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eni070:
I don’t know what’s going wrong with me. I beat my wife, without any reason.

humm

officialmario:
Good Morning Fellow Nairalanders
This story I want to share here is a true life story about my family
It happened that my father retired at the Nigerian Brewery PLC in Ibadan in the year 2005.
After his retirement we expected him to set up a small scale business, but knowing that he has another plan in mind.
I had just finished my secondary school when he retired,we are just four and I am the third born,. On the 10th of October my father travelled to United kingdom (UK), without telling anyone about it, it was when he got to the UK that one of his friend came to pass the news to us, it came as a shock to the whole family, the most painful part of it is that he went with his concubine who had giving birth to four children and divorce her husband, and they did court wedding in Lagos,
To cut the whole story short, life is not that easy for us as we had to look for means to survive, my mother is just a petty trader who earns little, I had to pick up a phone call business and I was earning 3k per month.
Life really went too rough for us but thank God we are able to survive..
My father came back last year from London, and it was with surprise because nobody was informed about his coming.
When he got to Nigeria, he had to stay in her younger sisters house in ondo state, so he fixed a day for get together, it was at the get together that he apologized and gave my mum 10k just to forget about what has happened in the past, he has not been sending any support to her right since he travelled


I have an advice and a question to ask on nairaland
Firstly, the advice goes to the ladies, Please and please, don't ever rely on any man to survive, always try as much as possible to work hard and never be a burden to any man, even if your husband ask you not to work, try and find a better business to do because you never can tell what tomorrow will bring..
The second is just a question, if you happens to be in my mother's shoe,Do you expect her to forgive such a man and then accept the 10k gift he offered without any other benefits?

hmmm i cant forgive him.

jericco1:
I won't take her back if I were you..

what if she doesn't tell u, appreciate the fact that she open up, forgive nd move on, u can cheat too

Rickmann:
I don't believe ur story bro..
First of, I need to understand what you meant by 'training her in school' cos to me, it means supporting her financially from start to finish be it secondary or tertiary..
Now, If you truly ' trained her in school' like you claim, why would you push her away so easily for a mere setback in character, as if you are perfect? Do you think there aren't characters you exhibit too that she doesnt like as well?

Guys sef..

don't mind them,I don't believe all this online stories, let's hear from the lady, how will u train a lady nd still push her away,no b juju be that lol.. some curses are not empty o

tonak:
I did my best o. Trained her in school, bought a car for her, supported her parents, paid their rent sometimes, supported the siblings too. My house was a mecca for them. Even bought a bus for the dad for transportation. But she wanted more. God knows if I had the means to do more I would have. She wanted the big life, ikoyi, VI life, the big babe life. Well, after the separation she lived it for a while, driving Prado, latest cars etc but nowadays she's so humble. The humility in her voice these days ehn. No more Prado, no more Honda SUV.
Life. Now it's every day church and posting #whatgodcannotdodoesnotexist

hmmm

Iyaebe:
You are right, even a 60year old me still receive a lot of PM's ,she should have use style.

60? Toor

chatinent:
2021 with life has been the most important thing!
How has it been for you? Do you want to share any notable event that happened? What are your plans to end the year?

Even if you aren't hitting your dreams yet, do you want to do what's right or chase the root of all evil...no matter the odds? Benz? Rituals?

Do you want to share sth?

thankful for life

Hummm

garriAndsugar:
small play like this you wan dey vex..

pls don't play with me with something like that i really don't like it

garriAndsugar:
You're not searching but he's searching for you..

if u quote me again u won't like what u will hear from me, are u that stupid? I told u to stop disturbing me.. pls respect yourself

garriAndsugar:
Why is it a crime to quote you?

yes, why did u tag me in that post, do I look like someone who's searching? Pls just stop it, I don't like stress

garriAndsugar:
Have you applied yet?

