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mayprince:
I don't know if you can also help in recommending industry for elect elect engr in Ibadan. Thanks

I think what you will have in Ibadan are FMCG like breweries, drinks manufacturing , food processing etc.

Nadoson1:
I like this, I graduated as a MECHANICAL ENGINEER but later added up to ELECTROMECHANICAL ENGINEERING. during my school days as a PRODUCTION ENGINEER(as an option), LATHE MACHINE is our chief machine, we had up to 10 LATHE MACHINES & up to 4 CNC MACHINES but the school management never allowed us close to the machines to talk more of allowing us practice what we were studying but only they does was once in a time telling us from afar the component of the machines and their operations but at the end of our graduation ONLY 98% of so called PRODUCTION ENGINEER were able to handle the MULTI PURPOSE MACHINE in operation. also they were calling BOLT & NUTS by their engineering codes like M10X50. M20X100 etc. .but never explained what they meant by that but we normally call them 10BOLT & NUT, 12BOLT & NUT etc. tastfaward to my INDUSTRIAL TRAINING(IT) i was lucky to be accepted in SEVENUP BOTTLING COMPANY, to me i believe NYSC should be deleted while encouraging IT's. I put down my self on the floor to get what i never had in school.i am a good MACHANIST today because i went to IT, I can tell the number of BOLTS & NUTS on seeing without matching it with a spanner, i am a WELDER today because i never interested with the five thousand stippend(#5000) but to be called a PRACTICAL ENGINEER which i am proud of today. my surprise when i got back to school; my colleagues in school was seeing me as a god when they saw me operating on the LATHE & other MACHINES in the school workshop, FINALLY; during our final project, due to the nature of the project and its complexity(AUTOMATED ELECTRONIC INDUCTION FURNACE) we were given the project as a group, when the group agreed to out contract the fabrication which the man failed to do then i took up the FABRICATION BY MY SELF & my mates & some lecturers were amazed & happy on seeing me doing it so IT HELPS especially in ENGINEERING FIELD.

Bravo!!! Heaven is your limit!

boninho:
Please any recommendation on where I can check out concerning this....I'm an Electronic Engineering graduate with a master's degree in Petroleum Engineering. I'm actively seeking for internship opportunities

Okay depending on your location you will need to physically drop your applications with any of the IOCs, servicing companies like Schlumberger, Saipem, Dormanlong etc. I would have said visit their websites but less than 1% will respond. If you are in Lagos, just taking upon yourself to walk along the streets of VI and Lekki Phase 1. Funny thing is that near all of these companies especially the servicing group do not have sign boards. So you will do plenty of asking, like one guy on this thread that said it was a security man at of the banks on the Island directed him to a servicing company where he dropped his application.

Since you are already a graduate with a post graduate degree, I will advice you specify in you are willing to learn and gain experience. Include in your CV or application skills you have already acquire like being able to use the computer and good with Microsoft packages (e.g word, excel and PowerPoint). If you are not yet good in them please go register and learn. If you can add MS Project, very good. Don't put money in front oh. Say you are ready to work pro bono (free of charge) . Above all pray to God and commit your plans to Him, pray for His divine favour.

You can also reach out to beloved church members too.

OP na your type naim curse dey catch and follow. Better give your life to Christ and repent of your bad and selfish ways. Go to your legally married wife and seek forgiveness too. Work dutifully to build your marriage and home.

franchasng:
Studying Engineering (Mechanical especially) in Nigeria is a waste of time, that's if you truly want to make impact not just to secure job.






But I have come to realize that engineering graduates are the smartest people on earth anywhere in the world. Forget medicine, engineering graduates are trained to fit-in in any field of life unlike medical graduates who are trained to fit in only in medical line.


You can see an engineer who is also a lawyer, a banker, a pharmacist, a doctor, a singer, a spiritualist, just name it, but you can hardly find a doctor who is a lawyer or an engineer or a banker.


You won't understand this unless you are truly trained engineer.


I am an Engineer, a software developer , a law student now also planning to study history, and above all, I am also an entrepreneur, only engineering graduates can be all this because they are trained to be versatile.


Op, work towards furthering your engineering study abroad, especially in US, Europe, Russia (chemical engineering only).


You can get free scholarship to study masters in Norway, Finland, etc to give you a new experience in new environment where you can also do exchange programs.



