₦airaland Forum

Waakanda:
"I shall lend to many nations and not borrow" is one of my top philosophies

Do you even have 100k in ur acant,talkless of N1m,before you start lending money to nations...Take your time ooooO!

The culprit had been putting up with Bukola,while the victim,Busola..........I don't understand or is english incomprehensive to me?

ekems2017:
I just love this Esther. You are not that cheap dear. At least not on national television.

I guess she is cheap in reality?

Venusman:
I'm glad they finally remembered this man. God bless the Heroes

Someone nearing his grave,why didn't they do it like 40yrs ago

tohyorsih:
He respects me and everyother person arond him
He give me attention no matter how busy he is
He controls his emotions so as not to affect me or other people.
He has a good plan for our future
He encourages and supports my dreams

Ok

tohyorsih:
No oo. I'm an independent lady you know

He's just so caring and responsible

Responsible in what way?

tohyorsih:
His calmness, his voice and his sense of responsibility

This your sense of responsibility sounds like he takes care of your bills

farano:
Money is nearly Everything nowadays..

Why are you using the word nearly,when you know money is every thing

Oblitz:
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But her body sef set like d model own nah........even set pass

Hers is stretched marked

That is a welcomed development

tohyorsih2:
Beautiful lady with a devilish character

What made you think she has a bad character

hurthubby:
My story is too long but let me try to summarize everything.

(I have been a member of Nairaland since 2009, but i just created this account to hide my identity)

I got married in the year 2000 and wedded in Dec 2001. Before the actual wedding, my wife got a job in Abuja, where she stayed for one year before our wedding and her joining me in Ibadan. During the cause of that year, i have a friend who stays in Abuja that knows my wife very well, who reported about my wife's infidelity to me then, though i ignored it.

In the year 2005, my wife confessed to me that she committed adultery after our wedding. (She was actually about 2 months pregnant in Feb 2002 when she sought my permission to visit her sister in Lagos. I never knew that she actually visited one of her old boy friends and spent 2 days with him).

I was down cast for some days when i heard her confession before i got back myself and forgave and forgot everything.

She later got a job which made her travel often, sometimes spending weeks outside but i never suspected anything even though her boss, (A lady) called me several times to complain about my wife's behavior, which is contrary to that of a married woman but i didn't take her serious because my wife always complained of the harshness of the woman. She later lost the job and joined me in my business, but always going to Lagos to buy jewelry, which she sells in Ibadan.

In the year 2014, i got some texts from a concerned fellow about how my wife have been sleeping with his neighbor for over 2 years in Lagos. It happens that the fellow knows us very well and didn't want to cause any problem in our marriage but the the acts became too much, he had to let me know. When i confronted my wife with all the evidence and some dates, she owned up and pleaded for forgiveness. She confessed that the affair started when she was working for the lady i mentioned earlier and anytime she travels to Lagos for her jewelry business, she always go and sleep with the man. She promised to turn a new leaf.

In the year 2018, i discovered that she had been communicating with the same man, to the extent that he even knew that my wife traveled to Owerri for a wedding. I discovered that they had reconnected back and chats always. When i confronted my wife, she said that they have nothing, just chats, which i made her to stop (I don't know if they actually stopped).

Before i married her, a man actually dumped her and married her friend, 6 years earlier. The next boy friend left her and traveled abroad for over 2 years, without any communication (before i met and married her) but unfortunately, it didn't work out for him and he came back and discovered that shes married. He started pestering her,pretending that he wanted to marry her, that he traveled to make money for both of them, but been that she's already married, she introduced the man to her cousin and he married the cousin.

Now the issue is that my wife is flirting with her former boyfriends, sending pornographic pictures and nude pictures with dirty chats. I used to monitor her chat but to save myself from HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, i stopped checking her phone.

My wife even told the one that dumped her for her friend that she still loves him so much. She also tells the one that married her cousin the same thing and regrets that distance is so much between them. (The one that married the cousin is based in Kano while the one that married her friend is based in Abuja) Whenever i confront her, she will deny anything serious but when she sees my evidence, she will beg for forgiveness. My business is down and she provides about 70% of the house up keep (She is a teacher). We have 4 children, the eldest being 17. I have been trying to sell my house or land to reestablish my business but it has not been easy. My wife now does as she like, even having male friends here in Ibadan and keeps too much secret? What should i do.

