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It's their way of survival before people trouble them for their size they must show us that they are not scared

mikezuruki:
She needs me to do something. Truth is, I have not had the time to because of work.
She then threatened that the relationship is over if I don't do it as soon as she wants. To be truthful to you, I know she has asked me for some time to get this thing done, but the threat there is what I don't understand. Like it didn't warrant it at all.
That was why I chose to stand my ground. I haven't and I didn't threaten her over anything, I don't why she would resolved to that.

Ah, this a battle of wits. She wants to train you to react in a way that pleases her. She wants to teach you what standing by your word means. If you promised to do something and then you broke your promise then she is showing you that that's behaviour she won't tolerate.

If she is a good woman then you might lose her because she knows her worth and is refusing to compromise that.

Your lesson here is to be a man of his word. Don't make promises you can't meet. Let your word be your bond. I really hope she follows through and doesn't let you off because you will continue to get her hopes up and dash them when it doesn't suit you. I really hope she stays strong.

shantti

Moneyboyz:
I almost sent my wife packing yesterday because of this verbal abuse issue.
What happened?
I went out to buy bread and kept my phony at the top of the shoe rack cause I know she will want to go through it.

Immediately I came back she started nagging and shouting calling me names saying I'm hiding something by hiding my phone cause she can hear it ringing when she called it.

It went on and on before she sparked a plug in my brain. I was this close to taking my kid to my mom and sending her away.
If you hit her now story will change.

I don't think lying deceiving men get to pull this card! You're an abusive husband and you cheat on your wife and put her health in danger. Men like you should be worried about your wife chopping your D off instead of verbal abuse.

IamAsiri:
It is true but this goes both ways. I know of some couple that the husbands don't touch the wives (at least not to one's face) but can make their wives feel like ants.

You're absolutely right but I'm just staying on topic. This thread is focused on the pain of husbands and it is insensitive to drag the focus away from that and discuss the pain of wives. That is another thread. Verbal abuse damages anyone on the receiving end whether it's a husband, wife, child, brother, sister... all humans are impacted by verbal abuse. So let's acknowledge the pain of husbands and condemn wives who verbally abuse their husbands.

It depends if the reason you broke up with her is justified. If it's an ego driven reason then you'll suffer for months or even years before you adapt to being without her and even then she'll cross your mind every now and then, and feel the sting of the pain but you'll know how to cope. But if it's a reason based on morals and principles and you feel justified then you'll recover in a month or two.

Ps... I'm just making this up

Let me just leave this here:

1. I’M FINE
I am most certainly not fine. I am upset/angry/annoyed or all of the above, but I’m not going to tell you why – you have to work it out for yourself.

2. WHATEVER, I’M OVER IT
I am not over it – I just want you and the rest of the world to think that I am so I can wallow in self pity in solitude with a bottle of white and large box of chocolates.

3. FINE, JUST DO WHAT YOU WANT
Not fine, don’t you dare do what you’re planning on doing. Or do… and suffer my wrath – your choice.

4. IT DOESN’T EVEN MATTER NOW ANYWAY
It does matter, it really matters actually, it matters more now than it did when it first happened and it’s affecting every single facet of my day this week.

5. I’M ON MY WAY/JUST RUNNING OUT OF THE DOOR/STUCK IN TRAFFIC
I’m currently sitting in my bath towel, with wet hair and no make-up and haven’t even chosen an outfit yet – see you in an hour… minimum.

6. I DON’T MIND
I do mind, I mind very much actually. I know exactly what I do want to eat/do/watch, but I’m going to test you. How well do you really know me? Now is your chance to read my mind and you better get this right first time, or you can expect a flurry of ‘fines’ and ‘whatevers’ for the rest of the evening.

7. HOW DO YOU KNOW HER?
What is your entire past history with that woman, sexual or otherwise? Should I be threatened and am I prettier than her?

8. I MEAN I COULD EAT
I’m absolutely starving, but I don’t want to say I’m starving because this implies I’m greedy and fat, so I need you to take charge right now and find me a restaurant and a bread basket asap.

9. SORRY, WHAT?
Oh I heard you, I heard you loud and clear, I’m just giving you a chance to change what you said.

10. I DIDN’T EVEN LIKE HIM THAT MUCH ANYWAY
I really liked him, in fact I think I was falling for him, but he hurt me and my pride and now I’m trying to a put on a brave face – hand me the vodka!

pansophist:
Me think verbal and emotional abuse is even far far worse than physical abuse. If the physical abuse didn't lead to being physical incapacitated, then it would heal, but you see emotional/verbal abuse, that one destroys and even if you remember it years to come, it would shatter you to shred.

Many of the folks I dislike passionately are those that have said hurtful words to me even far back when I was a kid. I still remember some and it hurts me that the sight of those folks piss me off, they think I've forgot but the mark is still there. You see why the bible talk about the tongue alot, to control it and not the fist. Women destroy men alot with their mouth, and it's more powerful than fist.

I agree with you... I remember as a child praying for an ass whopping rather than being shouted at, cursed, or being told off. Every religion emphasises the importance of controlling your tongue.

This comes to mind

You don't even respect me. I'm talking and you are busy breathing? It's over!

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dacblogger:
I will not lie, I dey insult Sha and if not for the kind of man my hubby is, him for don.commit suicide because of the things I tell him.
But the truth is that, I'm a very emotional person and I'm easily angered. Infact my hubby is the most annoying human being on planet Earth...
He has a way of getting at you and he does that on a daily basis .
So when he does that, I try to hold in the anger for days but when I can't hold it anymore, I explode... When I'm done telling him all those things, I feel better.
So you see , Venting is my coping mechanism.
We women we DNT do that intentionally, that is just our own way of expressing the anger that we have held for so long.
May God help each and everyone one of us Sha.

