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thatthickgurl:
Hi
Good evening

As the topic suggest, I'm seeking a rebound, currently experiencing a bad heartbreak that has me begging the perpetrator for forgiveness.

He cheated on me, and I'm the one still apologizing because I've formed an attachment with him, that has become part of my routine.

I need someone to help me wean out, of this unhealthy attachment and be able to function productively.

There would be no emotion attached, just someone who is willing to talk to me daily. I promise you , I'm not a boring person , I know how to hold a conversation.

please do not rope someone into your problems and seek counseling

NTAChannel5:
Good day, wonderful people!

In sequence to my former thread whether to opt for C-section or not, I am pleased to announce that my wife has put to bed on Friday and was delivered of two bouncing babies. The doctor gave me two options with their conditions and I had to choose the C-section own.

Another issue is that jaundice is detected in the twins. I don't know the medical terms or how to explain it but the smaller one has it more. The doctor advised me to do phototherapy. A nurse told me to put them out under the early morning sun. But breastfeeding is strongly advised. My wife lost blood and doesn't lactate much, so we're feeding them with SMA gold and glucose for the time being.

All in all, they're feeding well and everything is normal... except their midnight disturbance lol!

Thanks to all that proffered professional advice and the moms too that shared their own experiences. I appreciate you all.

DrFunmisticGlow
UyaiIncomparabl
MercyChen
MummyNeto
TrebleChamp
Kuddy1010

congratulations papa ejima.

Mehn this jaundice is very obvious from their pics.

Let them have phototherapy o.
Invite us for naming ceremony.

May The lord give you the means to look after the little ones so that they grow to be a source of blessing to your family. Amen.

TheGidRedpiller:
My post got to front page yesterday, it's still in my profile if you want to re-live it.

Let me tell you something real quick, learn to count your blessings accurately, if you come out of a very warm and functional family, you are BLESSED beyond deserved! Some of us wished we never even surfaced because it's obviously better than having to go through what we are going through on the daily basis!!

I posted yesterday out of sheer ANGER, RESENTMENT AND VENGEANCE. I was insulted yesterday, of course, what was I expecting anyways Everybody just started emphasizing on the curse she was spewing at me and the fact that I do not have a choice but to be degrade myself to her every demand simply because she is my mother, but absolutely nobody paid attention to what I have achieved, I clearly stated out where I helped my immediate younger brother to good heights with his artistic processes!!

It looked as though my mother's curse on me was more important than the impact I'm making to everyone around me simply because she is my mother, I will not hesitate to add that I know all this support is very tagged to the fact that my mother is a WOMAN!! And as such, she should be more important than every other thing I have to say! Nobody cared about ME, my wellbeing, nobody even wanted to pay attention to the awful things she has done which I clearly mentioned too though, nobody paid attention to the fact that I helped my brother gather connections in the US, UK and currently INDIA, NOBODY!!

That's exactly what the world looks like gentlemen, if you are a man reading this, you should know the take aways you should do!!

Still Typing...

when are you cutting her off from your life.

Confront her with the things she has done to hurt you and tell her that you are cutting her off

Jennyclay:
It's very good you helped her. No matter what happens she's till your mother.

Stop writing rubbish here, go and apologize to your mum. No wonder you're always frustrated and bitter about women.

I pity people that takes advice from you.

he should not apologize. She's toxic. Let's stop being enablers of abuse

lilvicky68:
Op there are many tribes where fishing, womanizing, drunkenness is rampant..

ijaw

descartes400:
simple! but why are people also avoiding blaming the doctor?

the doctor is not at fault really.

