₦airaland Forum

OEmiohe:
My Elder Sister has been engaged to this man for about 5 years now and then people have been complaining about their long term relationship. Even my mum at some point embrassrased the him when he comes looking for my sister, he promised her marriage but has not done anything about it since then.

when I asked my sister she said he is saving and planning towards their marriage but this same man has been living with his friend in a room since I knew him even though he has been working since I knew.
At some point becos of age (32) was no longer at my elder sisters side , my mum decided to give them one of her flats to leave in her 2 storey building house. my elder sister and my mum ultimately financed the wedding preparation even to the point of buying his own cloths for his own wedding and while her fiance's brother supported him with 250k for the wedding since he just lost his job last December.

Now what baffles me is that my sister appears to be the man while he is the woman in their relationship since I knew then, although I have always adviced my sister to be submissive to him and stop shouting and controlling her fiance. I noticed so many faults in him like not standing up to my sister to prove to her his the man in their relationship which is clear to everyone.

Now just three days to their traditional marriage I was discussing with him and he was bad mouthing my elder sister to me and he later told me "not to tell my elder sister ooo". I pretended to take what he was saying as a joke but deep in my heart, I feel my elder sister is about to marry a man she barely even knows.

pls whats your I opinion about this?

Wow! What a story!

Volchitsa:
This is cool; I had never heard of these Nigerian words, with the exception of "opportuned" - I've seen that on the internet.

Every country has its regional linguistic variations. In the Western world, we all know about the differences between American and Australian English, but we don't often get to hear how English is spoken in non-Western places.

Is there much influence of native Nigerian words on Nigerian English?

Yes. There is in fact. An example would be the phrase "well done" which I assume comes from the Yoruba phrase "eku-ise". It is what Nigerians say to someone who is doing (or has accomplished) a task admirably.

Gheritage:
1) What about the word "welldone"?
2) Pls, is there any radio station program that is more educative in term of "Correct English Grammar" in Lagos like that of the one I used to listen to on ("U and I" Living Spring FM) every Thursday night when I was in Osun state?

Na true o. It's when I left naija that I discovered that people don't actually use it out of naija.

Segadem:
yeah! no 8 VULCANIZER

Hahhaha haha, I wasn't until I left naija that I found our that that word does not actually exist. Same thing with panel beater hahahahha, chai! Nigerians.

APCcrimesHD:
These Chinese men are dullards, just like bubu...

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Look who is talking. You do know you are from a third world country right?

SmartMugu:
I experienced the same thing several years ago with some Asian dude in Nigeria. He stepped out of his car and walked up to me and some friends I was standing with to ask for directions.

I'd expect a simple 'Hi' first, before making his request, or at least say 'please,' first. Instead, the fool just walked up to us like "How do I get to XYZ place." Sounded like he was talking to some robots he created. I wasted no time and put him right in his place. My response was " if you have no manners where you're from, get the fk outta my face". He said no word back and just walked back to his car.

A Nigerian friend recently visited Nigeria from the US and was standing in line at an eatery somewhere in Lagos. There were people there before him, so he had to join the queue to place the order. After waiting in line for almost 20 minutes, all of a sudden, one of these Chinese men walked in and went all the way to the front to place his orders, bypassing everyone else that had been waiting before him. My friend asked one of the workers there who that man was and if he owned the place or something, they responded "Oh, he's an Oyinbo and we dey always give dem their food first". Not satisfied with the response he got, my friend walked up to the Chinese man and asked him who he was and why he thought everyone else before him were less than him. He explained that he was an expatriate and in a rush. Still not satisfied, my friend asked him to kindly go back to the end of the queue and wait for his turn like everyone else. He obliged and apologized to everyone. He ended up waiting in line like everyone else.

The idea is if no one says anything, theyll assume everyone worships them. Confront them in clear English if they understand it and put some sense in their heads.

The funny thing is that these people and indians ain't worth nothing in places like the US but try to form voltron in Nigeria. I guess its because some Nigerians call them Oyinbo and they need a piece of the 'white supremacy' crap they can't get anywhere else in the world.

So because someone who was not born in Nigeria and probably not familiar with its norms and culture asked you for direction, you decided to stoop so low to respond in distasteful manner? Na wa for una naija people.
Whatever happened to being the bigger man or taking the high road? Instead you went so low as to even curse the man! Chei!

ttmacoy:
I don't know what culture you are talking about but is generally accepted that it is polite to greet before asking your questions.

