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medriano:
That wasn’t a real breakup. He didn’t stand his ground and that was what made her believe he wasn’t serious about it.

Nothing about standing ground. It's very difficult to breakup with someone that doesn't want to go shey you know

It's called a crypto pregnancy or cryptic pregnancy.

I've seen a case like that, her stomach was so flat, nobody that night believed she in labour. 15mins after, bouncing baby girl was out.

FERNANDEZISBACK:
He is actually very irresponsible..I don't what's wrong with these kids tho..he should go meet her at home and stop stalking me..this is how they go about pestering ladies in reality..
Disgusting..

if he's complaining about feminists, why can't he also complain about the so called red pillers and alpha males that are like cockroaches in this forum.

He's most likely still in secondary school because a graduate cannot present an argument like this. Or am I overestimating him?

FERNANDEZISBACK:
But that woman own isn't..I mean the one at home..?

he's trying to toast you. Don't mind him

medriano:
You are a terrible human being. She’s not good enough to be a wife yet you kept stringing her along. You should have called it off a long long time ago, but no you had to wait 3 years to do that. Confronting her the way you did about marrying someone else is very low of you.

he broke up with her before. Na she no gree.

TkhGuy:
It's hurtful, I don't know which side of the coin you guys want to follow but, she came that day, uninvited like she use to & know I have to tell her when she starts touching me & reaching my sensitive zone, I held her hands for a while & broke the silence,

I did tell her that we aren't going anywhere after noticing how flirty she is from first 1 month of our date, but she kept coming back, I have broken up with her prior to this, but she still comes to my place uninvited,

She is curvy & seductive, she is beautifully personified,
I don't have time to chase after girls due to the nature of my job, so, she has been the only girl I have all along,


I have carefully made my choice, ladies you all need to learn this cos most Nigerian guys will not tell you this or force it on you..

I can't marry a girl who doesn't trust me, or projects condom forward just at the point of having Bleep with her

I can't have a girl who can't cook as a wife but gf yes,

I can't harbor a girl who questions my authority as my wife, but as gf yes

I can't take a girl who challenges me even to point of picking up a fight with me as a wife, but as girlfriend, yes

I can't take a girl who disobeys me as my wife, cheating will be nothing to her,

I can't marry a girl who is unapologetic, for girlfriend, yes but not a wife

I can't marry a girl who's 80% contact is raging with boys, even if there are all her cousin, or she doesn't sleep with them I don't care,

I can't marry a girl who wears make up 247 when coming and going and always on a tight body revealing clothes, what that means is she is not done advising herself to highest bidder

This are the conditions & challenges that i tried hard to stop my girlfriend from but she wouldn't let go,

We have dated for more than 3 years but this attitude never changes,

I found someone whom all this came from without me pushing for it, now she is crying out her eyes,

@ green, You are a joker. You want to make someone's daughter a baby mama, a single mother.
You are entitled to your standards, as are we all. But you'll soon learn

I won't condemn you like the others, after all, you broke up with her once. She should have cut her losses and moved on. You are also man enough to tell her you are getting married to someone else. Unlike some others, you will just see wedding pics on Facebook.

With all these standards you expect from a future wife, I hope you are worth it. I hope the future wife also has high standards. Cos the standards for men are so low, that even the dead is higher.

I wish you luck sha, Oga terms and conditions.Do as you will


In my opinion, babe dodged a bullet.

Ebelelivinston:
Me and my wife have been married for a year now but my problem with her is that she squirts alot.I have changed bed three times since our marriage.I met my wife a virgin and I disflowered her and luckily for us,we are happily married.She's a great cook and respectful.My problem now is her squirting each time we have sex.Guys in the house,how can I stop her from squirting each time because I am very tired of changing bed

let her empty her bladder before sex

We Just recently installed solar panels due to frustration.

The Diesel generator is on compulsory leave.

As for the small petrol generator, from 8pm till midnight, or whenever we need to pump water.

oluwaseunamos33:
Wow. Congrats. I claim my own triplets ijn

save up for IVF

DamnnNiggarr:

All these substandard constructions self

of EKO bridge?

