₦airaland Forum

Please this begi begi nature is everywhere. One aboki summed it up for me as, 'God don do am for you, make you still do for us'.

For those of us in the food business, we invest in these products every October and November and cash out in December and January. Na normal things.

She was just trying to take her mind off the labour by doing something else.

This sit at home will be felt better if only igbos all over the country shut their businesses. To me, this south east sit at home is only hurting the igbos. Even if I am an Igbo man, I can't invest in the east or I will start diversifying from the east when I know my business will be shut at least 4 working days every month.

thebosstrevor1:
Most of what you write, are from the handbooks of feminists as if these are the reasons men are stressed in our society today.

There are many married women employed in our society today, who will never bring out their money to spend on their family. They want their husband to spend all what he has on them while they keep theirs.

I really don't know how to argue. You are the only mention I am replying to. Even if you don't agree with me, try to understand where I am coming from.

Just think about it. Where did women get this 'my money is mine, his money is ours' mentality from. It is from the same ideology that the man is the provider and bread winner, so even if she has more money, the man should pay for everything.

What if we start teaching our girls that no matter how rich her husband is, she has to contribute a major part of her earnings to the family upkeep, instead of saving it up for herself.

I also had this my money mentality for years, till I realized if I don't start spending majority of my salary, then they will start driving my kids out of class for not paying school fees. We had to sit down and make a plan around my salary since it was a steady income while his was irregular.

Read what another nairalander (jumpandpas) wrote below


One thing I have achieved is making sure all my children chose me ahead of their mum. I started by feeding them, bathing them and buying them good things whenever I am Coming home everyday. I created an irresistible friendship environment with them and it paid off. Today all my children don't even care if their mum is around.



Do you know that after marriage I realized why my father always tell me DON'T EVER BEAT YOUR WIFE".


Your kids don't know who brings the money, all they know is mummy spent 2 hours sweating in the kitchen, she took me to school every day and bought me biscuits. She helps me with homework. She treats my injuries. She prays for me in the middle of the night. They don't see what their father does. Most of us even knowing fully well our mothers were not earning a Kobo or earning very little never had personal experiences with our fathers. All we know about him was he goes to work, then comes home to shout at us and eat his food. I had friends that were brothers that used to tell each other your father is calling you.

No one is saying our boys should be softies. But we need to teach both genders same responsibilities as much as is possible.

This is the effect of generations of family life. When we start solving this problem from the cause, there will never be answers.

We encourage our girls to focus on being wife materials and mothers. We teach them how to cook and take care of the home while the brothers are outside playing ball, making connections and going places. He is taught that a man's place is outside the home. To bring home the bacon. To take care of his family and be the bread winner. Till we start to teach our kids differently, we will still get this same results till eternity.


We teach our boys to not cry, don't show emotion and he bottles it up till he has a heart attack while a woman will cry from morning till night, shout out all her frustrations and be relieved from that burden.

We tell our men to take care of this girlfriend so another man doesn't snatch her. So he does two jobs and a side hustle just to 'maintain' her.

Why can't we teach our kids that both parties should be equal contributors to the family purse? Why can't the first person home make dinner? Why can't the man take the kids to the hospital while the woman goes to sell her tomatoes? Why do we have men coming on nairaland to tell us 'I take care of all the responsibilities in the home and all she does is to fill gas and she is complaining when I boil ordinary water to bath'?

Till we begin to train ourselves as one and the same unit, men will keep dieing young and women will keep enjoying the fruits of both their labours.

So in the whole state only Uber and bolt guys are disturbing your girl, what about other guys? If you have the money, maybe she wants you to give her your car or buy her one.

Tareq1105:
No, e no dey come Benin bcoz Edo no be Oshogbo.

Be contented with whatever Obaseki dish out to you.

LoL, we no even want again. Edo no be Nigeria.

Happened to me, wish I could share my story, it ended happily Sha.

When is he coming to Benin oooo. I don Taya for pidgin English radio stations, I miss the Yoruba language

So with all your cars and 1000sqm of land, you no fit install underground fuel tank for your house. Ordinary big joe motors get for their park.

Sooooo who else is thinking Ghana figures should be added to Nigeria?

lonelydora:
Please don't say "man" say "Hausa man" or "Northerner"


Even in Port Harcourt, they have stolen all the iron man-way covers along Peter Odili road, Slaughter, Eneka Road, and the newly built Artillery flyover. Wike is too merciful. If I can be able to see Wike, I have a little solution to this problem.

China has a death penalty for this crime. Seems it happens everywhere.

Lastmankc:
When you throw trash into the drainage system,what do you expect?

I don't know why the first thing people say is trash blocked our drainages. Please look at the pictures properly, if it was trash, some will be floating in the water. There is simply no drainage here. Sometimes it is sand that fills these drainages. Boundary road, Benin drainage is currently being dug. They have being moving truck loads of sand from there since morning. I didn't see a single piece of trash when I passed there. Some drainages all over the world also overflow during or after heavy rainfalls, those flood subside within hours or days.

A friend said obaseki uses black paint to paint roads instead of using tar. Ekenwa road that they have now finished already have pot holes. Oshiomoles roads are still intact. Oshimole, the best governor edo state has ever had.

The whole world is sharing afghan citizens, when will nigeria go and lift their own share. Afghan IDP in Lagos go make sense.

If anybody mention basketball for this thread eh

Oya , someone should run to Twitter to ask naira and give us his answer here.