US, UK etc you would at least say hello first.

But that does not excuse responding like that. A truly classy individual would overlook a small slight like that and still be helpful.

TeOwl:
Mr man, you dont just walk up to a stranger and ask for directions or a favor...

and yes, in every culture.. you need something like "hello", "hi", "whats up", "excuse me please" or something similar before you ask for directions or a favor... even in London, that i used to think was a cold hearted place, you still need to greet before asking for directions or a favor!

If you dont want to say hi, hello or good afternoon THEN dont ask for a favor or directions... mind you business and go your way.

The moment you step into someone's personal space - you are meant to be polite and respectful NOT just walk up to a man and order him to give you directions or to do you a favor!

The chinese guy in question WAS A STRANGER!

So that's now an excuse to act in a rude manner? Whatever happened to taking the high road? Naija people sef.

itsmecoalblack:
Greeting ISN'T a big deal everywhere. However, when in Rome...

Have you ever lived in a foreign country before? Well maybe if you did, you would realize that at times its not possible to remember all the norms of the culture. You might understand it but still make some mistakes every now and then.

The Nigerian guy should have looked at it from the mans point of view and be understanding; overlooking the percieved slight. Instead he decided to stoop so low and act in a highly primitive manner and that was highly uncalled for. Two wrongs dont make a right.

Can anybody not see whats wrong with this?
The centralized mode of power distribution is outdated. It might have been necessary after independence but with the significant population growth over the past 5 decades, it should be obsolete.

Each town or city should be able to provide electricity to its populace via partnerships with private utility companies.

doveda:
Greeting in that scenario is a big deal in most if not all cultures!

Why do you like to spew BS?

Have you ever lived outside your country before? I do and I can definitely tell you that greeting is not that big of a deal in a lot of cultures.

Guyman02:
Killed your cousin for shining the Kongo of your girlfriend, your cousins life is finished, your own life is finished and the girl will simply move on to a better guy. Lesson for guys, never fight another guy over a girl.

When we were in school, a friend almost killed another guy using cultists after she claimed she was raped by him in the guys house when she visited him (wetin she find go there?) I had to intervene to make him realize she was not worth it. Shortly after, she left him to start a new relationship with a ministers rich son which broke his heart. Today he is grateful to me for saving him from self destruction and the other guy over a girl back in school

Nope. He raped her. Not that it's a justification or anything because two wrongs don't make a right.

Lexusgs430:
Why do ladies like showing a picture of their behind?

You deserve an award for that coment sir. I wish I could like that post a 1000 times.

SmartMugu:
I don't think it has to do with their culture. We watch their movies and we see them bow to one another and even use the word "Master" a lot, showing they have manners within themselves.
I work in a multinational corporation with folks from all walks of life including same Chinese people, yet everyone says hi to one another in the morning. Still manners.
Now same people will go to Nigeria and expect to be treated as Masters. Heck no.

That's like saying because you see Nigerians doing juju in nollywood, that all Nigerians actually do it. Greeting is not a big deal everywhere.

TeOwl:
in every culture... when asking a stranger for directions or a favour, you have to greet first.. it could be the standard "good morning" or "hello, how are you doing"

In every culture?? Really? Have you even being outside naija before? How many cultures outside your country have you experienced for you to even make a bold proclamation like that?

demydea:
For my place of work too, there is one foolish Indian tall mad man that comes around & he is used to not greeting. I always look at him like "I go woz this guy one say"

Greeting is not a big deal in a lot of cultures. You don't greet people you don't know.
Kai! Why are you people always soooo petty? A little thing like greeting and you are getting mad.

SmartMugu:
You're lucky you found some nice ones. I live in a neighborhood full of them. My house here in Atlanta is the only one with black people living there and my kids are the only black kids in the block. I've lived in the house for almost three years, and the Chinese neighbors surrounding me never said hi back whenever I greet them in the morning. They just look away like I don't exist, yet they greet one another right in my face.

The first time my son tried to ride his bike with the other kids (mainly Chinese, Koreans etc), they spat on him and he rode back home crying. I confronted they parents to control their kids else I'd involve the cops when next it happens. Now my son goes to school with them on the same school bus with them but his only friend on the bus is this Hispanic neighbor's kid cos the Chinese kids are bullies to him.

These Chinese kids will someday grow up, and possibly come to Nigeria feeling like gods cos of how their parent felt about black people.

