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Hahhahahha ...
OP you're not well ...

This is really hilarious sha ...

You'll see a woman who is squatting with her 3 friends, will come online and say she can't date a man who lives in a selfcon ...

As if the man in the selfcon even wants anything to do with a liability ...

DonroxyII:
I see Civilised Generations.....

Nothing is Bound to continue the old way ...

You Grandfather's would also tagged your Generations "Wasted" because the Civilisations therein would be alien to Theirs.

You were only exhibiting the Maturities You were exposed to ... Unfortunately, She didn't come from your Village

Women are getting liberated now unlike back in the days when they were "Incarcerated" ....

It wasn't as if they didn't have what to say, But they ain't allowed to say it due to prejudice like Yours but You can't do S.hi.t than Rant about it !

If your definition of "civilization" and "women liberation" means women sleeping around and shaming those who don't sleep around, then there's not much to be said ...

It's only a proof that this generation is indeed wasted! ...

But you're entitled to your opinion ...

I'm sure your grandfather will agree with me ...

Enjoy your day ...

ThaFirstLady:
Life is full of twist and turns. 1. You are not the creator. Be humble.

2. Do you know if the biological father of the boys are late?

3. What is wrong if their mother is being loved and the boys have a goodly responsible father figure in their lives?

4. Some of y'all should just quit with some of these your African man mentality reason there's so much wickedness and backwardness.

Hahhahahha ...
You really are hilarious ...
And you write like a woman (void of sense + excess emotions) ...

1. I never said I was the creator, and I sincerely can't help but wonder how we got here ...

2. I don't care whether or not their biological father is late ... It's of no relevance to this discuss ...

3. I never said that there was anything wrong with this, did I? ... But somehow in your small mind, you conjured this up ...

4. African mentality? ...
LMAO ...
So all because I said "this can never be me or my sons" it means I have an African mentality? ...

Sweetheart, it's called CHOICE! ...
This man CHOOSE to marry a single mother with that much kids and if you read - like actually read my initial post that you quoted, you will see where I clearly said...

it's his life sha and I respect his choices

No where did I condemn him for his choice of marrying a single mum, but the moment I make the choice not to do so, it automatically means I'm wicked? ...

You're the one who is backward and wicked madam ... Cause only an individual with a backward and wicked mentality will try to deprive another of making his own choice ...

Mikespecialone:
Probably he’s a male kid using a female’s moniker, kids of nowadays... Lemme say your parents scold you this morning for not being appreciative and you got angry abi ?

That is most definitely a female! ...
Males aren't this entitled ...

@OP...
I totally agree with you ...
When you start having kids, don't teach them to say "thank you", alright? ...

Be sure to update us how your kids turn out in future ...

This can never be me or my sons ...

But it's his life sha and I respect his choices ...

Leave the kids out of this o!!!! ...
What the hell is wrong with these guys!?! ...

I have ABSOLUTELY no sympathy for folks who willing join cults and then end up like this ...

Sucre6:
Before anyone here dish out advice like a plate of hot party jolloff with spiced chicken should always put themselves in the shoes of the op. Else you won't be rational.

She's a woman alright but definitely not a mother anyone advising you that your mother is your mother like no other is mad,

I have seen irresponsible elderly people, because they are aged don't make them wise most times, owing to the face that she tortured you this bad, no kid deserves that amount of wickedness, nah only God know why she does what she did, but I will advice you to forgive her but stay very far away from her.

You spoke my mind! ...
It's super annoying seeing some of the comments above ...

Some of them are making excuses for the woman, others are saying crap like "your mother is your mother and bladderdash" ...

OP if I were in your shoes, I would gather up evidence and have her arrested for child abuse (if possible) ...

No matter how stubborn, a child of 9years old is, starving them and beating the day light out of them is CHILD ABUSE! ...

And to think that this is someone who claims to have "carried you in the womb for 9months"🙄

Well...
I dunno about other people, but seeing those who made life tough for me going through tough times of their own gives me premium satisfaction ...

I move on a lot faster knowing that those who served me, got served too ...

But if you're not like me, then I advice you have a conversation with her, tell her how you feel and see how things go afterwards ...

I believe you'll find the closure that you seek when you do so ...

lambish:
Our generation today....
A woman will go through 9 months of hardship and discomfort and still go through the extreme pain of labour to give birth to the child who ends up bearing the man's name ( and probably looks like the man lol) she continues to nurture his child pray for them and look after the general wellbeing of the home, she goes on to combine her 8-5 job with caring for her family ( some women end up burying their ambition just to ensure their family is well taken care of and doing well)... Yet an extremely ungrateful man asks what she brings to the table?