aribisala0:
What is "next of kin" ? Is that a legal concept

*THE MEANING OF "NEXT OF KIN"*
By: B.C OBILOR Esq., Dip (Law), LL.B (HONS), BL
The term “NEXT OF KIN ” simpliciter, does not confer the right of inheritance on the person so named. If so, of what use is the term?"
INTRODUCTION
The meaning & the legal implication of the term “NEXT OF KIN ” have been constantly misunderstood by the ordinary public. It appears, though erroneously, that many people think that once you are appointed the NEXT OF KIN OF A PERSON, it automatically gives you the right to inherit the person’s estate upon his demise. In fact, many people think that, a NEXT OF KIN gives an exclusive right over a person’s property. The above erroneous belief and understanding of the term NEXT OF KIN has made many people to shy away from the need to make a Will. This is because, they think appointing a NEXT OF KIN, is a way of naming your beneficiary.
However, the above assumption is not in conformity with the law.
It must be noted that, IGNORANCE OF THE LAW IS NOT AN EXCUSE.
WHAT THEN IS THE MEANING OF THE TERM “NEXT OF KIN”?
The term, NEXT OF KIN has been described as the nearest blood relative of a person.
See JOSEPH v FAJEMILEHIN O.O & Anor (2012) LPELR-9849(CA).
The term can also refer to a person who can be contacted or notified in cases of emergencies or eventualities. For instance, one of the forms that is usually filled while on transit, requires the information of NEXT OF KIN. This is needed in case of any accident. In other words, where there is an accident involving that person, his NEXT OF KIN shall be notified or informed. Also, the term is constantly put into use by hospitals. In this case, NEXT OF KIN means a person who can make medical decisions for a person who is incapacitated or unable to do so, during emergencies. The term is also frequently used in financial documents by banks and other financial institutions. In this instance, NEXT OF KIN means a person who can ensure that the proper steps are taken towards the recovery of the money held at the bank, at the demise of the owner. In other words, being a NEXT OF KIN of a person, as regards his money in the bank, does not give a right to inherit such money, either partly or as a whole.
WHAT IS THE LEGAL IMPLICATION OF THE TERM NEXT OF KIN AS IT RELATES TO THE LAW OF SUCCESSION? It must be noted that appointment of a NEXT OF KIN is not a substitute to the making of a valid WILL. The reason is because, when a person dies testate (that is, the person made a valid Will), the matter of NEXT OF KIN is of no relevance. The estate of a deceased person who dies testate is distributed strictly according to the Will. Thus, his NEXT OF KIN will only be entiled to his estate, if the WILL says so. On the other hand, in a situation where the deceased died intestate (that is, without making a valid Will), the question of the distribution of his estate is governed by the law. The customary law/Islamic law or the Administration of Estate Law will apply depending on the kind of marriage contracted by the deceased. In other words, if the deceased contracted a statutory marriage (popularly known as court marriage), the distribution of his estate shall be governed by either the English Law or the Administration of Estate Law. See OBUZEZ V OBUZEZ (2007) 10 NWLR (Pt.1043) 430.
It must be noted that the Administration of Estate Law provides for the order of inheritance which must be complied with strictly & a NEXT OF KIN, is not among the categories of those entitled to inheritance in this instance.
In other words, SUCCESSION IS REGULATED BY LAW. It is only those entitled by law to inherit a deceased person’s estate that can do so. A NEXT OF KIN is not one of such persons. However, this is without prejudice to his right to inherit on a personal ground. Thus, if the person so named as a NEXT OF KIN is the son of the deceased, he is entitled to inherit, not as a NEXT OF KIN, but because he is the legitimate son of the deceased. Also, if the person so named as a NEXT OF KIN, is also named in a valid Will made by the deceased, he is entitled to an inheritance not because he is a NEXT OF KIN, rather, because, he is named in the WILL.
*CONCLUSION*
A NEXT OF KIN, WHO IS USUALLY A BLOOD RELATIVE, THOUGH NOT ALWAYS, HAS NO LEGAL RIGHT OF INHERITANCE by virtue of his status as a NEXT OF KIN simpliciter. However, it must be noted that the appointment of a NEXT OF KIN IS NOT A MEANS OR METHOD OF NAMING AN HEIR.
A NEXT OF KIN IS NOT RECOGNISED AS AN HEIR UNDER THE NIGERIAN LAW OF SUCCESSION.
Therefore, NEXT OF KIN, _STRICTO SENSU,_ does not by any stretch of imagination, entitle the person so named an automatic right of inheritance. If the person so named as a NEXT OF KIN is not entitled either by the WILL or by other laws of inheritance, to inherit, he cannot be conferred with the right of inheritance by the mere fact that he is named as a NEXT OF KIN.
It is hereby submitted that when it comes to the law of succession, the term NEXT OF KIN HAS NO LEGAL IMPLICATION.
It therefore does not confer the right of inheritance Thus, it is erroneous & unlawful for anyone to claim any inheritance on the singularly reason that he is named as a NEXT OF KIN.
Such claims have no legal basis and are unfounded.
COPIED!!!!!

NoToPile:
Well knowing how strong Jehovah witnesses hold their doctrine I really don't blame the wife for the decision.

