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casualobserver:
The point still stands. You don’t come on a thread chastising people for advising people not to go and then advise people to go. It’s hypocritical!!!

The things is most people giving advice have no experience of living abroad…..have you ever lived abroad that you are giving advice?

I think you should go back and request a refund of your school fees at this point ...

casualobserver:
Advising people to go is just as bad as advising people not to go. Everybody’s circumstance is different. Let people make up their own minds. I lived abroad for 2 decades, I had a fantastic job, I still have a house there, I am a citizen so I can go back if I want but I came back voluntarily and I will never go back. Nigeria is hard but for me there is peace, sense of belonging, I have in Nigeria I never had in the UK. Eventually you will realize these things matter.

Please go back and read what I wrote again and then look at your response ...

I'll give you an excerpts, "If you have what it takes AND YOU WANT TO..." ...

If this story is true, then that soldier is really da.ft ...

So there's a disagreement between two folks, rather than find out the cause and act accordingly, he just walks in and assaults somebody - just like that?! ...

Indeed most military personnels are no different from agberos on uniform ...

And what's worse is that the systems put in place have done nothing to weed out use.less folks like that soldier ...

I thought I was the only one put off by that thread ...

If obodo oyibo was as bad as they painted it, why haven't they returned back to their country? ...

Fact is, every country out there has its downs, however, the downs of some countries can rival the ups of other countries ...

Look at your nation for instance...
Some military men have now become instruments of bullies for "big men" ...

Some police officers now require that you wet their palm heavily, before they can do the jobs that they've already been paid for ...

Being "bad" is hailed as smart and being "good" is frowned upon and seen as f.oolish ...

Having light for 3 hours per day in some areas is seen as something worth celebrating ...

There's almost no difference between some security personnel's and thugs on the streets, cause you could be shot for exercising your right ...

So it's seems insensitive to me that someone who doesn't have to go through all these would give such advice seeing that the circumstance of that country is no difference from that of the zoo ...

My advice to anyone reading this is simple...
If you have what it takes to leave this country and you want to do so, PLEASE LEAVE ASAP!

But do your research well before leaving...

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That girl and girls like her are USE.LESS! ...

OP the concern of your woman is not unreasonable, if you have the capacity to start building a house of your own, please delay that marriage and do so asap ....

However what I frown out is the fact she more or less gave you an ultimatum by saying "you MUST build a house before tying the knot" ...

It gives me the impression that she made up her mind on her own without considering your own point of views and that my friend is not something that sits well with me ...

Secondly...
If you do decide to build a house before getting married, I wouldn't advice you accept a dime from her ...

Cause women in general, will buy a sachet of water 20years prior and when there's a fight, they wouldn't hesitate to remind you how they "made you the man that you currently are" ...

I'm not trying to box every woman into one basket, but like someone told me this morning "women are like children" ...

Following that train of thoughts, there are something's you shouldn't involve a child in ...

My people say person wey dey purge no dey select toilet ...

So allow our young singles to breeet ...

One thing I know for certainty is that time will tell ... The Egyptians (standards) you see today, you shall see them no more ...

So let's relax ...

You see why elders would advice you young ones to marry virgins? ...

Sheybi if she was a virgin now, they wouldn't be anyone to share farewell nacks with ...

MSN1:
Bro. U are very far from the truth.
There is absolutely nothing that a woman would do that will justify beating her.
Women are like children; they MUST offend u at one point but there are million BEST ways to correct children without the Cain.

I have dated girls lthat get scared mere looking at my angry face, our Grand fathers were like that too, just that majority of men lost their ability to control women a long time ago and if u are not mature enough to bear women's drama, WHY NOT STAY FAR FROM THEM?Because I know how dramatic women are, Even my own mom!. I always tell my dad most times to bear and tolerate her.

I call my sists. A lot of times admonishing them; WHENEVER I FEEL, THEY ARE WRONG.
I ALWAYS TELL THEM TO APOLOGISE EVEN WITHOUT THE MEN KNOWING. This is because.; I know how women's brain work and how painful it is to be stepped on as a man.

If u think u are that pained and can no longer take it, then divorce her quietly and move on.
Please let me ask; Can u stand the sight of seeing ur daughter or sister in that condition?.
THERE IS NO REASON TO TREAT A WOMAN THAT WAY.

First of...
Liking a full grown adult female to a child sounds demeaning ... So in a bid to defend the gender you're so in love with and claim to understand, you ended up insulting them even more, wehdone sir ....

Secondly...
I TOTALLY DISAGREE with you when you say there is "absolutely nothing" a woman can do that would warrant beating her up ...

There are lines that if ANYONE, male or female were to cross, they'll get what's coming for them ...

Lemme give an instance...
If a person were to attack me, be it MALE or FEMALE, I would defend myself to the best of my ability and in the process if I can kick the as.s of the one assaulting me, I would GLADLY do so REGARDLESS OF GENDER ...

