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Greetings All....Mature Advice please

I'm married 2015 with two daughters. We are holding on and praying for a baby boy but we don't know the peak period to have sex . We have chatted together . Doc. In the House Advice!

God gives children but the part you will play is;

You must know your wife's ovulation period, the exact time the eggs drop into her ovaries. Then once you are sure, you have intercourse with her that period. There are 90percent chance of her conceiving a male child

The science behind it is that the y chromosomes that form male child swims fast after ejaculation. While the x chromosomes that gives female is a slow swimmer.
So when the man ejaculates and there is an egg present the fast swimmer y chromosomes fertilizes the egg, a male child is formed.
But when the x chromosomes swims fast and finds no egg, it dies quickly because it has short span, but the female forming x chromosomes is a slow swimmer so it takes it's time and can be in the woman for up to three days. So when the egg drops the y chromosomes slow swimmer will be there waiting to fertilize the egg thereby a female child is formed.

So couples must learn and calculate the exact time ovulation starts.
Have intercourse with in that period, a male child is formed.


There was a couple that had 4 girls.
They were always quarrelling and fighting
A senior colleague of mine who taught me about this.
Instructed them.
They later had two boys after

Many couples even some women don't know there ovulation starting period.

CocoaOla:
Mumu people all the one they spent billion of dollars on how many of it is working 2025 the world is moving away from fossil fuels Nigerians are dump

I think Dangote and Rabiu came to this game late.
Nigeria should have had a working refinery more than ten years ago

It's now the world is moving away from oil.
Hope they break even.

But the future is technology, creativity and innovation.
Anyone that wants to bet big in the future should look into those.

lekki1444:
brother, women are punishment for men. once you understnd that you will stop looking for a good woman but will start to make your way good and righteous with God, then God will tame your woman and will let her be at peace with you. but to think there is a peaceful woman out there is foolishness. they are luna beings aka lunatic. only God can tame your woman for you and that is incumbent on you taming yourself first

A bolded deep word!!!

andyprez:
Sometimes we try too hard to find the “right person” while spending little or no time in being the right person.

Word!!!!
@ OP are you the right person to be with?
Do you have the right character and attitude?

Bcoz if you don't have the required resume
The right one will come and you will mess everything up

Moreover
To stay with a woman
You need patience
Especially if you want to get the best out of your union
You need patience

Ikennamurphy:
This your number 3 doesn't make sense.. If you're a woman reading this, stop this nonsense, we're all humans and not mind readers, say exactly what u mean to your spouse and stop suffering him for no reason to understand what u mean,.. I still believe is an immature gal that will say no and mean yes..

E be like say you never know women?
What he said is true
Very complicated beings
But that's the enigma that makes the whole thing interesting
If you understand there actions more

udemzyudex:
Lol.. Abeg who we go come marry ooo?

A woman will say the same thing you post, marry a man that loves you more, don't settle for 50/50 lol.

Na wa oooo

Exactly
Both men and women say the same thing
I believe everyone should show love to the other partner

Many women would not near man that doesn't show them love
In fact the sensible ones will shi.t test you to know whether you are worth it.

If a woman finds out you really love her, she will go the extra mile.
Many of them are really scared of things they hear about marriage so will be cautious

But when they discover the exceptional person you are, they will go out to love you even more.

But all these is based on you dealing with a sensible wise woman. not the manipulative, non straight forward type

ProphetM0hammad:
Nothing like real team.
It's same 3 points whether it's Man u or crystal Palace.

Chelsea are already 9 points better than they were at this stage last season.

Exactly
The team has been improving with every game. And the lads are tasking themselves seriously.

They are much better team this season with the new additions

You married a strange woman
Only God can deliver you.

When we warn young men it's like na nonsense we dey yarn

Let this be a warning to many people out there
Avoid strange women
Look for godly women for marriage

And you too
Be serious with your maker

mannyiyke:
What did they work for? Amaechi, Okorocha, Ngige and Ogbonnia Onu worked for the enthronement of Buhari. It wasn't Tinubu alone that did it.

Ekwueme and other Igbos worked hard for the PDP in 1999, but Obasanjo came straight from prison and became the president, even when he received a zero support from the South West.

No mind this people
There eyes go clear by 2022
Chances of getting the president in 2023 goes according to this progression

1st chance North: they own and understand Nigerian politics more than any other region.

