₦airaland Forum

baba4thegehs:
I have a friend that took loan from mutiple companies for a business and she was duped in the process, now the loan interest has accumulated over the months to almos N1.3m and shes unable to pay, I wanted to find out of its possibile the renegotiate the interest during repayment.

She took loan from close to 4 apps and can't pay back even capital she doesn't have.

But we are trying to help her out to pay off at least the capital, because this guys are disturbing everyone.

Parent, Friends, Family members etc.

It's very embarrassing to say the least

She should reach out to her creditors to restructure the loan for off payment

thatigbogirl4NL:
Iya Baby Boys
Ndi nwere soldiers

I have a Family friend that has 4 boys 😯
Aged 8month, 2years 4years and 6years

She say make i watsapp her i dey

I do not believe that thing... But, I learnt it works

jade001:
I'll try to make this as simple as possible!

I am a single father, presently seeing a single mother. As I believe it should be, we both shared events that led to our individual Marital breakdown, and relationships after. I only dated 2 within my one year of divorce(had intimacy with one and ended the second during talking stage). She told me hers were two within TWO and HALF yrs of divorce( One ended because of genotype and the other wouldn't marry a single mum).

Fast forward after doing my background check very well. I discovered she had actually slept with SEVEN( Two married, 1 single father, 2 single guys and 2 FWB) within 21/2yrs of divorce(alot for me to handle though)

This she opened up after series of lies and manipulations and WAR, and when she took me to a Pastor and the pastor said we are good to go, but some of her friends would come and tell me rumors about her that I shouldn't be bothered. So, I had to press her till she opened up some... then, later, others!

My issue now is she is always receiving calls and msgs from men home and abroad(behind me, cos she wouldn'tpick in my presence and her phone is always on silence). She had blocked alot(she said about 70 and I'm like wow... later she said some females friends inclusive), but the calls wouldn't stop coming. Infact, she still keep contacts of people she has had stuffs with. She deleted all(supposedly), but I discovered she still keep the contact of one of the FWB(They had it twice in his house), now blocked too!

I couldn't just come to terms with how she seems to be the only female with many male friends(believe me when I say many). Obviously, she willing to settle down, but it's like some forces are really messing with her head. Took my time to tell her this isn't healthy... as she mistakenly slept with 2 of her friends already... Just to avoid further events she should stop male friends, but she is always giving excuses for some. Spoke to her mum about it too, and she said whe would change that it is gradual, that she will never cheat in our marriage!

My second issue with her is she is too aggressive. Infact, we had many heated arguments that I ended slapping her on two occasions before she became calm. Bad mouth, almost giving me headbutt, locking and tearing my knickers, spoiling my door... and If I couldn't bear any more I slap her to reset her brain(anytime I discover her lies, she will start wahala).

I am not a woman beater, but I can conveniently make case for some men that women brought the beast out of them. On a night she told me either she kills me or I kill her. I had to beg so she wouldn't kill me overnight. I only called her a liar and she began her aggression as usual, raising her voice to high heavens, disturbing my neighbors, abusing me... before I slapped her.(I am afraid the slap is the medicine, which i can't continue to do)

Spiritually she is good, I've prayed and saw good dreams about her. But, the aggression and men issue is killing me.

My fear is won't she cheat on me in our marriage and won't we end up as a royal rumble couples as she is too aggressive and unapologetic. She could keep to herself as long as she wants(whenever we have issues), but I am the lovey dovey type. I end up appeasing her to come to me at every issue.

She only begs and cries back to me after a day or two(Note: She wouldn't even admit her wrongs, she will only cry that why am I particular about her past. I'm always like but there are still in our present, until you do away with them completely(No chatting/calling, even with male friends of these men o)!

We've both seen our parents and getting married soon, as I've already proposed to her!

She and her family also wants me to keep and take care of her child, when the father is hale and hearty and balling. I have custody of mine, because I want my ex to have freedom to get herself and start life again without any burden or responsibility(mutually agreed).

