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oweniwe:
@ adebayolicia

It is always the ladies in the family that are first to start popping out babies

In my family... Even my older brothers never born.... But small cousins as young as 20 don pop 2.

Una women dey fvck O.

Later they will be pretending that they don't like sex

You sabi talk anyhow sha.

So the women impregnate themselves? The kids birthed by your 20 year old sisters are fatherless, Abi?

byvan03:
Ifyalways we deyooo, no zeal for anything outdoor, I don't even feel like stepping out of my house till work resumes . The only thing that should bring me out has to be money related. I simply had to stock enough season movies, from one movie to the other while the holiday passes. Am very sleep deprived, sometimes I watch till daybreak .

Lol!

Take it easy on African Magic sis

karbridals:
Goodmorning everyone in the house...so sometimes last year,I met a very honest,gentle, matured and a bit judgmental man online..I grow to love and trust him so much.

Sometimes he just stops calling calling either when I say what I wasn't meant to say or maybe when he says he wants to send something to me.. there was a time he stopped calling for 2 weeks,I was the one at fault so I kept calling and messaging him but he never answered. I sent my sister and my male friend to call him but he didn't pick, being that he didn't have their no's.
After 2 weeks,I said hi and he responded,he then told me that he didn't like the many calls and messages, that anytime he is not talking I should just let him be,that when he is fine he will talk to me,that his family knows him for that.


3 months ego,he was meant to send something for me....he promised.... Then he stopped talking to me a day to the day.I called he didn't pick so I let him for some days and called again he didn't pick, sent messages but no response so I left him...all these while I was so worried and angry, I was angry cos the relationship is not all about him,it hurts me when he is not talking to me...I was also worried cos I wanted to be Sure he was fine but I didn't want to repeat what I did the other time by calling all the time which he said he didn't like.Im someone who gives advice to people and it works fine for them so I was wondering what I was doing wrong.


About a month and 2 weeks,he used an accident scene as his dp and wrote... Rip chika, u were a friend and a brother, I will for ever miss u..when I saw this, I became more worried and started calling him again but he didn't pick, I sent a message that he should please pick his call telling him that everything is not about dating or money,that we can still be friends even if he didn't want the relationship any more.some days later he called and told me he had and accident with his best friend and he died..on his on side that he had seizure,can't walk well and so many other things........said he didn't know if he could make it,I praid for him and told him to stop thinking the way he was thinking.

Everyday when I come online and call him,he wouldn't pick and I will drop a message. Sometimes when he picks, he will always say his back was paining him and couldn't talk and I will let him be..the night he told me about the accident, I did a midnight prayer and started putting him in my prayers everyday.

Everyday I will come online and ask him if we could talk and he will say no,he was having pains and I will let him be...at a time I wasn't calling everyday cos he said he was having a lot of pains and couldn't talk then..

One day as we were talking, he told me the accident happened 2 weeks ego and this was a month plus that he stopped talking to me,i became angry but didn't show it.
One day he called and asked if I had moved on,I told him yes that since he left me nau...I said that to know what he would say cos there was really no one...but instead, he started telling me how the accident thing was all a game he decided to play with his friend and that I moved on so easily, he was looking for a special kind of woman... This is after 2months plus that he decided to tell me all these.

He said Im a reserved lady who doesnt sleep around but i didn't call like I was meant to when he stopped talking to me And so many other things he said.. He said he had found someone else and wouldn't be talking to 2 ladies at the same time....I tried telling him why I did all that I did but he wouldn't have any of that.. Since the last time we spoke, I have not been able to reach him again.

This is the only guy that has been able to bring love back into my life after my last failed relationship that almost cost me my life..
I told him from the beginning how soft my heart
Is and I wouldn't be able to take another heart break. So that's why I'm here,maybe I will feel better or responsible for this.

Do you see what I see?

~ This is purely an online relationship. Neither of you have met each other face-to-face to ascertain your real characters, yet you make (financial?) demands on someone you know next to nothing about? To the point where he feels cornered to making you promises he either can't keep or has no intention of keeping. How are you any different to an online scammer grooming his intended victims? And yet you wonder why he treats you with little or no respect?

~ You bombard his line with countless calls and messages. I used to think this was the exclusive preserve of your average male psycho but you've proven the adage right what a man can do, a woman can do even better. Calling a guy 100 times in 10 minutes is no proof of your measure of "love", but rather portrays you as a certified nut case. An online stalker / crazy chick to be avoided at all costs.