If her husband was not a witness like herself It's a different case entirely.

She should have informed them but she knows the parents ( who most likely are not witnesses) would not agree and they would sign for him to be transfused and she and her husband even in his unconscious state wouldn't want that.

She knows the stand of her husband on transfusion matter so she took the decision for him.

The man might even get transfused, get better and become bitter with her, we don't know how hard they (this couple) take their doctrine
I have seen one that said they would rather die than get transfused.

The downside now is she gets to take the blame for everything.

I heard of a case where a baby was transfused against the parents wish and the hospital won in court, maybe because the baby was a minor and couldn't decide himself, Possibly hospitals should take such decisions on adults too.

I believe she followed the wishes of her husband. They can't blame her for that, their son was a witness and held such beliefs.

How on earth didn't the doctors know their stand on transfusion before the surgery maybe it was emergency surgery?

It's a sad matter.

surgery by 12am is an emergency surgery

Pecoleee345:
Bro is either you are police man or lawyer ooo.
We are all heading to the CMD office right now and this exactly what the ASP just said..
He is saying once she can't produce anywhere the husband signed not too be tranfused either by words or written then the family have a case.

Jehovah witnesses usually have a form telling doctors not to transfuse them. Did the husband have such a form?!

Treadway:
Many have echoed your conclusion here, but it is not entirely correct. If the family really wants to take her up, she is in serious trouble. The point/fact is how does she PROVE that the husband consented to her not allowing transfusion under any cirscumstance? The laws of the country tho shambolic is still weightier than any gaddem doctrine, and I can tell you not all jw follow all the rules all the time. She is in soup, unless she is lucky to escape the wrath of her in-laws somehow. If it was someone who wasn't of age eg their child, that can hold water, but for a full grown man she would have to prove explicitly that he was on board with the plan, but she can't cos he is dead as a door nail

if she was his next of kin, then she's exonerated.

Pecoleee345:
Should A Wife Be Allowed To Take A Big Decision Without Informing Her In-law?

Good afternoon everybody.i will make this short as possible.

A friend of mine just died in luth (cause of that was anemia). He was operated upon and they told his wife to get blood (2 r.o) for transfusion after the procedure but due to being a jehova witness she decided not to get the blood (jehova witness don't take blood,is against there faith).

She had a back and forth about the blood with the doctors and was asked to sign incase anything happen which she sign without the husband family knowledge....it was only her and her fellow jehova witness that took the decision.

He passed away this midnight, she called her in-law to inform them and I also got the information from the deceased younger brother.

On getting here the family found out the surgery was successful but he died of anemia, the doctors told them it was the wife decision not to get him blood against there prescriptions and infact she signed taking responsibility if anything happens.

A serious fight is happening here, the family are claiming she killed there son which I totally agree to as well.

So this my question, should a wife be allowed to take such a big decision without informing the husband family first.

Note; it was her in-laws that were paying the hospital bills.

actually yes.

May his soul rest in peace.

A wife is usually next of kin, meaning she can take decisions when the husband is unable to.
Especially if the man was of the same faith.

Many women have died in pregnancy because they are Jehovah witnesses and no one bats an eyelash, now the opposite has happened and the front page will not let us have peace

That's why I don't like dealing with them in the pregnancy setting.

Chipink:
Lol... see this one.
Im not saying its all of them but some.
Definitely more than 1%

less than one.

Chipink:
Some of them do.. u know some women become sexualy active when pregnant.
While some ignorant men dont like having sex with their pregnant wife so prefer doing it outside
To keep their baby safe while so.e so.e find their wife sexually attractive during pregnancy.
Some some doctores take the advice when the women report such issue to them.

Im not saying all doctores sleep with pregnant women.. i said some.
Just like we have bad pastors bad lawyers bad everything.. so doctors are not exmpted

Biko.

Not all of them. Not even some. Can't be up to 1%

Have I as a female doctor been sexually harassed by a male doctor? The answer is yes. More than once by the same person. In both professional and non- professional setting.

Did I report him? Nope. The drawbacks outweighed the benefits. It didn't help that his father was a notable politician then, and I didn't want to bring trouble to the reputation of family members in my place of work then.

The guy is now in UK, and I'm still here.

