₦airaland Forum

Chiraq77:
Look here Mr Man,You Must File a Report at the Police Station,No girl who was violated like that wouldn't want to file a case, except she gave consent.if she prevents you from filing a case she wasn't raped.

She Let that Nigga Blow her Back out!

You are very ignorant, most rape victims never report because the Nigerian police are useless misogynists who end up blaming, jeering and frustrating the victim.

lexy2014:
Exactly. You used the right word "false prophet". They always want to show that they and God eat breakfast, lunch and dinner together. "I hear from God", "God told me" all those kind of stuff. It wows people especially women but it's all fake

Don't even get me started on the 'miracles'

lexy2014:
But they don't present themselves as men. Many of them present themselves as more than men so as to hoodwink their followers

True.

He who is on the ground has no fear of falling, but all these false prophets ehn. By their fruits we shwall know them

lexy2014:
But they don't present themselves as men. Many of them present themselves as more than men so as to hoodwink their followers

True.

He who is on the ground has no fear of falling, but all these false prophets ehn. By their fruits we shall know them

sonofElElyon:
Don't be quick to judge.. maybe he doesn't have financial discipline and the only way he can stop himself from profligacy is to hand it over to his wife who may act as a check and accountability partner

but he should see his alert at least and also monitor where the money goes

Lordmech:
One of my colleague at work came begging for cash and I ask him. What happen to your ATM or salary and he reviewed that the wife is the one who sees alert and holds the card.. I was shocked.
My pipo is this love or stupidity?

is he in the military?

A pastor is first of all a man before he is a man of God.

He was tall, skinny, fair, straightforward, confident and bald.My type!!

Fireboy02:
they said its spiritual attack

nothing is spiritual about it.

This is the cost of their ignorance.

They took her to an unqualified person and place to give birth to their child (I'm sure it's their first) . The parents are responsible for this, not anybody in the village.

Fireboy02:
at d maternity,

that's almost the same thing as a TBA....

SO SAD

DBestDoc:
Uhmm, I’m yet to understand the rationale behind keeping and nurturing a pregnancy for 9 months and thereafter, endangering the lives of both Baby and Mother at a Traditional Birth Center. Lots of the TBAs will package you to the Hospital or your home after causing serious damages. I’ve seen so many of such scenarios play out, some are extremely heart breaking. In extreme cases, the women lose their lives from serious bleeding.

My guess is the pregnancy was not properly monitored, labour became prolonged and they finally managed to birth a seriously stressed and asphyxiated baby. Child ended up with Hypoxic Ischemic Encephalopathy secondary to Birth Asphyxia. Local Midwife carry Asphyxiated baby give una to take home.

Any Trained Birth Attendant knows that not crying at birth and hours after birth means brain injury should be ruled out fast ‘cause child may needs resuscitation and care asap.

Next time, they should try and give birth at a proper hospital and hope things turn out well. No cutting of corners when lives are involved.

Sorry for your Loss.

Yes, the parents have a role to play in this. Many children have died because of ignorant parents and relatives

Fireboy02:
I heard d baby developed convulsion but its under control now and receiving treatment(drip)

Birth asphyxia!!

Fireboy02:
My brothers wife gave birth yesterday but since then d baby have not cried.
Is it normal or we should go check if there's something spiritual �

Did she give birth at home , in a Traditional birth attendant or in the hospital?

Is the baby active?

Porridge beans with corn inside is the one of the most fulfilling meals in my opinion. It like a married man, faithful to his wife, no side chicks (plaintain,garri) upandan

JEWELofHELL666:
This is an unpopular opinion, but it's the truth. Chinelo caused her own death.

As a medical doctor, she should know better that a gunshot wound is a medical emergency that requires basic first aid applications like stopping the bleeding, using hand, cloth, etc.

But what did she do? She decided to chase clout by opening her Twitter application and going through the stress of typing "I'm in the train. I have been shot, please pray for me."

This is a bad first aid practice. It changed a lot. The hand she should have used to stop the bleeding was used to call for prayers on Twitter. To her, her followers' superstitious prayers are more effective than first aid.