Really?

A structure that might be older than your parents.

beautyhd:
She looks like someone who is running away from abuse/ hiding from an abusive husband.

If she's going to visit a man, she would have used the main gate.

Wait until you hear her own side of the story then you'll marvel.

Some people who are quick to post issues on social media to humiliate another and get validation from people are usually the offenders.

Exactly, what kind of entitled man will be demanding for her sim card like that? He's a red flag.

simpleseyi:
His parents deserves everything he can afford. But, you deserve to know too. You really deserve to.

You see, in Nigeria, there is nothing like Education loans or government's subsidies, our parents sacrifice everything in order to give us the little they can. Some parents sell even their wrappers, blouses, trousers, e.t.c. to provide basic needs for their children. Several parents slave to give their children basic needs. This is why children are like retirement plans of Nigerian parents. So, please bear with him, but he needs to let you know. You and the children are his future, if he does not treat you well, then he is messing up his future. Secondly, a typical Nigerian man will not let his wife over-work, never ever, he will rather slave than let his wife over-work. You need to sit him down and talk, but divorce is the worst thing that can happen to any family. Please avoid it.

he's not contributing to upkeep of the children. She should cut her losses as this is a red flag.

Totilopussylick:
What Nigerians are going through now is beyond starvation.

Nigerians now sleep with one eye closed and one eye open

Security zero

Electricity zero

Development zero

Education zero etc.

Tinubu could be better once given a chance

Anybody apart from tinubu and yahaya bello should be given a chance

Leebeedo:
I think it's General Hospital, Ikeja close to the GRA and thanks for you kind words

that's LASUTH. IKEJA HAS NO GENERAL HOSPITAL

Leebeedo:
Just lost my cousin yesterday. He went for open heart surgery at General Hospital, Ikeja yesterday. He actually made it through the surgery but passed out and gave up the ghost as they were making plans to move him to the ICU. I was informed immediately he died and the pain was real. I was at home eating not knowing my cousin was dieing at the hospital. Please, say a prayer for him, his name is Ogheneochuko

so sorry for your loss.

Is it general hospital Ikeja, or LASUTH?

determination21:
Hmm, if she opens up and ready to change, forgive her.

it's already an open relationship

Thrycimacus:
Hello guys I'm in need of a solution. I started dating my babe since last year, and we plan on getting married this year.

Believe me, I'm completely in love with her. Since I met this girl, it's as though every other girl isn't worth my time. I would say that we love ourselves to the best of my knowledge.

I didn't ever believe that my babe was a cheat, so I don't suspect her, neither do I read her text messages , nor even ask who called her and all that.

Something stupid happened today though. I checked my babes whatsapp chat out of curiosity without her permission (please guys forgive me for that). She was working on a project beside me while I was reading her chat.

I noticed she wasnt comfortable as I told her I only wanted to preview her whatsapp stickers. As I spent more time with her phone, she became so worried that she had to get her phone, asking what I was doing with her phone.

I told her I was reading her chat, then she got real angry, that I shouldn't have read her messages. There are contents there she doesnt want me to see.

Pretending as though I havent seen anything yet, I asked her , which content? Then she was already angry and collected her phone.

I tried getting g her phone but to no avail. Then I sat her down. Babe tell me, are you a lesbian ? She vehemently denied, asking why I will even ask her such question. Then I told her about her chat with one girl. She was trying to defend her self that the chat doesnt mean anything. The said chat was actually lesbian related.

I asked my babe, is the girl you were chatting with a lesbian, she said yes. I said fine, give me your phone let me continue reading then if you have nothing to hide from me. She refused.

I told her that her refusal only means 1 thing, and that can threaten our very relationship...

To cut the low g story short, at some point, she began to cry. I told her I knew she was a lesbian from that chat, I only wanted her to tell me with her mouth. She didnt directly admit it though, but she said that she was working on fixing her problem.

Admit it baby, so I know if its something I can fix with you, babe said she will tell me everything tomorrow, that she can't get herself to discuss anything with me today. With this, I had to understand and let her go. Hopefully tomorrow she can confide in me finally about her (I suppose) lesbian affairs.