But the one thing I know is this. Male doctors are first of all men, before they are doctors. Sexual harassment tells more about the person himself, not the profession.
Male doctor can flirt, but never in a professional setting, and never with a woman who has clearly not given you green light, or consent to do so, verbally or non verbally, in the hospital,or elsewhere.

The profession takes such allegations very seriously.

There was a classmate of mine who allegedly raped a girl on Valentine's day or so in our final year of med school. Two other ladies came out with a similar story. This happened close to the final year exams. The school didn't allow him write the exams, and when he thought he could write the resit, he was booted out by a lecturer on the first resit paper. I doubt they graduated him till today. What I heard was that he was rusticated.

It goes both ways.

Will attempts be made? Yes.

What matters is response to that situation.

I am not an apologist, nor am I defending harassers.

But some of your stories on this forum are reaching. A doctor sleeping with a pregnant woman? Is the woman his patient? I no dey for that one. I comot my hand for that matter

AMGBoss:
It is better to let a female help your wife during childbirth than a male olosh doctor. Lol

not necessarily.

Try going to a relationship counselor

NewSoul:
The same way your own own daddy kicked you out abi yenyenyen . How many bills were/are you paying when living with him? . As if they did not allow you enjoy your money and all you use it to do is buy bleaching cream and soap mstcheew

fool.
I pay bills and take care of my parents, I am not a parasite like you.

Desusi:
Naira landers, kindly advise me on what to do.

l am over 60 years old, a widower. By the grace of God, l was blessed with three children of which two are graduates with good grades from reputable universities here in Nigeria, one is still undergraduate before the departure of my late wife some years back.

As a retired man with meager money, I decided to manage a little business which barely gives me much money. One of these my children, a professional, though not teacher, is currently residing with me doing teaching job in different places as part time, pending when he would get a much better job.

We are living in my personal house. l would single handedly pay electricity bills, lawnman, etc. My son would not want to help in any way, not even with pure water of #10 claiming that he is with his father.

Efforts to convince him to assist me is not yielding positive result, instead he would pick quarrels with me. His senior sister has married, while the junior brother is still in the school as dependant, what sort of counseling do you think he needs to change.

I am afraid even if this boy owns shop rite in future, he would not help either.

kick him out, or tell him to pay bills, don't let him touch your food or drink.

sasview:
I am just curious with the disco tariff on energy consumption, if one is not careful the cost of buying energy will be competing with rent. I have seen apartments that share prepaid meter and all parties involved agreed to only use energy /light during the night or weekend, so they disconnect from disco during day.
I was like there could be a better way to manage energy consumption. If you have an alternative way pls. share and let's benefit from it.

tap from your neighbor.
I joke o

For now, we only put on our freezers and fridge at night. Only use AC at night. Use only energy saving bulb.

Hamachi:
My cousin who got married last year July is actually thinking of leaving the marriage because the husband was diagnosed of kidney failure and needs a transplant. The summary of the story is that the family of the man is expecting the newly married wife to donate one of her kidney to the man because my cousin is biological match to the husband, she and her family has said LAI LIA O, that his their child and they should find a way to go about it. After dragging this issues for some months, my cousin family are pushing her to file for a divorce

A. Would it be considered wickedness on her part considering, his not only the husband but PARTLY trained her in school too?

B. The marriage is less than a year no much money to even look for a seller, Aunty want to japa and leave the man

What do you think?

she should not be forced to donate a kidney, nobody should. Of roles were reversed, I would type the same thing.

Was the man forced to put her through school? Was he forced to make the sacrifice?
Everyone has boundaries.

It's not easy living with one kidney. The lady will need to make changes to her lifestyle.

With the way the man's family is going about it, o have a feeling that the man and the family knew about it and probably married her to rope her in.

The family is emotionally manipulative. This is fishy. If she wants to donate her kidney, she shouldn't be forced.

Preciousgirl:
Tell me the correct number of melons in the pic and I will give u a call

there are no melons in this pic.

Melons and watermelon are 2 different things

ayandee:
Artisans arent well-paid in Nigeria because Nigerians dont like paying for services. They bargain service charge like they are pricing garri. This extends to even other service related professions except médecine.
Trading in goods is more profitable. It's the reason some plumbers and carpenters now sell building materials instead of actually rendering services.

even medicine is not left out o.

People don't want to pay doctors. They'll rather call doctor friends to give them free treatment.

But on to the topic.

Developed nations are somehow going back to trades and skills.