May her soul rest in peace.

you are a very stupid person

Amb1045:
Ok...so I'm a single mother and the father of my baby is dead but b4 the incident....I met this sweet guy when I was like 2 to 3 months pregnant..we were so much in love..because I was already separated from my baby daddy even b4 I knew I was pregnant...and everything was going well...I didn't even know I was pregnant because I was still seeing my period but as a woman I had my instincts. So after all the confirmations...I told my current boyfriend that I was pregnant and he accepted me and everything. So he promised to marry me so we can build a family together, we were cohabiting because I was having accommodation problem and cuz I love him too 100much....everything was OK and I'm the kind of person that trust with all my heart. I swear to God, don't play with my Trust(it destroys me)...and everytime I remind him of this cuz I'm so fragile...he swore everytime that he was clean with me. So one day he came home from work and was unsettled, I asked him what'sup..he said everything was OK...so he was sitting on a Sofa and behind him was a mirror reflecting towards me...then I saw him viewing a girls nude pictures via WhatsApp and writing a reply to it...I asked him what he was doing he said "nothing just checking my acct balance " I was like "wtf" I know waht I saw(in my mind) I was like is he really serious or what. I had to wait for him to sleep...I didn't plan to sleep that night, I was so curious to see why he lied to me. I have never checked his phone before or even thought about it...but with what he did, I had to see for myself because his phone lock opens with finger print. My dear, that was when I opened the Cans of worm. That was where I saw he actually has a fiancee in the village( if u see the kind of chatting this two chat hmmm I was no where close to his heart like that) and a current gf at our work place because he got me a job at the same company he works at and our relationship was secret because of the environment..and I know this current gf of his apart from his village fiancee) she's actually our client, a single mother too...but she's way ahead of me with age and everything....I was shocked. I confronted him..he said "it's not what you think...just playing around with her" then I stopped working there...so fast forward to why I'm writing this...this guy really sacrificed alot for me that I can't mention...he's the best dad for my kid but since he broke my Trust, everything went sour...I just can't put it behind me....we broke up, so he moved on and impregnated the older daughter of the owner of the company, maybe even married her (I don't know anymore because the lady is or was a born again Christian, I don't think she will just accept to be a baby mama for him + she's older too, or maybe she doesn't care since age was against her. I mean her mom must have told her I was together with the guy cuz when I stopped working there, our relationship came to light and nobody could believe it because of how well we kept it a secret)...I knew b4 hand that they had a chemistry, even the way he talks about her(red flag but he reassured me that nothing like that b/w them, just close friends), I just knew there was something even b4 I came into the picture. Now they have a son together...which I'm so happy for him since it didn't work out between us. But the problem is...it's like we're so obsessed with each other. He doesn't want to let go...he said I'm the first girl he has actually truly fallen in love with ever...and the thing not working is really from the whole Trust issues..but I really love him too and can't seem to let go...but I already know I don't have future with him...but to let go now is problem. I blocked him everywhere, changed my number but still...he locates me no matter where I go or change my number...now he wants to fight me in court for the baby(not his biological child but in the country we live, he has Right to claim nomatther the DNA) ...and in my heart I really love this man...but I already know we can't be together even if he gives everything up for me and the lady in question can't say anything about it...but to leave or make him leave me is really a big problem for us. We have had countless heart2heart talk together to see the way forward but end up being stuck with each other....i can't seem to move on no matter how I try, him too...blv me, he is also trying. This LOVE...makes me play Wurld Sarz 'Trobul' over and over again..cuz that's really the feelings...I don't know if it's pity because of what he has been through for me that always draws me bck or something else. But best blv, I really broke this guy's heart..I know and regret it. But he emotionally abuse and guilty trap me and also trap himself...he can't find a way out of it neither do I. It's like we both know we can't be together but still can't be without each other. He always finds me...it's like he's stalking me or something.

this is unhealthy. What exactly do you want.

A guy with side chicks?

If he's not ready to drop the other women for you, then he's not serious. He still wants you as a side chick, nothing more, nothing less.

VEHINTOLAR:
It's really sad ! There is no way for these guys to beat this Ghanaian team.

what's the live score?

What's the live score

KanwuliaBaby:
Good to see you madam B!❤️

Thank you!
I go show dem ke.
Dem go call police TAYA!

I told the police to please take anyone who can't tolerate the home rules. Do you know what the stupidd cops told me?

They said their “books” are full and there is no space in “the system”! Oh?

It got to a stage I filed a complaint against the police dept for RACISM! Arrrrrrrgh, they started sending only BLACK COPS to my house o!

If ANY CHILD DISOBEYS, I CALL THE POLICE!

I wore them out.

No one wants to call police any more o!
I became an EXPERT in calling the police.

If you nor wash plate- POLICE!
If your nor brush teeth- POLICE!
If you disobey curfew- POLICE!
If you nor do homework- POLICE!
If you use foul language at home- POLICE!

The police were tired of me o! I taught them and the children a gravvvve lesson.

