siofra: I understand this is Nigeria where people are crazy about connections. People think that because you're from their village, you're supposed to give them a free pass. They won't go through the normal process, and when you refuse, they start to hate you and spread rumours about you.
It is happening to me at the place I work. It's becoming too much because I won't budge. Sometimes I feel like crying. How do I get around this? Why won't people just do things the right way I've never expected anything from anyone because they are from my village or because I know them.
I feel like I won't be able to stand my ground any longer.
Haven't you heard that the sons of this world seem to be wiser than those of the kingdom. Play the game with them
JOHNFBOSCO: Good day Nairalanders. I Recently got this job, after several attempts of applying both online and offline. My monthly salary is average #75,000 per month, I used the word "Average" because its not static. Sometimes it could lower, as low as 60,000 and hardly surpass 90,000...so it's a commission work.
And we all know commission work is not reliable, you could be fired anytime. So please my question is, with the Nigeria standard of living, couple with the recent economic hardship, so now, the question is how much is ideal to save per month from this Salary.
To and fro from my work place is around 850 per day. We report to office 3 or 4 times in a week sometimes. I noticed that at tmes I even struggled to survive on 60k a month, minus miscellaneous oooo...chai e no easy (p.s. single and I stay alone)
Save an amount equal to your tithe on every paycheck. 10% is really powerful. Just keep saving it and live on the rest
Bvlgari: Is 6months enough or too early for a widow to start dating? Her late husband died in a hotel on top of his sidechick.
Is she supposed to resurrect the dead fellow? Even reading about the circumstances behind the husband's passing, that 6months is an honour. If she's emotionally and mentally ready, go for it.
Godfather898989: I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters
Today wey you suppose to dey ask how to praise,pray and win souls, you're asking about how to woo a lady? Stay there and wait
klimkid: My girlfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now and it's about time we start planning on getting married.
One thing I no for sure is that she loves me and I do love her too. Recently, she told me that her mom went to some churches and they told her it won't work, about 3 pastors. But my girlfriend told her friend to tell her pastor to pray about it.
So he prayed about it and he gave us feedback after 3 days and he said the marriage will work, he said I will give my girlfriend peace, take care of her and make her happy.
There's a woman that prays for me here in Lagos, she said there is nothing wrong with both of us. I also called my Rev. Father and he said that nobody has the right to say the person is for this person or the marriage won't work.
He said marriage is a decision both of us will take and pray about it.
He said hence we love ourselves so much, should leave it for God and continue with our relationship.
Guys, have you experienced this before? What do you think? I am confused.
Of course you'll be confused after eating different dishes and now the combination is upsetting your stomach. I'm not referring to foods here neither talking about you moving with different ladies. I'M TALKING ABOUT YOU DOING CHURCH PROSTITUTION. WHAT IS CHURCH PROSTITUTION? JUMPING FROM ONE CHURCH TO ANOTHER. NOW YOU DON'T KNOW WHO TO LISTEN TO. YOU HAD BETTER LISTEN TO YOUR REVEREND and stop your church PROSTITUTION. Stay one place and be nourished with God's word.
Didijiji: Why do Pentecostal churches speak ill of white garment churches?
I am forced to ask this question with the trending news today where Pastor David Ibiyeomie said he hates white garment churches and how they used “DEMONIC PSALMS” to make enchantments and make someone become a drunkard.
While it is important to respect senior pastors and their grace, it is equally important that the fathers of faith be made to realize they are human and not some form of God or Angel
The society we live in is plagued by many vices with influences across religion, tribe, race, denomination, sex , geolocation and all. Good and bad people exist in churches be it Catholic, Pentecostal, Anglican, white garment etc.
Singling out the white garment brethren always doesn’t speak well of you. It confirms there is a grudge because you were once a strong member. WHO MADE YOU THEIR GOD OR JUDGE?
Funny enough, you worshipped in a white garment church for several years. Your name then was Akanebo Ibiyeomie, Cherubim church in Port harcourt 115 Aggrey road. You remember Prophet Zekala the dada man, Prophet Chukwunda, Prophet Ajaero and other great prophets that mentored you. Your brother Derefoma Akanebo was also a prophet while you did more of the prayers.
