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100Cents:
All these reasons sound selfish and childish..

Marriage is for mature minds .

Really?? So constant cheating is childish right?

Jayne2014:
Marriages don't just fall apart overnight. They often end after months and years of both spouses trying to stick it out, firm in the belief that they can work out their issues and sustain their marriages.

Once it's over, though, most divorcees can look back and pinpoint one exact moment -- one overblown argument or one instance where their spouse showed his or her true colors -- that should have signaled to them that the marriage was damaged beyond repair.

On Tuesday, divorced men on Reddit shared the moment they realized their relationship didn't stand a chance. See some of the most interesting responses below.

1. When he got tired of her outbursts.
"I had a car accident. Lost my job. I was still depressed about family member passing away. My wife decides she really wants a gold watch that costs $999. I tell her I can't afford to spend money on something like that in our current situation. She shuts herself in the bathroom to cry. That was the first time I didn't react to that tactics. She comes out few hours later and asks me outright if I want a divorce. That wasn't even on my mind until that point, but that was the moment I knew."

2. When the trust was gone.
"It was when I caught myself photographing street signs on my 25-minute journey home from work so that there would be a timestamp of the entire route to disprove constant accusations that I was cheating on her... After that, I just left."

3. When his wife became a glorified roommate.
"The last year together we felt more like roommates than lovers. She stopped being interested in spending time with me, we stopped showering together and began sleeping at opposite times. She was generally unhappy all of the time. I really wanted to salvage the marriage, but I knew it was over when she finally told me that she just didn't love me."

4. When the math didn't add up.
"Came home from a seven-month deployment overseas to find a five-month pregnant wife. I'm no mathematician but I figured that one out."

5. When he was suffering from depression and she laughed it off.
"I was telling her about how depressed and hopeless I was feeling. I described it partially as an existential crisis. She laughed at me. She literally laughed in my face regarding my pain. That was the day I realized I didn't really matter to her."

6. When he realized she didn't believe in his dreams.
"Five years ago, I told her I wanted to get out of the military and study to become a doctor. She's a scientist but she acted like it was the most ridiculous thing I could ever try to do. Her exact words were, 'You can't just decide to be a doctor.' Imagine researching and thinking about something for an entire year and then telling your best friend your hopes and dreams and they just look at you like you're silly ... I started med school four weeks ago. I'm not bitter but she's going to be really f*cking surprised if she ever decides to do some Google stalking."

7. When he disagreed with her on how they'd raise their future children.
"When my wife stated that any children we had would be home schooled by her (she never graduated high school) and weren't going to get vaccinations. This was non-negotiable. I was young at the time and honestly, it never occurred to me until we had that discussion how much it meant to me. I (naively) figured it was a given."

8. When he became indifferent to the cheating.
"The precise moment was a few months ago when her long and frequent infidelities stopped making me furious. The anger switched off and I realized, it's finally over, thank God. I can now plan the end of this toxic marriage."

9. When he decided to put his daughter first.
"My second wife and I got along great, but over time the relationship she had with my daughter from a previous marriage got worse and worse. I tried not to blame her; she just wasn't ready to be a mom to someone else's child. It was hard to accept that, though. We tried counseling briefly but she felt counseling was for 'crazy people and she [wasn't] crazy.' Eventually, my daughter and I left. I hoped she would change her mind and decide to work things out with us, but it didn't happen. I had to do what was right for my daughter even if it hurt."

10. When he realized that having hobbies of his own was off-limits.
"My ex and I were watching 'Knocked Up.' It came to the scene where the wife is tracking the husband down to catch him while he was 'cheating.' Turns out, he had just snuck off to go to a baseball draft. My ex turned to me and said, 'See how terrible and selfish he is for sneaking around like that?' I looked at her and said, 'See how terrible she is for oppressing his hobbies and dreams so much that he has to resort to sneaking around in order to enjoy them?' I realized right then that she'd done that to me. She had oppressed me, chained me with guilt over my hobbies being immature and childish. She guilt-tripped me because my hobbies took time away from her. Meanwhile, she would never take up any hobbies or interests of her own despite me encouraging her."