Now, I can parent in. PEACE!

please teach us the way

ebijimi7:
as a man if I don't dominate and control my woman haven't o lost it as a man?
Oh I should allow a woman toss me around?
Come of it man it doesn't work that way even bible said it woman respect your husband and husband love your wife .
So you have the right to see it the other way, it doesn't affect me

this is the result of poor home training.

I knew you had abusive tendencies.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
Holla what do you mean when you say
"I do touch myself to get that post"
Can you pls expatiate?

Masturbation

Nsiehi:
Your son has features of ADHD and seems not to respond to behavioural therapy. Take him to a paediatrician/paediatric neurologist for a better care.

He might be on the autism spectrum too.

Zonefree:
You bought PS5 for a six year old and you're wondering why he's misbehaving

Did the boy destroy the PS5. LOOKS like ADHD to me!!

klassyguy:
I have two lovely kids with my wife - a girl and a boy. My son is six years old while his sister is eight. Both were born here in the US. I’ve done what I feel is right as a father to train these kids, but I know not everything can be done accordingly.

My son is restless. He has the attention span of three seconds before he gets distracted by something else. My mum tells says he is a copy of me when I was his age, but that was in the eighties and the way children were handled back then is totally different from today. He hardly wants to do anything in terms of school work and almost every day I get complaints from his teacher that he does not do his work or he is disruptive in class. When other students are doing their work, my son will be the one falling off his chair or hiding under his desk. His teacher told me he acts out when being corrected. Only yesterday my wife told me the teacher met her when she went to pick them up in school and told her that my son started yelling when the lights in the class started flickering. His behavior got so bad, they had to call the school security officer before he calmed down.

This behavior is really bothering me. I know my son is smart. His pre-school teacher once told me he was the smartest student she had. My son can do complex mathematical equations off the top of his head that even his older sister struggles to do. He has a very good memory and can list off all the types of trains that exist in the US, things that even I don’t know. It’s sitting down to be serious about work that he can’t do and can’t seem to focus on.

I enrolled him in a soccer club to see if that would help him expel his excess energy. At first he seemed to be lazy as he gets frustrated easily, and rather try harder, my son would rather give up and cry. I mostly have to encourage him to put in more effort, and most of the time he does not pay attention to what the coach says. The coach told me a couple of days ago that he wants to move him to a lower group level to see if he can build his confidence there.

I want to believe it’s his being the last born for now that’s worrying him. He seemed to start being a bit more mature when my wife got pregnant last year and he learnt they had a younger sibling on the way, but unfortunately, she miscarried and we lost the baby. I’ve been thinking for a while now whether to move back to Nigeria with everyone so that we can build some sense into both of them (my daughter’s story is another one). I’ve thought of taking them both for an ADHD test, but my wife is against that. The only time my son pays attention is when he’s doing something he likes, and that is when he’s playing the PS5 I got them or watching videos on YouTube Kids.

Any advice would be welcome from parents out there.

please!! short attention span, impulsiveness, destructiveness and hyperactivity are the Hallmark symptoms of ADHD, He might be on the autism spectrum too. Please go for that ADHD test and settle the matter once and for all.

He needs to see a child psychiatrist

Eyeness:
5 years later

I don't regret it and never will

I wasn't ready for motherhood, I am still not ready. I would have been in poverty and miserable if I had it, I might have even resented it.

Whenever I think about it, all I feel is relief.

True I may not have the life I want now, but I am working towards it.

A child is a big responsibility with little to no return on investment. I'm even thinking if motherhood is not for me. Parenthood is scary. I'm not saying I won't love my children, but it's harder to love what you didn't want, than something you planned for with someone

I see terrible parents all the time and it has scarred me, I see children die due to the parents' ignorance, I see women in labour unprepared for the shit they signed up for. I see kids for what they are, being a bundle of joy is a very small portion of it and the rest isn't joyful


I cannot do parenthood alone, God knows. I don't think I can be a baby mama, a single mother, or married to an irresponsible mAn. I'll abandon the kid with him. I cannot have more than 2.


I don't think motherhood is for me. Yet.

