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Election is around the corner... This is the time they try to win the heart of the masses.

Error401:
So I had a one month old relationship with this babe I met online. We clicked so well and we've been doing great. I gave her 10k just a week in the relationship to sort some personal Bill's. It was willingly, although the request came stylishly as a result of lamentations from her.

And ONE MONTH into the relationship, she asked me to set her up for her business which I declined and postponed, stating my reasons after which she started ignoring me thesame day. This is someone I have never seen with my eyes.

Am I too harsh with my response? I am NOT A SIMP . I just want to know if I was too uncouth with my response.

Lalasticlala mynd44

Too harsh you asked
Please, leave her with her impending wahala

Jackofall:
In one of my previous post here, I posted that I needed someone who can help me declutter my room, rearrange it and decorate it for me, because I thought I couldn't do it myself.

It was a lot of work, my room was filled with loads of clothes, properties and carton I wasn't using. So a lot of people contacted me from nairaland, maybe because I mentioned that I had a lot of loads I didn't need anymore.

Most of the people that messaged me, were ordinary people like me who were just hustling. Because when I ask them for proof that they have done that kind of job before, they couldn't provide it.

It was only one person that seem to have done the job before, claiming 5 years of experience in interior design. So I asked him for his price, he said 15k, I priced it down to 10k and he didn't object to it at all.

So he was using two different numbers to chat with me, one was the "oga", the other number was the "apprentice" , so he told me they were coming to inspect my room. A man and a woman came to check my room, they said it was something they could do.

So I told them I needed to get something to eat that I would be right back. They also told me they needed to do something too, so they left. When I got back, they haven't arrived. Around 7-8pm, the guy came knocking at my gate, that he wanted me to explain everything that I needed to do in my room, I told him it was too late, but he said it's night time that is best for such work

My neighbor has initially asked me who they were and what they were looking for. I told her everything and she reported to other neighbors. That was how they convinced me not to go on with the deal because they are strangers and they didn't have any official page that one could see they have been doing the job for long.

So my neighbors volunteered to help me in renovating my room. That was how I renovated my room by myself and I feel very proud of myself. It was a lot of work to do, it stressed me out but I love the end result. Now my room looks entirely different and more spacious than it was before. I spent over 50k painting, buying shelves, buying decors and other things.

It was obvious they couldn't do it for me at 10k, which shows they are likely scammers or they have a sinister plan.

Guys be very careful out there. I'm sure the person is probably reading this post too.... That's all.

I am glad you dodged a bullet

humility101:
I met this lovely lady (30 yo) online 2 months ago. She is in Nigeria and I’m in the Uk. We have been actively chatting, phoning and having lots of facetime. She’s got all they qualities I need in a wife. She has also gone to see my peeps once and they said nice things about her.

I’m planning on wedding her this Christmas and she can join me immediately (UK can be very lonely without a partner) on a dependent visa.

But sometimes I pause and ask myself, I hope I’m not rushing this whole thing? I hope she is not pretending to be nice? I hope she truly loves me? I hope she is not seeing me as a means to japa? A lot of questions going through my mind. This is marriage and I don’t wanna make mistakes.

Advice me please.

I understand how you feel right now. But please, be patient

Dailyparrot:
There has been an upsurge in the number of young Nigerians traveling to the UK for studies.

I'm sure most people here must have known one or two close friends that have left Nigeria to the UK in the last 2 years.

There's this girl I met at Lagos NYSC orientation camp during my service year. We became friends and have been in touch all this while. She is from my home state and her family house in the village is close to mine. She left Lagos to Port Harcourt after our service but I used to see her during Christmas whenever I travel to the East.

I checked her WhatsApp status recently and noticed the background of her photos didn't look like Nigeria. I asked her and she told me that she has left Nigeria to UK to do her masters.

I congratulated her and told her that I do assignments for people especially students in diaspora. She said okay that her cousin has been looking for who to assist her with her assignment. The cousin traveled together with her for the studies.