11. When he had the commute from hell and she didn't care.
"I had to work late one dark winter night, missed my regular train, took a loooong bus and had to walk home a couple of miles from the bus stop in the freezing cold. She couldn't be bothered to come pick me up because she didn't want to leave her yoga class early. It had been 20 years of bad stuff, but that was the night I decided it was over. She realized what she had done later, but it was too late then."

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/03/why-men-want-divorce_n_5760568.html?ncid=txtlnkusaolp00000592

Wow!!!

aalangel:
The dress is not working for me, but I like the mean look in the first pix.

At least it's not only me that loves the mean look in the first picture.

nogetenemy:

You must be kidding yourself if you think the South South will join the South eastern states to form Viagra. Even some of the South South groups have said they are not joining.

joyblinks:
I was with some friends today gisting about relationships and one of the girls said, she can never do chores for a guy that isn't her husband yet o. Immediately my mind flashed back to 2yrs ago when we were having a gist like this in the office and my then colleague (married o) was blabbing about how no girl should ever try doing that rubbish that she nevedid it for her husband and she's not a slave to try that. 3months later, I had an issue with my then boyfriend, he was known to that my colleague and her husband.

One day I visited my colleague in her house and the hubby was around. Some1 comng to see my colleague needed direction so I went with her hubby to go get the person while she was taking care of their baby.

While walking, the hubby knowing I had an issue wit my then boyfriend asked what happened and he started adivsing me on how I should make sure I please my bf, wash his cloths, pamper him and mke him feel loved. I shouldn't be ashamed to take care of him but whenever am with my friends I should jst act like I don't do them. He shocked when he said If I ask his wife whether or not she was doing his laundry she'll say NEVER but before they got married, whenever she visits him, she washes any dirty cloth he had + she keeps his house clean.

From that day, I don't listen to what any girl has to say about my man. Cos na me suppose know where the shoe dey pain me.

Girl, there is a difference between what women say and what they do.

ades0la:

Chei! Nairalanders sef

Hopeful20100:
http://www.herald.ng/wept-saw-hopelessness-when-ipob-members-were-waving-biafran-flags/#OmKBhocQVJwhZj8G.99

Wrong! This man is confusing every ibo person with IPOB.

BiafraBushBoy:
Can Buhari read?

How did he become president of your country?

Go fvck yourself!!

Meanwhile... it is Started!!

What does this have to do with Buhari?

GworoChewinMaga:
When they start holding Christmas carols in the Saudi royal palace then maybe Trump will reconsider

Well those countries are not democracies and neither are they diverse communities. One of the most important things that makes America so great are it's Democratic values. If it were a theocracy like Iran or Saudi Arabia then they would be America.

BiafraBushBoy:
That was what the stupid Obama introduced!!

Why should any sane person celebrate these guys?

They are all Terrorists!!

Did you not read that it starred in the mid 90's? Was Obama in office back then? Goodness! Reading is fundamental.

Katier00:
Breaking...
Agric & Natural Resources Audu Ogbeh (Benue)
Agric & Natural Resources (State) Geoffrey Onyema (Enugu)
Attorney General, James Ocholi (Kogi)
Aviation Sen Hadi Sirika (Katsina) 
Defence Abdulrahman Dambazau(Kano)
Defence (State) Dan Ali (Zamfara)
Education . Isaac Adewole (Osun) 
FCT (State) Solomon Dalong (Plateau)
Federal Capital Territory Abubakar Bawa Bwari (Niger)
Finance Okechukwu Enelamah (Abia) 
Finance (State) Kemi Adeosun (Ogun) 
Foreign Affairs . Kayode Fayemi- (Ekiti)
Foreign Affairs (State) Adamu Adamu (Bauchi) 
Health Osagie Ehanire (Edo) 
Information, Communication Technology Lai Mohammed (Kwara) 
Interior Cladius Omoleye Daramola (Ondo) 
Labour Prof Anthony Onwuka (Imo)
Mines and Steel Development Abubakar Malami (Kebbi) 
National Planning Amina Mohammed (Gombe) 
Niger Delta Affairs Rotimi Amaechi 
Niger Delta Affairs (State) Pastor Usani Uguru (Cross River) 
Petroleum Ibe Kachikwu (Delta)
Police Affairs Chris Ngige (Anambra)
Power Babatunde Fashola (Lagos) 
Sports & Youth Development Heineken Lokpobiri (Bayelsa)
Trade and Investment Udo Udo Udoma (Akwa Ibom)
Trade and Investment (State) Zainab Ahmed (Kaduna)
Women Affairs Hajia Khadija Bukar Ibrahim (Yobe)
Works & Transport Ogbonaya Onu- (Ebonyi) Ogbonaya Onu- (Ebonyi)
Works (State) Barr. Adebayo Shittu (Oyo)