The guy is always facetiming the child, but when is time for responsibilities, he comes up with different excuses, obviously he has the money, but only playing smart.

Thanks for your time!

I just pity your marriage if you go ahead with it.... You'll not say you did not see the red flags!!!
If you can not trust her before you marry her, you think you will after marriage especially if work takes you out of town for months

She might hVe a slight mental issue unknown to people

This is disheartening to say the least

Borntosmoke:
One girl just slapped me beacuse we had an arguments and I called her broke Olosho, my head is still ringing on how I'm going to deal with her. Because I don't like beating woman. My niggas have been telling me to beat her. But, I just dey pity her make I no kill person. I hate it when someone doesn't fear me. I'm looking for another way to deal with her. My Redpillers abeg give me advice??

Take the slap in good faith... Trouble is always around the corner in Nigeria

DataDoc:
Hi.

This thread is to document my daily journey for the next 200 days, as I go from a novice to confident and job-ready in the field of data analytics.

Timeframe: 200 days

Start date: Friday, 21st April 2023

End date: Monday, 6th November 2023

No. Of hours per day: 3 hours

Estimated total number of hours: 600 hours

Hello!!!
How is day one going?

Don't forget to update us on how it goes...

Wealthyonos:
First and foremost, I give special thanks to God Almighty for wisdom and protection. It would have been a different feeling right now if HE (God) had allowed the movie that played yesterday to roll out in full.

The company I worked with was expecting me at the office yesterday (20/4/2023), so I took public transportation from Oregun and headed straight to Iyana Isolo where I alighted and walked down to Aiye Bustop where the company is situated. After all that I went to the office to do, on my way back, I walked down to Iyana Isolo under bridge again due to heavy traffic jam, to board a bus heading to Oshodi. As I stood by the road side waiting for any available bus, a not -too- clean looking old man in his fifties approached me and said,
"Please, my name is .......... I just retuy from Ghana now with phones. I sell iphones and other gadgets. Please I don't know the value of the phones in the Nigerian Naira and I feel they want to cheat me."
I did not really show much interest so was just asking petty questions. He asked me about my tribe, state, religion etc. I was just answering him reluctantly.
Suddenly, another man wearing white t-shirt on blue jean came from nowhere and stood by me pretending he was waiting for a bus too. So the second man asked me what the first man wanted. I just told him I didn't understand what the first man wanted me to do, and that he should ask him by himself. So the second man brought out #200 from his pocket and stretched it to the first man, "are you looking for transport fare? Take this #200 naira". By now, the man was just walking to my right and left appearing to be restless. The first man rejected the money and started explaining everything he had explained to me. So the second guy said he sells phones, he asked if the first man (the fake Ghanaian) had the receipt for the goods he wanted to sell. The first man said he had everything. So the second man asked him what would be our benefit if we helped him sell the goods in Naira? The first man responded he would give us iphone 13 each.
So the second man told me to tell the first man not to tell anyone else about the business again, that we would help him so the three of us crossed to the other side of the road again.

But here is where God helped me by reasoning out the inconsistencies in his statements:
1. He had said he is a Ghanaian whereas, his intonation is pure Nigerian.
2. Secondly, the man does not look like someone with Torchlight phone let alone Iphone 13
3.Thirdly, Initially, he had pointed at the place where he left the goods. So when we crossed the road, he said that the place was not far, and that we would enter bus #100 to Lasaa Road.