Most of the things you will learn in Nigerian schools as an engineer will be useless when you join the real industrial world. I did my IT with two different firms in 2 different sectors; AGIP and a manufacturing plant and they made me realized I wasted time solving Laplace Laplace transform in school when I ought to have spent more time at the workshops doing fabrications, learning CNC lathe machine programing and machinning processes.

Engineering students in Nigeria don't even know about robotics which ought to be part of mechanical engineering here because robotics is one sweet aspect of engineering Nigerian students need to explore to help Nigeria grow.

Hanty, I disagree with your second paragraph pls. On the contrary most of those that studied or studying medicine on the average are smarter compared to engineering students. Majority of these medical students were even exceptionally good in maths.

So it's much more easier for a medical doctor to take on any other course compared to the engineer.

Blackicegold:
Is it possible to do ones I T offshore.?

Yes, very possible especially if on a 6 months or one year I.T. For you to be eligible for selection to make the crew, you must have impressed your supervisor and or manager, as one who is hardworking, dedicated and some brilliance or intelligence. However, you will be given or undergo some safety trainings like swimming/survival at sea training.

[quote author=farady post=83925128]It's good you get other contributions. It's also good to know you've been nice to your dad inspite despite everything. I totally agree with other contributors that say weddings can be held anywhere. In that case whilst your dad or your paternal side receives the bride price (note that it is the representative of both your paternal and maternal family that receives the items oh. It must not specifically be your dad. You can diplomatically work it out), any other person can walk you down the aisle during the church wedding. For the reception any how you choose to fill in the high table is entirely yours.

Born2Breed:
You mentioned two important things here.

Walking down the aisle and bride price collection.

Your maternal uncle can walk you down the aisle.

The bride price is for your father cum paternal family.(bride price and list is not much in Edo state,i guess you are owan or etsako or igarra?)

Also,marriage can take place anywhere,bring your father and few relatives(1or 2) to your location to perform the necessary rites then go back home.

In all these you must plead with your maternal uncle to please allow your biological father collect his bride price and go. I always advice my fellow ladies not to offend any side of the family when getting married.

OP kindly follow the above advise. This life is too short to leave trails of unnecessary wahala behind and excalate fires that we ought to put off with simple acts of love. Bible says honor your father and mother..... I'm sure you can complete the rest of the sentence.

OP, firstly you have to take responsibility for your actions and inactions. That is one thing we have to live with in life. Yeah, you love your girl but at the same time you wanted to satisfy your flesh/fantasy.....

Make out time to see your friend and confess to her. Yes please do. It's better she deals with the pain now than getting to know later. Besides the burden will be off your heart. Let her react any how she wish to.

Madam calm down. In fact UzomaFC, lordlugards and a host of others have said most of what I wanted to say.

May o also add that in this journey you need the both of you to succeed and the foundation of your union be founded in Christ. However, since he is acting up, here's the time to "hold God for cloth" in prayers, midnight prayers, whilst at the same time showing your husband great love.

OP you may be 40 years old but I can tell you for free that you are not emotionally and psychologically ready for marriage. Same goes for the lady. If your inlaws have put in so much (spent money) of up to N900k into the wedding preparation and still all the rites have not be completed, then there is a problem.

In fact, you are no longer on the driver seat! You are now a passenger and don't even know where the "vehicle" is heading. Maybe heading for a crash.

You never even complete marriage rites, you are already planning suicide. Are you okay at all?

Look put yourself together and go see a counselor. Put everything on hold and take a break to clear your head.

Thereafter, take charge and take control. Complete the other rites with a little money as possible whether your sister-in-law and her people like it or not. Remember your lady is already pregnant and pregnancy gives 9 months notice to adequately prepare for baby/babies that are coming. Start saving for post wedding expenses. Don't worry your wife-yo-be will calm down. Just be man enough to push ahead and do not let anyone intimidate you. It is well.

Funny. Meaning we should be learning love songs shey?

OP dis your matter abi story get as im be.
(1) You did not state what he was doing when you got married to him.
(2) You didn't state for how long you have been married and the ages of the kids.
(3) You didn't tell us at what time he lost his job or his business nose-dived
(4) You didn't tell us the kind of project you both are into - whether building a house or ........
(5) You didn't tell us the side hustle you are into.