Honestly I love this babe. Up until today, i have always believed that she loves me too. But this revelation is really threatening to destroy my future with her.

Before she left today , after I must have given her my word that telling me all her dark truth will not stop me from loving her, she said I was saying those just so she can open up. That if I leave her or change my behaviour towards her when she tell me what shes been hiding, it will not be good.

Please guys, how do I face this serious problem now in a mature way ?

Please I'm not here to play, I need mature contributions.
I created a new account for privacy sake

she's either lesbian or bisexual, Nothing wrong in that

It's quite unfortunate that she has to lie in the relationship It's wrong.

Ball is in your court, if she still truly loves you and your goals align. Just prepare your mind for an open marriage.

PrinceOfLagos:
Do we have a choice?
We go still subscribe



My happiness is that those poor and hungry Tinubu supporters may not be able to sub again due to brokeness

watch it online.

Got and DSTV is boring anyways.

I no longer need their services

czarr:
See them feminist....

eating fruits and vegetables is good for your body

Tinamoore:
My office needed to make some staff uniforms and we came across Just Uniforms online. I contacted them and we agreed at a price. He wanted us to make payment for all the uniforms but I insisted on paying for just a sample to know how good they are.

My boss transferred 9500 to him and it was agreed it will be delivered in few days. On the said day, he postponed it to another day saying they had lots of work. Later on when I chatted them on WhatsApp to confirm when we would get it, I got a rude reply that if we can't wait, we should provide our account details for a refund. Immediately I forwarded our account details but up till today, we are yet to get our refund.

This happened over a week now and he no longer pick calls from any number I have previously used to call him. I would have posted screenshot of our chats but it was erased when I tried reporting his number on WhatsApp. He read all my messages but kept mute.

So please take note that Just Uniforms is nothing but scam. He claims their office is at City Mall Onikan. The phone number is 08107806250.

They even have an account here on Nairaland with the name justuniforms.

There nothing like just uniforms in city mall onikan

You have been scammed

Dickson178:
nothing

nothing how?

Wizywiz:
Op flee from any Akwaibom lady ooooo.....make ur egungun no enter express...I repeat flee not just run....fleeeeeeeee

why?

Dickson178:
Does your mom want to marry for you or she wants you to marry her? Brotherly go ahead and marry who you love .. after all your dad made a choice of marrying someone he loves, which is your mom. You're not a kid , inter-state marriage isn't the problem, the problem is , does she understands you , loves you, loyal , faithful , even with a good thinking faculty?. When God said to Adam, why did you eat this fruit? Adam replied: God, is eve that you chose to stay with me. God was shock and said ehh !. So that's why God said, "he who find a wife , find a good thing" . God didn't say he who find a wife for you find a good thing. So broda, go ahead and have your peace of mind. I know mostly igbos don't like AKWA IBOM people, and besides I'm from AKWA IBOM, and I'm proud of it! Fvck the haters .

please, explain your burial rites to us, why are people saying your tradition is difficult.

Really I want to learn.

Beltz:
Op i dont really blame your mom, even us that are from calabar fear to marry their women because of their traditional rites and culture. My own parent keep telling me that the day i marry an akwa ibom girl that they wont attend the marriage, talk more of coming to my house (that doesnt scare me in anyway sha). But sha those people can kill their only daughter just so that you can marry her dead body, they dont joke with their traditions, miss one and die a miserable death. But yet truth remains that not all families suscribe to their wicked tradition.

please, what are their rites and culture?

Kobojunkie:
OP, tell us why you don't think the 50:50 arrangement works in marriage.

because one person will always be shortchanged.

zanshi:
Aparently, this is the new world order and i advise women to get used to it. Gone are the days where men be like "Ohh Sade, you can stay at home do something petty on the side while i go out and bring the bacon". Women rebuked it and said it was supprisive and holding them back. Now, they are forced to compete in the outside world which is not respecter of their emotions and sucks out the living hell out of them. As if that is not enough, some even offer to freeze their eggs in exchange to be coporate slaves, can you imagine that shit.