2nd chance: South East. They may be compensated for 2023 with the likes of Governor Umahi a tested and accepted performer

3rd chance: South South the likes of Rotimi Amechi, GEJ have chance to be considered


The South West don't even have any chance in 2023. They have utilised 8 years presidency and vice presidency
So they have no chance.

kingxsamz:
...
Some clowns will come here and say it's grace, when he clearly doesn't believe in a god.
Meanwhile, while Elon Musk is making huge impact in the world, some group of clowns are hell bent on the world ending so that they can fly into the sky and wear white robes all their life.

He is still a mortal
Susceptible to death
Steve Jobs was more talented, brighter and with better prospect than this guy. How did he end up.

Humans are mortals
Can go anytime
To answer to there maker
And give account to the creator of life on how they spent there life here .

Creativity and innovation is good and required of humans
But whatever we do
We are still mortals
Any day that dude dies
He ain't going with a pin
To the great beyond

Raalsalghul:
Funny enough, I agree with you. There's something off about this union.

Not all that glitters is gold
Treasures most times ain't loud

Even the rich and highly connected northerners with so much money than sense still have a less loud wedding

They should just watch it Sha
Good marriage is hard work

nkemdi89:
Yes, they don't see eye to eye, the father lives in penury, while this guy galivant around.

If this is true
It is a very wrong precedent he is setting
Dishonoring of one's parents is a ticket to issues
He better watch it

nkemdi89:
Uche go and reconcile with your father, imagine a young man whose father is alive but was not invited to his wedding.

For real?

baralatie:
love generates expectations.expectations and fulfilment are related.

if you read and again I say if you read the lastest comments of the op on this matter.the woman was the first on the block with speed and something seriously happened which they didn't receive.as time went on banter between happened and that went unresolved.now the woman just went off .
was there love yes!
did the love go sour between them yes!
at what time did it happen and why ( ma4iage counseling required)
there problem was not sex but communication and conflict management and these two can erode love like nothing happened

The only thing I know is that if her heart was in there
She would have told her man whatever the problem was
So her heart weren't there fully
That's the problem here
And she ain't willing to point it out

She is just fortunate
The guy is patient and temperate
If it's other kind of men
They would have gotten a relief somewhere

If this issue prolongs
Then she has invited and opened door to the devil to come and dine/feast on her marriage
That's the koko

A wise woman builds her home
While a foolish one tears it down with her hands

baralatie:
there was love o!
she loved him
He loved her
but mismanagement of the issues that arose between them is what brought out the dagger and the shied

There wasn't love
If there was
It wouldn't have been this situation
We use the word love
Do we really understand the meaning
When you love someone
You will go a long way to make life easier for that one
Love isn't selfish

Do you know
The kind of pressure that young man is in?
And he even started off on a Christian template
Abiding by no sex till marriage
Hoping to get it well in marriage
Now this

This issue can break or scatter a home
Or mistakingly the guy plays into the hands of a woman that understand this game well

The woman is extremely selfish
Fortunate she has a man that has restrictions and temperate

Like I said
May God help him and give him wisdom to rightly handle this situation

some50686:
We had fewer sex during lockdown than we had before the lock down. Same tired excuse.

then during lookdown once she wakes up, she bathes for our son and prepare a time table for his food and gives to our maid. After she prepares food for me other times she wont. she would just lock herself in another room and maybe only come out to drink water and take somethin from the fridge. This really annoyed me then to the point, I said going forward no locking of rooms doors. Every door must be left open. She would only come out around 8-9pm when she would make dinner.

Hmm this goes in very deep
I think she never loved you that much
Also you never knew each other much

As per Christianity
She may just be religious
Or maybe still a shallow Christian
Or she used Christianity for cover up
Because a true Christian
Follows the dictates of the Bible
Walks in love
And love involves ensuring the well being of our partners

Maybe you should consult a counselor, your pastor
Or the marriage committee that
Screened you guys

In addition or even first of all
Pray and ask God for wisdom on handling this issue
Because deep down it boils down to your wife's personality
Her make up as a person
Maybe even things she developed while growing up

Human beings are very deep and complex
You may say you know someone
But you never really knew that person
Some are fortunate
They end up with people that have got there ship.ts together
While some others are unfortunate
They end up with people that are extremely complex
This is the reason for many unstable homes today

May God help you in this cross you are carrying!!!!

