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DeJoeee:
My gf just developed this recent habit of going to the kitchen with only her panties and shower cap leaving her breast bare.

Sometimes she will wear my polo(which is long on her cos I'm much taller) with no panties
This is a girl who is naked shy as recent as december last year.

I'm not supposed to suspect her cos she's from a very responsible home and possibly my wife to be but the experience of others have thought me to suspect any new move of the other gender no matter how innocent.

Do I need to worry about this?

Please mods help push to front page for more mature advise . This issue is of big concern to me

She's become vulnerable with you.

EmekaStanley:
A lot of the things people do, they learnt from others.

You will see children with very responsible parents at home grow to become opposite of what their parents stood for. Something went wrong somewhere.

And most likely, the children spent time with the wrong people whenever they are not in the presence of their parents.

If you are doing a wonderful job at home as a parent, you must ensure that you know the kind of people your child associates with when he or she is not at home.

This is because they can become evil if they spend a lot of time with evil people in the streets, school or anywhere, when you are not there.

Firstly your child may abhor them, but if they keep coming at him, they may get him unless you are very aware of a danger such as this.

Then you can keep reminding that child why he or she should remain steadfast in being what you have inculcated in them. Then protect your child with every legal means.

David wasn’t oblivious of this, so he advised his son Solomon thus;

“Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil men. Avoid it; do not go on it; turn away from it and pass on”. Proverbs 4 vs 14-15 RSV.

When a person keeps passing the route of the wicked, at a point he might begin to think it’s normal and start walking in that same path. The best thing is to avoid it.

Encourage your children to speak out and give you details of how they spent their days. I am sure you will find out if they are mixing together with the wrong people.

Then you can nip them in the bud.

ES

Accurately penned, but sometimes it's on the child too. Choices choices choices.

headbasher96:
She was the commissioner of cheerful givers almost all the street guys know all the colour of panties she used

What in the world

LeeSmart:
We are here to share our experience on our past (last) relationship.
Who was at fault or who brought about the abrute end of the r/ship... I knw that majority of the persons who are going to comment would surely fault their ex-partner (as per say na u holy pass).

As for me, i wasn't comfortable with her being around me. I suddenly realised she's way older than i am, she was 37yrs nd i was barely 26 at that time, so i called it a quite

So let's hear from you guys.

PS. Too much cruise is not allowed.

37 26 this story no clear at all.

uuzba:
Simple correct answer.

Enough of all this "White man is sacred" mentality.
We should always stand for ourselves.

Exactly

snthesis:
Got a shocker recently, my wife suddenly says i am not romantic after 10years of marriage and having 3 children... should i be worried
we got married young and she now in her early 30s

p.s
she now wants to get a tattoo, piercing. waistbeads and wear leg chain

You cannot be finished, but pray for your home.

Keziehenry:
Please share your experience.

It takes truly and really trying to do the wrong thing for you to achieve this feat of sending money to wrong account.

ozile1234:
Hello guys I have read some articles here many times that wen you beg a girl to date you she will never agree because she sees you as a simp, I over heard my neighbor this morning begging someone so I looked through the window to see what was happening, I saw this guy on his Knees begging this girl for relationship though she also stay in thesame compound, this guy begged for more than 30 minutes I was watching what would happen, as my apartment is very close to his own so I could hear everything he was saying.

She said she doesn’t have feeling for him but they should just be friends, After so much begging she later told the guy that they should talk about it this evening wen she get back from work, NOTE: this girl is in a relationship already with another guy.

This evening maybe this my simp neighbor will be able to prove all the alpha males here wrong wen she finally agree, I will keep this post updated wen the relationship finally kick start.

Hmmm

ololadeadebola:
Popular afrobeat star Davido has visited the residence of millionaire and business magnate Tony Elumelu in preparation for his upcoming album, “Timeless”.

In viral footage, the father of three can be seen in high spirits at the billionaire’s estate. Davido was beaming as he posed for photographs with the millionaire and his daughter.



https://www.instagram.com/p/CqYcQlGLQET/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Did you say millionaire?
I thought he was a billionaire

[quote author=Rubyjade post=122166205][/quote]And what if they were actually doing it wrong?

mariahAngel:
We all know how food can be somehow strange, right?
What you might consider delicious as a local, might taste weird to a foreigner.
So, assuming you had a visitor from a foreign country, what Nigerian food(s) would you confidently offer, that you're sure he/she would enjoy?

For me, without wasting time, I'd start with delicious Boli and fish first and foremost, to get the taste buds rolling.
Something sweet never fails.
Then, delicious native rice won't be bad.
After that, a couple of other delicious dishes.