It was when he said we where going to take transport I just lost interest in the journey. The second man even offered to pay my transport fare but I left them and crossed the road again to head towards Oshodi.
It was when I entered a bus heading to Oshodi that I realized what I just escaped.
How they were able to convince me to the extent that I crossed the road was what baffled me. I am someone that laughed at my friend that fell into their hands last two years. She even gave them their phone, ran home to collect her ATM and told them the pin because they promised to give her #500,000 after selling the gold (story for another day).
I did not even see it as a trap initially, I just wanted to see how everything was going to end. But me crossing the road again, the thing off me.
Omo, I entered Lagos last year's September. I have escaped different terrible situations. I really thank God for my life o. E nor easy for Lagos.
My head nor gree for one chance.
That was how God saved me from kidnappers in Iyana Isolo under bridge.
To my Lagos pals, make una dey careful o.
All the best....
I remain my humble self,
Onos JP

I'm glad you did not fall for that... My first encounter with this your type of story was when they tried it with me in 2009 at dugbe,ibadan.
I whyne the man tire and that same year, another claimed to be an alfa from ilorin bla bla bla.
One has got to be wise in this country. Once you show interest, their juju will work on you

We can't wait...

DataDoc:
Schedule For The Next 10 Days

21st-30th April 2023

10*3hours= 30 hours


Basic Statistics= 20 Hours

Excel= 10 Hours

See you tomorrow (Day 1)

Nice determination... I will be cheering you on!!!

I love how they settled their mumu fight

Hushpuppies:
Dear @7david7, I saw your post which was written on January 12th today, though it is 11 pm on 19th of April, 2023, yet I can't go to sleep knowing that you and your son are going through pain.

You are a good father and God will heal your son.

Please this is a permanent cure for ring worm, Dandruff and other head fungi and bacterials.

1: from now onward, don't barb his hair, this is to avoid angering the bacteria or virus.

2: stop all oral medications, they have not been working. 8 years is a long period of time.


4: stop using medicated soap to bath him, use only toilet shop like lux and apply it in your hand, then use the small one in your hand to wash his head.

5: wash his head morning and night and apply this drug morning and night for 2 months.

6: what is the drug?
The drug is simple, check where you will get liquid from paw paw tree.
Don't store the liquid. Use it fresh.

7: male or female paw paw tree can serve. Though male tree has more liquid sap than female tree.

8: : in my own case, there is a paw paw tree beside my house, I notified the owner, in the morning, I will pluck one leave from its pipe, the white sap will be dropping from it, I will place my hand beneath it so that it will be dripping into my hand while I match to my house.

When I get to my house, I will apply the liquid that dropped into my hand on my son's head and also use my finger to collect the ones that remain from where I broke the leave.

I will break the leave between the leave and the pipe to release more liquid and I will apply it on his head again.

I will now get a small cup, put small water in the cup, put both the paw paw leave and the pipe in the cup, leave it for a day or two and squeeze more drawing liquid and apply it on his head.

One paw paw pipe (that bears the leave) can last for 2 days on the head just soak the pipe and the leave in the cup for 2 days to release more drawing liquid from them.

The person that told me this did not collect a dine from me and I'm giving it to you freely.

Please note that my son's head is worse than your son's head in December.

I have been to CHOP (UNTH) Enugu, I have been to dermatologist (children) in UNTH, Enugu from January to February to March.

I have spent 130,000 buying ketekenazole, fluconazone and other stupid zones. I cried watching my son at nights but now Jesus have taken control.

Someone told me about this in March 20, tomorrow will be one month and it's like a miracle.

Do this for just one week and see the difference.

Good night bro, send my love to your son.

Thanks for proffering this help to him and many others

This one own na yahoo gurl

It is well...

BascoVanVeli:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3RAULqNi4lo

They did a good job keeping him out for a while

balo777:
First off, the sucide was a joke. I would never do such. But I really need help What is a man without his dick?

I'll start from the beginning.

As a child, I used to be very anxious, it's even worse now that I'm a grown man. My anxiety can be so bad that my heart will be beating super fast like I want to die. This even happens when I'm with a woman, or when my woman tell me she's coming on so-so-so date. I've tried breathing technique but it doesn't work.