[quote author=Godoverevery post=96222270]she has no right to deny him sex..... your phase EXPLANATION is no justification.
He should keep treating her right while she treating him like trash....his wife isn't even cooking for him again !!! telling him to control is urge

He should wait till she change herself..... Really

what is bad Is bad......no good woman deny her husband sex[/quote]


Exactly
Most times men marry women that have no iota of emotional connection or likeness for them

Most especially Christian men fall into this issues
Many women use Christianity to hide a lot of wickedness

Unmarried ones shine your eyes well well

yusufu16:
I still wonder who advise Dangote to waste his money in building refinary.

I still see it as a very bad business decision


If he used one quarter of the money to develop an innovative company with eyes on the future
He would be smiling to the bank in the future
And bettering the nation at large
But it out boils down to ability to undergo critical, analytical, innovative and sustainable thinking



Hopefully he should break even before oil completely goes down south

Neddstark:
Nigeria needs to start looking inwards and looking on how to utilizing its agricultural and human power resources to be economically viable. Nations without a single drop of oil in their ground are doing extremely well.

The main problem is that there are very few thinkers in the land.
Many are not putting there brain to good use.
Our leaders are the worst

If Nigerians don't put there brain to use
It will be terrible
But there is still hope;


Putting the brain to use
Tasking the human mind
To bring out innovative and sustainable solutions

DaddyELEPHANT:
be careful of the kind of woman you want to house. the wrong woman will not only bring you down, she will bring down your entire family

Well said
Men must shine there eyes well
There is a kind of woman you never bring into your house as wife
The effect is unbearable

cococandy:
I’m Igbo and I agree with you to an extent.
Simply because I know not everyone or every part is like this. But Anambra tribalism is on steroids.
They don’t even want to marry other igbo people.

Had a friend divorced in his 40s after having teenage kids and the main issue is that he never listened to his mother on whom to marry. The sister of this person too ended up divorced. All due to family interference.

Other igbos call them “Ndi mmanyi si “ meaning “our mother said”. Once their moms said something (especially regarding your choice of spouse), it’s final.

Who wants that kind of daily frustration?

So wetin Anambara do una again this time around?

Is Paul's wife an Igbo?
He is from Rivers

It's someone that never knew the origin of psquare problem that will be talking like this.

The okoyes never supported Peter's relationship
Then afterwards it's the same Peter that called for a break-up of the group

Peter was the weakest link in the group
His contribution was negligible compared to Paul and Jude

So the family feels that the warning they gave has come to pass.


Now they broke up
How has Peter's music been?


See it has nothing to do with tribe
It's more to do with the person in question

Sometimes a guy may want to marry a lady
And the family don't give consent
It's better the person in question move on
Because sometimes the feud may last for generations


I listened to a popular radio presenter in FCT Abuja early this week
He is a northerner
Married a northern woman
But her family never accepted the guy
Unfortunately for the guy
The wife later died by sickness
The guy said the ordeal he went through
He never wished it on his enemy
In conclusion
He said that when you are going to marry someone
Once the family no like you
Na long thing for you
That the family may never accept you
That based on what he went through
He won't advise anybody to go to family where they are not accepted for marriage
Rather go to where you are accepted
And I fully agree with him


In Africa
Marriage involves extended family
And if anyone don't put that fact into perspective

He or she will have themselves to blame

Toks2008:
I just weak.

Most of them are like that despite the fact that they lack substance yet they will be feeling too important.


There was a time I met a Black lady who is an Army officer in the U.K.

I was blown away by her simplicity. Very beautiful lady for that matter and she practically made it clear she desires me and till tomorrow we are still close friends yet I know some naija ladies in same U.K who feel too important to even allow simple friendship without crazy drama.

@toks not just substance, I rather use the word dumb. They ain't intelligent at all

The smart ones acts very ladylike
And I am sorry for any man that ends up with those ones.
They will drain you of every good thing/attributes you possess

boyfrank:
LIES and IGNORANCE @ the bolded
Germans killed 6 million Jews in 1930's and 40's today they have one of the best economies. why are they not cursed?
Stalin and communism killed over 50 million
the UK colonized nations and killed millions in the process, France, Holland, US, carried out the slave trade, today they are prosperous.
pls stop blaming the ancestors

Wars have always been part of human history

But sacrificing your fellow human being
Cutting of someone head or body parts
Burying someone alive
Selling millions of people into slavery is a heinous crime
It's barbaric and evil

It affects generations
Do you know the kind of pain, suffering and untold hardship that the generations of slaves suffered in the Americas
It affected them for hundreds of years


You can get back to normalcy after fighting a war for years Liberia, Sierra Leone, south east etc and many other places ha suffered war and gotten back to normalcy

But the effect of the wickedness of the past affects generations unborn


That is the reason for Africas backwardness
Look around you
The level of backwardness in this continent is terrible
And no sign of any changes

Kondomatic:
The reason relationship tire me these is because of this me first mentality of many people.