Even the men young women used to snub or spit when they try to walk to them in their teenage years and saying they don't want to be with financially deficient or handicaped women. Gone are the days where all that was required was being pretty and you were good to go. Now men sure have standards and a list of them.

Men have standards, nothing wrong with that.

But Are you your standard's standard?

That's the question we should be all be asking.

Nuellavanz96:
When a Nigerian man wants 50:50, he wants 50:50 in only bills. And if you as a woman agree to such, then you are a phool dear.

Let me explain the real 50:50.

1. Bills: 50:50
2. Cooking: 50:50
3. Childcare: 50:50 - when the baby is tender, you stay up this night and he stays up the following night. Yes, just pump breast milk and he will feed the baby.
When it's time for school runs, you take them, and he brings them back, or vice versa. Or you both hire nanny and split the nanny bills 50:50.

4. Domestic chores: split cleaning, laundry, market errands, etc 50:50. Or you hire a housekeeper and split the housekeeper's salary 50:50.

5. Pregnancy: all the money you lose as a result of pregnancy and childbirth, split into 2 and ask him to pay 50%.
For instance, if I was earning $6,000 per month and I got pregnant, and as a result my earnings drop to $3,000, here is the formular:
The cost of pregnancy on your earning is $6,000 - $3,000 = $3,000.
$3,000 divided by 2 = $1,500
He will pay you $1,500 per month.

I know pregnancy and childbirth takes a toll on your body. You can check out prices of cosmetic surgeries and ask him to pay half the total. Afterall, the children that "spoilt" the body belong to BOTH OF YOU. So, he will pay half to fix the body.
Or
You both look for a WILLING surrogate, then pay the surrogate 50:50.

If you look after the kids while he hangs out with the boys this weekend, the following weekend is your turn. He will look after the kids while you hang out with the girls.
Or
You can check if any of the kids' grandparents is willing to look after them for free or for a fee.
Or
You hire nanny and split the nanny bills 50:50.

6. If he draws a prenuptial agreement to secure his assets, make sure you include clauses to secure your own assets too. Don't be silly!

7. If you are doing 50:50, you must contribute 50:50 to any asset you acquire together and include BOTH FULL NAMES.

Alternatively, let him use his money to buy his assets in his name while you use your money to buy your asset in your name.

8. Kids will answer BOTH your names. That's still 50:50.

Dear ladies,
If a man suggests 50:50 to you, lay these terms down for him.

He can't share his own Traditional role with you 50:50 and refuse to share your own Traditional roles with you 50:50. That's bullshitt!

Women need to stop acting naive. It doesn't make you a good woman to allow yourself to be fooled.

PROVISION is the EASIEST thing to do.
If you ask me to choose between pregnancy, childbirth, and primary home keeper VERSUS breadwinner/provider, I'll choose breadwinner/provider. It's much more easier.

The women of my generation seem to be making as much or more money than their male counterparts.
Check out Facebook, Instagram and Twitter. More than 70% of the successful businesses there are being run by women.
Women of my generation are buying houses, lands, cars and even building for their parents.

If money is all you have to offer as a man, you are close to USE_LESSS.

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I do NOT think 50:50 can work in marriage. Someone will get shortchanged, and it's almost always the woman.

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Do I like the 50:50 arrangement in marriage? ABSOLUTELY NO!

you told no lies

illicit:
She called Putin a psychopath last year

Read again pls doctor do u have eye problem

Do u need factory reset slap from a grease monkey

Ewu

illicit:
I know doctors have bad handwriting


I don't know some of them like u can't read and comprehend too

Your sense is as basic as ur navel

this is what happens when you debate with fools.

Someone died a year ago,

Then called Putin a psychopath recently.

So dead people can use Instagram abi?

My bae does it for free

I got him his personal clipper last year as a gift

illicit:
Meanwhile she couldn't analyse her bf

Misplaced priority

your sense is as rudimentary as your nipples.

The murderer used her Instagram account after her death for a year to make people think she was alive.

So the recent post calling Putin a psychopath, was also written by the fellow psychopath.

E be like say red pill content no dey sell market again.

Clout-o-currency.

By the way,is there an incel among the mods now?