Many people especially young boys are seeing college for what it is, a scam. The number of young men going to college is dropping. They'll choose rather to go to trade school since it is cheaper.

Turks:
What’s This Animal Called? It Was Found On The Farm Today

What’s this animal called please? I know I’ve seen it a number of times on NatGeo Wild. Don’t recall what it’s called. Very cheerful and easy going animal and no, we didn’t kill it. It’s still very much alive.




https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cZ5VGv2K9uA

it looks like a sloth

Munzy14:
Only you watch Tiwa, watch Oxlade and you say you no dey watch porn...

Fear God small.

Oxlade style is actually how stars do..lol

Them no tell you say na women watch porn pass? Especially the undergraduate ones..

And that is when they are most active...

kxlade's style is disgusting and gives women toilet infections.

Dear ladies, caution any guy that wants to oxlade you.

baby124:
Too much of everything is bad. Squirting is urine by the way. I also get very angry if my bed is wet and can’t sleep in it, so I understand your point. You both may try to do it in the bathroom or on the floor if it’s tiled. Try to also get Macintosh and put on your bed. I personally will get her some medical help because, there’s obviously some weakness somewhere. Tell her to try keigel exercises to see if there’s an improvement.

it's not urine

BeanmanX:
God forbid,,,,,u taste it? ewww

it's actually not pee .

Tell her to empty her bladder before sex.

Besides, I Think the squirting fluid is different from pee, although it is similar.

Teettyllayho:
Please I need advise from people with grown up kids.

Honestly, parenting is not easy. I don't even know what to do anymore.

My first son is 7 but he is kind of slow. However, he's above average in learning and he's learning at his pace. I understand all of this and I'm always happy to guide him.

But I don't know if I'm too hard or too soft on him because I use to talk to him a lot. I only beat him when he does something serious (like going against my rules, or not doing his homework when he should).

These days, whenever I scold him, he would give me a sad look and he might even shout saying: "I've heard you!" Then, he will be alone in a corner for some time.

Sometimes, I'd go close to him and tell him why I had to scold him and he'd say "I don't like it when you shout at me" I'd apologize and hug him (I don't even know if I'm spoiling him by apologizing). .

I don't know how to scold without putting a bit of action at least. Shey I'll be whispering and scolding ni? Sometimes, I'll leave him and pretend as if I didn't see him when he brings up such attitude.

Last week, he mistakenly brought back someone else's lunch box home because they look very much alike. I told him it's okay that it happens and I promised to write his name in bold when he brings back his box the next day to prevent such from happening again.

Could you believe that he came back with the other person's lunch box again? When I asked him, he said he didn't see his lunch box and the boy that took his own. Then I asked: Did you tell your class teacher? Are you sure you know the boy?

His reply: I didn't tell my teacher because I know the boy and I went to his class but he wasn't there.

So, I figured that he must have gone to check once and didn't bother to check again. And he didn't bother to also tell his class teacher.

So, I was very mad this time and told him not to bring someone else's property home again, no matter what!

I think he would have told his teacher if he really valued his property because he told me something that made me really mad the next morning.

"Mummy, or will you buy me another lunch box since we can't find mine?" Luckily for me, he was brushing his teeth then and I was bathing for his sister. The resounding slap I gave him on his back brought back his senses.

I don't know why he always want something new. He spoilt the lunch box I bought for him and his sister o and he's using another one now. That is, he wants me to buy a third one while his sister is still using the first one? How na?

I don't even know what to think. Why would he want a new box when he's barely used the new one?

Then, he's always talking about how his classmates use to bring different kinds of food ( he wasn't like this before o).

I try as much as possible to make different foods for him too, and he's stopped complaining.

We recently changed his school and his new school has quite a lot of pupils. I Don't know if that's affecting him.

Honestly, I'm bothered about the changes and I don't know how best to address it.

I've made him understand countless times that he should always be content with whatever he has and he shouldn't compare himself with anyone.

I just finished with another round of lecture now and he has tears in his eyes saying:

"Mummy, stop shouting at me. It makes me sad"

I was heartbroken and felt guilty seeing him like this and I did everything possible to make him see why I had to shout or scold.

Please how can I scold a child without shouting? Am I spoiling him? Can someone help with tips?
Honestly, I'm tired!