More stories are on their way out so that you be guided how you insult a church on whose altar you prayed for years. Can your history be complete without the white garment church story?
Some orthodox and white garment churches were founded as far back as 1900 -1929. When did the Pentecostal churches start? Does it mean our fathers and grand fathers that worshipped in the old white garment and orthodox churches are seated in hell? Is God unjust?
The beauty of the end we all share is we all will stand before the judgement throne of God. And guess what? There won’t be any VIP queue or any of the altar and body guards.
There are good and bad pastors. There are good and bad prophets. There are good and bad bishops. Always treating the white garment churches as if nothing Godly and good exists in their churches is not Christ-like.
All the yahoo boys, hook up girls, abortionists all attend white garment churches right? You will be shocked they are more in the Pentecostal fold!
Most bank frauds that I know about have been perpetrated by even Pentecostal pastors, Ponzi yahoo schemes also, but you won’t hear because all the Pentecostal churches project to the world is the good side of their activities. I also know of a story of an RCCG father, mother and child that steal from the offering box every sunday till they were caught. An RCCG pastor told me this
What if white garment pastors start using these bad occurrences in the Pentecostal churches to preach on television?
All failed prophecies on this election were mostly by Pentecostal pastors New year false prophecies are by them. The list is endless but no one talks.
It is pertinent to state that the founder of the RCCG, Pa Josiah Akindayomi worshipped in Cherubim for several years. So it is safe to say RCCG has white garment foundation. Some of the doctrines still continued. For eg, RCCG has mother in Israel like Cherubim.
Jesus Christ taught us love as stated in Eph 4:15.
The hate and stigma on white garment churches have become too much and MUST STOP forthwith.
Whilst there are bad white garment churches, there are good ones. Whilst there are bad Pentecostal churches, there are good ones.
Serve your God and let them be. Your doctrine is never superior and you are not their god
Stop using them to shine with your audience jeering you on—- RIDE ON PASTOR
You can’t hear other religions talk bad about their various sects but this always happens in Christianity
LET GOD BE THE JUDGE
How much of the bible have you come to know for yourself and study to understand? You know, no matter how long a lie has been in office, it will never become the truth. Know the scriptures for yourself so you'll be able to discern and distinguish truth from deceit
kyber: My morning erection sometimes comes and sometimes doesn’t, and when it comes it is semi hard.
So I have tried to have sex with girls, whenever I’m being excited I get hard, But after putting on a condom and inserting my male organ into the vagina, it’s becomes soft after 2 or 3 thrust.
It takes minutes for me to get hard after some caressing by the lady and when I put it in it goes soft again.
Mind you I do masturbate but I stopped a month ago. Those were the period these things happened. I haven’t had sex since I stopped masturbation for fear of the repetition.
The girls I had left cause I couldn’t satisfy them, the love they had for me vanished after I couldn’t even perform well like their ex, making them miss their exes .
I haven’t tried raw sex yet to confirm if I can sustain my erection when I feel the inner walls of the vagina and it’s sweetness, because some of the articles I have read here on Nairaland talked about my male organ getting used to my left hand (cause that’s what i use) thereby making it loose sensitivity to the point where my male organ becomes insensitive inside the condom.
Is my condition a critical one or one that can be fixed easily by following few steps of instructions?
What can I do to get this fixed and get my male organ back to its full potential?
You might be almost completely finished, cos your challenge is first Spiritual, psychological, and then physical. Seek counsel from your Pastor and amend your ways
Evestar200: Please I need help with a permanent cure for Bad breath (Mouth Odour).
We've tried all English medications on my Younger brother but keeps getting worse with no improvement.
Please anybody with an effective medication should help out.
Firstly your challenge is beyond not knowing what to do but also seeking for help in the wrong places? Are you a trained dentist? So how do you know you've done all that should be done? Kindly get to a dentist in the city where you are with your brother and have him examined so that you'll know the cause of his halitosis first before forcing all kinds of drugs and treatments on him.
Hidewell: Good day, sirs and ma. I moved to Abuja to work as an Administrative assistant at (name withheld) close to Galadinmawa. The agreed pay with my employer was 50,000 which I accepted because I don't want to stay idle and I wanted to garner experience.