My 14 year old son is presently learning to code with his tablet and my laptop. He even found a tech hub close to us he says he wants to go to. He has being learning how to draw and paint for two years now and his boss sells his paintings now for 5k. I am at a cross road on what he should do this holiday. The painting was just a means to do something during the holidays because I hate holiday lessons, but he chose the coding himself. Any advice?

Subsidy is not our problem. Almighy America subsidizes ordinary milk.

My 12 year old son is 6 feet in JS2.

Barbiturate:
We planned getting married. She was living with me. I lost my job. Things became tough. Became broke. She couldn't cope. She started getting frustrated and abusive. She aborted our baby, packed her things and went back to her mom. Couldn't pay my rent, went back to my mom's.

Mom's neighbor disturbing her with Gen set and the fumes. Kept the Gen at Mom's window.
Confronted her and she refused to remove and resorted to verbal abuse. She called me "An old jobless fool, who lives with his mom at his age"

I am happy. I wait on God. If he likes it this way, so be it!

This made me cry. I am so so sorry about the words your neighbour used. This will turn around to a testimony for you. Waiting for your good news. Keep your hope alive.

Hope you all read where it said he paid it in four years? Hope you see yeyebrities don't necessarily have the money they fluent? Keep imitating people una hear?





US rapper, Lil Uzi Vert has decided to ditch the pink diamond encrusted on his forehead.



The Philadelphia rapper made headlines when he implanted the 11-carat $24 million gem on his forehead, but it appears that he’s removed it.






In recent photos and video the rapper has been seen without the $24 million rock.


In one Instagram Story posted by Uzi’s girlfriend JT, the couple is seen dancing and kissing, but the diamond is nowhere in view.


Uzi also shared photos of himself in a City Girls “Twerkulator” T-shirt and again his forehead diamond is missing.



Back in February, Lil Uzi Vert made headlines when he implanted the gem in the middle of his forehead, boasting about its magical powers. “I can’t believe I got this Stone either moving super different now,” he tweeted.


But the stone engraving came with its share of pain when he revealed the bloody injury he suffered as a result of trying to affix it to his skull.


“If I don’t get it took out the right way I could die,” said Uzi.


He purchased the diamond from jewelry designer Elliot Eliantte.


It was so expensive that it took four years to pay off. According to Uzi, it cost more than his home and all his cars combined including his Bugatti.


“I’ve been paying for a natural pink diamond from Elliot for years now,” he tweeted.


“This one Stone cost so much I’ve been paying for it since 2017. That was the first time I saw a real natural pink diamond. A lot of M’s in my face.”

Wendy006:
Hi Folks, felt i should share this on this wonderful Sunday morning, I am really struggling to accept a part of my demeanor/outlook. "asking for favours.

Profile: i am in my mid 30's, two kids and leaving quite a comfy life. I have a young and very interesting family, and most times people want to do things for me in appreciation for work done /or just a mere act of kindness and i outrightly will say No, The other day, my neighbor brought baby's food for my daughter, i thanked him, politely asked him not to that again, I eventually gave the food out. Trust me no disrespect/nor any evil thought. His feelings towards me lately is kind of subdued

This happens at work too, I will never call in sick, unless i am on a dying bed, whatever management wants I accept, i make my inputs, but will never ask for any favour.

I have struggled to search through any experience in the cause of my growing up that could have shaped my perception/thought pattern, couldn't find any either.
i recall vividly when i lost my job in 2016, I was sleeping under the lagos bridge until I found another job, yet I had people I could call while in Lagos. I am so afraid to ak for favours, rather I grind it out.

I have been surfing the internet checking for folks with similar traits, do you think this behaviour is normal. I live a very happy and normal life nonetheless, with my wife/brothers and kids my best friends.

Is this behaviour normal or should i attempt to change...

You are afraid of rejection

After checking your mates that are married, have kids and jobs, hope you also checked out your mates in the graves, hospital, psychiatric homes, under Bridges and on the streets. If you didn't, go back and check them out so you can make a fair judgement.

Wickedfacts:
If it's the same parastatal, pick the one in Abuja.
If you want growth, pick Abuja. If you want comfort and affordable lifestyle, pick Abeokuta.

Abuja is the headquarters of most Federal MDAs. So, if you're in the HQ, you have first hand access to opportunities, promotions and benefits before those in the state and regional offices.

However, if you want rest of mind where you leave home by 7.30 am and get to work by 7.45am, pick Abeokuta. You get to live a cool life, buy a plot in Kobape, Ogere extension, Obantoko, Alamala, or Obada oko and build an unpainted bungalow, drive a Camry and wait for retirement.

It's your choice.

See Nigerian dream, build an unpainted bungalow. Very funny

wait for it, wait for it. The government coming to impose an unheard of tax on that $1billion

NwaAmaikpe:






Now this is it.
My favorite celebrity couple in terms of fertility.
No hype, no nothing...they just get busy in the sheets and churn out these babies like receipts.

Unlike some who won't let us rest because of one child that they managed to give us after making us wait for almost eternity.
Just one baby, they gave world press conference, turned motivational speakers and even released a whack song that their own family members won't even agree to download for free.

Congrats to the Faanis.
But please stop playing mind games with us.
One day Charity is posting videos discrediting Austin, the next day we're seeing Austin waiting like a lapdog by her in the mall, at the photo studio, in the bank, at the clinic....every fvcking where in that little Asaba.

Please marriage is not do or die.
Don't stay put where you shouldn't be all for the gram.
The truth is.. We do not care.

What did banky do to you?