What Nigerian food would you offer a foreigner?

Pics by: Mariah_Angel

Every Nigerian food is dope

[quote author=Rubyjade post=122094471][/quote]There's nothing wrong with what the candidate did seeing that he wasn't rude nor disrespectful to you in anyway. Na the African mentality go make anybody think say dis guy do bad thing

Adexgentle005:
Nothing like experience. I’m just taming the young ones to know that marriage is not sort of an achievement but a big responsibility!

Okay Sir, thank you so kindly.
I understand your point now which is clearly not for me as I've never thought of being married as an achievement.

obembet:
Many women have become a single mother today due to mistakes they were force to make by Thier partner.

It's very easy for a man to move one and remarry whenever he desires while many single mothers out there looking for who they will spend the rest of Thier lives with.

So, Should a man be force to marry a lady he impregnated by mistake?

Source: https://www.instagram.com/p/CqPlm_Yuau7/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY=

This question is very foolish to me if you ask.
I want to find out something first, where, when and what was the mistake?
Him offing his trousers, him not using a condom, him not buying her after pill?
It's about less than 1% of pregnancies that were not avoidable but the rest could be avoided.
Then again I wouldn't say force them to marry but he must be forced to take absolute responsibility for the time the lady is pregnant and responsibility of the baby as soon as the baby is born.

Ehinjuola:
My name is Dimeji (not real name tho), I'm in my final lap in one of the prestigious uni in Nigeria.

It happens my fiancee and I have been dating for long now, recently she discovered that she missed her period (though I'm not happy with it and at the same time I don't want ab*rtion) and couple the fact that I really love this lady and I want future with her.

I want to quickly do her introduction before the bump is visible n I have taken a bold step by taken my parents to hers for unofficial intro before the real intro which has been set for next two months.

But recently I do observe that she do post on her status about praying not to choose wrongly in term of relationship, (she has once asked me whether I don't feel we are rushing things in one of our conversation one time like that) plus the fact that whenever I called her recently the vibe is not there any longer, this is the person we are both serious with the relationship oo Infact she's the one that's pushing thing initially.

My question now is that, Is it anxiousness or marriage phobia or early pregnancy symptoms or she's just confuse or the feeling of not been ready that's worrying her? (She will be 26 next month)

Multiple scenarios playing in my mind right now.
You could be right that she's having phobia for marriage.
Or
She could be unfaithful.
Or
She doesn't buy the idea of being marriage to you anymore
Or
She's learnt something from someone or somewhere.
E.t.c

Eazzii:
Okay. I've this burden on my chest for over a year now and they say a problem shared is a problem half solved (or multiplied)

So, I've this friend who lives with a woman and her little son. He and the lady are of the same age group. The husband, who is in the US is fully aware of this situation. Note: they stay in the same room and even sleep on the same bed. Also this guy's family house is just a stone's throw from the lady's house but he hardly ever visits there and hasn't passed a night there in over 4 years. If you're new to the area, you'll be forgiven if you address them as man and wife.


My main purpose of creating this thread is not to pass judgement on anybody but to seek your opinions. As a married man, will you be comfortable with your unmarried friend staying with your wife while you're overseas. As an unmarried guy, will you be comfortable living with your friend's wife.

Lao, masculinists and feminists, kindly keep off.



PS: They are both active members of their church.

Nothing is impossible but I'd rather give no room to the tempter to glory

Adexgentle005:
That’s just the fact! When I was a bachelor, I know how much I spend and save every month. Fast forward to when I got married, it’s all about bills, bills and bills.

I just checked my OPay transaction history and I couldn’t believe how much I’ve spent in just two months.

This thing called marriage is just responsibility and nothing more. If you are not financially stable or you have other side hustle that bring extra money,please don’t get married.

My 2 cents!

The Lord is your strength, but it seems like its an experience specially tailored to you as you may have lept into marriage without counting the cost and proper planning

Ehinjuola:
Hello NLders.....

I have this issue I'm dealing with which seems to be taking ages now.

There are these stubborn black spots in my face which refuse to go after using different antibacterial creams yet the spots are still much visible, will have to wait till dark before I go out.

Help! , its really killing me slowly as well as demoralized me. Even my confidence is no more there as I typed this.

In between I'm oily skin person.

Sorry for your condition.
Kindly visit the hospital closest to you and ask to meet with a dermatologist.

