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Marriage changes nada! It will only get worse. It's just like a lady asking is her physically abusive bf will change after marriage. If you are her brother, what will be your response abi advise?

mark2sunny:
There are things a true born again Christian can't do. Taking your life lands you in hell seconds after. And then the lake of fire. The sweet thing about Jesus is that, in your weak moment, His Spirit will be speaking to you, guiding you, showing you things through dreams and the scripture that will keep you hoping until you are blessed.

Generally to avoid suicide, think about the people that love you and how they'll feel. Visit the prison and hospital and see how people are fighting to have what you are enjoying, life and health. Visit the motherless baby homes and let little kids inspire you. These things will keep you going for a long time. Only Jesus in you can keep you in the hollow of His hands forever.

As a Christian, if you ever suffer, you know there's something the Lord is putting together for you plus the accumulating interest. Thus is the deal for most Christians. How was Joseph able to put up smile in prison? The spirit of God in the life of man!

You just preached a wonderful message.

BiafranBushBoy:
Okay..

Here are some red flags:

You are 25
No stable source of income
You don't even know what marriage is
Conflicting church doctrine
You want to use marriage to keep a girl you "assume" you love.

Please don't marry if you don't earn Atleast 250,000 Naira at the moment.

With all the exposure you have now, you will but suffer for the rest of your life trying to foot the bills that comes with marriage.

I omitted your GF because she is 23 and practically has nothing to offer.

My verdict: Keep her, nuture her, hustle harder, marry her when the time is right.

#Peace.

OP take this advice. I will only add that don't let the N250k scare you , but you see when you have hustle hard enough our bodi go phone you say - "yes I believe I can safely take care of someone's daughter" . By dat time, wen dem invite u and u show, na you and the papa go dey discuss other things, cause d marriage part of the gist no go take more than 10mins.

I want to believe that lawyer is just joking, cause he will only help to complicate things for his client. If he eventually to go and face trial in the US, relying on one injunction, then he should know he just pushed the button for the nose-diving and crash of Air Peace.

No wahala, let him go and explain himself in the US. These statements statements are not necessary. They can only make sense, if he comes out his trial clean.

OP, there are characters, attitude and carriage a lady assumes once married. In some cultures, it is absurd a man to hold another woman that is not his wife carelessly. In everything you must let moderation kick in. You can still be free spirited-minded and still carry/conduct yourself in a dignified manner as a married woman.

It is absolutely wrong for another man to openly drink from your cup abi glass cup. If you were my wife, I would express my displeasure. I will be very upset, because you did not honour me.......There are some exceptions to this act oh. For instance we all in the house with one of my brothers and an argument starts with my wife saying "this your wine no be am at all, e dey taste like palmwine" My brother replies "na lie, make I taste am first" my gives him the cup or he comes to take the cup from her to take a sip. That is understandable. Now that my brother could also be a very close family friend and that scenario plays out or something similar.

Lastly, it is good you define your relationship with every male - be it a colleague or the guy down the street. Have a policy not to entertain calls from a male figure after a certain time of the day, say 7pm. If you make it a principle, even your male colleagues will respect your decision.

Sometimes I just wonder why some women display acts of wickedness towards house-helps and those who are not their biological children that stay with them. That woman should be made to serve very long prison sentence - not less than 25 years.

You're on point OP. Thanks.

ornicus:
Say you have some stolen money. You are getting nervous as police are sniffing around . so you want to get it out of Nigeria. You cannot carry it physically.

So you give it your businessman friend to do

I will start from the beginning

Onyeama said he was going to buy planes wuthn20 million dollars.where did the 20 million dollars come from? This is a pertinent question because it cannot be income generated by air peace. The margins in aviation are meager, especially when he is not the only player. You use 20 million for capex, what is left for opex?

https://simpleflying.com/air-peace-expansion/
According to this article, the company has been running at a loss all this while. 3.3 million dollars losses last year


In addition to this, businesses expand with bank loans. Or capital from partners. There is no way to explain how he got the 20 million dollars he was going to use to buy the planes.

Going back to what I said, assume he actually had the 20 million dollars. Will buying new planes increase air peace bottom line? The number of passengers is shrinking due to the economy. If you buy a brand new 2019 corolla for Uber, are you going to charge more than 2013 Tokunbo corollas? Will people patronize you more because you have a brand new corolla? Unless someone has made a firm commitment to you, buy these planes and we will engage you.eg Mobil says they will lease your plane to fly staff everyday from Lagos to akwa ibom. And if that happened it would be in the news. Simply put, it is an illogical investment, considering the aviation industry. You will get broke fast.