Thirdly...
It is because of ideologies like yours that have allowed lots of females to behave like they're possessed ...

Or why do you think that a female will see a guy who is physically stronger than she is, but still wouldn't hesitate to shred him to pieces with her words and even hit him over little arguments? ...

It's simply because they know that they wouldn't be any consequences!! ...

In other words, they know that guys like you exist ... Guys who would allow them walk away without facing the full consequences of their actions ...

It's time to start holding females accountable!
It's time to allow women bear the consequences of their actions!

We can always agree to disagree ...

But like I said, I was once as passionate as you are about women matters ...

Hahahhahaha ...
Is it just me or did the OP just compare LEGA with Montessori? ...
Wawu!!! ...

Lemme just add this...
((Even if I know that some of y'all will come for my head ))...

That it is said that "it is a husband's role to provide" doesn't give the wife the license to become lazy and unproductive ...

Scriptures refers to the woman as a help...
So be helpful!!!!

If your husband is having money issues, help him - give him money, connect him to opportunities, give him money making ideas ...

If he can't cook and clean, madam help him! Wash his clothes, cook his meal, clean up after him ...

Scriptures also says that finding a wife equates finding a good thing, so I ask, what good thing has that innocent man found since he found you? ...

Some men will marry and instead of finding good things, they end up finding a truck load of family burdens, past baggage (s), nagging etc ...

Some will marry and discover that they now have the devil as their roommate ...

I rest my case ...

There was a time in my life were I was even more passionate than the OP as regards women matters ...

Once I hear a tale of woe of a woman, I gnash my teeth and threaten fire and brimstone on the man ...

"How can a man do xyz?!" I would ask in anger ... But a very interesting incident happened that made me change my mind ... Maybe I'll share it one day ...


But my dear OP, before you threaten fire and brimstone on the man, please hear his side of the story first, cause if the man was as bad as she painted it she would've left already ...

So learn to ask for the full story...
The misunderstanding you talked about may not be as little as she painted it to be ...

Women (in general) always want to play the victim in ALL CIRCUMSTANCE, so what they'll do is they'll downplay their role in the matter whilst magnifying that of the man ...

If you check well, she prolly instigated that misunderstanding and the whipping is just an effect to what she caused ...

One thing people (especially women) haven't come to an understanding is that actions have consequences...

So whilst you're running your mouth and shredding that man's self esteem with your oratory prowess, don't be surprised when he retaliates with the only way he knows how - with his fist ...

izonborn098:
Not personal'' if this thread happen to make front page, they will shame women. Forgetting that those ladies has feeling too' i know women has their own problem and it's good to marry early but life will not favor everybody once.
I have seen women above 40 delivered 4 or more kids
So what about that?

I'm not arguing that women above that age can't give birth, all I'm saying is that chances of that reduces with an increase in age and don't forget the complications that could arise from pregnancy in older women ...

Lemme ask a question (more like a scenero)...
If I give you 2 parachute and I tell you that one of them have a 12% chance of deploying and the other has a 82% chance of deploying, which will you pick if you're to jump off a plane? ...

I'm guessing it's the 82% ba? ...
Does that mean the 12% chance parachute can't deploy? ...

It can!!! But would you take chances when there's a seemingly better option? ...
I guess not ...

So what are we saying? ...

izonborn098:
Women above 30 also need to be loved as other poeple' there is no crime to be above 30' everybody will age wether u like it or not...
Marriage is not all about kid' what about maturity and understanding' what about looking for a helpful partner...
Many girls from age 18 to 24yrs has fowl brain and entitle problem....

I wonder why you're taking this personal ...
No one said it's a crime to be above 30 ...
We will all get to that age, some of us have crossed the age sef ...

All folks are saying is simple "women that age have fertility related issues that younger females don't have and it is in a man's best interest to marry someone younger" ...
((A simple Google search would validate my claims))

You'll agree with me that age comes with its own health related issues, so calling out those issues isn't a crime, is it? ...

And hope you're aware that maturity and age aren't symmetrical ... They're also in your own words females with "fowl brains and entitle problems" above that age range ...

If you check well now, that woman is jobless o ....

SMH, people who don't work for shishi complain the most ...

My only prayer is that, that man shouldn't take drastic actions against his wife, cause when a person feels unappreciated, even that seemingly small thing that they're doing will stop eventually ...

That guy is prolly not the father ...
The girl just wants to pin the pregnancy on him ...

Is it only men that'll be deported? What of women? ...

Feminist in the house, how far na? ...
Abi wuna equality never reach this side? ...

OP you funny o ...

First of you created a thread advising men not to climb every woman, but now you want to be a porn star? ...

Please who will you be climbing? Men? ...

Abi you'll be anointing the pu.ssy in the industry against "marine spirit" before climbing ba? ...