7upnigeria:
You'll not kill someone O, end time Pastor. That's how you people turn the Bible upside down just to suit your interest. Rod of correction is tongue?

I was going to respond in the light of the wrong energy in this your not so kind statement but I refuse to give vent to satan nor his ideas and words to be expressed through me.
Life is easy, it's very infantile to just assert that anything you don't know about or just hearing for the first time is wrong. You keep responding like this and you'd end up being absolutely ignorant of things you could have learnt easily from others.

imagrg:
This beautiful young lady asked me in confidence how she could treat her smelling private.

She stressed that she washes her private well when taking her bath yet it stinks to Aso Rock.

What's the solution to this embarrassment?

Firstly, it's not by coming online to check for solutions. There are several clinics and hospitals she could go to for check up.
There are professionals for these kinds of issues for a reason.
Them no dey tell person wey hungry dey catch to chop food

Mummytoo:
Good morning nlanders

Happy Sunday to u all

I'm eager to know if its wrong to confront a pastor, because all my life I hate going pastors for anything, something happened on Monday, I didn't know who else to talk to ....so I went to the alter to pray and met with my pastor, I explained what happened between my husband and I and he settled the matter sweetly . I was so happy to have peace and joy back in my marriage till yesterday (Saturday) pastor called me out of that plenty congregation and told d church everything including what my husband has been hiding for years, he even added more things that didn't even happen to the story😂. I was just quiet and respectful since I wasn't expecting him to behave like that.

He prayed for me and I just left, he started getting angry that I can't even praise for my healing me or dancing round, I was just shocked at everything happening I left to the backyard and later went in again.

Immediately I got home I told my husband how he's image has been tarnished in church for what he didn't do, we had a misunderstanding and pastor said he flogged me (that didn't happen)

Is it wrong to confront him....
Coz I will act like I'm going to testify and correct that wrong impression he said about my husband

Just one time experience with pastor is killing me like this

When you come here with matters like this just know that you're being setup by satan for massive destruction. No matter how right you think you are, shun such ungodly and ill thoughts from your mind. If the misunderstanding you had with your husband after your angrily left isn't enough signal for you to watch yourself, I don't know what else is for you oh.

EmekaStanley:
I have seen numerous debates about whether disciplining a child by spanking him or her is right.

Some parents are for it, while some are against it. Only parents can finally decide whether to spank their kids or not.

But it must be known that whichever way you choose to train your child will definitely reflect on how your child treats you tomorrow.

The honor you get from you child as a parent will be as a result of how best you were able to inculcate good precepts and concepts in that child.

Here is what the Bible says about spanking a child;

" Children just naturally do silly, careless things, but a good spanking will teach them how to behave." Proverbs 22: 15 GNT

Another translation puts it this way;

"A youngster’s heart is filled with foolishness, but physical discipline will drive it far away". Proverbs 22:15 NLT

Yet another interesting translation puts it;

"Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; the rod of discipline [correction administered with godly wisdom and lovingkindness] will remove it far from him". Proverbs 22:15 AMP

It is important that you start disciplining your child when he or she is still little.

Don't copy deluded cultures that enthrone children who bully their parents, all in the name of legal protection or human rights.

The rot in the society is directly linked to collapse in family values.

However you choose to train your kids lies in your hands but if you want the truth, this is it; spanking kids is a good way to make them behave.

ES

Lovely piece you've written here, even though a good spanking is needed from time to time as the Spirit leads, most persons really don't under what the scriptures mean by "rod of correction". Its not actually a physical rod with which to beat or whip, it's actually the tongue. You'd be amazed that they know and understand fully well what you're communicating to them regardless of their age.
But that doesn't mean you shouldn't trash them good when they over do

EriMma1:
I still have mine.

Was perusing through my file yesterday and saw these. Nice memory.
Dad did a great job of keeping these for years before handing it over to us when we became adults.

Let's see how many still have theirs.
.

So we should clap 👏 for you for keeping your documents safe and secure like any sane individual should do?
Okay ooh, don't keep your documents well. You could give them to aboki to wrap suya with.

benjackugo:
Nollywood actor, Artus Frank has cautioned Nigerians who are of age-shaming his wife, IGBERETV reports.

In a post shared on his Instagram page, the Liberian actor wrote;


https://www.instagram.com/p/CqD9MVaNMeZ/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

They look so lovely

OmidheBlessing:
HR, employers and hiring teams, please tell, which is a more productive worker? A male or female ?

If you have two equally qualified job applicants, a female, and a male, which would you go for?/what are the pros and the.cons of hiring either of them


Please this is no bashing thread. A hiring firm is trying to make decisions and our responses here will help .