TRASH! ...

First of...
This question is asked to a woman who a man hasn't gotten married to yet, so all this talk of pregnancy/child birth is invalid and doesn't hold water ...

Secondly...
The idea that ONLY women "nurture and pray for their kids" is archaic! ...

Men too nurture their kids...
Men too pray for thier kids...
Men too look "after the general well being of the home" ...

So don't come here acting like it's only women who do all those things ...

And besides, the child also belongs to her, so don't paint the picture that she's doing the man a favor by taking care of HER CHILD! ...


@men
Any woman who comes into your life and isn't providing value of some kind, please dump her asap! ...

And whilst you're demanding value from a woman, be sure that you're also providing value too, cause some of y'all men be acting like evi.l spirit be shaking your calabash ...

So it's a two thingy ...

I honestly don't know why Men are making a big deal out of this ...

Just as it's within your right to propose to her, it's also within her right to reject your proposal too, no big deal! ...

Let the guys just walk away ...
It's far better to be rejected than to be played a f.ool (which is what the girl has been doing to him all this while) ...

Ms202310:
Let us hear the full story

Why was he restrained

With all due respect ma, you are mad ..

Please allow the dark ladies breeeeve ...

Personally, the colour of the skin have never been a big deal for me ...

My own is don't just be broke, whorish, ill mannered & st.upid and we're good ...

I never thought a day would come where a female would come online and justify promiscuity ...

Before now, females were shamed for not being virgins, now people are shamed for being virgins ...

What a wasted generation! ...

Yukes ...
This is a very huge turn off!! ...

Ejanlaa:
pls are you looking at what u typed or English just too hard for u like hardtack

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Why're you like this na!
You didn't even spare the guy sef ...

@OP...
Even though it's never too late to make a change that'll better your life, it gets increasingly difficult with time ...

There are something's that if you don't have at certain points in life, getting them later on will prove really tough ...

However, I believe that with consistent actions taken in the right direction, you can make things work with God's help ...

Start by learning a skill (preferably online) whilst doing a menial jobs to make ends meet...

Cut off all distractions (things and people)...

Don't hesitate to seek out help from close ones where possible, cause it wouldn't be an easy journey, but I believe you'll thrive...

Godspeed my friend...

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Omorrrr ...

So OP and some nairaland folks still remember this thing ...

This rewinder was used on those big cassette back in the 90's ...

Having a broke entitled individual for a partner ...

Awwwwwnnnn ...
So cute ...

I'd rather be fatherless than have a father like the OP ...

Keyshia Ka’oir's kind is rare ...

It'll be a mistake for ANY MAN to entrust even 1% of that amount to the average modern female ...

But if your woman has proven beyond any reason (and unreasonable) doubt that she can be entrusted with such amount of money, then STILL DON'T ENTRUST IT ...

Cause last time I checked, feelings were fickle and as trust worthy as NEPA ...

Anitatunde:
Correct.

Kindly drop your details for 2gb worth of data any network

0803 694 4599
MTN ...

Anitatunde:
You are the first to give the right amount.


Can you explain how you got to 100usd ?

The man stole $100 from the store (that means the store lost $100)...

Him going back to the store to buy something worth $70 and getting back $30 balance is equivalent to him just exchanging a part of that money ($100) for goods ($70) and getting a balance ($30) ...

So it's still the same $100 ($70 + $30) ...

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@Anitatunde
I'm still yet to get my "gift" ...

$100 ...

How many women of this generation have these qualities OP ...

When wise men ask questions like this, people will be thinking that we hate women, but nothing could be farther from the truth ...

But the fact is, most women of these days are trash! ... They have very repulsive characteristics and are not worth having around ...

Gone are those days when we were told women were angels with a very pure heart of gold that could do no harm and we would believe them ...

It may have been true in times past, but now? Nahhhh ...

Women generally love attention, whether it be good or bad ...

If all those ladies were really offended by those comments, they would've blocked them a long time ago ...

But no ...
Their need for attention most of the times surpasses their ability to reason properly ...

If this story was told by a man, I would've believed it without fail ...

But the fact that it is told by a woman makes me doubt the credibility of the story ...

Now, this isn't because I am sexist, but because women in general lack accountability ...

They ALWAYS find a way of blaming any other thing or person EXCEPT themselves ...

In the minds of most women, it's NEVER their fault ...

So forgive me if I take this with a pinch of salt ...