So, she gave my number to her cousin who got in touch with me. We reached an agreement and she sent part of the money so I can get started with the assignment. I billed her lower than what I would ordinary have billed her because of the relationship I have with the cousin.

Fast forward to few days later, this my friend chatted me up asking for her cut from the money her cousin paid me. I was more than shocked because I never saw it coming and I'm sure the cousin would be so disappointed if she gets to know that her cousin came to me to collect a kickback from the money she paid.

I told her that she didn't tell me it was a business for her so I could factor that in while billing her cousin.

She said she has two people who need help with their assignment. I told her that I will give her the commission from those new people since she's indicated that's what she wants.

But this girl has talked to me in a very condescending manner. I don't know if it's because she went to UK or what. I have known this girl for years but I never knew her to be like this.

Why are some girls this mean?

Welcome to the Nigerian way of doing biz... Now you know.

I will advise you sacrifice some amount from what you got from jer cousin if only to pave way for more.

LagosInter:
Dollar price is falling and naira appreciating.

Please is it advisable to sell my few dollars now or will dollar still rise?

wait till nxt year towards the election period if you can.

DonMavin:
If you come home one day to meet a guest in your living room and when you ask your partner who the person is and the answer is "it's just my ex who came into town on a business trip and decided to pay a friendly visit to us".

What will be your reaction?

Wisdom is profitable to direct. He/She should have informed d other partner before the visitation of such an 'unholy' guest

For me, I will just jejely greet the guest, enter into the room, take a cold shower and step out in peace.

Jadi56:
Doctors in the house please help to interpret this result and hope the PID has not cause a lot of damage.

You are fine but need to be placed on anti-biotics. The inflation of your gastrium might be due to infection.

Visit a teaching hospital for proper diagnosis

This is a pathetic 16yr old... I won't be surprised if he was exposed to porn and sex before he was 10

1phone:
I will be 38! by February. Too much jealousy won't let me have a stable relationship. Upon discovering and confirming that my girlfriend is cheating on me, I break their phones with a serious beating and the relationship ended.

How long should I continue with this? I am not happy that at my age no child, and no stable relationship. I leave alone with a well-pay job here in Lagos.

I nearly killed somebody's daughter early this year all in the name of anger which comes from jealousy. How can I handle this, at a point, I began to think it was no longer ordinary. I need help brethren

see a therapist

erenax:
Experts in the financial markets, please kindly share your views on which of these financial markets is probably more profitable in the long run. With a capital of as low as $500, which one of them has more assurance of steadying daily returns. And give possible monthly profits with such capital.

Mods please move to FrontPage for more views.
Lalasticlala

Volatility75 (Synthetic indices)

If is well, depression is real!!!
That man or woman your see smiling near you might be going through depression.

Suffering and smiling is in the nature of Nigerians. That is why it is difficult to readily identify whoever is depressed in this country

aisha1314:
Does a man have the right to pressure or force his girlfriend use contraceptives simply because he is afraid of an unwanted pregnancy?

Nope, but the lady should have insisted he used a condom... Well, except she wants him to get herpen pregnant

GREATIGBOMAN:
So due to how Naira misbehaving.

I went and withdrew 70% of my savings from the bank and bought $19,000 worth of USDT at N863 per dollar on binance p2p

Guess what.


I just check and they're currently selling usdt there at 722 naira.



My hard earned money just lost like that


I just deleted the app... If they like let them make it drop to N400


Crypto have really delt with me



Last year it was one merchant token that ripped me off $2000
Then Shiba Inu ripped me $1200


Anytime I do anything crypto related I lose money


Will anyone advice me to sell my USDT now at 722 and accept my loss or wait untill December if Naira will lose value further to say N900 to a dollar


Will dollar be scarce in December?