The Friend's house I stay is in Kagini. Those that know Abuja will know this place. The transportation cost from the house to my place of work is 1,100 and coming back same, which makes it 2,200 every day excluding Saturdays and Sundays.
After crossing my T's and dotting my i's I found out that The total cost is 2200 x25 days= 55,000 with a 5,000 deficit. The organization provide light breakfast and lunch. So, my food is a bit covered.
I am just confuse now. I talked to the organization for a pay rise but they gave me a stiff neck.
Please what will you advice me to do. I am seriously frustrated with the look of things. Do you think it's worth it.
P.s. I have worked for a month there now. I am scared my friend will complain that I am not contributing.
. I'm drained and frustrated.
Find a way to stay around the place of your work even if it's to squat few nights then weekend go to your place.
adventisty: Dear Nairalanders, The attached picture is my daughter and currently missing.
She was last seen at OYO town in OYO state about one week ago. She is 22 year old.
Please, if you have any information on it, kindly visit the nearest police station or call : 08062205597.
Thank you ALL...
Please, moderator kindly help move this to the front page.
In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ I keep her life in her and declare that she's in the safety of God wherever she is, and that the Spirit of God is making known her location to the relevant authorities and her family members because the Lord knows where she is. I pray that she's returned safely to the custody of her family 👪 in the name of the Lord Jesus, Amen.
JennyJossie: Your advice pls at 29 to 30 some one is ready to marry you and also promise to train you in school, but you are not sure. And one of your relative said he will train you in school, and you are sure about it but on the conditions that you must let go of marriage issues. Which one will you go for
Seek counsel from your Pastor and leaders over you in your church.
Ronaldo723: I find it so extremely difficult to keep friends before you say Jack we have gotten issues don't know what's wrong with me
I can stay in the house for a week without my neighbors knowing I'm around
Please I need help my social lifestyle is dead
Man know thyself. Check your character and make personal assessments. What is your friendship for? When you do this simple things you'll not have issues again
A Nigerian lady has narrated how she got blocked by a guy she tried asking out.
@Pretty_Vikkii who shared the pickup line she used, concluded her tweet by stating that some “Nigerian guys deserve to be single till eternity".
She tweeted;
"Omo, I entered this guy Dm with a mad pickup line like "Guy , are you a school bus. Cause I see my children in you" The werey con block me, some of these Nigerian guys deserve to be single till eternity"
Jennyclay: Biko, men should stop this sick attitude. How can you buy a gift for a lady, then any misunderstanding or break-up between you two, you go back and collect the gift back from her . That's a stupid attitude biko you men should stop it. Even kids don't behave like that.
Henceforth, if any man wants to get me a gift, wether iPhone, hair, car, house etc.. the receipt must contain my name and my signature. so that incase of tomorrow he wants to show his stupid and sick character I will quickly sue him to court for stealing and assault. Because he's forcefully trying to steal what belongs to me. The receipts has stated it all and it would be my evidence.
If the receipts doesn't contain my name, Biko just keep your useless gift to yourself.
Shame on all men that collect back gifts he already given to a lady. Shame!!! Shame!!! Shame!!!
Instead of this unnecessary article, go work, make your own money and gift yourself. 🎁 If he wants his gift back because you're undeserving of the gift, he has full right to get it back.
Yes I am the one in the viral video Selling Okrika (Second Clothes) in the Market, so Because I am an actor, then I am not supposed to work again and have a business? I want to advise youths to go out and work, Do your business Legit, don’t send anybody, there is dignity in Labour, There are lots of Nigerian youths busy Staying at home doing nothing, coming on social media begging for money, please go outside and work” - Veteran Nollywood Actor Sylvester Madu aka Shina Rambo says as he finally Addresses viral video of himself selling Okrika in Enugu Market.
This man is born again and full of the Spirit of God.
descarado: Are you afraid of death? Why will he apologise? Cos he is the father. We keep on allowing parents box us into corners and see that as acceptable. It is not. Parents ought to know their limit. Heck, my parents never boxed me into corners neither will I do that to my kids. He came late and apologised. This man will push him into the hands of what he was afraid of. He the father should apologise. Oh, we live in a country where parents never apologise. Mine always apologise cos nobody is above mistake. I apologise to my kids.
