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Na wa oh. You're part of your son's problem. 10 years in JSS 2, when he should be in primary 4 or 5.

You're simply overworking his brain and capacity for his age. You need some counseling, to start with

This is beautiful. OP, so what was the total cost of construction from start to finish?

The number of peeps viewing this thread though, na wa.

OP, find courage to talk to her calmly or you can partition with a curtain and have peace with a clear head.

My condolences to the families.

Hmmmm that amount won't you the specs you're looking for. However, is you add 2-3k extra (I know it's hard, considering you've already borrowed money, which is wrong though), you can get a Vivo Y1s. It's very good. Also, since you want to stay within budget, you can get a Nokia C20 of about 46k. Between these two, I think you will enjoy the Vivo and it will serve you better.

Sorry for all that happened to you. I will tell you that your Daddy, Almighty God is your father and is ever faithful. Don't I the misbehaviour of one or some men to judge all men. If you believe in Him, go to Him in prayer as your father, talk to Him same way you would converse with your dad and pour out your heart to Him. Tell Him what you truly want. Remember to first have a relationship with Him by being born again and then connect. There's nothing He cannot do. Wish you all the very best of 2022. Cheers and shalom.

Brother, you're seeing red flags with your korokoro eyes, instead of you to abort mission and move on, you're here wailing.

Very interesting thread. I don laugh tire for comments. Using the Bible as a standard and my reference, marriage is disproportionately skewed against the man. The man is expected to provide for his family (wife inclusive oh) 100%. However, remember too that God created the woman to be a helper, to assist the man. The catch here is for the man to "find a wife" that translate to "findeth a good thing" and "obtaineth favour from God". Once the man gets and marry a good wife, everything falls into place. Cause, a good wife will build a home with the husband; help to manage the resources of the home; offer quality advice to the man; brings in her money willingly to assist etc. Marriage becomes like heaven on earth.

Conversely, if the man marry wahala wife, e don be for the man. This is the bitter truth. So, ladies work on yourselves to become a God-sent wife and not to give the husband hypertension and stress in marriage.

Jodha:
It's the man....just that society is pinning it on ladies...

For where?

Any early morning flight (7am -9:30am) from LOS-ABV, ABV-LOS, LOS-PHC, PHC-LOS, ABV-PHC, PHC-ABV and some few other cities within that time belt, you can hardly get a delay, highest by 11am you guy are off. Anything beyond that early morning flight is 50:50. Expect delays of up to 12 hours or outright cancellation. I always strive to do that early morning flight or I reschedule to another date.

I just dey laugh. This is what they call cock and bull story. OP, you are this good and yet you opened a thread less than two weeks ago on How Much Will It Cost To Building 20 Self Contain.

Infact, going through your profile, it's not difficult to tell who you're. I only wonder what you intend to gain by this your tales by moonlight.

Whilst not trying to derail, please how can you compare the quality of training in private universities to the federal and state universities medical programmes? Cause the discussions here largely centres on the federal and state universities for medicine but not the private schools.

I want candid opinions please.

Thank you

Does Uniben admit candidate that wrote JUPEB from other centres, other than the Uniben centre into medicine? What is their cut-off points on JUPEB? How many slots are allocated to JUPEB candidates.

Does a candidate with 232 (given the abysmally low scores in this year UTME) in post UTME stand a chance to gain admission into medicine?

Acecards:
if you can make a first class... It would be nice.


Some schools like UI admit only first class (no exams, they will use transcript, the higher the better).

If you apply to a school like Unilorin you will be getting maximum points under your certificate section, you will only need to score high in the putme... Though Unilorin can be tribalistic and their admission process isn't straight forward sha.

For school like Uniben, they admit just 5 out of many applicants, they write exams though and from experience they prefer jupeb or Alevel candidates to degree.

Why don't you try your institution ?

If you don't mind you can take Utme and DE, if it's still possible.

MLS is actually a very good course Sha, a bit surprised you want to still go for medicine. But others have done it...

AutoChick4U:
Thanks. Already searching for jobs. Funny you'd mention church like u don't know how judgmental they can be.

Yeah, I know. But it's worth giving a try.

Took time to go through the pieces. You've got to be strong, love your child and have faith in God. As for support, your best bet is firstly your immediate family and probably your group within your local church (I presume you are a christian). You must be ready to put yourself forward to work. Like taking up a job as a househelp, a maid for any of your church members for a fee (to take hold body first). Then you can look further to exploring other opportunities outside, with the help of brethren.