I know this is long, but its just a summary. Forgive any typo.

You don't sound like a man,you are too weak

englishmart:
I nearly pushed drugs when I was in Malaysia. My cousin invited me and after every necessary tutorial, I was given over 4kg of heroine to move to Kuala Lumpur. My pay was $120k .
The rest was history though.

From Nigeria to Kuala Lumpur?

Khafi was not wise....She had a good job and decided to risk it by thinking she could win the ungodly show,which even the said winning prize wasn't worth it compared to her job.

Amakavula:
After 10 abortions, +200 round of sex and 5years dating you can't still make up your mind. Ogbeni carry your cross. Ride on sister! Marry her ooh !

What if he is still a virgin?

Michelle55:
He must marry her oh.. I don't care to know how the fainting spree began, all I know is that the marriage will take place. When he was smashing her all night, he didn't realize that it was a scam

What of if he hasn't smashed anything?

She is lying,cos no job can pay her £50,000 a month in the UK

obembet:
Then u will not make heaven

Up until now,only few persons from the bible has made heaven...Making heaven is the most difficult thing anybody could achieve here on earth,my sister pray you making heaven,for only the sinssss you have committed in the last one hour,not to talk of the previous ones you've committed,nor the ones you will still commit in the future.....My sister you are going to hell

pesty100:
It's good to have money

Are you sure?

obembet:
Blame the woman. Not the man..

Madam both of them should be blame,if am the husband;i will kill the man and face jail term

Onlinealaba:
Does that make sense let's assume there was an emergency how do one place a distress call, and the robbery was some years ago

Even the chairman of Alaba is aware of this

Onlinealaba:
For some months now network service has been so bad at Alaba international market, Ojo Lagos this has affected businesses of many traders in so many ways most times u will have to climb the tallest building to either make a call or send text, this issue is not peculiar to any particular service provider but all of the service providers MTN, GLO, AIRTEL ,9MOBILE we are pleading to all these service providers to come and rectify these as soon as possible and install enough telecommunications mast at strategic locations in the market .

A plea from a concerned trader

Please help push to front-page am sure those incharge will do something about it

Heard they imported a device that shuts down network after arm rubbers came to rob the last time

LillyVal:
Dear men, Please Listen

Never take a woman for granted. If she's giving you too much attention, just consider yourself lucky because she loves you so much that she doesn’t want anyone else to take her place in your life.

If she cries for you don’t think she is weak but consider yourself lucky that she thinks you are worth her precious tears.

If she is jealous of the other women around you; don’t think she is insecure, but she doesn’t want to see anyone else to be in your arms.

If a woman says sorry to you even though it was not her fault don’t think she fears losing you, but she considers her relationship worth another chance and she doesn’t want anyone else to have your heart.

Have a good day

I guess you are deeply in love

NickiSlay:
mtchew

You can do that a million time,but i believe you have gotten the information i passed to you

NickiSlay:
so why's he bringing it on social media

So people like you will up your game,cos time waits for nobody

Doing the illuminati sign

Anonymus010:
I Need The Advice Of Experienced Married Men

NB: This is not my real account, I created this account for the purpose of this issue.

Please, I need the advice of married people (especially married men). I will make the story as simple as possible and I promise not to compromise the truth to favour me in this issue.

Brief Introduction: I am a man in my late 20's. Got married last year and currently have a 3month baby.

Brief history of my relationship prior to marriage: I dated my wife for 4years before we finally tied the knot last year. I met her in the university, we were classmate in school.

Before I started dating my wife, I was dating a girl in the same class but we both agreed to separate after 1year because we were age mate and she was keen on getting married immediately after graduation which I knew I will not be ready for marriage by then (Note: No sex in the relationship, She was a virgin and because I couldn't assure her of marriage, I didn't sex her).

After the break up with my ex, I became close to my wife and we started dating. She was self sufficient as she had a source of income while in school, she supports me, gives me money, cooks and buy me food etc. She was the best woman any man can think of. I fell in love along the line and decided this is the right lady to marry.

Note: There were several backlashes from other classmates insinuating she snatched me from my ex but we scaled through all that. We dated for 2more years in school and we graduated. We dated for another 2more years post school till last year.