In fact, I don't hesitate to apologise for the littlest thing. That is how it should be. Parents act like mini God in Nigeria. So entitled.
Long had the scriptures spoken about those who would be disobedient to parents and all. I really wish what I just read is a joke though
DamianDd: My dad is a really good guy, I love him so much and he's gentle most times. Though he gets angry sometimes but he's reasonable about everything he does.
I came home 11:30 which is very late and I knew that and I even hated it too that I came home this late so I was trying to avoid him even when he asked to come to his room because I had a gut feeling that things won't gi right.
But I ended up going to get my charger that was with him, then for the first 5 minutes in he was making sense about why I came home late and I was agreeing to it that it's true
Then all of a sudden he starts saying "what will people think?" "Neighbors are watching" "they'll start saying god forbid, like father like son" "I nor fit let my pikin be like this boy" "which kind family be this, see when their son dey come house?" "People are watching, people are judging" and even more words and it started getting annoying to me, then he said they will say "see when this small pikin dey come house"
It was at that moment that I shut it down, I've never been that way to him but it was so infuriating, I told him I'm not a child I'm 18 which is legal age, I work for my money, I make 50k to 300k a month on my own; no neighbors give me food when I'm hungry, the landlord doesn't clean my eyes when they hurt from viewing my phone too much so I don't give a Bleep what they think of me. I told him to not put all those orientations in my head because it affected me alot when I was younger and it made me timid and shy and scared of being myself or having different opinions and that's what I'm trying to fix in myself and my mindset now.
What I do feel bad about is last year I paid for the house rent and packing when I had alot of money, I brought it up when I was talking to him and said "I paid for this house with my own money so who is landlord or the neighbors for me to be sacred to come in and out of my own home, I know what I did is wrong and I'm sorry but don't put those bad thoughts in my head" I shouldn't have said that though by bringing up what I did for family. He only called me back and said "don't worry I won't talk to you anymore until I use my own money to pay for the house next time" I didn't say anything because i know I was wrong and nothing good would come out of talking back, I just left his room.
What's your thoughts on the matter?
Young man make you sha no die young ooh... Regardless of what he said or what happened you were in no right to talk to your father that way. Honour your father and mother that your days maybe long. This was gross dishonour and disrespect. Yes, most of what he said and how he said it was wrong but two wrongs does not make a right. What you said in itself isn't actually wrong but you said it with the wrong attitude and the wrong way so it makes it all wrong. Firstly, apologise to your dad for your outburst and promise never to try it a again. Secondly,with all diligence and humility explain to your dad that the opinions of the neighbours don't count in your lives and ensure you don't say it in such a way like you are trying to teach him. Let it be suggestive.
Micheal56: I over heard my neighbor friend telling him he stopped his child from studying computer because of the high rate of fraud Please what have the man done to the boy destiny? There have been a change of destiny because u do not know how serious the boy is to be a programmer Please parent do not make decision for your children it usually lead to hate in the future
Ignorance on the part of the guardian. Jumping into conclusions because of some untoward occurrences, even studying medicine and Surgery is dangerous. Those that fellow know how many have died from studying medicine and Surgery?
Please I need suggestions/solutions as regards my current predicament. Some time ago, I went to cut my hair at this barber's shop but after some days I noticed a small boil at the back of my head and I used my fingernail to bust it, with time I noticed another one again. Honestly, this beginning to wear me out, if you have suggestions or solutions to it. I will appreciate it. I don't know if it's just boils or keloid scars.
Because of this, I had to buy my clipper.
When challenges are small like this, go to the appropriate authorities. Nairaland no be hospital
boborosky: Firstly, I am a guy who is goal driven. I work my ass off to ensure that I earn a living and this has left me with hating anyone who is lazy. I met my fiance about a year ago. We don't reside in the same town but we talk everyday. When we started dating, she had told me she was done with schooling but she had a few issues which have prevented her from graduating. According to her, she finished in 2019 but has not been cleared because of those issues.