From your write up, it's like it is a building project and it seems though not completed, you guys have moved in like that to at least settle into one or two rooms. I guess the building is located in a developing area - which explains the "big bush" close to the apartment.

In any case, you have only succeeded in demonizing your husband as we have not heard his own version.

I think you both are not communicating. Unfortunately your husband belong to the class of those who depend on "politics money" to survive or stay afloat. So it's hard to advise him. However, for you, I'll go with the advice of one guy up there who said you should try to be independent financially, don't give money again (though this will create tension but you should stand your ground) and try and meet up the demands of the kids and home the much you can.

If it gets out of hand, please alert your family and his family.

Nope! God did not design it that way in marriage. God assigned the responsibility of providing for the family (including feeding) to the man. The woman supports/assists and help to coordinate to bring out the best in the home. So if she gat to shoulder the responsibility of the house for some reasons and now have to feed the man in the house, it won't be long before the insults starts spewing out - subtly at first. Then when she reaches her break point, she snaps. That is when the man starts hearing the unbelievable.

Funny enough if they are bf and gf, the lady can feed the guy through out their stay in school Maybe it's because it is campus love. However, as soon as they are not of school, she go change am for the guy

Haier Thermocool is another good product

Funny but come to think of it. Why should you refuse to eat ( amounting to starving yourself) food from your wife because you are upset with her. In fact food you provided money for. I would rather do silent treatment and eat my food wella

OP simply call her out in private, sit her down and tell her politely. Watch her reaction. Of course she will be very uncomfortable but this is where you will display maturity and sincere concern of a colleague that truly wants to help. So you can now give her an encouraging smile that would will put her at ease and relaxed.

Next, you suggest ways to go about it. A sure bet will be for her to see a doctor and or a dentist. They will be able to assist her with finding a cure after a thorough examination.

At the end, she will be most grateful to you and respect will be for a life time. So try and be a good friend.

Seems both of you are scams

chyammy:
Op I feel your pain

I had once been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years ,we were both discussing the future and all of a sudden he stopped communicating

Always withdrawn and never told me what the problem was....then one December I called him that I was coming to see him at his sisters place where we usually see if I couldn't get to him in ph where he reside and he said no,

It dawned on me that this guy was no more interested.....I felt hurt but I had to move on, though moving on wasn't easy because I kept asking myself what I did wrong.

I even called him after some months to ask what I did and he told me it was not me at all that it was him and I should put the blame on him....didn't know what that meant but I had to move on

After few years we were both married with kids and I ran into him in Lagos at a mall...he then told me why it didn't work out was that the parents wanted him to marry from his place (ngwa) and not from mine (nnewi) and he didn't know how to relate that with me .....hence his withdrawal from me

In a nutshell u need to see him to enable you get closure ...my thoughts though

Is there really any need for OP to see him for possible explanations? The OP has tried to reach out to him but the guy seems to be incommunicado. It's best she forgets him fast. Time is a healer. Maybe by chance they could run into each other just like in your case and all the unanswered questions would be cleared.

OP just move on with your life, whether the guy gives reasons or not. I just chuckled when I remembered that while I was walking along a street this morning, I overheard a woman singing along a song from one sound speaker across - "I can't kill myself". Though I am not a fan of these boys oh but come to think of it, will you kill yourself? If he walked away, it means he wasn't meant for you.

I had this sister in my university days that i respected and loved so much like an elder sister I never had. She was some two years ahead of me. I grow so fond of her that when we used to communicate by letter writing during her youth service, by then I was in my penultimate year in school. In one of my letters I told her if not that she was my senior by age, I wouldn't have mind proposing to her; then probed into her love life. She replied that she was engaged to some guy that was outside the country, that she engaged to this guy when she was in her first year and the guy in his final year.

Fast forward to some years later. Do you know she waited for nine (9) good years and when the bobo came back, he got married to another girl without explaining my sister's offense or why he had to call quit the r/ship. Thank God my friend moved on with life. Was she heartbroken? Yes, it hurt deeply but as a child of God she took it and God gave her a very good replacement.

In life we must always strive hard to be on top things we can control and handover to God, the things that are outside our control. You would be fine. Just occupy with the things of God, loosen up and engage in activities that will bring out your radiance, smiles and laughter.