If you think I am a wicked person, I can take that, but what I cannot do is deceive myself.

this is profound

klawaaa:
I wonder why Nigerian ladies or their mothers do not consider birth control pills... that is more effective than abortion.

the side effects are terrible, weight gain, higher blood pressure, acne sometimes, then it can cause blood clots which can kill, depression, low libido, breakthrough periods, the list goes on

ebijimi7:
brother let me tell you the story of my life..
You see ehn that angel you know and can predict is better than the one you are about to meet.
My ex was a sturbon girl and I broke up with her just because she doesn't listen to me I felt I would get someone better... yes of course I did I got someone but guess what,
She pretended for the first 9 months I was boasting I have seen someone better than my ex and my ex was crying that she wants me back that she would do what ever I wanted I told her no way I've gotten someone better than her.
Brother immidiately we dated for a year I started seeing strange attitude which my ex never had at first I thought I could cope that nobody was perfect but the more I stay with her the more I'm loosing my mind.
1.She doesn't appreciate any thing you do for her she feels it's her entitlement
2. She doesn't trust me
3. She talk down on me
4. She was beginning to take over the masculine responsibility and making me her wife (bro like she was commanding me to do this and that)
5. If she wants something it's either I get it for her or she fight me
6. If I borrow money from her she would insult me with it
7. She doesn't vibe with me
8. She is so serious and I play alot
9 . When I was with my ex I wasn't secretive but with her I became extremely secretive because she would discourage you on any plan you had
10. She started dragging position with my first and second love(mum and sister) thou I immediately let her know where she belong
11. She carry Christianity for head but her heart is black

I became scared and got so uncomfortable around her .
I started telling her I'm not being treated with love I know how much I was loved from where I was coming from
So I met my ex since she wanted me back just like I wanted her we both broke up with who we were with and few months into the relationship I felt loved again and was spoilt with gifts because when I was with her before we broke up I took care of her but she has this appreciating spirit in her like if you can break your back for my happiness I would go extra mile to make you happy
She showered me with gift while my ex never both any gift foe me but instead she rather collect and pretend like she had nothing and still fight me if I can't provide anything.
So bro I won't say much but learn from my story
Nobody is perfect look at the Arras where she is good at and you guys should work things out she actually loves you everybody wants to be loved even we men too wants to feel someone loves and care about us

this write-up is not love. You are looking for who to dominate and control.

TkhGuy:
Lot of you are too emotional to read carefully, I said I told her from first month of our date that we aren't going no were. But she kept coming back, I have broke up with her prior yo this attitude but she kept coming back.

but you kept sleeping with her didn't you?

CAPSLOCKED:
THE KIND OF CURSES THEY'VE GIVEN THIS MAN ON THIS THREAD TODAY ALONE . GOD HELP US!
THIS IS THE REASON MEN NEVER SPEAK UP. THEY'D RATHER DIE IN SILENCE AND TAKE ALL THE BLAMES THAN CHOOSE TO FIGHT FOR THEIR LIVES. "HOW DARE YOU HAVE STANDARDS AND CHOICES AS A MAN?"

YOU CAN BE ANYTHING YOU WANT BUT DON'T BE A "REAL MAN". THE DAY YOU DON'T PUT YOURSELF AND YOUR BLOODLINE FIRST IS THE DAY YOU'LL START LOSING IT ALL. A REAL MAN IS A LOSER 3 TIMES EVERYDAY.

Men never speak up?

Stop lying abeg!!

Romanceland is echoing with the voices of men. It is men and women abusing him. It is men creating threads bashing women up and down.

thorpido:
You mean some babies are born with crypto currency?

Lol �

DryMouth:
Correct.
This is my number 1 reason.

I can't carry anybody's problem. Lemme tell you, pvssies are littered everywhere on the streets of lagos especially pvssies of smallies(under 20) and the most exciting thing is that it cost almost nothing to get.

Why will i now tie myself down with responsibilities of another person that offers only that same pvssy?
It's lame getting married these days.

I see your type die ALONE AND MISERABLE once or twice a month, who am I to discourage a low-key paedophile

Martinez39s:
I like how you acknowledged his right to have his preferences and go for them while you do the following:

(1) mock him for exercising his right ("oga terms and conditions", as if women don't have theirs),
(2) imply he is the bad guy by saying the babe dodged a bullet, and
(3) indirectly wishing his future wife has standards in retaliation. As if you don't know women have standards.

I am impressed with you at this point.

it the red pill cockroach of the forum.

Where's the lie in my statement though?

Op goes ahead to tell us about his now ex, then list terms, conditions and expectations for a wife, which he knew the whole while the now ex didn't have, resulting in her wasting her time.

Then he writes those terms and conditions, on a public forum, 'advicing' ladies who don't give two fvcks about the love triangle he created. Why does he need to tell us his standards? How has he bettered humanity by his post? What applies to him doesn't apply to us. Why is he seeking our validation for his choice.
We were minding our business.

I also liked the part where you left out the part about me calling out his attempt to disgrace a woman by making her a baby mama. What else can one expect from you.