In the first few months that we started dating, I asked her why she was idle since the school was yet to clear her. I further advised that she should start something rather than stay at home. She told me then that she would like to produce and sell a particular commodity. I asked her what it required for her to start. She told me and I provided those things and travelled all the way to see her and hand those items over to her. Few weeks after that, I asked how the business was doing - she went from one story to the other. I was pissed because I thought she could have put all those excuses into consideration before letting me go through the stress of providing those items - It is not about the money for it wasn't much, but her lukewarm interest in pursing goals. Truth is that she never started the trade.
I let that slide and we moved on... Each day I noticed she doesn't have the desire to pursue goals. I mean, how could she have stayed over 3years at home without learning any skill or being purposeful. When it was clear that she wasn't being purposeful, I told her crystal clear that I would not want to be with anyone who lacks purpose or isn't resourceful. In response, she told me that she would work harder and do something. But as each day passed, it was the same old story. Right now, she teaches at a school - this was after a lot of pushing, and forcing and begging and all of that. Even, of the teaching, she complains that it is stressful.
She visited my family house twice. The first time she visited, I had to literally tell her to help in the sweeping of the house the morning following the night she arrived, which she did - I mean, I expected her to know (without being told) that that was expected of her as a first-time visitor in the frame of a prospective wife/in-law. Even as a man, you don't stay inside the room when you visit a family especially when they are doing chores - that was how I was raised. Maybe it isn't a general expectation, but that was how I was raised (Don't crucify me).
As it stands now, she isn't cleared yet and each time I tell her to go to the school, she would either reply reluctantly or get upset. Moreso, she doesn't have a skill. The truth is that, though she is nice, a virgin apparently, she may end up depending on me 100%. Given the way Nigeria is, one needs a partner who can support one. Also, coupled with the fact that though she loves me 100%, she is not very exposed (a bit timid), and lacks the desire to be independent, hardworking or achieve her own goals.
We had discussed marriage, though I have not proposed yet. Conversely, right now, I am having a rethink which has caused me to be a bit withdrawn and retrogressive. I do not want a spouse who would drag me backwards, I have suffered a lot to get to where God placed me - I don't want a setback given that my family partly depends on me. From all indications, I don't know whether she will be able to handle and account for a business if one is established for her.
Even though the decision to either proceed with or withdraw from marriage is solely mine, I'd like a piece of advice.
For matured folks.... What do you think?
Go and discourse with her not to bring the matter here.
Kobojunkie: The point remains that you should not compare yourself in any way or form to the righteous folks written about in scripture. Do as Jesus Christ commands — seek first the Kingdom of God(Holiness), and then God's righteousness, and as He said. Only then with you be reasonably able to compare yourselves in real light with the likes of the righteous men of old. Otherwise, whatever attempts you make to assert you are like or better than they are will remain irrational
The more you want to sound erudite with all that you're saying, the more you expose your ignorance on the subject matter. Seeing how head strong you are in this path of incomplete knowledge and your unwillingness to be taught I decided to just leave you alone.
ogbiwa: A security guard killed this venomous viper in a bush around an area I visited, and held it by the neck while the snake was still moving and with the head still intact, to look for buyers. When I screamed at him he claimed it was a non venomous python and that someone was coming to buy it for 7k and the person needed the snake whole with the head still intact (likely for diabolical use). When I told him that a scratch from this snake's fangs would kill him if not treated quickly, he dropped the snake before I snapped it. The snake was even still moving on the floor! The risks people take.
family6644: It started when I lost someone dear to me, I almost ran mad, they had to call a local nurse who administered an injection to me, the thing off me, when I woke up it started again, I was given another dose, it got me so high that I don't know anything again until I slept off again.
This is how I started requesting for it, I started taking it to get over the trauma, the lady noticed I was getting addicted she refused giving me saying it's dangerous, I had to call my pharmacist friend to get regular supplies, though he didn't stop warning me but I'm already addicted taking it every 4hours, trying to stop when I started seeing the damages but I couldn't.
The fatigue that will follow is unbearable, I will end up taking it to feel okay again. I attached a picture of my hands with the damage.
