₦airaland Forum

YourMain:
Sigh. Do you even know what a hymen is ? Virginity by presence or absence of an hymen is the most ridiculous thing in the world.

You do realise it's possible to have a hymen completely intact even if you've had sex. The hymen isn't a big piece of tissue just covering the entry of the vagina.

Virginity by definition is the state of never having sexual intercourse. If you've had sexual intercourse, you're not a virgin. Finish.

Gbam! I wish I could like this a hundred times over.

Sparkle777:
To think dat I read all thru to know much abt ppls experience supernaturally, yet derailers wont quit. I d wanted to share but.!
Smh.

Please tell us your story o.

firstking01:
The supernatural i enconter i had was with God almighty...an unforgetable and awesome experience...until then i neva believed God was real.

Please tell me about it.

This is why people need to avoid damaged goods. If a girl exhibits these tendencies, shouldn't that tell you that this might be someone i am not interested in dating talkless of marrying?

dominique:
Rubbish! If truely a woman posted that, then she's a dimwit. Are small booms same as bacterial infection? If you want to crack jokes, do it with taste, class and intelligence.

Goodness! Calm down. It's just a joke. Can't you just enjoy it. Get over yourself, girl.

dominique:
Rubbish! If truely a woman posted that, then she's a dimwit. Are small booms same as bacterial infection? If you want to crack jokes, do it with taste, class and intelligence.

Goodness! Calm down girl. It's just a joke. Can't you just enjoy it. Get over yourself.

purpleicious:
beauty creates attention, personality catches the heart,attitude keeps a man.

One of the best quotes I have ever read. I wish I could like it over a hundred times. You should make it your nairaland signature.

Wow, thank God that you are alive. Man, its so sad that Naija is still so underdeveloped like this.

firstking01:
pls bros, recapitulate my write up...i gave the condition that, if the woman is willing to adapt, and she loves u too, that's where it could be possible...and if a woman loves u...she must dance to ur music just to please u...so, i'm vindicated on what i posted...hence i have 3 people who concured to dis...it then means i'm vindicated

Yes, you have a very good point. I do agree that it might happen on some occasions but a lot of times, people can be deceitful and pretentious just because they are desperate to get married. After the wedding is when their true self and character begins to truly manifest but by then you already said 'I do'. Please don't be naive o.

firstking01:
Op i'm sure you 've heard the saying that two wrongs cannot make a right?,,,the simple law of nature demands that, when something is too hot, you'd dilute it with a cold water and vice versa...all i'm saying is, you don't expect a seemingly perfect gentle men like us to marry a seemingly perfect women like us, there will be trouble @home, cos, she no go ever dey gree...my submission, marry her and make her what you want her to be, hence she loves you and she's willing to learn and adapt...thank you.

Bros, you are sooooooo naive if you think you can change someone by marrying them. Talk about deceiving ones self. It is this kind of thinking that causes many divorces.

OP, Thanks for tholis. I always thought about it.

Lilimax:
Bro, stop washing your dirty linen in the public.
There are better ways to settle this and not on the social media

What better way my sister? Did you not read that the man has exhausted all possible avenues to get his money yet Jim Iyke won't pay him?

Goodness! Why is everything in naija so centralized? What is this? A communist govt?

How can the federal govt determine who gets employed in a local university? Isn't that supposed to be up to the University? No wonder things hardly ever work in that country: decision making is waaay to centralized.

Lovexme:
lol.

But at 35, she shouldn't still be at her parent's house.

With naija's economic situation, don't be surprised if it happens.

jearile:
Enjoy all my dear... count your blessing

A. Virginity (I crave for Chastity)
B. Job (mine is Work, not a job)
C. True love (I see it everyday when I sleep and wake up because He sustains me.) No Agape, No Eros

You do know that true love = agape, right?

That's why you should go swimming on the first date .

@OP,
Have you seen the movie "He is just not that into you". Thank goodness Netflix is soon coming to naija, it should be the first movie you ever see.