What the authorites are saying is onyeama created a company in the US, a briefcase company, that he owned and That he gave a contract to supply him planes. He then sends that company 20 million from Nigeria. Once the company in the US gets the money,it starts disbursing the 20 million to numerous personal accounts of onyeama.

So what onyeama has done is he has used his business in Nigeria to move money to the US on false pretenses.that is a classic money laundering maneuver. Some people belive it's patience Johnathans money. You read how the fg is seizing 5 million today, 2 million tomorrow.

Like a lot of Nigerian businessmen, onyeama has no history of organic growth. If you go to Google, you can trace the histories of apple, Microsoft, dell, etc. you will see a very nerdy looking Jeff bezos .Air peace started 6 years ago. Where did onyeama get the capital?

Now all these questions will be asked

Below is a more concise description

https://www.nairaland.com/5546090/why-onyema-flagged-us-advice/5#84322388

This is the most sensible post I have read on this thread. Anybody arguing outside the above will come back to eat their words. When the FBI says they investigated a matter for 8 years, Nigerians think it is like EFCC. These guys have a water tight case. Nigerians will be too shocked when our guy will plead guilty or opt for plead bargaining. In either case he will go down and his business will down, to be hijacked by some other powerful interest.

To set the ball rolling the presidential aide on social media was reported to have tweeted that Mr. Onyeama go to the US to face trial/defend himself. What does that tells you?

Africonji:
This is getting serious. Dr. Allen Onyema should step down from his position at Air Peace until he clear his name, so as to save what is left of the brand. The board of directors should release a statement separating Allen from the brand. The airline must not be allowed to die over this scandal.

In ideal situation, this is what should be done. However, don't be surprise that some fifth columnists within 9ja here will robe the entire management into the whole matter with a view to taking over the outfit. Let's just watch.

This matter like play, like play go enter serious gbege! If the FG could handle Invictus case with the speed of light, the US govt would expect the FG via the EFCC to swing into action on this matter.

This could open the door into investigating how the airline was set up and if found wanting, this guy could lose ownership of Air Peace.

OP Dis is a simple sturvs na. The load wey we dey carry no be here oh. The other day someone created a thread requesting what men offer...... Kindly refer to that thread and see for yourself the very many things men offer - in the home, relationship, family etc.

In a bid to meet up, the man most times end accumulating so much stress that adversely affects his health; developing sicknesses ranging from hypertension to cancer, which eventually ends his life.

Shout out to all men in the house! God bless and be with us.

OP I think your husband knows what he's doing. Maybe you go form sickness, make him run am for one month. Better still both of you should go shopping together. I'm sure it will be fun.

OP, thank God for using you to keep the home running, still loving you husband etc. Your husband really need some time to chill off and some bit of counseling preferably from someone he greatly respects to give him new "factory settings".

His behavour which is normal with men that have experienced job loss can be really traumatic. To him, he has lost that his economic power (which defines his masculinity) to provide for the family and in fact lost it to you................Look whether you bring in a cleaning company or not, his attitude will not change for the better, it will grow worse. At this moment, he need the support and encouragement of everyone, friends and family.

Get someone he truly respect to talk to him. On your part, go on kneels and commit him to God in prayers. Next, as you run the affairs of the home, please be kiafu make you no go mis-yarn. For instance you come dey hala like "I think you people have finished this milk that i bought just 2 days ago" or "I don't understand what you people are boiling with gas oh, that cylinder I just filled it with N4k last week and the way the cooker is burning, its like the cylinder is getting empty"...............When we men hear things like that, some of us get very upset, cause he would start thinking all these years he has been spending, nobody heard anything.

I pray God will visit your home and He who sees your sincere heart will restore joy and happiness to your home by settling your husband in Jesus name, Amen!

OP confess to your wife and call-off her sister's bluff. But your wife go begin give heat small small. She will "bookmark the incident" for future argument because of trust issues and other matters, but since it's your wife you go know how you go manage her.

That couple simply used one stone to kill many birds. Their coming for the wedding showed their sincere love for the couple and family. It was a family reunion for them; seeing relations they haven't seen for a very long time. No amount of money can equal the feelings of physically meeting your peeps after a long while. Even if they send that N500k as you would have preferred, some family members will still say they are being pompous bla bla bla

JERRY1925:
Which one is one or two or children.
See as you confuse an entire generation.
From your write up.. I don't need to know you facially before knowing your character.
You a man that pays attention to details and love to explain things critically.