I ask my mother on this matter, she believes that you are spoiling him. She thinks you should get to the bottom of this lunchbox matter, because she believes that he did the old bait and switch. Go to the school and ask questions, visit the principal and the teachers

Putindbutt:
Not any serious than physical abuse. Don't push her into promiscuity.

it's financial abuse

@Teettyllayho
I'm no parent, but it seems you have a good boy in your hands. Here's a little advice as a first born, clumsy, scruffy, absent-minded and formerly mischievous child who lost her pencils everyday and her lunchbox on the third day or first week of the term, every term in nursery and majority of primary school.

My mum would initially beat me, but that didn't solve the problem, I was truly absent minded and clumsy, which I still am today despite their efforts. I would just notice that my mom stopped buying me the good, finer stuff. She would buy me the cheap ones for me to continue misplacing unlike my younger sister who would have hers for at least a term or two.(my case is different from your boy)

You are doing your best to teach him well. There's nothing wrong with your approach. He just has long throat for other kids' flashy things which is normal at his age.

Children can be very manipulative. The reason
why that boy brought another lunchbox is most likely because he lost his own. He didn't take it by 'mistake'.

He doesn't realize the importance of keeping his personal belongings safe because he knows you will buy him a new one which is his end goal until he becomes bored of it and 'misplaces' it again.

You don't need to shout on him, no need to beat him either. His punishment is simple. Tell him that he will carry his food in plastic takeaway plate to school for the rest of the term and if he misplaced his plastic plate, you will give him his food in nylon. You tell him with a serious, calm expression, and most importantly, YOU WILL CARRY OUT THE THREAT if he doesn't get his old lunchbox back. Whether he gets it back or not will be revealed.

This is both a punishment and a lesson that he can't misplace things willy billy. He will know that actions have consequences.

MamiTer:
Hello good people of nairaland, I have a pressing issue and I really need your help.

A couple of years back I broke up with my boyfriend whom I really loved due to distance barriers. Getting over him was difficult for me so I had to go into a relationship with one of my toasters in order to get him off my mind.

I achieved my aim after a couple of months but the current guy was unwilling to let go, I didn't love him and couldn't get myself to love him despite trying to. I know I was selfish and opened up to him but he insisted that I would warm up to him with time and grow to love him.

The relationship was far from perfect, I was in it solely for what I benefited but we weren't compatible and it was from one issue to another. We were always at logger heads all the time. He insults me and my family at any given opportunity and talks down on me using secrets I shared with him as leverage each time we quarrel. He shredded my self-esteem.

He was insecure and attacked my male friends at any given opportunity including my lecturers, he would access my social media accounts and send derogatory message to any male contact he feels is making a pass at me.
All these attitudes made me fed up with him and I decided to breakup for good.

Early this year I met a guy online and somehow we vibed together quickly, we met physically for the first time and it felt like we've known for ages. Everything moved so quickly with this new guy that I started developing serious feelings for him. I was scared because I never knew I would feel something like that again after I broke up with my other ex.

This new guy makes me happy and treats me like a woman, anytime spent with him is always memorable and I don't feel like leaving. The chemistry that we share is super strong and everything seems so perfect.

Now to my issue, this new guy is a fresh graduate and not yet stable, I don't have issues with his financial status because he made me realize a Lady can actually be happy without money being thrown at her. But I'm still scared of going all full into the relationship he might go for service and never come back to me. I don't just want a repeat of my previous relationship that got shattered after my ex relocated.

On the other hand, the other guy is hell bent on getting me back, he's been pleading and sending people to beg me even though I told him I've moved on and has even had sex with the new guy but he still wants me back.

I'm confused and don't know what to do, my heart is with the new guy but the other guy is making things so difficult for me and almost driving me insane. Can I still grow to love him?? Though I've been unable to after almost a year.

Should move on with the new guy?? I've known him for barely two months but it seems I've known him for ages, my feelings are exploding and I can hardly control them which is making me scared.

I'm sorry for the long epistle but I had to let it all out.
Please advice me.

that your ex sounds like a narcissist. Leave him in the past.Block him everywhere

For your new guy. Watch and wait. Let the honeymoon phase pass. Two months is not enough time to know his true character, he may also be lovebombing you.

As for your new guy traveling, if it will be, it will be. Don't worry about it. Just do your best and continue what you are doing.

Shalommy:
Hmmm.. My gender are something else! If you're pregnant and not ready to be a mother better go for abortion or commit suicide. Chaii..

why should she commit suicide because she's pregnant. She should go for abortion plain and simple.