₦airaland Forum

udede:
Yea that's the issue. They are demanding some kind of verification that i have not done before. Actually i blew up the account and stayed off trading for about 2 months and when i funded again to restart trading, i could not log in.

I'm in anambra. Any one to help me clear the wahala.

You need to create another synthetic mt5 account... They now shut deactivate inactive Mt5 accounts after a month or two

nicej2:
Dear Nairalanders, i am not really good posting my issues online. But this time i need your advise.

I have been married for 9 years now and my sister inlaw has been living with us( I, my wife and the kids) for the past 6 years now, although I am not always around.
I have never imagine any negative thoughts toward her. I always see her like my younger sister, i have been taken care of her. She is 28 years old and I can't really says if she have a boyfriend cos I haven't see one around her. She is a boss in her working place but yet i foots all her bills in the house without bothering anyone, including my wife that is also a boss .Until of recent she started wearing seductive clothes around the house, Some how i started developing feelings for her As if she knows, she continues wearing those clothes and started showing more caring towards me.
I can't believed that i am having feelings for my sister inlaw cos i am a disciplined man to the core. Even during university days girls do come to my apartment passed a night without molesting them. I am well brought up. But is like that disciplined man in me started degenerating as i began to see this girl in my dreams.
There was a night i returned from travelled, i started feeling the urge to go to her room. My wife almost cought me that night cos we lives in 3 bedroom, I have my own room, my wife have her own and my sister inlaw have her own room. So we sleep in separate rooms except some occasions my wife decided to stay in my room. That night i was pimping through her door. I have been trying to control my feelings and I believed the reason why I have not sleep with her is because i am not always around and I also the fear of traditions implications of sleeping with sister inlaw . And my wife is not helping matters, she can leave both of us alone in d house and go to all night church program and the children will be sleeping.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell my wife so that we can get her accommodation or just let the sleeping dog be. Though I don't really want her to leave cos is my wife and the children are alone in the compound. I just want to kill that urge before I return from travel.

Sorry for the long episode ..😀

My brother, temptation is knocking at your door... do not open!!!
Come to think of it, what about if she and your wife are testing you to know what you do when you travel?

Please, kill that thought!!! Ut can bring shame

Wodu89:
It is easy to beg people for sympathy. I trained and mentored you without asking for a dime in things you couldn't have learnt or known otherwise. Funds got seized by PayPal for eight months. I won't kill myself to please anyone. Till as I write funds are witheld by PayPal till August


I am now charging deductions for the knowledge I impacted you. After PayPal unblocks the account in August you will get the remaining.

Good luck with the cheap blackmails

You know, I understand the pains of what you've been through... But the way you are sounding about the money you owe him is wrong.

He is not the cause of the collapse of your business and the best you can do is to at least, be humble in it all.

I pray God restores all you have lost in multiple folds

It is well... The price of fame and ambition.

May God keep and guide him

Happy about this

sheflat:
Hello fellow nairalanders, please I seek for your opinions.
I am stoked between 2 businesses which am confused about which one to choose from with the situations of these country someone needs to be very cautious and careful before investing in business. Pls I need your candid advice between [b][/b]A CAR WASH BUSINESS AND FROZEN FOODS BUSINESS.

Start the car wash buz first... followed by d frozen foods biz later on

What happens when a man's 3rd leg ruins a man

We are first humans before religion... Everyone should make his/her choice on the path to follow without prejudice

I pray and hope the country get better someday

Madness of the highest order by an old paedophile posing as a religious leader

BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

Your business right now, is your husband... He should do more to protect you and stop feeling somehow about her. Just ensure your own immediate family is happy and pls empower yourself

They all are the same, she was just unfortunate to step in higher toes... For Ameachi and the likes of him, may posterity judge them

Wodu89:
Smh. Sapa is playing with your brain

I agree with you

Nataliace:
I have been married for five years and my marriage yielded two beautiful kids.

We were living peacefully with my husband untill last year did things started turning strange.

My mother-in-law came to spend the Christmas holiday with us and since then she hasn't left. This year my sister-in-law came and this is where everything became worse.

They always lie to my husband and say unprintable things about me. This made my husband to start treating me badly. I tried to let him remember how we lived prior to their coming but he wouldn't listen to me. Life is becoming unbearable for me. I don't want what will destroy my marriage.