People don't care about your needs as long as theirs are being met and when you get tired of trying and quit, they will start opening threads.


You want him because he was meeting your needs, he doesn't want you because you don't care about his.


Move on and stop disturbing us.


See as you're emphasizing on laughter as if he is a relationship to laugh.

This your statement I ve come to understand is the major reason for divorce and failure in relationships today

Very many people are so selfish and self centered. Anybody entering any relationship today must be equiped with this information to have Sanity

The quality of good characterd humans are seriously dropping

SlayerForever:
Are you serious!

Yeah
See a lot of things were happening then

Twins were abomination
A straying person can easily be sold as slave or used as sacrifice
Virgins were used for sacrifice

Ask your self who caught the slaves that were sold to the white man transported to America and west Indies

Let me give you a finding I deduxed;

Majority of the problems plaguing black Africa like bad leadership, poverty are all tied to the curses these people that were sacrificed and sold as slaves cursed the future generations of the descendants of the perpetrators which were our forebearers

Now our present generation are reaping the deeds of them our forefathers

A lot of evil we're done then prior to the coming of the white man

PHijo:
So you expect me to read about my homeland? It is strangers like you who would read from books. We know our history and heritage so leave us alone.

Oga the Europeans has a well documented report on every part of Nigeria, even enrire Africa


That's why the foundation they laid across Africa over 200 years ago is still afecti us


Which African tribe has a written documentation of her past history?

None

While the Chinese, Indians, Hebrews, Arabs all have written documentation dating thousands of years

And this is one major problem of the black man

I asked for proof and you are talking of what your ancestors said

Bkayyy:
This is the reason why we don't tell Igbo history in open like others because we did things in the past. Most of which I won't say here no matter the temptation.
Ask your elders how they got the land you call ancestral land and that will give you insight how those days were

Honestly some of the things I heard from those eldegrs are horrific.
The white man changed a lot of things

PHijo:
Jubo Jubogha was an Ijaw man, an Ibani man to be precise. That's the identity he died with. That's the language he spoke, that is the culture he represented.

Where is your back up
I am telling you I read this as a kid from an African encyclopedia

I read another report some years ago how he still affected wsst Indies where he was extradited by the British

He was a well known African icon who lived after the abolishing of trans Atlantic slave trade when Europeans started trading on oil palm from Africa before the partioning of Africa in Berlin conference which led to Colonialism.

PHijo:
We don't talk too much! Only Chief Asari-Dokubo is enough to deal with all of you. No evidence Jubo Jubogha is Igbo. He could as well be from several other ethnic nations within that vicinity. If you Igbo had shame you wouldn't even lay claims to him. Igboland was primarily vassal to us. That's a fact.

King jaja of opobo was an old Igbo man.
It's well documented very well in history books
He was an Igbo slave sold to bonny. He rose to become a high chief of a major ruling house in opobo

He was a major problem to the British preventing them entering into the hinterlands during the oil palm trade.
He was controlling the trade
The British conspired to remove him from the way, they invited him into there ship for business negotiations. On entering they arrested him on the order of Queen Victoria and extradited him to West Indies where he died and was burried

In fact he was the major reason the British ensured the north were in control of everything because he gave the British tough time. They learnt there lesson to never allow an Easten man be there in charge

I learnt all this from an African encyclopedia I read as a kid.
King jaja was an African icon before the Colonial came over

Bkayyy:
LOL, see the way he is laying it in sequence as if Ijaws ever had upper hand against Ndigbo.
My bro go and ask any of your old men the reason why your tribe is small.
Where do you think those ohu in Igboland come from?
Where do you think those used for sacrifice in Mbaise, Arọ, ohafia, Abam and other southern Igbo clans come from?
It is only an Igbo that can enslave a fellow Igbo. Even jaja of Opobo was captured by a fellow Igbo from his hometown in ama Igbo and sold to ibani Chiefs.
There is no record where non igbo African crossed over to Igbo territory and came back alive before the coming of the Europeans.
Quote me anywhere

At the bolded
I remember an uncle of mine he is early 80s now.
He was telling me of his dad always said we should thank God for the white man coming. That his dad's mum who lived in 1800s said they no born you well to even go to a neighboring Igbo town or far towns for market and night catches up with you. It's either you are dead or sold as slave