Honest opinions

Wait till during the election

Jayden001:
I'm 31 and I'm in love with my boss's 17 year old niece. At first I just liked her and we just talk anytime we see. But she became overly friendly and always wanted to visit me in my house. She asked if she could come over for many days which I always carefully decline cos I was just ashamed and scared of moving around with a teenager. I know from all angles that we are not mates but this girl is not buying any of that. She doesn't see anything wrong in dating me! She doesn't know my age too but she doesn't seem to care.

She finally came to my place and we were talking when another lady called me. She got angry afterwards and demanded to know who the phone girl was to me. I told her she's my ex (exact truth though) but she was still acting up. She said she wouldn't say anything because she knows I don't like her. I was confused as to where she was driving at.

Well, after some obvious green lights, I told her I love her and she asked what took me so long to say it. That she's been loving me from day one

I asked her how old she is and she said 17. At that point I knew it wouldn't work considering the age difference. But this girl has left me in my thoughts. She has told her mom about me but I still don't want to show up cos her mom may just flare up why she's dating a grown up man of all people.

Her uncle, my boss doesn't know about it either and I don't think I will ever have the gut to tell him about it. She's doesn't even care about what anyone might say. Said I should forget about her uncle that he's not the one to chose a husband for her.

She's pushing for some medical compatibility test right now. Like I don't know how to handle the whole stuff.

I love her so much. The only problem I see here is the age difference.
I'm just afraid; what will her people say of me.
Her uncle is a nice person though and he may not have any problem with it; her mum too

But, I'm just afraid cos I hate insults
What do u guys think?

Tell her to calm down and take it slow till she is 19

Life2020:
Hi, first i want to thank you all for your advise the last time i was here.
the last time i brought up my problems here, i vented out about how my husband is being a total pain in the ass.
the problem is one, he's cheating on me with several girls and still want to have sex with me but i refused stating that until he does a full STD test we are not having sex, simply put i need to Know that he is STD free before we have sex again
Two, he's never at home, sometimes for two weeks he stays in hostels with girls, partying and spending his money, at first i tried to understand him because we did marry young, i felt that maybe he misses having his Independence, so at first i said nothing until it got worse. i now feel like a single mom, i do everything, the children don't even know anything about their dad, they see him as a stranger now, he's always cool towards them and i don't like it, have told him several times that i want the children to bound with him, i need them to have a good relationship with their father and have even advised him to take them out, maybe to a theme park or anything really but he has refused stating that he's busy.
thirdly he body shames me, telling me that i look like a clown, I'm fit, it's not like I'm dirty or anything i take care of myself, i know he's lying because i have admirers, like a lot of them, ever since i started making money and could afford to employ workers, i have done everything to make myself look good, i go to the gym, do facials and i make sure I look beautiful, honestly I don't know what's wrong with him. i have come to the conclusion that he is only saying it to be mean to me, maybe as a means of control, honestly i think he thinks if he makes me feel less than i am, to make me think i have no where else to go .
thirdly when we first got married, we both agreed that he will go to the university first then later, i will also attend, after finishing his university education he couldn't find a job so i gave him two of my lands to start a business, he because successful in the business and his now lavishing the money. i have a farming business, it's very successful, with it i have many lands and i built the home me and my husband live in, ever since he started making money i advised him to build his own house but he has refused, instead he bought a fancy car, i want to build an estate so that i can have another source for revenue but for one reason or other, my husband is advising me against it, now back to me wanting to attend the university, i want to study accounting so that i can take my business to a new level but my husband has refused saying that he wants more babies, we already have twins (two lovely girls). i told him later, after I finish my university degree and our girls are a little bit older, we will have more kids

now back to the present day, have decided I'm kicking my husband out, recently I noticed he was always at home, I was happy but surprised, I thought he had changed. I decided we need to spend time together as a family, I was even planning on us going on a vacation, give my children a life I wasn't opportune to live, I talked to him about it, we made plans, he agreed to go for a full STD test. I was happy
little did I know that my so called husband has fathered another child outside our marriage, he told me this himself, saying all sorts of nonsense on how I should advise the girl to abort it so that we can be one big happy family, I just looked at him, I haven't said anything to him in days. but I have decided that I'm kicking him out. I want to do this in a way that it doesn't affect my children, I really want them to build a relationship with their dad but as for me I clocked out of this marriage a long time ago.