I just want to get my marriage back on track and win my husband's love and care towards me.

what is the relationship btw you and your in-laws like before now?

Lol @small sacrifice... The gods are on diet

tomi4life:
So, I am not new to nairaland, I only created a new account so i can post and remain annonymous.

I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
[b]
Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

your problem must have started from your courtship... Anyways, the way forward is what matters.
Her matter has no solution but on your own part, irrespective of the salary, buy her gifts!!!

Tatsuma101:
Is it wrong for a married woman to receive money from a guy ?

It is wrong except your husband is aware of it and has no problems with it

Amazing!!! I wonder how much was quoted for that....

adeniyi65:
Good moment to all Nairalanders. As the topic has illustrated.am in love with a lady under 25 years of age. She do complain about abdomen pain to me for quite months ago.she is madly in love with me than my expectation.am planning to tie the knut in few years to come but am bothered about our future on the issue of her health status consigning the appendix.she is going for a surgery to get it removed this week and i have given her the required strength to motivate her to do it because she fears to be operated.
My bone of contention is now this: wouldn't she has perennial attributed health related risk on herself in the future. Second. Wouldn't our prospective offspring shares from her health issues through gene or blood.
Please help a bothered brother earnestly.

My brother, please if possible- delete this post.
You are afraid of nothing worth having headache over

Abemy:
It all started more than three decades ago. While on a morning assembly ground in a nursery school, our health teacher was to inspect our hair, teeth and nails. I had my finger nails grown long without trimming them, a ruler used in drawing marginal lines was to be used in striking on any untrimmed nails.

I rushed to use my teeth and do the trimming before my turn could reach.

I never knew what I was getting myself into. After that morning, I continue to use my teeth to keep my nails short up to this moment. I personally hate doing it, it disgust me, but I became addicted to doing it, even if I use Lazer blade to cut them, I will still be using my teeth on them.

I know the health implication of doing so, but I am simply helpless. How do I get out of this mess? I even found myself several times, cutting my nails with my teeth in the public, when they are even yet to grow long.

If not because of this, I wouldn't have believe there is an addiction. Dear friends, I need help. How do I handle this.

Happy Easter as I await your suggestions.

Cheers.

You just have to make concious efforts to stop it... It is like nose poking, you have to be aware and try not to do it even when you are alone

dealhunter:
Thank you so much boss,I just check it,I will need Canada standard cv and resume....will do that on Monday....

Glad I could be of help with the little info... Please give it a shot. You never can tell

SkylineFrozen:
@dawnomike
Please don't forget me o. I just need your input sir.

If you don't mind studying as well, 5m will go a long way if you can apply early and take advantage of paying your tuition using CBN official rate with Form A.

Or better still, if you have a good credit score here in Nigeria, you can get a student loan to cover your tuition

dealhunter:
pls what is job sponsorship and how can I apply for it?

You have to search for LIMA jobs that provided sponsorships or work hand in hand with recruitment firms in canada. You can get them on LinkedIn... The company spomsors your visa and travelling

Washingtontx:
Is that paid?
Because i have one which is free called "Bluewillow"

not it is not... Another is Leonardo.AI

Abi1985:
Please I am asking and I want to know if such jobs exist legit in Nigeria.

Ofcos... easy more than that self.
Oil company workers
Sailors and shipping crew workers
Top executives of banks and multinationals
Software engineers and developers of some blue chip companies

Just to mention a few... 1m is some people's monthly bonus

reanson:
Can they really?

Yes they can... DALLE from openAI is an example

The rate at which perpetration of evil is increasing in this country is getting too worrisome

SkylineFrozen:
Any route is OK as long it is legal. No dependant too. Any suggestions please?

let me start by asking about your academic background and work background... That will determine if you can have a high score in CRS point system or not for Express Entry and Provincial Nominee Program (PNP). If that is not satisfactory, we can chk other options like study route or job sponsorship route

SkylineFrozen:
Dear Nairalanders,

Pls I need your sincere advice. I would like to know if I can relocate to Canada with a budget of 5M. If it isn't possible, any reasonable suggestions please?

Thank you all.

Sure you can depending on your immigration route and whether or not you have dependants

Wahala no be small

Makes no much sense to me though... Whatsoever you have given to anyone even if it is to your enemy, it is a gift and should not be taken back!

This is evil