figure out yourself and who you want to be.

At this age, you find it a herculean task asking money from your parents, considering your dad will always remind you of how he was self sufficient at your age. So you are always left with "Nkechiyere" anyone that comes from them willingly. To compound your "woes". You have a girlfriend whom you love so much, you are 24 and she is 23. And guys being wired to want to take control, you are frustrated at your inability to take care of her like you want to.
I mean where is the money??
You are still jobless, still hustling, still finding your feet.
Still putting hands in to many things hoping for good. All of a sudden, she starts acting out and showing attitude. You call, and she takes forever to pick or return your calls. When she finally does pick, the call is like an interview session with those annoying and frustrating one word replies. Yes, no, fine, okay, nothing.

Then finally she ends the call with a flimsy excuse like " wait let me close the fridge", i will call you back. And the call never comes back. Then one day she calls you and asks you "where is this relationship heading to?.
You don't even know where your own life is heading to, not to talk of a relationship. Then she drops the bombshell. Tells you that she met a guy who wants to marry her. And how age isn't on her side, and you are almost compelled to scream "But you are just 23". Can't you wait 3 more years let me make it.
You just hold yourself and play the good guy. You ask her if she loves him, she dodges the question and replies you with " He treats me well". Well since she wasn't informing you to take permission, she was simply telling you.

You have to be the cool guy and wish her well. One week later, she gives you the traditional wedding card. And then you do the math yourself. She was talking to the guy a long time before now.

Then you realise that for every "K" you got on WhatsApp, the guy was getting a long epistle.
You have been played. Worse is you cant even blame her, you are just a prospect who no one knows what will become of your life in 4years time. Would you have made it or not? She has gone for the real deal, someone who has already made it.

In footballing terms, you are a "Anthony Martial" ( prospect) while the guy is a Messi ( has made it already). I mean you were sending her cards of N200, and the guy was telling her to manage 10k for the weekend. No comparison there.
And then you go through that silent heartbreak guys go through, the ones they don't talk about. And unceremoniously you get inducted into the special hall of fame where members are young guys whose childhood loves and friends or girlfriends they thought they would end up with left them to marry someone else. Your heart is broken into smithereens. In this hall of fame, you are all victims. Victims of not having found your path in your early twenties.
At the wedding, no sight is more heartbreaking than seeing "the love of your life" say "I do" to this guy she just met 6 months ago.
To make matters worse, you get an alert from Diamond bank telling you how N13 have been deducted for bank charges. You are mad.Your N4000, is down to N3987 rendering that N1k useless, you can only withdraw N3k now. And that's your home and abroad. Can life be more unfair at this moment?

6 years later. You are 30 now. Congratulations, you finally made it. You are as rich as you hoped you will become. You are one of the happening guys in town. You go to a wedding. With your friends, the men on suit. Those guys that just intimidate everyone in the hall. You are seated scouting the hall, and the bridal train passes by. Of course, bridal train and ashoebi ladies always show themselves. That's part of the job description. Sampling. And you spot one, she is beautiful, elegant and tall. You walk up to her, chat her up. Exchange numbers and you leave. She is 24, ripe for marriage. Three months later, you are sounding marriage to her ears. She loves how it sounds.

You are on chat with her always.
And somewhere else, a 25year old boy still finding his way is wondering why the girlfriend is becoming distant these days.
Why is he getting those one worded replies which is unlike her. Why do there chats seem more like interview. And fast fast, you have proposed and simultaneously she is asking the 25year old boy that question of
"Where is this relationship going to". And then you marry her, and somewhere a boy gets heart broken.

You see we are always going to do this to ourselves.

Written by @jaetomz


What goes around...

FavoredGuy:
Congratulations to him and entire Yorubas!