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Wait did someone just name their child Heineken?
Wow!

Katier00:
Breaking...
Agric & Natural Resources Audu Ogbeh (Benue)
Agric & Natural Resources (State) Geoffrey Onyema (Enugu)
Attorney General, James Ocholi (Kogi)
Aviation Sen Hadi Sirika (Katsina) 
Defence Abdulrahman Dambazau(Kano)
Defence (State) Dan Ali (Zamfara)
Education . Isaac Adewole (Osun) 
FCT (State) Solomon Dalong (Plateau)
Federal Capital Territory Abubakar Bawa Bwari (Niger)
Finance Okechukwu Enelamah (Abia) 
Finance (State) Kemi Adeosun (Ogun) 
Foreign Affairs . Kayode Fayemi- (Ekiti)
Foreign Affairs (State) Adamu Adamu (Bauchi) 
Health Osagie Ehanire (Edo) 
Information, Communication Technology Lai Mohammed (Kwara) 
Interior Cladius Omoleye Daramola (Ondo) 
Labour Prof Anthony Onwuka (Imo)
Mines and Steel Development Abubakar Malami (Kebbi) 
National Planning Amina Mohammed (Gombe) 
Niger Delta Affairs Rotimi Amaechi 
Niger Delta Affairs (State) Pastor Usani Uguru (Cross River) 
Petroleum Ibe Kachikwu (Delta)
Police Affairs Chris Ngige (Anambra)
Power Babatunde Fashola (Lagos) 
Sports & Youth Development Heineken Lokpobiri (Bayelsa)
Trade and Investment Udo Udo Udoma (Akwa Ibom)
Trade and Investment (State) Zainab Ahmed (Kaduna)
Women Affairs Hajia Khadija Bukar Ibrahim (Yobe)
Works & Transport Ogbonaya Onu- (Ebonyi) Ogbonaya Onu- (Ebonyi)
Works (State) Barr. Adebayo Shittu (Oyo)

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Goodness! Way too many ministries. There should only be 9. Na wa o.

stunningjudy:
Why are u of the belief that Catholics don't pray well? Prayer is a personal communication with God. Don't generalize issues. It's not until u have headache while praying that u know u have prayed well, remember praying without faith is empty. Meanwhile I'd advice u to put ur home in order, will u want to divide ur children's belief? Your excuse will be Catholics don't pray well? Then your kids will now struggle with religion. Follow ur hubby so ur home will be United.

No o. Prayers get level abeg. You want to go somewhere where worship is done in spirit and in truth.

Winneygirl:
You are more concerned with what people think...
How is it any of their business?

A system has been working for you with no issues, now you are looking for people's opinion...

Gbanm!!!! Some people just find tranquility and peace boring. They just like to stir up the pot. This woman's relationship seems to be working but I guess she finds it boring and wants to add some drama.

Vendoor:
Madam, Its wrong... Fellowship with him and reunite your family.


You knew he was a catholic before you married him.

And are you married?

kingzizzy:
Frim what I read, she is a Colombian who met Ik Ogbonna on the Internet and she flew down to Nigeria to meet him. Its been love all the way since then

Whattttt? On the internet?

omaigala12:
my brother you are a pervert

This one is just throwing words around without fully knowing the true meaning.

Saintmary:
welcome to reality

What??