When I wake up in the morning, I get normal erection, say thirty minutes, after urinating. But when I'm with a woman, I can't perform. The only time I get effortless erection is in the morning. Every other period it's not so easy, and especially before sex.

I used to rely on drugs to help me. But one day, even Viagra failed me. Although, the anxiety was through the roof on that day and I had weak erection that can't penetrate. But when she left, after some hours, my anxiety level went down again. This happens with every girl. I usually don't have sex drive, in fact, it's only when I wake up I do.

I've failed my girlfriend. Although she's been understanding and told me she'll stay if I can find a solution to this.

From test to medicine, what can I do?

The only problem you have is with your anxiety... Start working out heavily, it will boost your self confidence and belief which will help to relieve you of too much anxiety

Eeeya.... what a bad day at work for them.
Military men acting like demi-gods since 1963

djgreenland:
How you tekno say na man?😂

Na men dey hustle pass wey fit do that

kyber:
I meet this lady on Facebook,,we have been chatting and calling each other for 2 weeks now, she is from abavo, live in Warri ,she said she wanted to see me, when I saw her she was older than me,

she requested that I should take her to where she can eat fish perper soup,,I bought her perper soup of 1500,, she drank two malt and requested for bottle water,,I paid,, she refused to tell me where she stays
,,she drove off with her Bike and later in the evening I called her but she refused to pick or call back,,

up till now she never picked up the phone,, she thinks she is smart,,

What do I do to get back at her ?
What should I do ?

Just let her go... She was really hungry but went about it in a stupid way thinking she is smart on something less than 5k.
Leave the hungry mumu

stopthecycle:
So my elder brother just got married to the Love of his Life. I got to know his wife's family about two months before they got married. The lady has a younger sister who is super attractive, intelligent and nice. We've been talking for a long time and got close and we really like each other.

But I feel we are doing something wrong. Is it okay to date my Sister in law? Some people keep telling g me it's a taboo. I need advice...

There is nothing wrong in it... if twin brothers could marry twins sisters, then what's wrong with siblings marrying siblings??

May his soul rest in peace...

Pussykills:
I have come to the conclusion that I'm addicted to prostitutes. It started in 2010 when I first slept with a hooker. Its 13yrs now and I still patronise prostitutes. I slept with 155 of them, 55 were without protection.

The problem right now is that I don't have that much feelings for the new girl I'm dating. Since she's been in my life I have been able to stop but I noticed my soul still longs to experience that feeling of getting high and banging a hoxx.

In fact, I'm thinking if ending this relationship should be my next line of action.

This is not the first time, my past relationships ended because the feelings weren't there.

What would you suggest? Does sleeping with many partners make one loose the feeling of love? I don't get it, I can't even love, it's not just there.

If this is true... I am sorry to sing this song for you. Oya sòpe o tilò, e don go!!! 🎵 🎶 🎵 🎶 🎵

cutecommend:
Marriage is a good thing. Please tell us your sweet moments and the nice things you are enjoying in your marriage.
Tell us what singles are missing in your sweet marriage.

You'll not understand except you marry a godly wife or husband... And God blesses you with beautiful kids that are adorable, and money is not your problem.

The joy of waking up and seeing your family happy, knowing you're responsible for them.

The commitment and companionship you share with your wife/husband

The beauty of watching your kids grow day by day and watching them forge out their lives.

The joy of the beautiful memories and moments you all create as a family

As a man, having a family to call your own that genuinely loves you irrespective of what the outside world throws at you.

Having a partner to plan life with and live thru it together and not alone...
The above and many more makes marriage desirable... Although, bn single comes with it's own type of fun as well and should be enjoyed while it lasts.


I know marriages have ups and downs... but it is all about you both making the decision to make it beautiful that matters to me.