I was advised my a friend to make a video while I kick him out but I'm not going to do, he's till the father of my child, and I don't want my children to grow up and find those videos
honestly I just need emotional support while I go through this divorce

You need to speak with a counselor for the much needed support you need

Ribenny:
So I just enrolled for the ALX full stack software engineering program and I stay in Enugu. I kind of feel a study buddy would be helpful (we don't have to be studying in the same place physically) as the program is quite tidious and a partner would be of great measure....if you're currently in Enugu and enrolled for the program as well, feel free to hit me up. 09040003140

Give it all you can... It is worth it.
I am rpunding up with my own ALX VA program and it has been worth it

This man should just keep quiet... He is fast becoming worst than Lai Mohammed the brother of Liamus Mba

Enuguguy:
Prewedding pictures of a Nairalander from Enugu with his Anang bride

May God bless your union with bliss... congratulations bro

chikishpilot:
can i acquire this skill with just my lappy?
cos we are talking about university my dear

Yes you can... and you achieve that within 6 months to 1 yr.

Research about data analyst and data science to have an idea of what they earn

chikishpilot:
greetings everyone i am 18 years from abia state Nigeria
from a middle class family, i am the second son of the family, our first son is married, (he impregnated a girl at a young age) and they're living fine without issues, now my dad called me and told me that he want one of his children to be successful and have a steady flow of income, that he is planning to borrow 300k to sponsor anything i want to do in life, now i have a great love and passion for anything concerning the internet, already i have a skill called domain flipping, now i want to go ahead an learn programing, and use like 100k to start my domain flipping busines while learning programming, my dad is not educated he said he would like me to learn how to sell medicine and open a chemist shop, after i told him that i like everything about computer and it's work, he said that whatever i choose he would sponsor me but he said he don't want to waste his money, that i know he didn't go to school and doesn't understand all these computer stuffs, i assured him nothing will happen to his money, now i need advice both from those working in the tech space and maybe anyone in the chemist world and generally life experienced individuals

business analyst, data analyst or data science ...
Choose one and you'llThad thank me someday

Make he pele

Gold359:
Pls how do I create topics on nairaland

You go to the homepage, head to the section you want to create your topics in.
You will see where we have create new topic

Princepk212:
Greetings to you all. Pls am soliciting the for urgent advise from experts or anyone having experience in commercial diving.
My friend recently finished NYSC with B.Eng Mech and now is opportuned to go for commercial air diving training but doesn't really know much about it. The pay, risk and professional development. Pls advice us?

He will be needed by oil companies

He is a crypto made billionaire... meaning, he still has not lost anything much since he mints his own crypto

He has become popular through his notoriety

"It is not known what medical attention the snake received before it died." ... This part off me

frankson1:
Cameroonian's Samuel Eto'o Fils has been making 'controversial' comments for some times now, and this could be one of them.

Is he only being optimistic and sentimental saying that Cameroon and Morocco will face each other at the finals in Qatar??

No he does not. I think he smokes naija version of oshogbo weed.

Embrace it ... I'm sure he knows already that job insecurity comes with been the manager of Chelsea

Why would he marry a girl that was 19yrs old at his age... He got what he wanted

Romanoff:
The same men that will tell you their family comes first before their wife, that their wife is not family?

That their wife can leave them but their family will always remain?

That's why you must get a better man that understands the difference between immediate family and distant relatives

That is why it is good for a woman to be empowered when married... As a husband, never make your wife a footstool for your family members and always always always write a Will no matter how young you are. - E get why