There's no solution. You're lucky your baby is sucking. Doing a formula which can't compare with breast milk will cost you not less N50k - N70k a month. Add that to other baby expenses; your body go tell u.

Just ensure the mother is eating well and resting adequately. At the current rate, your baby will grow strong and healthy, which is the joy of any parent.

Righteousness89:
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The Carnal Mind cannot Comprehend Spiritual Things....

This is the summary of everything. So long as the carnal mind view this topic from the physical point of view, the argument will go till Jesus comes. Let's leave them to argue. In next 6months to one year, someone or the OP will open another thread to start complaining.
Una dooh oh!

Judybash93:
They are already married.

From the Christian perspective, the rites are not yet complete. That is why we have the solemnisation of Holy matrimony performed in the church; where both of them are supposed to stand before God (with the bed undefiled, even though they may not be virgins, but born again christains who haven't had sex in the course of their relationship) to take the marriage vows.

Here the pastor or priest will ask the bride's father or whoever is standing for the father if the groom has fulfilled the family rites (what we call traditional wedding).

So I'm sure that's her mindset and this was made known to the OP.

OP on the contrary, she seems to have entered a once chance with the way you have handled everything. You both are supposed to stand before the alter of God with bed undefiled. What's your problem sef? Sex abi? That's the reason you're ridiculing her and the God she serves? You have simply shown you're not principled. Marriage is much more than sex and I don't think you're matured enough and prepared psychologically and spiritually for it. I only pity the lady.

OP on the contrary, she seems to have entered a once chance with the way you have handled everything. You both are supposed to stand before the alter of God with bed undefiled. What's your problem sef? Sex abi? That's the reason you're ridiculing her and the God she serves? You have simply shown you're not principled. Marriage is much more than sex and I don't think you're matured enough and prepared psychologically and spiritually for it. I only put the last.

Complexx:
Have been admitted to study mathematics education what are the courses both math and edu to take in first semester so as to be preparing ahead

You may be taking courses in the sciences, humanities and general studies like; Introduction to the Teaching Profession, Communication in English, Nigerian People Culture and Anti Cultism and Social Vices, Elementary Mathematics, Practical Chemistry , General Chemistry , General Physics , Introduction to Computer Science, Experimental Physics , etc.

Maybe those studying the course can throw more light, but certainly not far from the above.

To the person that quoted me above. Oath taking by any young persons is never a good thing to encouraged. It has far reaching effect on the lives of those involved both spiritually and physically. Their souls are tired together and it has a way of affecting either or both of them.

It's better he break it now and free himself, than to wait till later. Most times, when some terrible things start to happen, he will even forget that the root cause is the oath he once took.

Yes it can

bukatyne:
Nigerians we are not ripe for many things sha.

I keep realizing that we cannot use oyibo methods to solve most of our problems.

Adoption means the child is yours.

If you are still asking who the first son is after adopting a son, there is a problem.

BTW, doesn't the child have the family surname?

Laugh wan kill me after reading your comments. You are right my sister. We are not ripe for certain things as Nigerians.

That they are even debating it is already a problem, meaning the possibility of treating, according all rights and privileges due the adopted son like their biological child is very remote, either now or in the future.

OP Give your life to Christ. Go for deliverance to break that oath. MFM preferable. You are too young for all of that. Thereafter leave that girl, face your studies and be more focused.

I must really salute you OP. Being a man and a father is not easy in this present day Nigeria.

Trying to cut down would be gradual. I'm a Christian and I will not discourage you from paying your tithe, because it's not your own.

With N90k left to be distributed into food, rent, school fees and running the home, let's take school fees. You may need to opt for a cheaper school and since they are 3, ask for discount on the 3rd and they should all be in same school.

Next is food. So some bull buying
However this will mean saving over a long time or if you get some allowances.

If you must use the GoTV, especially because of the kids, then opt for a cheaper bouquet like N1,200 or save a one off for a free to air dish.

Remember you need to have at least N5k for savings and or for investment. ( Paying yourself)

Adjusting downwards to this level will take almost a year. So encourage your wife to do something the support you. If already working, both of you should sit and discuss.

I forgot to mention the rent. From the account, seems like it's a 2 bedroom. If that is the case, you may need to switch to a one bedroom.

Bottomline is you just have to cut everything down according to your material which is your salary, while aiming for a better paying job.