Na mumu dey fight him fellow man because of woman ...

Now both of them are dead, their women will go on a f.ucking spree ... Las las, another man will continue from where they stopped ...

brabie:
what I meant is, like buying her stuffs, taking her out on dates, and so on you know the normal relationship stuffs

Hahhahahahah ...
OP!!!!! You just want to put yourself under unnecessary pressure ...

Please where exactly is it written that a man must do all the above for his girlfriend? Cause I must have missed the memo ...

I get the whole idea of wanting to do nice things for your babe and all, but OP if e no dey, e no dey, no go kill yourself for woman wey fit leave you even if you give am heaven and earth ...

And look at it this way, if she is already giving you attitude (aka disrespecting you) because of some fairy tale expectations, shouldn't that be a pointer of what could happen in future? ...

Do you really want to be with someone who respects you only on the basis of what you can give? Is that the kind of person you want to build your life with? ...

And besides, does she buy you stuff? ...
Take you out on dates? ...

I'm guessing the answer is NO! And guess what?! She prolly isn't even bothered about doing all these things, so why bother yourself? ...

Or you think because you don't have much now, it means she's doing you a favor by dating you? Lmao ...

OP...
As long as you're nice to her and giving her your best, that's all that matters, if she wants to go, LET HER GO!! ...

OP sir...

Can you please explain what you mean when you say "I'm not doing what a boyfriend is supposed to be doing" ...

Have you observed that the women who turn on their men once they have a taste of a better life are usually women from poor homes? ...

This is why I tell men , NEVER MARRY A POOR WOMAN ... It is fo.olishness to think that marrying a poor woman and bettering her life will make her loyal to you ...

Most poor women are only "submissive" because they're still dependent on the man, period!! ... Once you set them up to be on your level or higher, they'll show you premium shege ...

And what's painful is that with all the stories of women turning against men after the men have given her a better life, men still haven't learnt their lessons ...

Make wuna continue ...

killsmith:
Only fools expect women to not cheat on them.

I agree with you ...

InfinityFabric:
Imagine thinking everyone will subscribe to the scam called Christianity - religion of Paul.

Hahahahaha ...
Oga nobody force you subscribe na? ...

So chill ...

And besides, what kind of subscription are we talking about? ... Prepaid abi post paid ...

Why are the men crying upandan na ...
Madam say she no do, is it by force? ...

I guess all the men who are crying don't meet her spec ie, y'all are broke ...

But make wuna sha allow broke men breeet na, e no easy for streets ...

@madam...
Go girl!!! ...
Stick to your standards princess ...
Don't settle for less girl ...
You're the price sugar ...
We're solidly behind you ...

Only fo.ols take back cheating women ...

InfinityFabric:
Abeg leave our lazy to/for work girls alone, we like them like that. And to be honest, God didn't create them to work, it's an anomaly... thanks to FEMINISM.

Try dey read your bible, e get why ...

No one is saying marriage is a do or die affair ... No one is saying that marriage is compulsory or that marriage is a criteria to success, nahhh ...

A woman can stay unmarried for the rest of her life and still be successful...

However, IF A WOMAN DESIRES TO GET MARRIED AND HAVE KIDS, then it is in her best interest to do so before she gets to 30 ...

Cause...
At 30, your SMV is lower, meaning that the number of men you can attract reduces drastically (less men to choose from) ...

At that age most of your eggs are gone and complications surrounding pregnancy starts to climb ...

At that age your body count is prolly competing with your age, & the number of breakfast you've eaten is prolly through the roof - both of which is a turn off for most men ...

In summary...
If you don't want to marry ever, then that's fine, listen to the OP (it's a great advice in my opinion), but if you desire marriage discard the OP's opinion as you would used tissue ...

Yugoslavia247:
A poor son.

I will never be poor in my life.

Dem no dey disown rich son.

I repeat I will forever be rich in life

Yeahhhh ....
Only poor parents can't disown their rich sons ... I mean, how dem go take feed if them try am ...

You seriously should put effort so you can be rich in life ...

How paternity fraud is still not a crime punishable by law is what beats my imagination ...

Men!!! Listen to me...
Marry a virgin and when you give birth, be sure to run a DNA test before signing any birth certificate ...

Don't allow any woman to blackmail you with cries of "you don't trust me" and bla bla bla, it's BS!! ...

From a legal standpoint, there's nothing wrong with this, two consenting adults are in a mutual relationship, so nothing wrong ...

But if my son tries this, I will disown him asap ...

Well said OP...

Some people believe that having a hole in-between their legs makes them entitled to certain privileges ...

You can't be demanding equal pay and yet not be willing to put in equal work, it just doesn't make sense ...

Nigerian feminist are just a bunch of bitter entitled and lazy women who want twice the pay for half the work that they still won't do well ...