~ You've obviously not healed from the breakdown of your last relationship and have entered a new one on the rebound, hence your clinginess and desperation which any male can smell off you for miles on end.

I'm sorry girl but there are so many more things wrong with your approach which I can point out but these should do for now. You're in no fit state to enter another relationship so soon and you need to go cool off your heels and learn to love yourself more.

I'm not saying this man is a saint or faultless but you need to go work on yourself. Once you do that, men would respect you more. Right now you're being treated the way you are, solely on how you've presented yourself and right now, not in a very good light.

One more thing, you should be grateful he's declined meeting you in person (with his crazy reasons), because married or not, he could and can take advantage of your vulnerable state. Painful yes, but see this as a lucky escape on your part.

Chillisauce:
See hyping.!! Keep hyping your ego on nairaland. Fox ke. Being fox on nairaland where 98% of its users are F00ls. Na here you dey hype yourself.

You don't like middle aged women yet when any one of them writes something your erecti0n go just start dancing alanta.

Story.
Even 70 yrs old women dey give most naija guys erecti0n. Fact.!

Na today?

Chei!!

Happy Sunday ma'am

ifyalways:
Hellllllllllo ladies. It's summer. What's cooking everyone?

I'm doing a lil adventure Gyrocopter(microflight), Bungee Jump, bridge swing and other stuff.

Cococandy
EfemenaXY
Edwife
Blank
Chillisauce
Byvan

How body ladies?

Nne, I love your adventurious spirit. Such a sporty and healthy way to go. Girl you rock!

Good morning ladies

Eddy I miss you

olu4life:
But hope no problem?

I have a problem with scammers and thieves.

Now take my name off your list.

The husband should also be thrown into jail too. A failed "father" who couldn't take control his household.

MICHROZZAY:
I really can't allow mother make that decision for me at this age, but i mean i still need to hear her out. No matter what it is should i allow my mother dictate whom am to marry?

The fact that a supposedly grown arsèd man asks this childish question is a clear indication that you're no where ready to tie the knot, let alone shoulder the responsibility that comes with marriage.

Ranchhoddas:
I did not. Now answer my question and while you at it do well to tell us what the words 'remorseful' and 'chronic' mean to you.

Google them up yourself

That aside, your point is?

sapiosexual1:
And you feel you know better than the woman herself when it comes to handling her family ish?
You think aftr all her years in the US, she isn't more sophisticated than our Nigerian sisters threatening blue thunder if they were in her shoes, you'll think she doesn't know better ways to wash his ass and diss him for good?
It's bemusing how many who havent tasted marriage let alone marital strife are the ones going gung-ho on this matter.
marriage isn't rocket science, it's way beyond snapping fanciful pre-wedding pics

If she were half as sophisticated as you claim her to be, she wouldn't have been beaten blue and black and publicly disgraced to the point she was "remorseful".

Ranchhoddas:
Did you miss the part that said that the wife is now remorseful?

Did you miss my second paragraph?

sapiosexual1:
Many of the ladies commenting apparently didn't take note of this or they just chose to ignore it so as to drive home their point.
Anyways, beating up a woman is bad under any circumstance, however women should try not to provoke their spouse to anger.

He didn't have to "swallow" anything.

He had two choices over there. Report her to the authorities or walked out of the union. It's not that hard to do, neither is doing the right thing rocket science.

OmoAlata1:
that guy is a foolish boy, if i was the wife, I will let him seize the passport and go to US embassy as soon as possible for a new one (it will most likely be a long process). I will take picture of injuries he caused and report him to US embassy and then report his stupiDD a$$ to the police as soon as I enter US.

Precisely.

She doesn't sound smart otherwise she wouldn't have had to demean herself grovelling and begging at the feet of a chronic wife beater.

Knowing her rights and what actions to take would go a long way in helping her out of that difficult situation.

olu4life:
Sorry for disturbing your mentions but I believe we can be of great help with our contributions no matter how small it is. Even if it is just #500, goes a long way

CC thorpido, ifyalways, r231, EfemenaXY, onegai, damiso, naijababe, droyal, cococandy, eremy, yomieluv, greatgod2012, tosyne2much

Biko, take my name off this list

5minsmadness:
Na Wa o.
The post is there for you to see. I don't know how you can read something and only choose to see what you want.