Stop trying to project what happened to you to all the other Chinese people.
Besides, didn't your parents teach you growing up that two wrongs don't make a right?

SmartMugu:
I don't understand what you mean you grew up not greeting people. No one says anyone should greet everyone they meet on their way anywhere, whoever does that in Nigeria is mad. But if you need them for something as little as a favor or directions, courtesy demands at least saying hi first, unless ure in some dire situations like driving in moving traffic and being in a haste.

But what if the Chinese person did not know this? He is from a different culture you know?

Tunami:
Today was just like every other normal day in my workplace, everybody have resumed at the appropriate time, me and a colleague were standing close to the gate and the security man wasnt around at about 9:30am a Chinese man and a Nigerian man just alighted from a jeep without greeting, he asked us where is Mr bola(not real name) who happens to be the general manager? My colleague just hissed and replied him in pidgin( come wey u u no dey greet abi naso una dey behave for una side? Abeg get out of my front).

The chinese man was ashamed of himself and i was just laughing at him as he went away in shame.

NB this colleague of mine is a contractor who is almost through with his work in my work place. The point that i am trying to make in this story is that this white people especially the chinese, lebanese and indians don't regard us as anything because of the way we see them as god in our land while most of them are common laborers in their countries and when they come to Nigeria they will be forming expatriate and be using us like rag. That mentality must be put to an END.

Your colleague was extremely rude, disrespectful and petty and you are here expecting us to congratulate him for that?
Greeting is not a big deal in every culture.

2rutalk1:
Devaluation is a DELIBERATE reduction in the value of a country's currency in relation to the currencies of other countries. Devaluation is different from depreciation. Whereas devaluation is deliberate, depreciation of currency is caused by some macroeconomic factors.

However, Devaluation is used to discourage import and encourage export of goods and services across borders.

How do we achieve this? When a country's currency is devalued, foreign goods (imports) become so expensive because the value of the country's currency has been reduced making the value of the currency of her trading partner to go up. In this case, the foreign country will be enticed to import from Nigeria (for instance) and our hitherto importers will equally buy Nigerian made products because of high cost of foreign goods. This makes our balance of payment to become favourable.

In the long run (in future), the high rate of export from Nigeria and low import of foreign products by Alaba guys (lol) will increase the value of our naira.

But bro, what exactly are we producing? Is there anything this country is producing that is worth exporting (besides oil of course).

This is the problem with unions. There is a reason why not too many people like them.

UmecheMoses:
It is very easy to spew stupidity early in the morning. Please go and inquire about Ajaokuta before you write poo.
Soon I will Address The so called minister about his role in this western affront against Africa’s Steel Giant....... Rubbish

Why don't you write a rebuttal instead of resorting to petty insults man.

Caseless:
the most empty post.

Why is his post empty? Can you state your case just like did.

Godmann:
Keep off what you know little about. Every sane country needs a steel company.

Judging from your false analogy, why won't US and Europe close down their steel companies and buy cheaper ones from China? Why go the length of protecting to make their people pay higher price?

If we think manufacturing and self sufficient, we must have a steel company.

Wrong! Try again. The united States govt does not own any steel company. They are all owned by private entities. You think yanki is like naija where every sector of the country from banking to even sports is run by the fed govt? In yanki, private enterprise is king and thats one of the reasons they are successful as a nation because of their ideology that govt should stay out of getting involved in commerce and trade except to enforce the rules and the law of the land.

During the recession of 2009 when the govt stepped in to bailout the auto industry by handing out loans to them. The public was FURIOUS at the govt by their interventionist policy because they strongly believe that the govt should not be getting involved in business.

Meriekriss:
You strong oooo.. What a suggestion...

Good investors know when its time to count there losses and walk away.
You can't get too emotionally attached to an investment. That's the mistake most people make in investing (even gamblers are guilty of this also). They keep hoping to make the money they lost back instead of just letting by gones be by gones and walk away.

gists:
The height of fo0lishness
Buhari and his family are safe from the contamination of this stewpid act.
The poor fishermen, farmers and the people of the surrounding communities will bear the brunt of the contamination.
The most annoying thing is that they will still come back and ask the oil company to clean the spill while still expecting the company to be alive to its social responsibilities.

Guy, I watched an American documentary on the issue of oil pollution in the Niger Delta and it was shocking.