Wow! Memories. Thanks for the thread OP. I had forgotten about stuff like this.

JustHere2Observ:
This whole story doesn't sound like a warning to guys...sounds more like a jealous girl who can't get laid.

What is wrong with being your brothers keeper? Na wa for una o. I wish their were more people like the OP who watch out for their neighbors, the world might be a better place.

Mskrisx:
Tayo honey please don't discuss another woman's privacy online again ok? ....don't worry about the MEN they know how to go about their needs.

Wrong! Whatever happened to being your neighbors keeper?

nkemdi89:
Cool dude, I wonder how some babe's feels being the third wheel.

Oh may God bless you dear. Maybe its because I live in a country where the culture is a little different but I couldn't imagine tagging along with someone who is on a date. It would be waaaaay too awkward.

If I was in the guys shoes, that would be the one and only time I would ask her out. I couldn't see myself going out with her again. I would just cross her off my list. I guess guys in naija think differently sha.

AyamConfidence:
i dont mean it that way Mr Epistler...i mean the comparison and reasons and debate over virginity has become and everyday affair and it is kinda sickening to me thats all

Oh okey.

AyamConfidence:
its sicknening these days

What?? When did virtue become sickening? Na wa o.

I guess we truly are in the end times indeed. People's hearts are growing cold and they are beginning to love evil more than good. I thought the bible once said, hate evil and cling to what is good.

@op, like a pastor I listened to once said, we are in the end times. The wheat and the tares will grow into maturity. In other words, darkness and light will grow into maturity. But like the bible says where sin abounds, grace aboundeth even more.

fromnigeria:
one thing about love sometimes is that it breaks principles.
Another thing is that understanding is lacking in the girl you found those qualities of a wife.

What?? Love breaks principles? No wonder naija is sooooooo very corrupt. No principles, ethics or morals. Just do whatever makes you feel good.
How about love is patient?

If this woman is not patient enough to wait for him or respect his decision, then she is not worthy to have him as a husband and she should let him go. Unfortunately, I don't think the OP is discerning enough or has the willpower to do that.

Bro, they say that if you don't stand for something, you will fall for anything. It is time for this guy to draw a line in the sand and stand by his principles.

repogirl:
but the OP has said she is wife material already, so what else should he wait for?

Maybe he is not yet ready. Have you thought about that yet? I know people who knew they were eventually going to get married but because of one thing or the other were not ready.

Life is about seasons and timing. Love is patient and based on what the OP said, this is more like lust. Lust thinks of itself and what I can get but love thinks of what can I give.

The truth of the matter is that all this woman is trying to push her boyfriend into making a rash decision just because of sex and I am a bit concerned about the guy. He doesn't seem to have discernment. The girl might be hiding something. You just never know.

repogirl:
he who finds a wife finds a good thing.

Op confessed that she is wife material and he intends to marry her.

They should just marry and good things will come to them.

I didn't wait till my husband was rich before we married, in fact we did wedding with loan but we are very okay and stable now.

If you know where you are going, and you are sure your partner is the one, then what else are you waiting for?

You do have a good point but really?? Rushing into a permanent situation just because you want to have sex?? Wow!!!! Na wa o.

repogirl:
Okay.... Since you want to settle with her eventually and you only want sex after marriage, then just marry her na!

WHAT?!?!

Which kind logic be that? Marriage is a lot more than sex. Not to diminish the role of intimacy in a marriage but there are several other components required to make a marriage work like compatibility (are you guys the right fit?), character, goals, vision.

This are things you have to sort out before marriage not because you want to have sex ASAP. You don't make a long term decision based on biological urges.

Op, well that should definitely tell you that she is not the one for you. Let her go, trust me, there are many fishes in the sea.

Don't make the mistake of giving in to her demands thinking that you would never meet as good as her again because you would meet someone that's even better.

Wow, you have a ministry of petroleum and ministry of solid minerals? See redundancy!

Educative post.

Where are the Nigerians who were saying that nano silver would work?