Addicted2Women:

They must free him though i don't support kidnapping

They have no evidence against him

If Kaburi Sokoto a well known Boko Haram leader can get released without serving any jail term, Evans will be released before Next year

And Shekau is still a free man

Buhari is a big joke

They have no evidence? Are you kidding me? He confessed for goodness sakes! That's the strongest evidence you need in court. For a criminal to admit his guilt and not only did he confess, there are also his accomplices who can identify him and confirm that he is the mastermind of the criminal enterprise.
Also there are other witnesses like the kidnapped victims and don't forget a possible money trail. If the lawyer trying this case loses this case in court then he should lose his license for incompetence.

Saintmary:
developed countries don't joke with their nationals

Yep but there is something called sovreingty.

The problem here I suspect is that someone bribed the judge and they were let go. This girls should never have been allowed to leave the country in the first place. Their passports should have been seized upon arraignment since they posed a flight risk.

GeneralOjukwu:
Hishma84= likely born in 1984 = 33 years old =

close to expiry date.

Let me pay 1/2 bride price for that one and full price for the other

You wicked o.

You sure say she never marry self?

sunnysunny69:
High class escorts, are they moving their wares to Spain now ? If a Nigerian oversea did all this sisters did ( blackmailing for money), the Nigerian will be jailed and eventually deported. The sisters claimed they've slept with countless politicians and men of high society, they have the pictures and videos and will expose it jailed. Then police made a deal, we let you go and you keep quiet!

How did the police even let them.just walk.away like that self? Weren't they supposed to be in court?

edo3:
Yeah,,u can say that again bro,,I watched her on wazobia ogbonge show...So dull.

I guess in Nigeria all it takes to be an actress is to have Good looks an zero talent.

Tolexander:
imbec1le.

must you post if you have nothing in your brain to post?

Are not too tall and not tall the same thing?

Does "not too tall" mean the man is short?

mtcheeew!

And how exactly do you define "not too tall?"

KealDrogo:
Interracial marriage shouldn't be encouraged. There's a reason why God created humanity in different races, each with its own distinctive features,colours, culture and heritage. Humans have to preserve their unique diversity and be proud of their heritage, we should stop mingling with other races as this will kill off our identity. That's why mixed race children (mulattos) are the most confused set of people, they don't know which race they belong to, with no sense of identity to be proud of. All thanks to their selfish parents.
I see those who engaged in interracial marriages as people who lack self worth and suffering from low self-esteem.

But Moses married an Ethiopian (Numbers 12:1) and when his siblings spoke bad about him God was furious that he even struck Miriam with leprosy.

pazienza:
Morale right now is high. More and more people are identified with the noble cause.

I think we can pull it off.

Pull what off exactly?

HeGeMon:
Lol, ;on what authority does he have to disenfranchise millions of ibos? There is no short cut in a democracy, if political power is what kanu seeks let him go & get registered get a voters card, & mobilise for the forth coming election & test his popularity, Ojukwu, contested in time past & lost, why don't he kanu test his might even before the supposed referendum. Such a comic relief.

He is truly over estimating his influence. He would be shocked to find out that the silent majority do not stand by him or his group.

sean1000x:
This guy is holding Nigeria by the balls. There is nothing Nigeria can do at this point.

Or he is over estimating his influence. He probably underestimates the power of the silent majority.

Aderola15:
Early momo, you see me for dream?

You wish!

lovelygurl:
Loooool

Wasn't he flaunting his new girl the other day

When?

Fkforyou:
She don tire to dey hide her hubby...?

Ediot.

Nope. I believe it's called privacy. Something that has been lost in this social media generation where everything is shared with the whole world for attention, game and publicity.

Frankyboy1:
H.I.v is no longer a death sentence, I know someone really close living with it, nd has been doing very well health wise, all you need to do is.know your status on time and Endeavour to live a healthy life. It is still the fear and initial stigmatisation that gives people phobia! Even.in Spain people get injected with the virus so as to access health benefits and stipends off government! Moreover recent drugs reduces the virus and in some cases almost eliminates it! Live a healthy life, get tested regularly! And PLease enough of the judgements and questions on the OP, cos no.body holy pass

WHAT??