for what? Pls stop quoting me

Nonli1:
G

gloria

Odewaleadesoye:
V

victor

okikiosibodu:
Cc: Debbydams
I felt helpless and just wanted to end my life to let go of all the pains. To crown that, I lost about 280k to some investment companies (200k to Themap.ng, and 80k to Quinsessientials.... Money turn monkey wey go market but e no return). Crazy thing is/was,noone to hold responsible. They were doin fine until I decided to try them out. I had tried doin businesses on 3 occasions (I sold Bluetooth mouse, smart watches, and palm slippers), but only broke even. I was happy I didn't lose though). Everythng got me frustrated. I was tired of life with all that was happening
Around that time, my contacts on their WhatsApp status were posting... Depressions is real, talk to someone if you feel depressed, check up on someone you have not heard from in a long time... Blah blah blah.. So I decided to chat up some of my friends
The first 2 I told were my online female friends I was comfortable with, but they were all scared and couldn't sleep that night.. They kept on checking up on me at short intervals I broke into tears at some point and told them to go and sleep after they made me promise them not to do anythng funny that night. Pius upload a pix on his WhatsApp status and I commented Nd we got talking.. Then I told him how I felt.. He called me on phone instantly and told me some things I will like to share to you, that made me have a rethink.
If one commits suicide, he switches to the other world, and will be dead to the pains of this world. It is the loved ones that bear the brunt. They are the once that feel the pains. Imagine the parents waiting to reap the dividends of their investment someday, only to get shattered at such bad news. Some collapse upon hearing such news.
Now Pius said when his won happened.. He had to be strong for his family: his fragile mum who is now of age, his dad, his younger sister, his wife (she already got fond of him) and himself. This is a young man in his early 30s. He had to be strong for everyone. Can you imagine how that would have been for him, especially for someone that just lost his younger brother?
When next such funny thoughts come you, remember all your loved ones esp those that care for you. Imagine them smiling and how happy they will be when they hear you achieve a ground breaking success (because you definitely will, if only you persevere a little). Now, imagine their expressions of they hear the crazy news about your enemy...
Once there is life, there is hope.

For me, I don't take the sound of depression or suicidal thoughts likely since that incident. Try to make yourself happy when you get moody. Stroll out, see a movie on your phone, talk to your close friends, watch comedy on YouTube (I have grown to love AKPAN AND ODUMA, and PAPA BENJI). Whatever makes you happy. You happiness and sanity is key. Nigeria is crazy enough on its own, Lagos stress sef na real wa.
We still love you, esp on nairaland here
#OneLove

Sorry for the lengthy post

lol..when there's life there's hope

Kingcalls:
Falz ft ajebutter 22

lol u are not serious

Toks2008:
I love this.

®Jay-Z

"I want a relationship with no gender roles. We both hustlers, we both cook, we both clean, we both pay, we're both romantic & we spoil each other."


What is your opinion?

i.love that

Kingcalls:
Bad child, u have join bad gang, u have join secret cult . U are now ring leader .

how's she a bad child? Can you take the mic and explain to use Mr Kingcalls

siofra:
I'm now a relationship coach you guys.

Trust me, it works

As for the guys, you can use your boxer.

lol, someone told how to make a man love me madly nd its very real I can't do it, cos it's like a punishment

siofra:
For the sake of your sanity never ever ever ever ever ever date a man who refers to himself as KING!!

I mean look at the monikers that refer to themselves and their fellow men as king on this forum e.g KING0G, KINGDASH, KING THE GIDREDPILLER they are all useless nonentities and runts of a healthy, sane society. They are potential rapists especially that TheGIDREDPILLER.

Please avoid them and stay safe Queens!!! ✌️

lol, u are not serious

Hathor5:
The baby will come when it is ready. No doctor can predict the exact day.

exactly

Sonnobax15:

Na wa oh

Hbd to her

lol

Hummm

Okonjo123:
you know that i love you somuch dear

pls stay out of my mention, u won't like it when I insult u, stop bothering me

Okonjo123:
me and u we be one oo me and u we be one oo

what's your problem?

Xavin:

abi

Sanmel:
Lol.. Oppression everywhere, fear no dey let me open my IG account again sef

lol..na everybody go eat breakfast..

Havesomesense:
Before you get husband, you go first get boyfriend.

ok sir

placeofallure:
I am enjoying everything, especially number 2. My husband pampers me like a baby. When you have that, you will have all the other ones He's made promises and he's keeping to them. God bless him abundantly.

whala for we wey Neva even get husband ,God when

Havesomesense:
what are you enjoying in your current relationship?

1. Intimacy
2. Attention
3. Liberty
4. Encouragement
5. Comfort
6. Peace of mind
7. Gifts
8. Communication
9. Respect
10. Protection

God dey

Ezendimmuo:
I just checked my girlfriends chat and found out she lied to me about staying with her friend while she went out on a date with a guy...
I confronted her but she said I shouldn't have gone through her phone...it shows i don't trust her...
I wasn't expecting that from her...
I expected her to apologize so that we'd move on...
Noo!!!
She even changed her password right on front of me and told me that I had no right to go through her chat...
She even kissed this guy and had some sex related chat with him on the chat...
M gonna break up with her Sha ..
My question is this...
Is it a proper to go through your partners chat
Past experiences has taught me to always know what these girls are up to...
I just can't help it....

lol, going Tru your partner phone is not a good idea though,