Why not decide from your own experience with the both candidates?
Give them the position and test their productivity in 1or 2 months.

ify2016:
Giant bush meat killed by my friend on his farm few minutes ago.

Nigeria is truly blessed with good protein.

Really gonna miss the pepper soup.

African civet a.k.a Bush dog

Dearlove2me:
The truth is right now, I feel like going somewhere for a while. I feel like I need rest. Somewhere I can forget about all my problems and breathe a fresh air.
My husband has not been honest with me since the beginning of this marriage and I doubt if this is an attitude of a man that loves

He has always been in debt even before I married him. and he wouldn't let me know what he do with the money he keeps borrowing from people. Even my friends I introduced to him, he is owning them and can't pay back.

The bad side is, he borrows and stop picking their calls not respond nicely to them.
He behalves badly to them.
I'm suspecting he's into some kind of addiction that demands money. Maybe gambling but he wouldn't tell me.
He's constantly on his phone.

He is owning loan app everywhere. To the extent that the app had to send hurrible messages to his contact's lists including his bosses, office colleagues and my relatives.
It's so embarrassing and tiring.
He has apologized several times that I should give him time to work on himself to stop an addiction, but he refused to explain what it is. Claiming that I might leave him if I know.
But he has not changed abit.
We are always hungry in this house. No baby food for my 6months old baby, no pampers and everything is total struggle. I quit my job last year but I'll soon start job search once my baby grow a little.
In this house, If I don't look for food, then, we starve, I don't look for means of getting pampers, food, wears,then my baby will suffer, because his daddy is not capable of providing anything for us. It's so annoying.

I have dreams before I married him, but right now, I feel lost. There's no romance, no love, no affection in this marriage anymore, as I wouldn't even let him touch me because of the stress, suffer he constantly brings on us.

Money I raised to start up a business, (340k) I ended up using it to pay for his debt last two months because the people were always coming to embarrass us in the house and neighbors were coming to pleade on our behalf. I had to clear up the loan, yet he couldn't explain what he did with the money.
With that start up capital, I would have been growing by now, but here I am. Still at the zero point.

I'm really tired
I'm so confused here.
What should I do?
What would you advise?

What about your husband's family and relatives?
Isn't there someone with authority in his life that could caution him or sit him down and speak with him?
When he's asleep open his phone and find out what he's hiding.

manchyme:
1. The fact check
No matter how confused you're about a rumour, the fact check I see here will clear all doubts

2. The front page
Any news I see on front-page here is 99.9% correct. Sometimes guys will say nairaland reports news late, it's not true and even if it's true, I think it's better late and authentic than otherwise.

3. People's experience
Just share your problem here, you must see someone with exactly same experience.

Interacting with complete strangers in the comment section is just dope

IyaebeTheGreat:
Mine goes thus: I can never forgive a husband for having illegitimate kid/kids outside our matrimonial home, taking a second wife and going physical on me(even if I hit him which I won’t ever do, he should choose the option of silent treatment and not hit me back) . These three things are what I can’t ever forgive a husband for and I would hold him in my heart for the rest of my life. Share yours

You deserve to be arrested and sent to sambisa forest for that selfish and foolish line. If you could raise your hand to hit a man then you deserve whatever comes after whether Good or evil.

MaDaRa01:
My conscience is judging me.

A woman that i sometimes patronize left a kid to watch her shop. I wanted to buy rice. I ask him for the price because the price do flunctuate, which he said it is 100, no 50, no 20 naira. I shock, then the devil enter me and i said whether e no go sell 10. I told him to sell me 5cup of rice, after he measured and tied it, i gave him 100 and told him to take the remaining 50 and not to tell the woman so that she will not collect his 50 tip.

Kid was happy, i was happy, trader lose.

Now this evening, rice no let me eat, i am just thinking of going back to do restitution.

How do i go about it without the trader getting angry?

Go straight and confess your dealings

Odewaleadesoye:
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Portable mp3 and walkman

Femmyfamous4u:
Dear Friends, i would like to know if it is normal or I am being paranoid. while we were dating i noticed that my now wife does not really like sex as we hardly do the act.

She was good in other areas so, I felt with time things will sort itself out.

After the marriage, I made it known to her clearly that I will want to have the sex as much as i desire but i must say for about three months now, we have only had it about ten times. I do not want to cheat on her but my needs are not met and I have told her this times and times again with no change.

Now, she is pregnant and it is worse. What do I do my people?

Talk to her mum