At some point in the documentary, they interviewed two guys from a village who say they usually vandalize the pipeline in their own village so that they can get contract from the oil and gas company to clean it up. It was stunning.

diasporaman:
She is a real woman of God a vessel whom God is using. Not everybody married a white lady because of green card.

Good to hear that. But I thought most Scandinavians are atheists or agnostics?

EgunMogaji:
Very nice looking woman actually.

I was expecting to see yet another obese methuselah

Na wa for you sef, but you have a point. Based on my limited observation, when some naija people marry someone from abroad, the person is usually old, overweight or not that attractive. Don't get me wrong its not always the case as you can see with the OP but the seems to be the exception.

Akathriel:
My fellow Nairalanders; Pls let us forget about Father Mbaka for now & let's review this “packaged fraud” called change.

President Buhari is bent on sinking this ship called Nigeria by trying to deliberately frustrate the masses that voted him into power.

Now, I have no problem with any of Buhari's reform as long as it within the ambit of the law and in accordance with the constitutional rules & regulations but when the f.ucking vacuous & inebriated President that I stood up for in his trying times now turns around by whipping up some stupid economic sentiments, thereby making me the direct target of his entirely useless policies, then I won't give a f.uck whether Nigeria goes up in flame or goes 20years backward.

Now, I have concluded that Buhari & his cabinet members are mentally unstable and are not fit to govern us.

The N65 withdrawal charge on transactions done by a card holder on another bank's ATM has been nothing short of robbery in daylight.

I have been using other bank's ATM just to avoid the long queues at GTBank but nowadays, I have noticed that the moment I make my withdrawals from other Bank's ATM - Fiam! N65 don commot instantly!

The CBN circular states that the first 3 withdrawals on other Bank's ATM would be free and the charges would start counting from the 4th withdrawal but this is a f.ucking lie as the charges are now being deducted even in the 1st attempt.

N65 maybe nothing to me, but Y must I bear the brunt of the anti-corruption crusade? Y can't you promulgate a bill that will ensure that all serving senators, ministers, governors, house of rep members & local government chairmen pay 50% of their salaries & allowances into the government treasury rather than frustrating the average citizen who could barely feed on 3square meals a day. How can you instill discipline in the masses when you have no iota of truth & discipline within you?

1st, subsidy was removed and we're still buying fuel at N86.50 instead of N40.

2nd, a N50 nonsense duty stamp is being deducted from my account in the name of raising revenues for this fraudulent government.

And now this N65 issue that was already cancelled by Sanusi Lamido Sanusi.

Maybe I should have just supported Ebele Jonathan in looting Nigeria to a stand-still because I don't see any difference between him & Buhari.

I don't give a flying f.uck whether Buhari means well for Nigeria or not as long as I'm being stolen from under the pretence of fighting corruption.

If Godwin Emefiele is not fired for this brazing act of impunity & fraud, with the charges adjusted back to the CBN's circular or even cancelled outrightly, then Buhari is no different from Sambo Dasuki and will be booted out the way he was kicked out in 1985 - nonsense!

CC: TonyeBarcanista, Mizmycoli & Beremx.

Guy, the question we should be asking ourselves is why is it that in a country with almost 150 million, the two candidates we had were a retired general and an underperforming president? I mean couldn't we find a couple of more decent candidates? Na wa o.

NegeduGrace:
A back to back hit..na she try pass

Please, I have been bearing this phrase back to back on this website for a while. Where did people get the phrase from?

seunfunmi33:
Nigerians should live with the change they voted for. This is what you get when you vote out GOODLUCK Jonathan and vote in badluck Buhari.

Scammers selling fixed matches are learning work where Buhari and lie muhamed are scamming gullible Nigerians with change

You know what the sad part of that is? It's that they were the only strong candidates in the election. Some will say that's like choosing between two terrible options.
A nation with over 120 million people should have much better candidates. Na wa o. Can someone please explain what's wrong with this country.

firstking01:
my brother, love is a mystery...there's nothing like loving somebody outa pity...

Love appreciates with time...
So many couples today who are married never loved themselves initially, but as time and nature may have it...they are the best of couples today, i 've read and heard testimonies brother.

Well the same argument can be made against marrying someone out of pity. There are many people today who are married that are miserable and are simply just enduring or managing. The fact that they are still together doesn't mean the quality of there relationship is good so please miss me with that nonsense that "they are the best couples today".
The fact of the matter is that everyone's story and situation is different from the other so there is no single formula for everyone to follow. So please abeg, stop telling people to settle.