If you replaced venting with punching now would what you said make sense? Men who beat their wives make the exact same excuses as you just made lol.

We need to change with the times, if we won't accept our men hurting us physically then we gotta stop hurting them emotionally.Just because your hubby isn't complaining doesn't mean he isn't hurt by your words. It's all abuse...

@ the bolded is what men say to excuse their behaviour after they beat their woman black and blue

VictorUSA:
Now that you are poor like this, no bitch will encamp around you.But when you hammer you'll see them trooping in millions, that is why women are all useless regardless of their origin.

I thought you said you're a virgin, what do you know about women?
When men are called forward these little boys will step out as well. Go ask your mum for feeding money and leave women's affairs alone until you come of age.

toujurs:
Just look at this dumb hypocrite. I'm very sure you would marry more than two wives. And you call me a fish brain ..

Fish brain

toujurs:
You see that live alone part you said, that shit makes ladies to open their legs any how. Do these girls think someone staying in his family house would stay there forever, cause i just don't get it. I can't take any lady serious if she tells me to get an apartment of my own before she accepts me, walaihi i go Bleep you tyre and push you away. Once i see my real taste of a woman. Since its now about benefits

So you have nothing in your brain but women and Bleep... fish brain

I remember when light skin men were the trend for beauty (90s) but for the last 2 decades dark skin men have taken over! Mmmmh, delicious dark chocolate over caramel any day

Your mum sounds amazing and you should take a leaf out of her book and bond with your siblings and love their children as much as you love your own.
I fell in love with my nephews and nieces before I met my children and I will continue to love them as much as my own children. Your mother is putting love into the world so that love could protect her bloodline long after she's gone.

I was chatting to my niece who use to hate the way her dad spent money on everyone and would only give them the fundamental (food, clothes, education, shelter). It's now that she is a mother that she understood her fathers motives. Everywhere she and her brother goes there's someone her father helped and she is loved as an extension of him. She understands that her father was throwing treasures in her path by being such a kind and generous man.

None other than our resident E-fights

I honestly believe verbal and emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. If you notice in society we accept it when a woman complains about being verbally and emotionally abused by her man and we rally around her. When men say they are being verbally abused we tell them that that's just what women do, women are emotional and they say things they don't mean, etc etc.

We women need to control our tongue because our mouth is the equivalence of our muscles. We attack verbally which is still an attack and a form of abuse.

I am guilty of running my mouth and I speak to myself first

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Ola17:
See your way. Instead of to accept say you been no know.

I've learnt something new today... I'd rather stick to bet though because betted just sounds wrong

Carl Jung believed that in dreaming of flying, we are expressing our desire to break free of restrictions and limitations. Alfred Adler, thought that this dream was a type of a superiority dream in which we reveal the desire to dominate and be above others. Focusing on the libido, Freud thought that flying was just another way to express sexual desires. Traditionally, If you dream you are flying so high that you can actually touch the moon and stars this portends many different types of global disaster that you may soon hear of.
If you fly high with black wings you are warned that you are headed for a let down. Flying dreams are normally a good omen and if the flight is pleasant, with no worries and anxieties, you can look for happiness and plenty to follow.

Flying in dreams can mean an increase in self-confidence, sense of freedom, and creativity. You’re beginning to rise above your current circumstances.

You need a new perspective. Ask yourself; what do you want to escape from? Why are you not feeling free? Where are you losing perspective? Where do you need to look at things differently?”

Liberation or freedom. Overcoming a difficult situation and transcending limitations.

If you fly alone, this represents a personal journey filled with positive realizations.

If flying with others, this indicates the support of family, friends, or acquaintances, especially for a new endeavor.

Source: https://www.dreamencyclopedia.net/flying

Clout chaser has succeeded in her mission

SmellySperm:
If I knew you were a lady i wouldn't even go this far. Whatever ma'am. Have a nice day!

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SmellySperm:
Common sense bro. That's why you have brain.

Assumptions and generalisation is your thing... who told you I'm a bro? Stop assuming and being emotional none of these are masculine traits. You've let gender wars distort your reasoning.

This is because men choose the woman of his dream and women accept the best of what they attract. If women could pick the man of their dreams then only 20% of men would have a woman to begin with

travelzcruix:
I have wise ones. Thank you my elders.

Your baby is beautiful by the way and S/he looks a lot like you but get the DNA test and fight to be part of the baby's life once it's proven that you are the father. As for her... hmmm, youthful exuberance and lack of education and exposure is doing her and life will humble her. It's really sad that she wants to scatter her family but I hope you won't abusive to her!

I'm sorry for what you are going through, and I pray for your success. I would advise you take down the pictures before bloggers use the pictures and spread your story. Protect that baby from the evil online...

He was too handsome, intelligent and rich! I felt insecure so I had to run away

SmellySperm:
I know but women gaslight more.

Are you a thermometer

SmellySperm:
They always play the victim na. Gaslight you to feeling guilty and apologizing for nothing. Women are cunny,i'm not capping.

Everything isn't gender specific... these are human traits

SmellySperm:
Relationship nowadays is all about benefits. No one really gives a f**k anymore,the benefits stops,they switch.

Honestly, someone tells the other person that they're stressed out and overwhelmed by life and that person thinks about how this will effect them and they become the victim. No thought about the person who is struggling but straight to "how does this impact ME"