Don't misconstrue or misunderstand me please. The bottomline like someone up there wrote is - cut your coat according your material. Mind you, if the wife is not supportive either in contributing to running and building the home or showing great understanding in ensuring that unnecessary expenses are cut down to the barest minimum, in order to have some savings for future investment or project that will enhance the quality of the family, if you like earn N500k, that man will still experience challenges.

Financial wisdom/knowledge in a man's life is one subject that we do not pay attention to but which is very important for us to succeed in building a family.

OP do you realise there are Nigerians earning just that amount whether N60k or N160k married with one or two kids or children. Some even with children in the universities and even still in the process of developing their small plot of land to erect a 2/3 room structure. Don't ask me why, go and have a chat with them and glean some wisdom on how to live life. A life of contentment.

So what did you gain really? Cause I think you wasted your strength, your hard earned money, defiled your body and sin against God. All that money thank you wasted, if only you had given as much a half of it to an orphanage home, the kain prayer wey dem for pray for you, na so favour go dey follow u upandan till now....

Someone should help me post that meme - what consigns u.

Modified

He will sort himself out. Remember, life goes on. The children can even get them together again. Anything is just possible.

OP I have earlier asked you to send me a DM.

RedCreme21:
[s][/s] no

Okay send me dm.

RedCreme21:
South where?

Don't worry yourself eh, just follow the small advise I have given you first, okay.

RedCreme21:
Abuja. You?

Kindly engage in some outdoor activities. Abuja has some very spots, though remember any except for the stadium and those pleasure parks. Me? I'm down south .

Seriously, that habit is something you must kill, cause it is capable of ruining life, making you miserable and empty. The consequences are just too grievous. I think I have seen a thread under sexuality - Masturbation Quitting Challenge . Maybe you should visit that thread to see how those peeps are faring.

RedCreme21:
Im atheist.
Im psychologically okay.
Nairalanders! Never helpful.

Okay renew your mind by diverting/channeling your energy to more useful activities. Btw where are you now?

OP are you really serious? If yes visit the hospital or better still, a psychologist and most importantly accept Jesus into your life and renew your mind.

In the beginning, God created everyone beautiful.

Why should someone who is of the opposite sex be your best friend as a man or woman? That is an error! While no law bars either party from be friends with the opposite sex (cause the person could be your colleague in the office or old school mate or someone down the street etc) however, such friendship must be guarded by some principles. For example each friendship must be strictly defined. Also the Bible says flee from all appearance of evil. That is once the friendship starts turning a direction outside your limits, you back off.

yemisolar:
@ op, for a responsible man, it's actually more difficult finding the right person because he is majorly responsible for his actions especially if he intends to stay in the marriage without cheating.

Because there is no perfect human beings anywhere there is no perfect marriage anywhere. Working marriages are just two people who decide to be realistic in their expectations and are committed to making it work.

My dear, if you define 'luck' as preparation meeting opportunity then you are right. But the question is , how many people truly prepare for the institution of marriage? What we see these days is two people start having sex and the lady gets pregnant and the next thing is a rushed wedding ceremony.

Singles do not read, listen to tapes of watch videos that will give them information on how to make marriage work. On one side they will rather stay on Instagram and Facebook achieving nothing. On the other side they will keep praying and and dashing from one vigil to another.

Marriage is the truest test of anyone's character. And it takes commitment and maturity to make it work. Sadly these are not virtues that are extolled today. Even in churches. So men (and I dare say women) who have no good intentions find their way to lure the naive.

Just as you see all manner of adverts on television advertising different products and you choose which one you need, you will always see numerous inbox messages. This is not abnormal.

What you need to do is set your minimum ground rules of deal breakers such as faith, age, education etc (whichever is important to you). This will weed out a good chunk. Then you can begin to look at character flews that you can or can't live with. Also you need a father figure (not necessarily your father) or a male you can trust his judgement to help out. The reason is that there are always blind spots in relationships and you need a trusted eye to see it.

Lastly, there is the God factor, because of our imperfect nature, we need the one with a perfect mind to help you and give the wisdom when the rubber meets the road.

Believe me marriage can be one of the best things that can happen to one. I am a living witness.

Nice write up.

Between the two, the OX fan is more rugged. However for the sake of heat...hmmm, I won't still advice you go for the lontor, cause the batteries can't power more than 3-4 hours. So what happens when it goes of in the middle of the night?

You can get a small inverter to power ur OX fan at night. Make sure ur window nets are in top shape, so you can leave it curtains open at night. Don't buy or use Gen at night. It's a safety risk.

Thank God for using that super male nurse to perfect safe delivery of the baby. Thank God also that the mother is alive with no complication.

That hospital should be investigated and sanctioned. I know they will use all the grammar in the medical dictionary to exonerate themselves.