Remember that once there is life, there is hope. Also for now, just zero your mind on getting into any relationship (no matter the guise under which it will come - like trying to help you). Please avoid it totally until your head is cleared, you are psychologically strong and stable, which will take quite some time.

Be prayerful and positive. God bless.

The state govt is very correct on this. However, both sides needs to harmonise this very fast, as companies and the masses will subjected to double vat, thereby increasing the cost of goods and services.

Guy allow the man take his kids. Unless God specifically gave you a go ahead, marrying a single mum with children comes with alot a headaches.

That gap is too much. My opinion though

Bro, don't quit! Develop and sharpen your skills (work place skills and the graphic design with practical lessons, save, pray and grow gradually. Every experience is important and note that life itself is a battle field, both spiritual and physical . To be successful, you must strive hard to airways pray while at the same time being on top of your game as regarding your skill set. The Lord shall see you through

Please abort the plan. Learn a hand work (making hair), engage in some volunteering jobs like working in a super market, mall, from there you could be engaged permanently while at the same time school (after they must have observed your kind of person)

Just be careful, be prayerful and avoid stuffs that could set you up for sexual exploitation.

It's entirely your choice OP. I understand your predicament. Introduction is not marriage and doesn't necessarily have to finally lead to marriage either. Your sounding like he's less a Christian because he's a Catholic is what I find nauseating, after being in a relationship for 3 years!

Well, simply talk it over with him and your parents. He will be heartbroken though. Bottomline is that from now henceforth, you must be genuinely lead by the Holy Spirit on your choice of a man for a husband, so that you don't fall into the wrong hands of Bro. Matthew, that will turn you to a punching bag as described by someone up there.

I wish you the best.

imagrg:
I had same challenge when I married my now late wife (she died last month). It's not easy getting her to breakup a relationship that was established on long-term, but I did.
First, I let her understand how such attachment could breakup our marriage; next, I got her impregnated fast...at least, that kept her busy with herself and somewhat made the bestie see the reality of her change in status. Then gradually, her attachment to the bestie waned with time and she became more and more attached to me.
Here are some tips for you:
*Please, remember to jerk her always and make sure you make her 'come' any time you do that.
*Give her much attention and let her know you care. And please do that passionately. I did that for 25 years and won my wife's heart for close to 24 years before she passed away recently. Our children called us, 'Romeo and Juliet'.
*Try as much as possible to take her out on picnics often.
*Buy her gifts, like panties, 'legins', anything you think would catch her fancy.
*You can have a quarrel with her but don't EVER beat her up, no matter how provoked you may be. Just put on a shirt and walk out and when you come back in the evening make sure you come home with 'suya' or any other mouth-watering snacks for her. If she refuses to eat it, please, pet her and apologise to her even if she's the one who wronged you. Feed her!
*Remember, your wife is your bestie, close confidant, your new mother (Yes, I called mine, Mummy and she called me Daddy), and she is your FIRST CHILD! Pamper her the much you can and she will pass same love to the children who in turn will show you both, love and care!
*Though you have the right to be jealous, but don't take it to the extreme please.
Adopt these approach, and have a good and long-lasting married life, boy!
By the way, how old are you?

I wish you and your new wife a Happy Married Life.

One of the very few matured men that made sensible comments.

pelusi:
Their room is okay and the bed is comfortable. Nothing is wrong in their room.

I am only asking as part of parenting training or lecture or anything we can call it- to get knowledge for nobody knows all and to know if I am doing the right or wrong thing. The children are males not females.So I am just asking whether there are age limit one will tell or enforce children to sleep on their own and mind their own room or is it a normal thing to just leave it.

Any moment from one year is okay. You will make sure you check on him at least twice in the night and take him to urinate.

The ideal thing to do is to serve the man as a mark of honour and respect. Now at the table, a good and loving father will share that one piece of meat for everybody and most probably exclude himself.

OP first of all, commit your request to God. Let Him lead you. Wait patiently and quietly for an answer. He may just give you a different leading like starting a farm (could be mechanised poultry etc)

Until you do the above please don't just dive into any of your options, cause you may get your fingers burnt. The comment of someone up there that mentioned a school with no students really caught my attention. Hence the need to run things through with your Daddy.

Shalom.

Your CGPA is not useless. Just keep the candle burning by studying harder and not relenting. Pharmacy is a tough no doubt. Most schools don't even classify the degree just like medicine. Even at that, if that's your choice of study, then you must love it and it becomes easier to fly high when others are complaining.

Stay away from negative people and surround yourself with goal-getters. Above all ask God to give you the grace and the spirit of excellence in your academic pursuits.