I need help, I want out so that I can live my normal life but I don't know how, has anyone been there before? How did you get over it? I don't want to die from this. Please help me
I just joined 2 friends to squat with them pending when I will get employed and get my own place. When I joined them, both of them complained of having body itching but I ignored since I'm using an antiseptic soap. and not long after, I started having this itching especially in my pubic area and my sacs itch more.
Even though it itches, it kind of feels good while scratching (sweeting me) and I have been managing like that for almost 2 months now. But I woke up this morning to see below on my dick. I've not had sex since March this year so I'm very sure i didn't get this through sex. What can I do please?
Mod please help push to FP
Nairaland no be hospital. You like no carry yourself go hospital
Kobojunkie: 1. It isn't up to you but as stated by God, the one whose Kingdom you pretend you are a part of.
2. What you said here does not make any sense at all. You mentioned how you are to be compared to David, an Old Testament Jew, yet you now wish to disavow the seeking of the Kingdom as teachings to Old Testament Jews. You, folks, don't even realize how distorted you come off in the way you reason your claims.
3. And what levels would that be? Gibberish?
Thank 😊 🙏 😊 you, how 🤔 do you feel about yourself?
Kobojunkie: 1. I am afraid I don't follow at all. Jesus Christ did not come so you might become like David or be able to compare yourself to David, if that is what you are asking. And He certainly did not come so you might become followers of David either.
2. You are the righteousness of God, yet Jesus Christ still went ahead to urge you to seek first the Kingdom of God(Holiness) and then God's righteousness, in order that all these things — the blessings and rewards of the Kingdom of God — shall be added onto you? Have you been reading that book upside down or what?
You have the life of God? So also do demons and demons that are equally eternal spirits.... so what is your point exactly?
Maybe you share same life with demons but I don't, whatever you thought you said about seeking the kingdom was a teaching unto old testament Jews. Just don't bother as we're talking from different levels of what appears to be the same side.
fadilaMaikiriki: I love this combo below so so much. It is my cocaine. I love it so much. If three days go by without taking this I won't feel alright. I can cross seven rivers and seven seas to go get this. That's how bad I love it.
Who takes this combo too? Who has tried it before?
This is; Tiger nuts (aya), Dates ( dabino), Coconuts (kwakwa).
Greetings to you all. I am the OP of this thread. Please be kind with me on the names calling. I see a lot of comments targeted and raining abuses on me on how I am a weakling and all, it's unfair at this point in my life. Provide a solution to me instead of raining more abuses on me. It's not as though I enjoyed working in such condition but circumstances caught me trapped. Punching the man back, i dont know if that would have been proper enough.
An appeal Please if you are willing to help me with a job which I really need it at this point in my life, or with any financial assistance, these are my details.
208 1520 745, UBA, Stephen E. O. Phone: 081037 10173
I live in Yenagoa, Bayelsa state and I am willing to relocate to any part of the country provided the job offer is reasonable.
Man up and take that man to the police and charge him to court
Kobojunkie: David was a righteous man --- God described David as a man after His own heart for this reason--‐ and so it is in error that you compare yourselves with David. Besides David was first righteous, God cared and loved David. Even when David sinned, God forgave him and did not kill him for his sins because David was first a righteous man. God's love towards David was because David was first a righteous man. Surely, you realize that God does not give the same attention and care to the unrighteous since God said that His love belongs only to those who obey His teachings and commandments.
Wow,I am truly short of words in expressing my utter shock 😲 and surprise at this your though intelligently put together comment but lacks proper and accurate knowledge of the word. It will be a fallacy and demeaning to put us I.e the present day Christian to King David. Do you know who the new creation is? Do you know who the Lord Jesus is? Do you know why He came and if He achieved His purpose for coming? I'd advice you do a thorough study of the new testament. Are you aware that we're the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus now? Are you aware we have the life of God something that King David never had ?
Career › Re: How Do I Deal With Nepotism In My Workplace? by DrDunamis(m): 8:57pm On Jun 26, 2023
I've never expected anything from anyone because they are from my village or because I know them. 
. That's a stupid attitude biko you men should stop it. Even kids don't behave like that.