I clearly stated there that men too are guilty of this online attention from the opposite sex. I EVEN admitted that we males don't see it as a problem until our females start getting the same attention then we go up in flames about it. I even queried the Op that hope he isn't guilty of same offence. How was I absolving the male folk again naaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa?


For your info, ladies (not just one lady, ladies.) have sent me thier nude pics, completely unsolicited I can assure u. I'm not a teenager to be begging for nude pics, I've seen enough to last me a lifetime. I'd list out my escapades on sexuality section but am too bashful and old-fashioned to do so.

Yeah, right.

You wish. In your dream of dreams...

5minsmadness:
You should have watched it to the end. You should also gave listened to what the mother was saying especially at the end. Why would anyone want to supporta teenager for thotting? You really believe talking it over will work in this case? Bullsh1t.

Make your point without resorting to vile words. I don't do cursing or swearing while debating.

For a ghetto girl this was the best form of punishment. She beat her up and videoed it on the facebook page where she was sharing her obscene videos (whatever they were), it not only humiliates her and thus discouraged her, it's let's the men downloading her video see that she is just a child and that her mother is in charge. The Mother said she had taken over the facebook page now, it now belonged to her, lol! Kudos to her. The kid will think twice before doing this kind of thing again.



I like it also when the mother gave her a slap Ehen she started all that "it's my phone and my life I can do whatever I want with it" speech. She landed her several brain formatting slaps, the girl couldnt continue with the speech

The Mother obviously was a hoe before and knows the shit her life has become because of it. The Mother is frustrated that her daughter is towing the same path despite all she has done for her. Look past the profane and obscene language the mother uses, it's common for them over there to use such language, get the message of what she was trying to say. She told her daughter she would Now pay for things in the house and buy her own stuff with her own money since the daughter feels it's her life and she can do what she wants.


The only serious beating in this video are a few slaps and a punch in the belly. The rest didn't really connect and the girl was crying more from fear than anything else. I honestly feel she would have been worse off if the mother had let loose and beaten her with a focus to punish her. It's obvious from the beatings that the mother is restraining herself.


I give her a 7/10 for parenting and a 10/10 for caring.

No point responding to this. We see things differently. You're a staunch advocate for violence.

Couldn't watch this to the end.

That ghetto talking single mother went way too far and deserves to have her daughter taken away from her.

5minsmadness:
Grrrrrrrrrrr.....

Baby needs mommy's milk

Lol!

You really are C.R.A.Z.Y.

Good morning

Lovely pics.

No black / Nigerian dads?

COvo:
I can see two corpses in this photo. I dunno about you...

Chei!

This thread is sooo stüpïd, it just had to make front page.

Chillisauce:
Since you asked.

Crackhaus. 5minsmadness. Njokusboy. Dinachi. Timbouku. .etc...

Any other question ?

Definitely not 5minsmadness despite his ocassional madness. Definitely not. He's too posh to sink that low...

5minsmadness:
Modified.
I was shocked at the way some people who accused me of being this moniker reacted. People who even though we always had differing opinions I never thought would stoop to such low levels as they did. Esp one particular female. In as much as this is an anonymous forum you should know the characters of certain monikers and what they are or are not capable of.
I have nothing more to say for now. The truth has finally come out.

Awww...my poor baby.

iamNotAlone:
Hi room...pls how do you handle an aggressive spouse, break up is out of it because the rltnshp will soon be sealed
I have searched the google but can't find anything. Pls does any one know how to handle or deal with an aggressive spouse, since that's the only thing I am uncomfortable with about him

The power of juju and blind monetary greed.

MRBrownJ:
here is again a confirmation that many miserable women are willing to marry ANY donkey, as long as they can flaunt that BS "Mrs" status, and pretend to the whole world that they are seemingly happy.
will be waiting for the thread where the OP will be complaining about being used as a punching ball

For once, I can't fault your logic even though it drips with poisonous hate.

geraldgiz:
There is this trend of Women exposing their baby bump in the name of picture. This is a No No for me. It irritates me. Some women will see this pix and type "Her life her choice" "this beautiful ". It's well, but truth be told this is morally wrong, what will your think of you when he/she is grown up to find this photo of you in your phone. Guys, will you allow your wife appear before the Camera this way?

No one forced you to look, let alone post her picture (probably without her consent).