Cheers.

Thank God Almighty for the tremendous growth and expansion of RCCG in all frontiers.

Some years ago when the Regional Camp Ground at Aluu hosted Daddy GO, for Regional Workers meetings, we had brethren from as far as Edo, Delta, Abia, Akwa Ibom down to Bayelsa states amongst others in attendance. This was simply because they were either part of the Region 5 family or it was a low hanging fruit option as Redemption Camp was like Jerusalem.

During the week, while watching a particular group in the just concluded marathon praise, a display on the screen as the group was rounding up read "Region 5 & 27". Meanwhile I couldn't recognise any of the faces.

Soon, another group came up on stage, this time they were described as "Region 3 & 25". Now, I was wondering, which state(s) is region 27 covering, not to mention Region 3 and 25.

My curiosity led me to do some searching online. However, it wasn't easy as even the main RCCG website do not have the information I needed.

So here's what I was able to come up with. Please, Pastors in the house can help correct for errors.

*Region (states covered) & Headquarters location* - within Nigeria only, up to Region 35

There's something interesting, that I found with the location of one or two of the regional headquarters. For instance why would the first headquarters for a region covering Ogun state be at Sagamu and not Abeokuta and that of Nassarawa State be at Maraba and not Laffia. The reason is..........(you can fill in the blank spaces.

Region 1 - Ebute Metta (Lagos)

Region 2 - Shomolu (Lagos)

Region 3 (Osun) - Oshogbo

Region 4 (Kwara) - Ilorin

Region 5 (Rivers) - Port Harcourt

Region 6 (Enugu, Anambra & Ebonyi) - Enugu

Region 7 (Adamawa) - Yola

Region 8 (Plateau & Benue) - Jos

Region 9 (Kano, Katsina & Jigawa) - Kano

Region 10 ( Abuja & Niger) - Abuja

Region 11 - Lekki (Lagos)

Region 12 (Ogun) - Sagamu

Region 13 (Edo) - Benin

Region 14 (Akwa Ibom) - Uyo

Region 15 (Abia & Imo) - Aba

Region 16 (Bornu) - Maiduguri

Region 17 (Bauchi) - Bauchi

Region 18 (Sokoto, Zamfara & Kebbi) - Sokoto

Region 19 - Ikeja (Lagos)

Region 20 (Apapa Family) - City of David (VI, Lagos)

Region 21 (Oyo) - Ibadan

Region 22 (Ondo) - Akure

Region 23 (Delta) - Warri

Region 24 (Kogi) - Lokoja

Region 25 (Ekiti) - Ado-Ekiti

Region 26 - Ikorodu (Lagos)

Region 27 (Bayelsa) - Yenagoa

Region 28 (Nassarawa) - Maraba

Region 29 (Cross Rivers) - Calabar

Region 30 (Kaduna) - Kaduna

Region 31- Egbeda (Lagos)

Region 32 (Ogun) - Abeokuta

Region 33 (Rivers) - Port Harcourt

Region 34 (Delta) - Asaba

Region 35 (Rivers) - Port Harcourt

So states with more than one region includes Lagos (6), Rivers (3) Ogun (2) & Delta (2)

Hope you find the above informative.

As stated previously, corrections for errors are welcomed

Thank you

What a funny thread. Wahala truly be like bicycle, e no dey hard to start. Irrespective of anyhow one view the OP complaints, I still think he has a problem that he needs to deal with. No matter how hurting it feels, so long as he's living under their roof, he should just let go and shouldn't ever discuss the issue with the brother.

Btw, what's there if he washed the bedsheet and/or crash for floor. He's just wasting the only opportunity he has to show his hosts and the world that he's matured and emotionally intelligent.

Fake news. I think the state chapter of the party has come out to debunk this media report.

Could be that he has suddenly lost interest. Btw, what do you do for a living? Just asking oh.

In summary, give him space and get yourself occupied and enjoy yourself like nothing happened. Trust me, you'd be fine.

Cheers.

Just put yourself together and move on. I wonder why some girls would readily give their bodies so easily.

OP, your brother missed it right from the beginning by failing to inculcate fatherly discipline into the lives of the boys when they were small period. That he spent heavily on their education is out of it. Even the Bible says spare the rod and spoil the child. That verse of the scriptures is extremely useful in the lives of children right from when they are toddlers. So his wife capitalised on his weakness and the result is what you have now.

Another angle to it is whether your brother is the biological father of these boys.

The way out is for him to seek support from respected persons from either the church or family with prayers.