DrAbdulSuleman:
I started dating this girl 15 years ago. Tight body, good personality, all is well. Got married. Things continue to go swimmingly. Her mom is in her 80s and is quite overweight. A few years into the relationship I saw an old picture of her mom when she was much younger and she looked almost exactly like my wife. Started getting worried. Wife turned 40 a few months ago and her chin is starting to get flabby. Just like her mom’s. Her tits are also starting to sag. They’re huge, which was always a plus, but since last summer they’ve started expanding, but in a bad way. She’s starting to widen out in the middle. Her arms and legs are getting thicker. Basically, she’s starting to get her mom’s body. This is despite the fact that she eats right and exercises regularly. Genetics seem to be overriding her good decisions. And it’s happening rapidly. I’m having a harder time finding her sexually exciting. Which sucks, because her personality is still top tier. I’m afraid within 3 or 4 years she’s going to look hideous. And I’ll be a horrible bastard if I leave her just because she got fat, through no fault of her own. Can anything be done here? Like I said, she takes care of herself. Is there any way to fight genetics, or am I destined to have a fat cow for a wife?

That you used the word "fast cow" to describe bn fat in your last statement is derogatory in my opinion. Especially, where it may involve your wife!!!
Your wife will not be young forever... The best you can do is to keep her fit and live her beyond her body shape and stature.

Ours is a wasteful nation

Rokiat:
I would like to believe there are still men that are faithful To their women in relationships. And despite the narrative not all men cheat.

So faithful Men of nairaland, how do you manage to remain faithful?

Commitment and the fear of God

SuperBlack:
I have been in a Relationship with this Particular Girl for a Long time now, and I have grown to Love Her so well, She's from Benue State ( Idoma) while I'm from Abia State,

Now I want to Marry Her, when I told the elders of my meeting that I want to Marry Her, they ask me if I know much about their tradition,

I said No, they said I should find out before proceeding, when I start making research,

I found out they have a culture that when their daughter is married outside, any time she dies her body will be brought back to her father's house for Burial,

I called her and sat her down and asked, she said she doesn't know much about that,

Then I told her to help ask her mum, maybe her mum will also help ask her father,

At long last, it now happen that it's true, I still said I will like to meet her father to hear from him direct,

I went to their house yesterday with my brother to meet with him, after telling him my intentions and the enquiring that I came fore,

The Old Man Said Tradition is Tradition and Nothing will Change it, that I should still do more research and ask questions too,

That he can't do anything about it,

SINCE THEN I'M TOO CONFUSED if I should carry On Or Back out!

Please, why are you bothered about when she dies when you guys are not even married yet
Is marriage not to be enjoyed while alive
What does where you bury her have to do with your future happiness and that of your unborn kids

We worry too much about tomorrow that we do not know yet depriving ourselves of the happiness of today!!!

emmayayodeji:
I posted an iPhone 7 on here some days ago
And a user with this phone number 08028087343 messaged me (the post got deleted cos I advertised it in the wrong section, now I’m banned from the phone section)

We agreed on a price -58k
And he allegedly made payment to my opay account this morning (1st attachment)
I haven’t gotten alert yet
I asked him to send another screenshot he said he can’t
And stopped replying me till now
I’ll now post all the transactions on my opay account today (2nd attachment)
Incase he tries to make any funny accusations
I’ll now be attending to other buyers

And if I see the alleged 58k I’ll refund him asap.

Just doing this to clear my name from any future problems

You have done well ny coming to report to the elders first
We are awaiting his own part of the story... I advise you mention his moniker in your post to draw his attention to your post for him to reply for resolution

Anyways, this is no problem to majority of Nigerians who travel by road in peace

Foolish mothers are everywhere you go like MTN nowadays

TitoCharles:
For those who are of my time, as a young boy most of us had a huge crush on that fine girl that comes up on Saturday mornings , during Cadbury Breakfast show, the Eclairs advert, that girl that talks and ends the ad saying 'and there's only one place its gonna be...in my mouth..so go get yours now'... abeg where that babe? she go be full woman now!

That babe is now a grandmother