Anything for green card.

What a cöck and büll story. I bet that man was caught and beaten for petty thieving. Nothing else.

He even looks like a thief.

And people should stop making this out to be a tribal issue. I'm not Yoruba and neither is illiteacy prevalent to any particular tribe.

What a cöck and büll story.

Nairaland never fails to deliver fantasy "marriage issues". Even IF this were real, @op it was none of your business to poke nose half as much as you did to the point where you were furnishing us with hourly updates?

Really?

You might as well lived with them. Obviously the parents were a lot more clued on than you, yet you castigate them for being cold? You "married for 3 years" suddenly understands marriage more than her parents who've been married for over 20 years? Or their daughter whom they've known all her life?

Seriously?

Tell this "neighbour" of yours to move on with his life. Marriage isn't a do or die affair. Better she walks now than when kids are involved.

Shikena.

bukatyne:
The non-Nigerian perspective makes it worthy reading and interestingly captures a part of the Nigerian 'situation'

An single woman at 30 is 'martially condemned'

By whom & how?

thorpido:
I had a client today at work who came for some treatment.One thing led to the other and I asked him about his sexual life.He said, well that aspect has issues.I asked him how and he said his wife no longer sleeps with him.
One day the wife said she was no longer having sex,that she is retired.She says she's a grandmother now and sees no reason to still,'raise her legs up'.He told me it was a serious issue that he reported to the church elders and she was summoned.Right in their midst,she still insisted she was no longer interested and he was free to find a way to take care of himself.

So guys(well men don't retire,i would have asked the ladies),what happens if someday,your wife says she's done with sex?

*by the way the couple are in their early 50s.

Way too early for her to give it up. Many women peak around that age.

Sounds like she's totally gone "off" him. One possibility being she finds it boring with him. He needs to get to the root cause, conduct an honest self assessment of his abilities and up his game.

byvan03:
I believe in juggling all the balls that count, I don't know about one waiting for the other. Bukatyne actually we can have it all, once your head is in it, you can if the opportunities present itself. I won't give up one for the other, doing all at once is not new if you have got the physical and mental stamina to. Always better to settle when the odds are still high, not when a man will need a pastor to confirm you as a wife material before he marries you .

Seriously?

In this day and age?

Too long.

I'd be more inclined to read this if it were written from the Nigerian perspective.

Sorry.

Prettiepearlz:
Yes, I think there are agencies and ministries you can report to, but you need to carry it out carefully so you wouldn't turn out to be the bad guy. Be careful, you know he is a senior civil servant, so he wouldn't use his "connections" to wiggle out and you know in Nigeria, they don't do follow ups on cases, they never take anything serious on like other countries even the ones they take up is only for publicity stunt. I pray God help you, I hope and pray that family gets all the help they need. You will get meaningful advices on how to carry it out successfully from these people
Cococandy
Thorpido
Edwife
Mindfulness
Royalroy
EfemenaXY.
Note: You can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped so be careful and make sure you don't end up being a bad person. Good luck

This story is not worth commenting on.

Are they (his wife and kids) ímbècilès? The wife most probably is but what about the two older kids in uni?

One against five. Odiegu (abi how una say am for Igbo?)

There is absolutely no reason under the sun why that woman shouldn't be doing something to bring in money, no matter how small. The same goes for her kids, especially the two older ones. They haven't suffered enough, nor received enough beatings from him. Otherwise living rough should motivate them to get off their backsides to go out there and hustle.

One against five.

Mtcheeew.

keepingmum:
Oga its clear you are boring in bed and dont satisfy your wife. You come across as a selfish lover. Go and learn the art of romance and pre-intimacy- when you have done that, trust me, she will come be your hoe in bed.

How can you be shagging and the person is sleeping? you are really an awful novice oo baba. Even without hearing from wifey, with what you have said so far, I think the problem is You

Infact if you have an affair, your side chick will still cheat on you because you will equally be boring in bed to her. Work on yourself and dont be ashamed/afraid to seek help.

Can't fault this one bit...

CrazyMan:
She can always choose not to hold on to the husbands testicle. Its called love. Nobody will kill her.

Your husband shouldn't be made to suffer because you're suffering that's selfishness. The steps taken by you to ensure he doesn't have to partake in that God forsaken tradition will make him love you more.

What's godforsaken about the tradition?