Brief history immediately before marriage: Everything was fine till my wife's birthday last year. I did tripple shifts at work(48hrs work non-stop) and came back a night before her birthday and slept off. I woke up 2:30am to wish her happy birthday. She got angry and told me I didnt put her in mind and that I was not the first person to wish her happy birthday (She later told me her ex wished her first at exactly 12am). I apologised to her and told her the reason I missed the time. I had just 10k, gave her 5k to do a birthday photoshoot, used about 3k to buy her goodies as salary has not been paid.

Fast forward to after 1week of the birthday, she came up with serious issue, saying she wanted a break but not total break-up for some months to put herself together. She lamented she was not getting anything from the relationship, I don't usually take her out, I didnt celebrate her birthday well for her, I didnt buy cake, I didnt buy gift etc. I apologised and pleaded with her to be patient as we had big projects before us (wedding, masters degree and family apartment) which she knew I was saving for. We settled it and had sex. After 7days, I saw a call log on her phone where she had a conversation with her ex for almost an hour between 11pm and 12am. After 1month, she missed her menses and was pregnant. I asked her if she ever saw her ex, she cried and swore that she didn't (Note: I trusted her because she is modest and she is not the sex type). So, I agreed, accepted the preg, quickly arranged an impromptu wedding, I quickly sourced for money, spent over N2million on the wedding......

THE PROBLEM:

2weeks after the weeding, my wife started abusing my family especially my mum, telling me she hated how my family behaved during the wedding. I pleaded with her not to allow this to affect our home. The insults and abuse became perpetual. My wife works from home and will give me several reasons why she cannot cook after giving her money for food stuffs once I collect salary. Its just 2 of us living in a mini flat & I wash my clothes myself, but she will give me thousands of reasons how the non-existent house shores prevent her from cooking.

After 9months, she gave birth, I asked her who she wanted to come do omugo with the baby between her mum and my mum. She opted for my mum (claimed her mum will be giving her problem). Not up to 1week that my mum came over, she has started complaining about everything she does. Despite the fact that this woman will wake up 5am, wash everybody's clothes, bath the baby but she doesnt cook. My wife started complaining about her being obligated to cook every morning because of my mum's presence(Note: she doesnt cook in the morning, if I am going to work by 8am, I will either warm a left over previous night's food or source for food outside). When the complain was becoming overwhelming to the point of her almost insulting my mum in my presence, I told her I will tell my mum to go back to her house( my mum lives in a mini flat too with my dad, so they are very comfortable). She said I shouldn't. After 1 month, my mum left. The abuse, insults and complain continued. She will nag about how my mum did when she was with us, abuse and insults my family. I will appeal to her and defend my family. My wife became complete opposite of who she was when we were dating.

The real issue at hand: We would be migrating to the US soon. Lately, I can't control my wife, anytime I don't buy her idea or wish, she will rain insults on me. Just 3days ago, she told me I don't have sense repeatedly just because she said we should go and greet her mum's pastor which I told her not now but we can go later. If I tell her to do something, she will do otherwise and give me thousand of reasons she can't do it. 2months ago, I reported all her attitudes to her mum, her mum talked to her but no change, she is getting worse. Last week, I did 24hours at work, I got home, my wife didn't cook. I got into the kitchen, made custard and placed the soup on the gas cooker. We were both in the living room. She perceived the soup was getting burnt and insulted me, telling me it was because I was not the one that dropped money for the soup, thats why I wanted to burn it (She cooked the soup with her money because my salary was delayed). She insults me at will, gives me no respect and treat me as trash.(Note: I had never cheated on her and she doesn't doubt my fidelity. Likewise, I had never suspected her of such too).

I am currently scared because I know US is women's world because I have included her and the kid as my dependents in my green card petition. I am scared for my life and career because she could go worse in the US and destroy all I have laboured for.

Please kindly advise me on what I can do to change her.

Sorry for the long write up and any grammatical errors.

US that gives women so much liberty,that's where you want to take your disrespectful wife to?.....You are the real problem of your home,not your wife,for you not to be able to control your wife,it means you a weak man


As a man you are supposed to put her in her place

They died for a no just cause......

The family shouldn't have let Tinubu be there

Old woman,trying hard to look young

Nigeria doesn't have the capacity to host even a peaceful wake keep,let alone a world cup....What a useless government we have

Just a little imaginary thought and you will get the full picture of breast shape